₦airaland Forum

Fedayeen:
Never you remain in an abusive relationship. Someone who loves and knows you very well will have TRUST in you.

I can't stand an abusive relationship its damn sickening

I have 'known' and 'trusted' several women in my young life and where did it get me? No guy has any right whatsoever to beat a lady though. Actually a sign of weakness.

I dont even know what PM means. Am I outdated?

I dont even care about female followership on social media. I think its a waste of time and do not follow anyone neither do I expect anyone to follow me. I have met and interacted with different colour of ladies and can tell you 9ja gals though very sweet, can have a huge propensity to disrespect and downgrade initially. Check all these ones on nairaland!

ireneony:
Tosin abeg u nor go kill person

Op is like you've never met a sharp girl.

The truth is; it is more easy to tell if a guy just had sex.

Have you ever wondered why footballers are advised not to have sex during any game.

A lady can have sex with different men in a day, and it is hard to tell.


Make I just de laugh

Baby how will you know if a man just had sex? Will you start measuring d length of d joystick to decipher any increase or decrease? Hmmm...

Achuwa1:
Why are some NL mod always happi abt the downfall of certain ppl in the country,,
instead them to be tackling NLC & TUC abt not protesting the lingering fuel crisis for over 3 months now,but they busy promoting saraki's case.
my question is,,will saraki case stop the pending fuel crisis,will it reduce the high cost of commodity in the mkt,will it bring steady power supply,will it stop the hardship apc govt.is subjecting Nigerians to,etc.
who cares about saraki & co,,if he looses his case na 4 him head & if he wins his case same to him head..
lets be more concerned abt the poor masses than dis selfish politician coz non of them is ready to give up their wealth for me & u.
a word is enough for the wise.

And u count yourself among the 'wise' with what you just wrote now abi? So because things are hard presently the people that have systematically ensured we r in this mess collectively today should be let off? I'm working on a research to determine what is genetically wrong with black people!

oyetunji12:
uhmmm se oro niyen

Not everyone understands whatever language you are writing o.

I really don't understand how people can conveniently insinuate that a 22 year old graduate female shouln't be ready for marriage and d girls support this. As much as people say times have changed, most of our mothers got married and stayed in thier marriages from tender ages of 15 and above. This is coupled with d fact that these women hardly had any advanced formal education. Mr OP that lady wants to eat her cake and have it. I suggest u maintain your stand and prepare yourself for d worst. Childish men and women everywhere!

I had a secondary school mate then in Minna who could make remote controlled bulldozers, Helicopters and cranes. Went on to study mechanical engineering in ABU and haven't heard of him since then. Let's stop fighting over and tribalizing very modest creations on public fora. Commendable but he ain't d first, neither will he be d last. Africans and mediocrity!

SAMBARRY:
angry and HUNGRY MEN everywhere

Lol what are you sef? Guy abi girl?

omofunaab:
I don't see this as discrimination ..it is about standard.. .

What standard? I served in 09/10 in minna ass clo and met at least two futa grads that couldn't write formal letters. Does it mean d sch has no standard? No. Does it mean an ABU grad like me wouldn't do better than countless grad from d schools metioned if given d opportunity? In my opinion such companies are just run on stereotypic and nepotic culture. No real attention to productivity and output propensity in potential employees.

ScofieldBello:
You seem to me a desperate lady.
Hey, stop going about telling people how to spend their hard earned money! You were definitely disappointed cuz you didn't get what you expected.....he is a real guy.

How many times have you left your change with a waitress? But you expected him to leave his. Oh....I forgot that you ain't got a job yet.

Better that you deleted his number cuz a lady like you cannot add value to his life. He ain't a reckless spender.


Funny you, na now you know say na fake life him dey live. Even if he isn't a full staff, madam IT IS HIS JOB, IT IS HIS LIFE, HE LIKES IT.

Hungry girls everywhere!

dayowunmi:
Why is the sports minister always on beret? What da heck. Morning afternoon night.

He is a Che Guevara adherent. Ever heard of him? The latino socialist revolutionary?

osedvgirl:

mention the songs and their artists

Just download Coldplay's album titled x and y. Pay attention to the song titled 'fix you' and digest d lyrics. Try Tracy Chapman's album titled 'crossroads'. Pay attention to two tracks 'Bridges' and 'this time'. Try 'waiting for the end' by linkin park too. Give me feedback when u listen to them. Fix you is particularly the most soothing when you are trying to free yourself from an abusive and under appreciated relationship.

hatbricker:
please can you name the musics so i can download them. Thanks.

Check out 'fix you' by coldplay, 'this time' by Tracy Chapman, 'Bridges' by Tracy Chapman, 'Waiting for the end' by linkin park. I am a serious rock fan and trust me, rock music(coldplay, linkin park, Avril Lavigne, Blink 182) is therapeutic to me. Try them.

GlorifiedTunde:
Religion!

There is nothing spiritual about these popes. Its just a political role.

Many of their doctrines are against the biblical principle.

Did Jesus wash the feet of the heathen?

And people have turned this so called pope into a god. They listen to him rather than the word of Jesus our Saviour!

May many of us not follow men to hell in their deception by religion.

Because there is this general ignorant conclusion that catholic doctrins are unbiblical doesnt mean we all must join the bandwagon of ignoramuses. Read John 13 vs 1-15.

hatbricker:
maybe she has but how can i get outof her bondage

Music works wonders for heartbroken people. There are specific songs by special artists that the lyrics and tunes are magical in this regard (that's if you are a music fan). When you listen to these songs, think of all the abuses u must have suffered from her and keep telling yourself 'NO MORE'. Works for me everytime because I genuinely fall in love each time but don't get hurt for too long by them ladies.

RevDesm0ndJuju:
Only muslims and Catholics support this evil bill because they know it is meant for protestants

It then means you agree that protestantism and fraud are kinda synonymous? How then is licensing to curb 'fraud' evil?

That's why I love northern higher institutions. Cultism is an abomination in them and even if u r a cultist, u spend much of your time in hiding!

mrvitalis:
Believe me if u take the average statistics of southern Nigeria it will be very close to south Africa if not better
The north keep pulling us back

average statistics of what and what exactly? Motorable roads? Public and affordable primary healthcare/education facilities? Social amenities like water works? Electricity? I tell you most sincerely my friend, the ONLY real things that derail the north is mass illiteracy and lack of industries which makes the availability of other facilities and amenities look inconsequential. The north has BETTER roads than the south, water boards still work quite well in many northern states, electricity is BETTER in the north than the south and public health is still much cheaper and available. Northern leaders are the most wicked of the bunch thats why this issue keeps coming up. I have tasted both lands and visited many places on both ends hence my rebuttal.

Gozzzy:
I dont know the one i will say now, i will be banned for the 3rd consecutive time, without enough time to abuse these murderers inbetween each banning session.
Well, i trust we Igbos... Fulanis and hausas, already know that we hate them, and will not hesitate to annihilate them, if they carry out any slightest onslaught on even the smallest Igbo village... You will see slaughtering of them, spreading all through the whole south eastern region. Let Benue people defend themselves... These herds men are just visitors, and are not very well knowledgeable regarding the terrains of Benue, compared to Benue indegenes... Unless, their men are ONLY called men, cos they av a peenis, that they can insert into their women's vaagina for sex!!!!!

My thoughts to an extent. There are still places around the north these fulani's cant dream of such inhumanity. These benue folks though unfortunate, need to beaten for cowardice. When the fulani's saw the relentlessness of the plateau people in returning blood for blood didn't they pipe low? I trust ebiras for this kind matter too. By now every HERD (not only the men) within 100km radius wld have been exterminated. Its so annoying!

I think by this, every fulani human being around that area should be hunted down. How can a people condone such genocide? Ah I trust my people for this kind matter.

Raymondenyi:
stop being silly, what are the blunders you can extract from my piece ? Because a cretin quoted me and blabbed rubbish , you are hailing her...... Now I understand why our educational system is in the messy state it is right now (when u have people that cannot think for themselves)

Bros ADVICE as a word can't be pluralized. I think I learnt that in pry 4 some 22 years ago. And here u r making a mockery of yourself. Just correct the lady with love next time if you don't like venom yourself.

Suigeneris93:
Like seriously, your own grammar is even more appalling, I don't even know where to start from. Please take your own advice first.

I was just about to point out all u pointed. He wants to feel intelligent. I beg allow d guy feel himself. U can notice all d new words he was trying to practice in his post.

That's why I love schooling in the north. Till I graduated from ABU in 2008 and with a very bullish stature and love for that red and black combination, I never got harrassed. Infact thats what I shall wear out today because its a cute combo. Just play to d tide to stay alive bro.

If this guy were from a particular part of the country, we would have been regalled on every fora of how special they are and how better than everybody alive people from their place are. God bless his efforts. Happy for him.

lonelydora:
When you show an initial sign of weakness/fear in your community, the Fulanis take advantage. Match their first assault with a greater assault, ten bullets for one bullet, and see how loyal they will remain in your community. An eye for an eye won't make the world go blind, instead, it will make people to be cautious in dealing with others.

My 1 kobo.

Exactly. Kogi central area comes to mind. They faced total annihilation when they once tried it around there.

Amanwulu1:
wht sense does it make to abandone ur existing but dilapidated roads to create new ones jst to score political point? Fyi, osinbanjo is a prof and as such too inteligent to imply what u're wnt to allude that he said. He's not dat dumb I believe.

we r not trying to make sense sense here. We trying to decipher a simple statement. Facts always hurt but the trutth is what he spoke. Continue being clever by half.

Jesus the vice president meant NEW ROAD not refurbishing or expanding an already existing road. E.g building an alternative route from ilorin to Lokoja instead of d normal egbe or ekiti route. Why do we intentionally like to misrepresent facts?? Or is it lack of comprehension?

"build a single road" is different from expanding or mending potholes. Comprehension is really a problem for people.

Tkini:
the problem av had in my r/p i s av given my love completely without reservation but the end result wasn't pretty......... my first ever r/p was in my 1st yr in sch I was very naive fresh outta sec sch and DT r/p mared my life till now.

its not as bad as it seems babe. There is nothing more comforting for me than leaving a rship knowing I hav given my possible all. At d point of leaving, d hurt is usually mine but months and even years af I have forgotten d hurt of d experience, I find out that such ladies still struggle to keep in touch, and begin to apologise unreservedly 4 their bad behaviour. It's happened to me thrice already and I've learnt that its good to be good. Might not always b d case but d comfort and rest of mind one gets in d long run is soothing IF u have a conscience. Sorry 4 ur experience but u dont sound bad to me. Dwell more on d good side of u and be happy!

Tkini:
I think I exhibit some of the characters of op girlfriend. av had 2 boyfriend's and they all complain DT am boring. the problem is DT I don't kW how to hold a conversation, it just gets boring and i actually don't av emotional feelings to anything or anybody. @op get to kW her and make her trust you she wld be able to confide in you. it may be DT she has be hurt by someone before and finds it difficult to love again,like me.
good luck.

So because you have been hurt by someone in d past, u become stone cold hearted to your future partners? How does that change the past? And how are people so comfortable saying they have no emotions these days? I have been seriously hurt by two ladies in d past and actually caught d last one sleeping with someone else but that will never affect my desire to find a girl to still love later. The only thing is that nothing any woman does to me now can take me unawares. I urge u to open up again but just have reservations and while doing the much u can, expect less. The world is tasteless without love.

tosyne2much:
Bro, one thing I detest most in people is that they expect people to take them as they are, while they are not in any way ready to change.. I just can't imagine myself getting acquinted to someone who's nursing her flaws with "shebi you know that's the way I am" attitude


What I will suggest you do is that, henceforth, let your frequent calls, sms, care and affection head on diminishing returns and watch her reaction afterwards. If possible, stopping calling her and even if she calls you, act like you no longer care about her.

However, you can as well start giving her monosyllabic replies during chat
just to signal to her that your affection and interest in her is dwindling. If truly she loves you as she claims, she will come of her shell and start doing things in a different way in a bid to have you back. And if she doesn't still give a damn and still acts the way she has been acting, you don't even need to tell her that it's over, just let the relationship die like that


I hope this helps

jeeze seems we are of the same stock. I so much detest that attitude in people. Truth of d matter is that people that dont make effort to modify a behaviour u complain about in a rship dont love you! There is no point circumventing relity here. I am doing exactly what u suggested in my present rship n I know its d best for me. Thanks for the affirmation jare.