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Druss:
Fair points. Note that I have been married for over a decade. My wife didn't have sex before marriage.

Good.

Sunmolar:
Even when you think girls are chaste and no sex before marriage, they be like you don't know my Worth. Because they already lost the worth and stylishly implying they're already broken.

🤣🤣🤣 Do you know my worth? My worth is virginity.

Lol. Are you implying that virginity is the worth of a lady? I am sure you are talking about those immature ladies who are yet to understand life.

WeirdAlien:
Submissive and man are two words that don't come together when it comes to romantic relationships.
But we know you're just trying to get attention!

Exactly.

Kemadealadire:
Read through the thread, a relationship isn't marriage, how many people will you sleep with before it ends in marriage, ladies lose out more in this regards, the same set of guys will still go around trying to make you the laughing stock in town. It's best to abstain from premarital sex, sharing a part of you with everyone you meet make no sense.

I grew up seeing people get married as virgins. I am a virgin myself, but I don't aspire to marry the way most virgins do. Not all non-virgins engage in promiscuous behaviour. I have friends who only dated a few guys before meeting their potential partners, and their relationships are very healthy. The reason you mentioned is not a valid justification for a woman to abstain from premarital sex.

Kemadealadire:
Full stop, I started reading comments starting from the OP, lol and I am shaking my head.
It's the ladies who won't have sense I pity even if you decide not to open God, very irritating comments, this generation is done for.

Lol, apart from religious beliefs why should a lady keep your virginity. Non-virgins are also getting married every weekend so why the pity. A good guy will continue to be good whether he marries a virgin or not.

Some people are hyping this virginity thing too much. If a virgin is pretty and intelligent, she will definitely attract good suitors. Virginity is not even written on the forehead, and men are looking for wives, not virgins. Some virgins don't even marry well because they don't know how to play their cards properly.

Druss:
You cant choose what others do. You can only select what you do. I am very antisex before marriage. I have great respect for people that keep themselves for their partners. However is this the only factor I will look at? No.

You expressed your thoughts in a mature way and made your personal desire clear without imposing it on others. If only some other guys can be this mature.

I would like to offer you some advice. If a woman claims that she is keeping her virginity because of you, even if she engages in other forms of sexual activity that do not affect the hymen, she will still claim she is still a virgin and impress you with the preservation of her hymen but if a woman is motivated by religious beliefs, she cannot deceive God, so it is likely that she would choose to abstain completely from sexual activities and there are also other substantial motivation that can make a woman keep her virginity.

Sunmolar:
If only girls can stay without sex before marriage.... The number of divorces will be less. Marriage and sex will be sacred, more enjoyable and satisfying.

But to lots, if a man didn't get down before marriage, they think something is wrong.

Who are guys sleeping with, dolls?

If only guys can stay without sex before marriage.... The number of divorces will be less. Marriage and sex will be sacred, more enjoyable and satisfying.

I don't blame all the immature guys who talk as if virgins are mere commodities they can purchase at the market. Instead, I blame those ladies who reserve their virginity solely to impress a guy, rather than for tangible reasons like religious beliefs.

PepeXKermit:
What was the man doing in his 20s. Please do not and stop encouraging rubbish..

Don't blame people without knowing their story. Haven't you heard of from grace to grass? It almost happened to me, but God turned my story around.

After going through a great deal of hard work and struggle, my business was mismanaged by my employees, some people cheated me, and I made bad investments—everything just turned upside down for me.

I prayed and fasted, hoping for a change, but I didn't see any improvements. I continued to wear a smile on my face as usual, so nobody noticed that I was emotionally downtrodden. I was on the verge of giving up when everything miraculously turned around for good.

Throughout the ordeal, I didn't confide in anyone, but after things improved, I shared my experience with others. My then-boyfriend wasn't happy that I kept it from him. It's not that I'm proud, but I learned to be independent at an early age, and I'm not the type to beg people for money. It seems that God used that experience to make me realize that it is His grace that sustains me, not just my hard work.

PepeXKermit:
What was the man doing in his 20s. Please do not and stop encouraging rubbish..

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okoroemeka:
sometimes I wonder how some men can relax so much and reach such years with nothing,is it laziness,lack of seeing opportunities,lack of proactive thinking,procrastination ,or simply accepting mediocre living standards?before I was 25 yrs I already have a car,wife,two children and a small two bedroom bungalow,it is sad that not everyone can pull him or herself out of poverty and that reinforced my belief that success is tied to state of mind,there is a proverb in igboland that says,e ejigi mkpacha nsi egbe agba adaka ozo,which means you cannot use scrap leftover gunpowder to shot a gorilla.

Lol, you are judging a total stranger and comparing yourself to him. The fact that the guy in question has not achieved as much as you have achieved doesn't automatically imply that he is lazy. Mr. man, if you can't help others, let them be; don't contribute to their problem. Sometimes, words can be sharper than swords. Must you comment, he said his friend is on the verge of giving up, and you wrote this. Where is your conscience?

An income of 700k is only sufficient to sustain a moderate lifestyle not an expensive one. Monthly expenses such as savings for house rent, food, airtime, data subscription, DStv subscription, Netflix subscription, fuel, gas, prepaid meter, App Store subscription, beauty and skincare products (hair products, soap, cream, cosmetics and so on), clothing, toiletries, and other miscellaneous items would consume a significant portion of the income.

It is not wise to spend about 400k on just fast food.

It is not like I expect my guy to be a virgin but I still ask guys stylishly even as a lady.

Pkgplanet:
Remains 1

I choose Heaven and spouse. I can let go of children and $800 Billion because my spouse and I can still have children by adoptation. If it is God's will, there is still a chance for me to have a significant amount of wealth, perhaps $799 billion.

Heaven.

My ex

You have not said anything.

What is the reason your babe gave for breaking up with you?

His mum being unkind to her is enough reason for her to break up with him. Some marriages are facing issues because of in-laws. She might have properly studied his mum's character and realized she can't put up with it.

I agree with some of your list but the first three rules are not necessary. The good thing is that some individuals have become more enlightened and now acknowledge that they don't have to confine their relationships to such rigid rules. Most marriages in Nigeria adhere to the ridiculous rules you listed, yet many relationships in Nigeria still end in utter failure.

Starboytwo:
I don modify am no vex.

🤣🤣🤣Wetin this one dey say

Starboytwo:
Op I no wan spoil your mood oo.

But I don’t understand why people will paint their self like this

You no look mirror

My dear cry harder.

Earthstorms:
A lady once told my friend that she likes him, they are married now with kids.

So nothing wrong in telling a guy you like him. However, just be clear on what you want from him and work for what you want.

Also understand the risk that comes with such proclamation, the guy can turn down your offer.

Some guys might also pretend to return the likeness, only to act selfish.

If your intentions are noble, nothing wrong in a lady initiating a friendship.

Thanks for the advice.

🤣🤣🤣See as dem dey cry on top makeup, continue crying, these your tears dey sweet my body. Cry more biko. Me wey no get time for wahala, I don use your comments do sound track, I just dey dance for my living room.

skj1377:
This person may be a yahoo boy. The picture of a lady and 2023 registration date looks suspicious. Besides , billing will start once you call or contact her. The issue is according to her she is not in Nigeria so it's not like you can invite her over. Yahoo boys are scamming locally these days since Facebook has blocked IP from Nigeria. Guys be careful.

Yahoo boy una. Be like say dey dun scam you well. I ask your papa for money?

MarketDispatch:
..but then, the guy might not be into you and just offered to help you pay due to the constraint you had at the time, or he had a girlfriend.

If he was into you, he'd have asked for your number, but then nothing stopped you from asking for his...next time, ask... So you won't get home and start turning around on your Pillow.

Thanks for the advice, but I'm not missing the guy - it happened a long time ago. There are times when guys admire ladies or compliment them without asking for their number, and some even stare continuously or smile. The question that truly matters is, 'Is there anything wrong with a lady telling a guy that she likes him? It is a general question o; I am not the focus.

Omoawoke:
If you can get a bucket, I’d cry inside for you…. Wicked girl

🤣😂🤣🤣🤣See how this one dey quick vex.

Omoawoke:
Walahi e pain me, you dey hide your fine face under make up mask

ShowUsYourRealFace

Kilode, see as you dey cry on top another pesin matter, all these your tears just dey sweet me, keep on crying.

Omoawoke:
Oya bring am come. Lol…

You suppose fine naturally, that make up too much na

🤣😂😂🤣Nah my makeup pepper you reach this, it is well o.

Omoawoke:
Lol no vex, your dp has too much make up, try to show more of your natural beauty

Come and help me to adjust it.

Omoawoke:
You mentioned he was standing behind you, so when he eventually saw your face, he could not wait to find the exit

I think you meant he couldn't wait to find his wallet, Olodo read the post well before you comment.

Merry100:
I turned to him and said, "I'll refund the money to you in cash." He turned towards me with a smile and replied, "Don't worry about it."

Figger:
no be lie, too much make over, looking like that masquerade wey Flavor dey always sing about "ijele"

😂🤣🤣Masquerade wey guys dey look for, dey play.

Omoawoke:
Your make up looks like you are wearing a mask, dude must have been so terrified he had to run away from you.

😂🤣🤣He must have been "so terrified" that he had to pay for me.