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BoboNogoDie:
Lol
You're too dull to educate me.
If virginity wasn't important, why did God choose a virgin woman to birth Jesus?
Virginity signifies purity. Sex is more than just the physical, so IT'S A VERY BIG DEAL TO BE A VIRGIN, and common sense should tell you that being a virgin doesn't mean you can't be a sinner...
The problem with most of you that have loosely given out your virginity to insignificant people due to GREED and stupidity is, you also find topics and opinions like this very triggering and annoying
Again, I understand your pains

You said I'm dull but you are the one beating around the bush and using denial as an excuse to cover up your ignorance. Anyway, as an about-to-be twenty-eight-years-old virgin, I know there is no physical benefit of virginity because I have not seen any.

This is just one platform o, I plan to spread the truth about virginity on different platforms and TV stations. My dear, you will cry more o because this is just the beginning.

Virginity is not the greatest and most valuable gift a woman can give her husband; there are many hardworking virgins who have more to offer than just virginity. Virginity should be preserved for good reasons. A virgin doesn't need to expect praises or special treatments, in fact, virginity is solely to honour God's word.

Some of my friends, who were virgins before marriage, are regretting today because they were naive and ignorant prior to getting married. They listened to lies and deceit from some relationship speakers and ignorant fellows like you. Instead of shining their eyes properly to select a good, caring and responsible husband, they carried their virginity on their heads and wore it on their faces expecting that they would be pampered by the irresponsible husbands that they married. I almost fell victim also but thank God I didn't. Praise the Lord!

Virgins, let us ask ourselves this question: What will be our benefit if we choose to preserve our virginity solely to marry a guy similar to this ignorant fellow that feels he is the benefit. 😂🤣🤣

BoboNogoDie:
Your have no reasonable point to make. I find you too dull, small and emotional to engage with in an intelligent debate.
Everything I stated are FACTS AND REALITY, and I'm absolutely sure that you're not a virgin but guilt and regret won't make you admit it I understand your pain
There's absolutely no culture in the world that doesn't value and cherish sexual purity, chastity and integrity. Even in the Bible, God loves it.
In the ancient times, a girl might be killed or banished if found not to be a virgin on her wedding night.
God himself didn't choose a whóre to birth Jesus for a reason, HE CHOSE A VIRGIN.

We were all sinners in the eyes of God; Roman 3:23 says "For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God", this includes both virgins and non-virgins. But God offered His grace equally to everyone.

If you are a Christian, you should know that the virgin birth of Jesus holds great significance. Don't try to use religion to cover up your ignorance. Only women that made significant impacts are recorded in the Bible. Can you mention a woman in the Bible who was specifically praised solely for being a virgin? Let me remind you that even Mary Magdalene, a former prostitute, is also recorded for the impact she made.

Let me also educate you about virginity a bit: we were all born as virgins, and anyone can choose to remain a virgin. My dear, you cannot determine who is a virgin and who is not—it is not written on the forehead. Even some eighty-year-old oracle priestesses are still virgins. If you like cry from now till tomorrow, it won't change the fact that I'm still a virgin.

You don't know me so you don't have to believe me but stop using denial as an excuse. You just keep beating around the bush, you still haven't highlighted one physical benefit of virginity, no culture will do this and that, what concern me with no culture? Free me jor, you just feel like arguing, you've got no point.

Respect his decision to remain a virgin until marriage, if you can't cope, it is better you break up with him.

anthonyuncle:
rape him

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opera1:
Nothing like slept someone by mistake please.

Exactly

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BoboNogoDie:
Keep FOOLING yourself
Anybody can be anything on the internet...

Brother Bernard, I understand that you are only use to dealing with naive virgins, the my husband will cherish me and treat me like a queen type of virgin 😂🤣🤣

I will not make an attempt to prove myself to you. The important thing is that you grasp my points.

Mutual understanding is what matters. Some couples might be able to manage a small apartment or a one-room apartment but personally, I can't. I believe in hard work and planning before marriage because the well-being and convenience of my future children are important to me.

BoboNogoDie:
What's causing your pains and frustration on this topic? Am I the one who took your virginity wastefully and free?

From your comment, I can SENSE pain and regrets...
Don't you wish to have kept it for your husband and the person some you want to share the rest of your life with?
Are you proud of yourself?
The decision to prefer a virgin and encourage young girls to not be a shameless loose whórë with multiple bodycount lies with me and it's my business. I want what I want.
It's not everyone that can settle for less and accept you as you are.
I JUDGE PEOPLE BASED ON THEIR PAST AND IT'S THE RIGHT THING FOR EVERY RIGHT-THINKING PERSON TO ALWAYS DO.

I can speak boldly on this matter and expose lies about virginity because I am a virgin myself. Non-virgins have nothing to regret, as there is no physical gain in being a virgin. God is able to forgive all sins, and non-virgins can also decide to become celibate until marriage.

Mr man, you and your types are not the only guys in the world. Many non-virgins are getting married to responsible and successful men every weekend.

I am not preserving my virginity because I want to please my future husband, most guys I have dated don't even care about virginity. Virginity is overhyped majorly online. I would even specifically advise virgins to be super careful, plan properly for the future, not to be rigid and to marry wisely.

BenedictAbajue:
If such scenerio plays out, do you tell her before hand that if her behavior continues you might be forced to break up or do you just watch her and if she continues her behavior you break up and explain after?
I feel informing her may make her more serious about changing her behaviour and it may also cause deterioration if she views it as a threat

If you find any habits in your girlfriend bothersome, discuss them with her and help her understand your perspective. Don't threaten her with a breakup, it will most likely upset her. If she demonstrates willingness to change and improve, give her some time before considering the possibility of ending the relationship. To support her efforts, consistently address the habit when it resurfaces. If she shows unwillingness to change after you have expressed your concern and continuously refuses to address the issue, and if this habit is intolerable and conflicts with your core values, then you can breakup with her.

BoboNogoDie:
It's not compulsory and dating couples shouldn't engage in it, BECAUSE IT'S A SIN!

UNLESS YOU DON'T MIND BEING A SINNER...
UNLESS YOU'RE DATING A GIRL WHO'S NO LONGER A VIRGIN.
THE MOMENT GIRLS LOOSE THEIR VIRGINITY, THEY SEE SEX AS A TOOL TO USE TO GET WHAT THEY WANT...
A guy who practices no-sex with a SLÚT (girls with bodycount more 2) is the greatest fool of the century.

99.9% of times, while you're respecting yourself, respecting her request not to engage in sex and While you're keeping her for marriage, SOME OTHER DUDES WILL BE DIGGING HER BACK TO BACK. Girls with ex and multiple ex are the most wasteful, senseless and stressful to dating. You can NEVER trust them.

A girl who's no longer a virgin don't have a right to set rules of no sex in this relationship or no sex before marriage.

If you want your choice of no sex to be respected, KEEP YOUR VIRTUOUS! KEEP YOURSELF A VIRGIN UNTIL MARRIAGE.

Virginity is the greatest and the most valuable gift a girl can give to any guy but unfortunately, most girls of this generation have lost it to:
Indomie and fanta
Netflix and chills
Ice and pizza
Birthday gift
Valentine gift etc.
You can give a lot of men your Love, children, marriages etc, BUT YOU CAN ONLY GIVE ONE MAN YOUR VIRGINITY.

The decision to be a virgin or not is simply a woman's right, and we do not require your opinion or lectures on this matter. According to Biblical teachings, both men and women are expected to preserve their virginity till marriage.

Your comment is not only bias, it is also illogical. What special gift would a woman receive in return for her prolonged wait to present herself as a gift to her husband? Many non-virgins are married to responsible and successful men. Virginity is not a top priority for men; take a look at some of the most successful men, how many of them married a virgin? Most ladies preserve their virginity majorly for religious reasons not for their future husband.

DonEd:
It works for me!

It works for me too.

AyamGod23:
if to say na me she must Bleep dat nite o, NA SLAP I GO USE COMOT HER PANT

Rapist spotted.

Ask your sisters or aunties.

Age is simply a number. A thirty-year-old lady can attract several responsible and mature gentlemen as long as she possesses elegance and class. These gentlemen will even be the ones emphasizing to her that age is just a number. The term "evening newspaper" is commonly used by lower-class guys.

This is one of the reasons why we need to avoid tribal wars. There could have been a mix-up in your lineage, and you might be unknowingly attacking your own tribe. In the days of our forefathers, DNA tests were not available to confirm the paternity of a child.

Deenillah:
But she wants it to be that at every little instance, I apologize even if she's at fault which to me I find unacceptable and this causes quarrels between us when it happens.


MY QUESTION IS

Am I wrong to want to apologize ONLY when I'm at fault?

Your girlfriend is exhibiting the traits of a narcissist, but she may just be immature. Two years is far beyond the chasing stage. By now, she should also be making efforts to make the relationship work. The courtship stage serves as a rehearsal stage; you can advise her and give her some time to change but if she doesn't, it's best to break up with her.

I read through the comments, and I noticed someone advised you to move to Twitter. If you find it challenging to handle discussions on Nairaland, you might find it even more challenging on Twitter. The purpose of social media is to provide a platform for socializing and expressing oneself. Social media platforms do not restrict people from sharing their views and opinions, they only have moderation rules in place.

Jovialjune1:
I don't get, you want her to stay in your parents house, which will block her from meeting potential suitors, while you continue to stay in your place living a bachelor life, and your parents in all of their wisdom don't see anything wrong with that and with you having a child out-of wedlock and wanting your ex to live with them, as what exactly?

It's so sad that so many parents enable this bad lifestyles of youngies that is rampant today, it's sickening, because there is no way bad lifestyles will exist if these children respects and value their parents.

It is wrong for his parent to demand such from his baby mama but that doesn't mean they enabled his decision to have a baby out of wedlock. Parents can only threaten or advice their children not to have a baby out of wedlock but once the deed has been done, it cannot be undone. They might have scolded him already. Do you expect them to get a gun to kill him?

If I were to become pregnant out of wedlock, the worst my dad would do is disown me. I would keep my distance from him while he is still angry and I would simply stay peacefully and comfortably in my own house without stress, while sending him Bible verses and quotes about forgiveness everyday. I would also ask people he respects to intercede on my behalf and request his forgiveness. Eventually, he might come around.

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blahc007:
Meaning, there was no marriage..that's deception

It's equivalent to marrying a wombless lady, who hid her predicament from you...

It happened to someone I know but anything marriage like this I no dey put my mouth.

fyzaila:
I married him because we genuinely love each other, so any circumstance i find in the marriage, I'm sticking with it. Well, he have to have money to oo to cushion the predicament. You can't be impotent and be poor at the same time na. Godforbid

If a woman is aware that her husband is impotent before marriage, it is understandable, but if she discovers it only after marriage, it implies that he deceived her.

If you find out that your husband is impotent after marriage, what will you do?

Samantha124:
I came in here running to see pictures of the cats, but I found none...

Same here.

A guy met a lady on the bus and fell for her. He was expressing his feelings to her when he suddenly felt the need to sneeze. Unfortunately, he chose to hold it in because he was in front of an attractive lady. As a result, he was rushed to the hospital but did not survive.

You don't need to be fake to impress a lady. A lady can find herself falling in love with a broke guy simply because he is jovial or he possesses any other attractive quality.

RIP

Beauty, brain, and talent, this combination is remarkable.

Savedday2:
You are free to get them pregnant!

But marriage, no go area!

They are all ashawo that, is out to bring you down.

Don't let Thier innocent look deceive you. When it comes to deceit, 9ja girls are the highest. Devil dey learn work where them day.

E be like say na man born this one.

Merry100:
This is what guys mean by natural picture, nonsense people.

Before you people start asking me that where did I buy the trouser from that you want to order, it is my brother dash me trouser.

This is what guys mean by natural picture, nonsense people.

No.

Sunmolar:
Lol. Are you implying that virginity is the worth of a lady?

No..... But on the long run of marriage, there wouldn't be emotional damage, try to maintain a balance between the past and present.....most ex still talk to their ex.... and trying to figure out who's the best between the past and present.... It's better not to be part of that euphoria. If I'm with Richard life may be better than been with Robert?

If a lady chooses to remain a virgin, it should be because she wants to, not because some men who are not virgins themselves prefer virgins. Non-virgins are still getting married every weekend because most men are looking for good wives, not specifically virgins.

You mentioned that most ex still talk to their ex. That suggests that a significant number of people, including men, are unfaithful. Should women also start looking for virgin guys without exes to avoid being married to unfaithful men?