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MP007
no one is stopping anyone from achieving their goals, heck i know i have got my own life and goals to achieve, but i am also conscious of the fact if i want to settle down with someone, its not all about MY goals and where i want to be, i need to put them and their needs too into perspective, u gotta give a little to gain alot, and sometimes, cutting back on over-time a little bit, can help make a relationship stronger, cos u spend a bit more time together

@Silly
u see ur life!!
if hes accepting things from the girl without disclosing his true feelings, then na ashawo!!, if he has disclosed his true feelings and she refuses to listen and continues to live in dream land, then make him sef chop!, but when bone tight for him neck (as it has now), he had better have a good way out

No chop fish, if u dey fia bone

@Silly. i'm good hun, how r u?
i'm not saying she should nag or anything, i'm just saying working long hours and negleting ur other half isnt going to do u much good, cos u wont have any1 to share it with when ur done!

whether u wanna marry her or not, if ur unhappy about ANYTHING she has done or is doing, TELL HER how u feel about it. its up to her to try to calm ur worries, or disregard ur feelings

some guys use it to tell u, he is no longer interested in spending time with u, if thats ur position, then get the hint

the idea or notion of romance is subjective

so what one guy might consider 'youthful randiness' another might find 'romantic'.
one preferes to see u in a 'see-through nightie', the other in his 'arsenal jersey'!,
what do u know?!, variety is the spice of life

i say - find out what ur guy terms romantic, and do it for him, the KEY TO BEING ROMANTIC, IS ENJOYING GIVING HIM PLEASURE, emotional, physical, visual, verbal etc, usually what ppl enjoy, is knowing that ur making the effort and enjoy making them happy/giving them pleasure!

BE HONEST!, if he is honest, his words and actions will mirror each other, just be honest!!

@Eire, thank u jarre

@silly
u see ur life!, no body complained about working late, if u work late but start in the afternoon, i aint got a prob with it. my only issue is when we both work so hard, and u dont have to stay late at the office every blessed day, yet u choose to!

i work he works, i sometimes work late, so does he, but if it to work work.we need time together

BE HONEST, if ur honest ur actions will mirror ur words!, just be honest!

@Bolarge
where there is a will there is a way, no one said it was going to be easy, but if he is not contractually bound to out in those hours, then he can defenitely make changes if he wants to

its more a personality thing NOT gender

i have met guys who can talk for England, and i want to just scream shut up!!, then again i have met the really quiet ones, who sit there looking at me with a smile, when i talk, wondering when i am going to staop for air

lol, it depends on the guy and the girl, who talks more is relative!

Religion is how u choose to express your faith

Faith is what matters, you both need to sit down and talk about it openly. talk about where the r/ship is going and what problems you are both going to encouter. How much one of u is willing to compromise to make it work, and only then will you both know for sure where you stand.

If you are both devout and none is willing to bulger, then it wont work out. U've come this far, dont throw the good yrs away, cos of something workable, try to build bridges. at same time, be realistic.

Dont bother too much about what ur family thinks just now, this is the rest of your life you are talking about. u need to make a decision u can live with till death do u part.

Good luck

deal with it hun, thats what i will tell u, if that is the nature of his job and contractual agreements. If its just that he is putting in over time, then talk to him about it! and explain how u feel and how it affects both of u, if he cares for u, he should be able and willing to listen and make certain changes

@topic

it depends in what context you are washing it, if u do it because u love her and she is genuinely in a position where she needs you to help her do it, then ur a fool, liar and ignorant idiot, to not do it- cos tehres nothing to it, its just u showing ur love, support towards her,, esp if na ur pikin she dey 8months pregnant with

if ur doing it, in a context where she makes you feel belittled, or make u feel insignificant for doing it, then u have a problem, i'll say dont do it (same goes for women).

whats a brot girl?

and if u dont love her, but have been accepting things from her, without being honest with her, u sef be ashawo

(ignoring the fact that the qn was for guys)

my friend it is u who is unsure about ur future with her, and ur projecting it out like its ur family

end of the day, aint ur family whos gonna be with her, so it boils down to you and if your comfortable enough to love her for who she is on the inside, not what she is on the outside, if not, let her go, b4 u cause more pain

WHERE THERE IS HONEST, SINCEREITY, ATTRACTION, and all the necessary ingredients, LOVE WILL EXIST, despite the nationalities, it is human

ur question is just a bit rude, and kinda asks, ARE NIGERIANS HUMANS?, heck all humans are capable of love

hahahahah

funny how guys will hit the roof if u did same thing, but its aiight for them to do it right?!!

Heck, i dont stress myself about triviliaties, least he's doing it to my face, so i know there's such a girl hitting on him, be worse if he were lying to her and carrying on, behind my back, then i would not even have a clue, even if something did come out of it

i'll just make him understand, we are both very desirable ppl, and same way he cant seem to help/stop girls from admiring him, i'm sure he'll understand when guys just cant seem to stop admiring me

If he can't handle what he dishes out, then its best he behaves!!

@poster

look hun, she might feel u take her for granted, and hence she's trying to make u realise that ur no different from the others and she can get on fine without u!

i suggest y'all talk. Maybe u both need to realise what u are doing wrong

SHE NEEDS TO REALISE YOU LOVE HER (which is not something she can from her admirers-cos thats all they are admirers)

YOU NEED TO REALISE THAT SHE MIGHT BE FEELING INSECURE, AND SHE SEEMS A SENSITIVE OTT KINDA GIRL;, so tread with caution before u land any bombs on her, be sure of what u are both feeling and that it is being communicated properly, so u know how u both feel about each other, all u know, she might actually still dig u

SORRY MY MISTAKE

hey TWINSY, ya read my mind!!, gosh r we telepathic or what

@poster

i think ppl should be more reasonable

The love u have for your mother and ur wife are 2 different things, and besides u fit get another wife, but u no go fit get another mother!

so ppl need to be able to chill and accept their place in life, she might have had some family issues that may have made her not very close to her family, but she shouldnt put u in a difficult situation for it! If not, then i bet u, she doesnt love u and her dad/brother to same extent or in same way

Now if u had said that About a friend or an ex, i would call u heartless, PEOPLE NEED TO LIMIT THE SCOPE/BOUNDARIES OF THEIR JEALOUSY

hahahahahahahaha, urbf is one insecure and paranoid brother

heck maybe his deeds are reflected in his image of u, lol, maybe he thinks ur doing whjat he's doing.

Or he might just feel insecure, that maybe u dont need him, lol

Either way get to the bottom of that reaction, cos its weird,

thank ur lucky stars u didnt get the over-used 'u know i've always loved u baby, why r u asking again', lol, notice how that didn't really answer the question?

Lust at First sight, 'connecvtion' at first sight ' attraction' what ever word u use, dont call it love ohh,

truly someppl share something special the first time they meet, it might be an instant connection or click or whatever, but it is there and there is not denying it!!, it might be it is exactly the kind of person they had dreamt of meeting / loving etc, lol

but SUSTAINABLE LOVE GROWS WITH TIME, and a hell of a lot of patience

@poster, she's young and inexperienced, and the thing about young ppl is., they never remember their first love, no matter how badly he treated them

I say if she is sure the new one loves her, and she loves him too, she should forget all about the old one and concentrate on her life,

I AM NOT AN ADVOCATE OF SWALLOWING YOUR VOMIT, if a guy messes up big time, when he had his chance with me, he shouldnt come and try to snatch someone else's chance, if he really wants her and believes they were meant to be together, he should wait till she's single a again and then treat her better and try to make it up to her

@topic, easy

He's admiring you openly - some guys can visually rape and UnCloth u

He's trying to maintain eye and physical contact with you long than in necessary / appropriate at that time, eg, shaking someone's hand and they hold on for a second more than they are meant to

He's paying you compliments, u either do not espect, or are unaware of

He's going out of his way to please u

He can't wipe the smile off his face everytime he notices ur looking at him, or looking his way

He speaks suggestively, never quite saying what he really means/wants, but all the time suggesting it so u understand

those are some, u want more?, abi dis one correct 4u?

@iice

second that

@roadblock

dont just blame these girls alone.

The men that can not turn their heads away and say NO to a bit of skirt for theior wives and children's sake, are also at blame if not more so.

What makes a man, is not how many times he can pick himself up after falling into temptation, IT IS, WHETHER OR NOT HE CAN WITHSTAND THE TEMPTATION AND SAY NO IN THE FIRST PLACE!

there shall always be temptresses around!! men u needf to learn to resist, and stop inflicting harm and pain on your marital homes, by flaunting your cash around and attracting all these young girls

hahahahahahaha

madness, now i see ur one of those guys that find it hard to see a girl's beauty beyond what is skin deep, i dey pity u sha, my friend u had better grow up and mature enuff to know all that gloitters is not gold, and sometimes the things that are good for us, as not exactly instantly appealing

Having said that, if u aint sexually attracted to her, then its best u say so to her face b4 u break her heart and cheat on her with someone else

Roadblock

it depends where the girl's at in her life, sometimes its not that they fear commitment, its just that they would rather not have a guy clinging on to them bossing them and controlling them about, especially if they have other issues to deal with, they'd rather the sex, shoulder to cry on, and assistance whenever THEY feel like it
that way, they are in control as to whom and when/how they lose their hearts, (though this one bnackfires sometimes)

@2dye4

well, how about u tell me what u want / expect from ur woman and we'll see if the list tallies with some of mine

we want same things u guys expect from us