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@poster

i don't know what i'll do till i am faced with the situation (heaven forbid it!)

@poster, if ur going to disvirgin her, then as long as ur not expecting to marry a virgin, its all good, because someone else would have disvirgined your wife 4u

why dy'all think it must beabout the money

I don't do married / atached guys, but maybe these girls, do it for the freedom and independence, GUYS CAN BE VERY CLINGY when they are in love, they get all possisive and think they can monitor ur every move and they possess u, so some girls, like the fact thatthey can maintain their independence and still have someone to 'shag' when they want, it's all about retaining some measure of control

hahahahahaha

that made me laugh

@mcube
thats a good song

Aerosmith, dont wanna miss a thing!,

Chorus:
i dont wanna close my eyes, i dont wanna fall atsleep, cos i'll miss u babe, and i don't wanna miss a thing!

@poster

one man's meat, is another man's poison, but ur right, there are enough women to go round, so y'all stop chasing married women

TRUST, is what BOTH of u need in ur r/ship

Just cos, he SAYS he loves u today, dont mean he always gonna act that way, or its always guaranteed to stay like that, so dont get complacent gf, maintain it, and keep the hardwork up, and i hope for ur sake, that he's not just being a good actor

@topic

some guys are COMPULSIVE F*CK-AHOLICS, and just gotta have anything female, they do not stop to think or consider anything or anyone else, they will make a play for u as long as ur female

other guys are a bit more mature and their thinking is not ruled mainly by their d*cks, these guys have self control, and though it might be difficult, they are more than likely going to abstain and stay away from the temptation.

It will also depend on the girl. how much she flaunts it, and teases the guy and of the emotional connection btwn both of them

@poster

WE ALL LIE, diff is, some ppl lie with the intention to decieve, be malicious or spite others, others do it just to be mischievous

u got to figure out which one she is, and whether it is affecting u and / or ur r/ship. if it is, then tell her to stop it. if she just tells little white lies to cause mischief, but they are begining to get on ur nerves tell her, if not, loeave her be

afterall, u no be sabi say na so she dey, b4 u start to date her?, , how long u 2 been dating?, NOW u complain?

@silly

go and handle ur biz, n stop wastin time on here!!

@silly, my dear, keep thinking ohh, and when u do, lemme know [though u dont have to], good luck

@Ruud
I think it is possible, WHO SAID, OR WHERE IS IT WRITTEN THAT YOU SHALL LOVE BUT ONCE?, i think that is just a myth put about by ppl who have had adverse experiences and somehow can not find the strength to bounce back.

I CHOOSE, to believe that Love is an emotion, and like all other emotions you can experience it more than once. maybe not top the same intensity all the time, but you can definitely experience more than once, IF U LET URSELF

ppl, use this u only love once thing to shield themselves after or from an unpleasant experience, refusing to allow any other prson or themselves the chance to open up completely. Just because the one u LOVE dies, at a tender age, into ur marriage, does not mean u will never find another love again, may not same intensity, or u might not love them in same way, but if u let urself, u shall/can love again.

NO 2 experiences are the same, so U CAN NOT LOVE 2 PPL IN A LIFETIME IN SAME WAY, TO SAME AMOUNT FOR SAME,  REASONS, but u can definitely more than once

, and if u do not share our sentiments, then keepo looking and waiting for ur one true love, and heaven forbid it, but should something happen to take her away from u, i hope u can find true happiness again with someone else

@silly
hahahahahahhahaha, baby ur hooked, u dont believe in olove, OK, but u believe in her, she's scared u'll hurt her, and if u know theres a chnace in hell u'll destry something as beautiful as what u both share now, then leave things be, and leave her alone, if not, then encourage her to believ and trust in u and open up to u

@Ruud, haha u dont give up do u, u only just apologised for 'badgering' me, yet u carry on with the qns,

if u refer to the other forum, on same/similar topic, u'd see i think u can love more than one person at a time

@RuuDie, i AM SAYING, I WOULDNT PUT MYSELF IN A SITUATION WHERE MY KIDS FUTURE AND UPTIMUM LIVELIHOOD WOULD BE TARNISHED BY A FOOLISH HEART.

money isnt the only factor to consider in marriage, and the guy doesnt have to be mega rich or anything like that, but he has got to be able to look after u, else u d woman can look after all of u, hahahah, u planning on coming to knock on my dopor?, sha come first den we go see

lol, If i know my mom, like i do,, she dodnt just marry my dad because she loved him, lol, not that she didnt love him oh, cos i bet she did[that i know for a fact], but it is also a fact that she believed he also had a future to offer her and her kids.

@Silly
ohh so ur one of those, 'I LIKE & RESPECT U, COS U WONT ALLOW ME THE PLEASURE OF HAVING YOU' kinda guy huh?, i was dancing cos i thought u genuinely felt something deeper, bgut boy was i wrong, [im just gonna have to continue keeping u in prayers sha]

if that is what is making u attracted to her, then i hope she doesnt give u the pleasure of opening up to u, she sounds like my kinda gurl, cos if i sussed u out the same, i sure as heck wouldnt let u know either, lol, ljust a kind of stubborn pride i guess, nothing to lose [cos its not like u want her like that, so badly] and all her pride and respect to gain [atleast in ur eyes as a good friend]

@RuuDie
NO, i think as humans we have a lot of love in us to give. Some ppl might be unfortunate enough to discover that feeling just once in a life time.

But i think we have the ability and CAN love more than once!

That answer u, Ruud?

@RuuDie, insecure , YOU??, hahaha i doubt it!!

and huney if u scroll up and Re-read my post, u will find my answer to the topic, somewhere, lol, [ur really on a roll today arent u?]

@poster

[God obviously} exclusing that!, My MUMMY, first ohh [darn she can get on my nerves, but i love her to bits]

then my sisters jarre!, whether or not i can/will take a bullet for my sisters, i do not know and can not say! until such time as the situation arises [God forbid it though], but i know i do not like to see them hurting, and even when they have been ill, i have prayed to God to give me the hurt and spare them any pain or hardship!, its all good sha!!

@poster

he aint worth nothing!!, HE AINT GOT VALUE, if it is temp, then ok-i go fit manage sha, but he had better be planning on getting himself to an honest job, if not, then his worthless booty's gonna be out the dorr b4 he says hello

@Silly

hahaha , i knew it!!! [dancing around!!]

heeeyyyyy, it shall be permanent!!!, @silly is in luuvvvvv, [ok as u dont belive in love, SILLY LIKES A GIRL]

ok, i think u need to let her realise that u are a 'changed' person, i don't know how true that is, but if u are, then she doesnt need convincing, with time, she'll relaise the changes herself.
My bet is, u need to find out exactly HOW, WHAT she feels for u first, and then let time decide. She doesnt seem like the kind of person u can rush into anything
So tell her how u feel, and if she feels same, aint nothing worse than assuming, that the fact that she LOVES u, is same as that she is IN LOVE with you.
Talk to her, express urself [im sure u can do that], and sit back and watch her make her mind up. If she enjoys ur company that much, then its only a matter of time b4 she gives in, if not, she'll maintain the friendship at a distance, or cut off once she knows how u feel

GOOD LUCK hun

@Ruudie
aint got a problem with ur theory hun!!, lol, its just, i thought u were going to think alongh those lines, and u did, thats all

@RuuDie

no chink ohh huney, just common sense, marriage aint all about love, and my parents ensured i had the best up bringing, y should i deny my kids same?

@RuuDie
i can imagine u coming up with a thery like that

@poster
LOVE is not prescriptive, neither can it be pre calculated, it just happens, for some ppl they can find the strength, luck and passion to experience it more than once

Others can not, and simply give up at the idea of going through the process again! can't say i blame them either!, it is draining

eitherway, it is possible, but the issue is, DO U HAVE IT IN YOU, AND WOULD U MEET MORE THAN MORE THAN ONE PERSON TO LOVE IN YOUR LIFE?, if yes, ur on a roll, live it up

@topic

me i dont believe in poor marriage ohh, it might be ok to date a guy who can't afford u, as long as u can look after urself.

But i do not think it is ok, to MARRY a guy who can't affordf to look after ur kids, unless u can.
Having said that, i'm not suggesting for one minute to marry a guy u have no affection for!

I supopose the key here is the right balance between, a comfortable future and a happy one

If she loves both men, then she should consider where her future is brightest. If not she had better follow her heart, atleast that way, if things go wrong, no regrets

It is possible to love 2 ppl at same time, and ofte for completely different reasons. WHY?, i hear u ask, well because ppl are different, and that diversity is what made our creator awesome, as no one person can have all you ever wanted in a partner.

It is a difficult position to be in, but usually in your heart of hearts, you casn tell which one of them is better suited to u. whether u choose to follow it is another matter all together

@silly, tell me which babe is trying to make u 'serious' enuff that u come here and ask dis kind of question!!

to answer u

It depends on the girl, whilst some girls enjoy it and love playing hard to get and the man chasing them etc,

Others are straight up and will tell u upfront from day 1 how they feel about u, and they dont expect u to do anything of the sort. Any attempt at this, migth very well p*ss them off