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ajayi1:
The only help you have is to go for Fasting and prayer for 41 day. The last day of your fast just go outside your house in the morning, the first person you will see will be your girl. (It may be a mad girl).

hahahahahahahah, kai u wocked

@poster, my initial tempted response was to tell u, serves u rigth for messing about in the first instance, btu being a compassionate human being, i say unto u U CAN'T HURRY LOVE, U JUST HAVE TO WAIT, LOVE DON'T COME EASY, ITS A GAME OF GIVE AND TAKE, give urself chances to meet new girls and get to know them, in time u will fall in love with the one u most desire, but that will take time, if u r seriously looking for something serious, the babe also hae to be on same wave length as u

@viee, hmmm u see, that ur way of thinking pass me ohhh, are u a jealous lover? (please u dont have to answer, if u dont want to)

every woman, deserves to be respected and treated that way, now if he cheats, i am not saying u have to leave him straight away, btu dont let him understand from the start that cheating is OK

and i have met faithful guys and utter playas, i roll in both circles, so i can smell a rat b4 it even appears, my guy knows i can tell the signs of cheating, he's gotta be very good to get past me

@cute, i am feeling u

@IICE, HAHAHAHAH u don remember me college love, I WILL CLIMB THE HIGHEST MOUNTAIN FOR YOU, that one screams village-boy!!, as well as apple of my eye!

@kiki, thank heavens u be girl oh, other wise, u for don do irreparable damage to guys, kai!!!!

cute-ass, i am begining to grow a liking for ur attitude to life, lol

hahaha 'arrant non-sense'

hahahaha, btu it's true i'd want to know, although i don't want to know the details, what positions, what u did etc, i remember the first time i got cheated on and then dumped (up until then, i was the one doing the dumping right, and then i fall head over heels inlove with this guy, who chetas on me with my friend and then has the guts to dump me -ME? hmm- it was a self humbling experience, but painful)

i remember asking him for details, which he gave me some in arguments, and at the time i wanted to know, btu it made moving on 3times harder, and a part of me respects him for being the 1st to let me know i am 'dump-able' btu another part of me still hates/dislikes me.

So YES i wanna know if he's cheating or if he find someone attractive, btu i dont wanna know the details

(and just for those who are wondering, i havent been dumped again!-and i intend to keep it that way)

iice, hahahahaha, ouch, na that one is a bit too out spoken in my books

I'll tell u one that i reply to 'IF I COULD RE-ARRANGE THE LETTERS OF THE ALPHABET I'D PUT U&I TO GETHER', hahahahah, i'm like 'Thank heavens theres never a chance of u re-arranging it then'

just tells me the guy is cheesyyyy, i mean u know the annoying 'slaes' kinda guy u just wanna scream 'shut-up' to?!!

@kiki

tell me about it, i beg if a guy aint got a job, make u no toss babe like me oh, because i go deny u. Not because i want chop ur money 9lai-lai i can look after myself and my needs), na because i no want u to finish my money!

hell yeah cute-ass, i'm kinda tired of guys labelling girls for petty reasons!!, esp when it might be the case of the kettle calling the pot black,

we got to flip the script and let them appreciate the other side of teh coin too once in a while

kiki:
yup yup yup they are. always lookin for some rich girl 2 date 4 money. Lil gold diggers

i agree with u wholeheartedly, all the london boys, some of them no dey work oh, na only 419, and if d 419 no fall through, then Thank heavens they are living with their babe who pays the rent,

maybe back home and back in the days, men used to have their pride, about providing for their families etc, these days, they are looking for where to get it all for free.

tell us some the pick up lines that u have heard or that u have used, or indeed that have been used on u, and what u liked/hated about them.

Did they reveal anything about the other person?

have fun peeps

tell us some the pick up lines that u have heard or that u have used, or indeed that have been used on u, and what u liked/hated about them.

Did they reveal anything about the other person?

have fun peeps

hahahahah abeg una dey make my belle pain wif lafter, lol

Ol' boy @poster, it depends on ur interaction with d babe that night, not saying that i would do this, but me i am guilty of being a typical, game-player oh, if a guy wants me, he gats to work for me.!!, that way he knows i wont be letting another guy in, in a hurry and he'll realise he got value,

maybe the girl was really feeling u thats all, some babe no like all dis bullsh*t oh, they just wanna get down and see what u got to offer!!!

On THE OTHER HAND, THINK OF IT THIS WAY:, MAYBE U CAME ACROSS AS A LITTLE DESPARATE AND SHE FELT SORRY FOR U AND THOUGHT U REALLY NEEDED SOMEONE TO TALK TO, SO SHE OFFERED TO BE THERE FOR U AT ANY TIME OF THE DAY/NIGHT, JUST TO HELP U OUT!!, MAYBE U LOOKED CHEAP. works both ways

walk up to her and say

''Hi i think ur hot, and i'd seriously like to take you out, i won't take No for an answer so u better pick a date when i can have u for a long time''

i'm done (original but not too cheesy), gets me

he keeps coming back to saying he will change and he doesn't?, and everytime u take him back?, lol, i beg no make i laugh, and u think he is serious and he loves you,

Ol' girls make i tell una one tin oh, A WOMAN CAN NEVER CHANGE A MAN, A MAN CHANGES BECAUSE OF THE LOVE HE HAS FOR HIS WOMAN, AND HE WANTS TO BE A BETTER PERSON FOR HER,

dump his ass, and if and when he is ready, if u still love him, he will come back and u can accept him then. otherwise, hmmm na u sabi

ONLY A WEAK MAN WILL RAISE HIS HAND ON A WOMAN, and for those of u guys in here that think it is ok to beat ur babes, IT IS NOT, & AND HEAVEN HELP THE MAN WHO WILL RAISE HIS HAND AT ME, I WILL SEE U TO UR GRAVE, rubbish!!

U fit beat ya mama?, women need love, care and protection, not abuse, and if u say it is CORRECTION, they dont need that sort of correction.so it is more like ur FRUSTRATION, they are old enough and mature enough to be communicated to and wit, not beaten

Look, my dear if u stay with this guy and give him another chance, na u sakpa, as for me i say LEAVE HIM, if he loves u and u love him, break up with him, and watch whether and how he changes and controls his temper whilst u r apart. if not N.E.X.T!!!!, i beg no spoil ur fine body and self esteem in the name of love, cos u feel u need to stay with a woman-beater

I used to date a guy who had a harsh temper, and ppl were scared of him, but when he stood infront of me in an argument(beraing in mind i am tiny), i would talk back, and ppl could not understand, because they are used to him lashing out. i am ur babe, i need to feel i can express my thoughts and emotions (whether angry or sweet) without fear of being hit, i told him, d day u will raise ur hand on me, whether u strike me or not, 'DIS LONDON GO SMALL FOR WE TWO', madness!!!, when my parents beat me as a child, u sef u wan raise ur hand!

Flirting is mad fun, especially when the other person knows how to keep u going and what u like,

heck, i'm a natural born flirt! (cant help it, i just got to feel like i am still appreciate-able, does it boost my EGO, Yes Oh!!, and it is healthy, because then u dont bcome overly-reliant on ur guy like he is last guy on earth and u have to be putting up with utter rubbish from him), and ur guy knows u love him and respect him, but he's got to be on top of his game at all times.

But the 'flirtor' and the 'firtee' (im not sure these words exist) have to have similar rules / expectations for both sides to enjoy it, otherwise it might feel like one side is coming on too strong (usually teh guy) and then it becomes 'stalking/ petering'

If ur a flirt and ur in a relationship, u gotta know ur limits, i know mine oh,  i will flirt with u, but just dont think i will jump into bed with u, lol, the fact that ur cute or a smooth talker doesn't make u relationship material

i think FLIRTING OPENLY INFRONT OF YOUR PARTNER, OR WITHIN THE SAME NETWORK OF FRIENDS IS A DEFINITE NO-NO AND VERY DISRESPECTFUL-plz do not do it, esp if ur partner is the jealous type

IBDat:
Hell yeah i'd want to know, why, whom, where, when, how long n how many others (if any) - as it will be over b'tween us

u see, as long as u also don't expect her to stay with u if u cheat on her, then i'm cool with ur reaction (because most of u guys have double standards, IT'S OK FOR THE GUY TO CHEAT, BUT NOT THE GIRL, because then the guys get all hot n' bothered about it)

iice, lol, hahaha, but's true now, see me see wahala

@viee, what do u mean, what is the point?, i mean he is being unfailthful and u wouldn't want to know?, why not? (and plz dont say love)

maybe you like the 'freedom and interdependece' that usually comes with dating older women, that you cant get from the younger girls, alongside the sexual experience. e.g a girl of 1983/84/85 would be looking for a serious/semi serious relatiionship, maybe u shy away from that, and u dont want any one too clingy (emotionally) u want to be free, which is what u get from women who have already achieved all they want but just want u for ur energy and sex

most guys that have committment-phobia, tend to date older women, because they think they have more 'freedom' with them. (until the day the woman realises she needs a companion more than sex-then she too would want commitment), so u end up running all ur life huh?

Maybe u need to look at ur approach to relationships, and what u want from them, then come back we will see where ur problem is, only then can we begin to help u solve it

i feel y'all ladies, but i have this friend who was dating a complete jerk once, and she chose to be oblivious to his infedelity because, she said she loved him and nothing she said/did would change him. Its how african men are.

PERSONALLY I AM GETTING TIRED OF MEN TRYING TO JUSTIFY CHEATING GENETICALLY, about its in their nature to cheat/be polygamous, heck it's in my nature to not take bull sh*t from u,

and u'd be surprise, that this way of thinking is begining to make some girls think its ok, to stay with a serial cheat,

hahahahah ur problem be say u like 'bad boys' u like danger too much. U have matured enough to know that bad boys are not good for you, unless they are willing to change for u, but u still like dem, when u see one like dis, e go still dey chak u for body!!!

Ol' gel u need to calm down for Jesus!, stay away from this guy. It seems like he and ur bf are completely different ppl, but look, if u love ur bf, no break d guy heart because of one useless fling, if u never ready for d kind of serious relationship ur in right now, call it off with ur bf right now, and go and pursue ur physical needs, when u have come to ur senses to realise that ur bf is a gem, then u come back to him - hopefully he'll still be there 4u.

I think both ur statements are untrue,

A guy doesnt need sex to fall inlove, where as for some guys 'good sex' might be an incentive to stay and get to know the person better. or good sex might seal the bond, bad sex would just force him to look elsewhere

and trust me, i have met girls who will screw u because they can. Not because of love or bla bla bla, if they are Hot and dont want to use a vibrator (ir they want an actual human being), they'll pick up their black book and call the ghot guy they met at the club last weekend and hook up with him. after that, they need/want nothing more from u - its funny to see how some of these guys feel hurt, esp if they had been wanting a bit more, or a repeat performance sometime soon.

Are they sluts?, i don't agree with the practice, but i shall not judge anyone, just because their moral values don't match mine.

I am Wifey, having said that i have been baby girl  

But omo, i get too much pride and self dignity to be Jump-off or Side piece, i know i got more to offer a man than my curves (and believe me i am pretty-not just blowing my own horn)

I dont cause scenes in public (no need, i respect my public image + rep), but in private, i go woman-handle u

does kissing mean ur cheating?, lol

YES oh, because what if u can't help urself?, or stop ur self in time, u go waka d whole 9yards abi? kissing is mouth penetration,
On a serious note, it deoends on the boundaries u and ur partners have around ur relationship, whilst we may be sitting here typing our butts off, saying it is cheating, if ur guy sees cheating only as u having sex with another guy and u get away with kissing, then we are wasting our breath

If he doesn't then u know, he will see it as cheating. so y u asking us?, whether he finds out or not is another topic

hahahaha, huney the fact that u are even asking on here, means that u kind of have issues with it yourself,

Some ppl learn by wathcing others, others learn by experience, its upto u hun, if u truly believe u both love each other, then stay in it, but be asertive and dont allow urself to be used/brainswashed,

As for ppl telling her to skip out of it, some 18yr olds are very mature. and some 34yr old men are very immature, and reason like 24 yrs old, so it depends on the individuals.

I once loved an older guy, i was 12 he was 22, he absolutely refused to have anything to do with me sexually, we would talk for hours, he was my neighbour, and he would walk me home, but the closest he came physically was holding my hand, i knew he loved me too (amd he still does), but i also knew he was old and he had other girlfriends

Today we are old enough, but i havent dated him, we have remained close friends over the years and i have developed a respect for him, i think would have been hatred, had he taken my virginity from me when i offered it to him at 12.

I think it depends,
If both of you are friends, and close, then i think the lady can tell the guy how she feels about it.

If they are meeting for teh first time, i think the guy has to do it!

Having said that, if i think a guy is cute, or is wearing a nice shirt, and he is checking me out, and i want to knwo him better, i'll smile and tell him i think he is cute, if he wants to proceed tossing, then thats his biz. If he choses to say THANK YOU and remain slinet, then he had better 4get about me

No it not ok oh
If you kno ur friend and trust them, then fine, but i believe the limit should be 1. otherwise u are asking for trbl

na she u dey marry abi na her broda?

Look, as u see me here, with all due respect, i am a loving and loyal person and i will try my best for my in-laws because i believe it is important that they like and accept me as one of them, so that both families will work togther, having said that, i will not compromise my dignity or kill myself for my in laws oh,, i have never been a ppl pleaser and i am not about to start now, i do what's right

If she were a young girl, i will be telling you now to be patient and she will get over it.

BUT it seems she is one grown ass woman, wettin u dey waste ur time?, biko ignore her (avoid her and anything to do with her), carry on with ur husband and the rest of the family, when d demon that possessed her leaves her, she will come to her senses, if not, don't allow it to ruin ur life, esp if she is close to ur brother, heaven knows what stories she will start telling, and its only a matter of time b4 he has to make a choice whether to believe u or his sister,

Just make her understand that u will nto allow her to get to you, and u will avoid her, the day she decides to accept u in her heart, your arms will always be open to recieve her like a sister and treat her liek u have treated the others,

Zimba

you know, Grieve for her, but DO NOT make it your responsibility in life to never forget her, and do not feel guilty to open up top someone else.

the more u keep things inside, the harder it is to ger over the event.
I am sorry for your loss, and it will take you a while to get things back to normal, and the first few months are hardest, because you have to get by without them and things they used to do, or u used to do togther.

Trust in God, and keep your head up. if you find another woman, dont be afraid to get close and open up to her, let her help you through your pain.

like some one said, The pain and emptiness will always be there, but it gets easier to deal with

Cook for her what she likes, or take her out to her favourite spot, ask her to talk out her concerns, do NOT interupt her, just ask her why she is having such thoughts. Listen attentively, ask her as many questions as you want BUT MAKE SURE YOU UNDERSTAND HER VIEWPOINT AT THE END.
When she has finished,
ask her how much she loves you and trusts you and if she knows you feel the same way about her and ur daughter.
Bear in mind, if you try to justify anything / or appear on the defensive, it only makes u look guilty.

Just tell her what they mean to you and how much this is affecting you, and that you can not continue with this, because u have never cheated on her and u do not intend to start now. Tell her you CHOSE to be with her, and it is not by force so you will never want to make her unhappy. be honest and lay your cards on the table, tell her u can not continue the way things are going. And if u had done anything to instill that idea in her head, ask her forgiveness because it wasnt deliberate. but you are willing to work through it together with her. However also let her know where you stand if her behaviour continues,

You should also bear in mind that loneliness makes women irritable and highly suspicious, when was the last time you made love?, has anything changed when u 2 make love?, are you still statisfying her emotionally and physically?, if nothing has changed, then she is just being insecure, get to the root of it, if things have changed, eg u dont make love often, when u do she isnt satisfied or ur mind is pre-occupied, women can pick up on these things, and so maybe you are working too hard, and your work is disconnecting u from your family emotionally. BE HONEST WITH YOURSELF AND HER, maybe her behaviour is a reaction to urs.

THE BEST A MAN CAN DO IS TO TRY HIS BEST, AND DO IT HONESTLY, if she really loves you, she will cool down and try to work through things (especially if your record has been clean to date), unless she too wants out, but doesn't know how to go about it.

What ever u do, get a firm decision/stand from her before you buy this new house, otherwise it will just be one thing in a divorce (God forbid) battle,

GOOD LUCK!!

''Money talks bullsh*t walks''

If i have my way and money, i will have BOTH plus the Registry one too, and heck i want the whole works,, from the lavish white dress, and guy in tuxedo, in a catherdral (if i can), with good music, heck i am roman catholic and i want it B I G, WETTIN, NA ONE TIME I GO MARRY OH (if i am to re-marry-God forbid- for any other reason, then i will do it small scale)

the traditional one, i want d matching traditional wear, food for a viallage and drinks in abundance, live music from cultural groups, see me, see wahala, hmm make i get d kind money i want, my wedding will be one in town, d type little kids would be wishing for,

(Let no one kill my dreams, aim for the sky and if u land lower, it wont be so bad)

i was feeling Omotola oh, until i watched 'Games men Play' with Dakore, hmmm dat movie is hot,

and there was another one is which she played a model with Genevieve as her younger sister, who came to steal her limelight as a model, sha, even in that movie, after everything, me i still sha liked Dakore