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What's with the entitlement statement? But the guy claims he has no money to deposit for the CS. if he says he doesn't have any money then he doesn't. You are not in his pocket to determine if he truly has or not.

Since you are related to her, let your family and hers members take care of the medical expenses, cohabitation doesn't guarantee marriage, this is the reason why it's not advisable to avoid See Finish

The dude doesn't know her worth anymore because he has gotten the privileges of a married man while still dating, it's left for this sister of yours to channel her energy into getting better and moving on with her life.

Set up a gofundme account like dingbang suggested if you guys can't afford the medical expenses. In this life, nobody owes you anything bro.

Openbusiness:
Ok, no problem. Even though it's not gender specific, I just assumed the character is a Boy since the OP that brought the matter is a male profile and I assume it was the OP in the conversation.

Noted sir. Thank you for your understanding!

dingbang:
some ladies do this and it repulses me.

I can totally relate. was chatting with someone sometime ago, dude kept replying in short hand, when I couldn't hold it in any longer, I told him straight up that I hate anything that has to do with short hand and that was the last I heard from him, after he called me a perfectionist

Openbusiness:
You mixed things up. It wasn't the woman that said, Hey...... are you dewunmi. It was the BOY. The woman is dewunmi. He said "Hey", she replied, hello sir/ma I don't have this number, who are you etc. The woman has courtesy, very sound etiquette and a sense of maturity. She was obviously brought up well and has good home training or has trained herself well.

I wasn't referring to the woman actually, if you had gone through my last paragraph
, you would have seen where I commended the woman for using the right wordings.

I was referring to the girl/guy who used hey
I'm sorry, if you thought I got it all mixed up.

Openbusiness:
How does she lack manners

When you are chatting with someone for the first time, courtesy demands you be at your best behavior, if possible be formal. Greet and not start a conversation with hey, are you dewunmi?
That's so wrong in all levels.

CosmicPhoenix:

your aunty recommended you to someone for assistance and you start with 'hey',too many idiots in this life.

You can imagine the silly child

CosmicPhoenix:

that short hand stuff is an instant turn off for me when chatting,i dont know if it's laziness or something else because it will only take you few seconds to type your words in full.

I so detest such, if I'm chatting with you and your next reply is kk, that signifies the end of that chat. How can a full grown adult be comfortable typing in short hand?

I attribute it to laziness though.

Aside the fact that he/she lacks manners, you don't address someone with abbreviated words. Short hand and lack of manners just ruined whatever help he/she hoped to get from the woman.

Even the woman, had to greet him/her properly with the right wordings. It's time we youth learn how to write in full sentences without the annoying use of abbreviations.

FanOfMyself:
Far cry from that dear, just being real and honest

Very well then, wish you good luck because you would be needing lots of it. Online life is way different from what you get offline except for few who are truly honest.

Shine your eyes bro

FanOfMyself:
Yeah, still receiving PMs. Hopefully it will worth it

Is it an application letter something? Or you are simply catching cruise with the ladies?
Whichever one it is, I honestly wish you well. God will guide you to make the right choice!

If she can't wait, let her buy vibrator na. But it ain't an easy feat being without your spouse.

Then again, being faithful isn't something we do for our spouse like most people think, it's an individual decision to stay sane and worthy and not to turn to a public rest room where anyone can come in and deposit their spunks.

Dear men abroad about wifing our ladies in Nigeria, make una consider say body no be firewood too, make una try dey reach house at least every 6months or 1yr edakun.

As for me, I don't know if I'll be able to cope without seeing my spouse (not on the ground of sex) but I like seeing my partner every day, listen to his tales on how is day went, make him smile it off and lastly gum body

When you place value on yourself, you go wait as a wife knowing he isn't playing there but rather trying to make life easier for you and the kids.

Another thread to bash ladies.. Op calm down make God use you

QueenVaji:
the guy is far from a simp...infact his very good with ladies and drives a big jeep...the girl on the other hand is just too loose but very cute..so i dont know why she wants to confuse us...

Just see the way you body shamed someone you call a friend just to garner cheap likes. This is one of the reasons I don't appreciate female friends, we are our own enemies.

Everything about you reeks of jealousy, you know he's far from being a simp and still knows he's good with ladies and has a big jeep. My sister, this pepper body won't change the fact that the guy picked your friend over you.

And yes, you can go to an hotel with someone and don't have sex, not everyone is after sex.
Learn to respect the people you call friends and not bring their matter to social media, something she told your cliques in confident is now a public consumption all thanks to you.
Your type ain't worthy of being called a friend!

Before the kids, he came first. He was your first baby and therefore needs a little pamper and then a nudge to set him in the right direction you want him to follow.

There's absolutely nothing wrong in buying him gifts from your profits, trust me, those little gestures from you might just be what he needs to take up the challenge of sourcing for another source of income, and everything for life no be gragra or fight. There are some things your wisdom and insight can solve.

Men are babies as well and deserve to be pampered, they ain't meant to suffer till they die while providing for the family, God gave you to him for this singular reason, help him harness his potentials, he is lazy and can't seem to think ahead and the reason you are there in his life is to help him see what he can't see, but you are expected to do it politely and lovingly.

So there's nothing to react here my sister, he's your first baby before the mini ones started popping out so treat him right.

Your sweet gestures and nudge will help reset his thinking faculty!!

Zzor:
My eyes are rightly sharpened,some mistakes are not to be made.Thanks

LOL. You are most welcome

Zzor:
You are right

My dear, you need shine eyes when you want to settle down to avoid bagging a wife beater as a husband.

Zzor:
you are right but some women are blind to that fact

And they will continue to be battered all in the name of marriage. Is there something wrong in working for your own money to avoid such scenario from occurring? The men like FFK who does this thinks like that because they basically provide the women with everything they asked for. No self worth and nothing to add to his life, thereby giving them access to mistreat you anyhow they deem fit.

Zzor:
He has money,so women will always be at his beck and call,some women wouldn't mind his violent habits as far as money is there compensate for the violence.Princess Saratu Attah is the only woman that truly married him for love and FFK knows that,he once said,the only woman he has ever truly offended(hes always right in his shallow mind) and truly loved him is princess saratu.

What's the essence of all the money when you don't have peace of mind and happiness? Sometimes, it's not all about the money.

Zzor:
my mom has a link with princess Saratu Attah,FFK first wife, the very first woman he ever married

Dude is sick upstairs but I wonder why women still agree to marry him after seeing what he's done to others before them.

Zzor:
FFK has PD and he's a very violent man,i heard his story from a very good source,Precious really tried staying with him for this long.Princess Saratu Attah's curse is still following him

Who's your source sweetie?

Sorry dear, MMM has taught lots of us sense. But need I remind you that you didn't just lose 20k buy your Facebook account as well or does that not really bother you?

Happiness is what really matters. So long they have that, nothing else matters

I'm a lover of good news..

Thank you Sampete for standing by your woman through this trials.

God bless the real men of this great forum who would do same for their loved ones. Y'all will excel in all your endeavors. Where others are saying there's a casting down, y'all will be saying there's a lifting up.

Barrister GEORGE, I don't know you but for going out of your way to help op and his girlfriend, you won't ever lack anything good in this life, when you need help from any angle, it will flow massively for you. You will forever be held high above your counterparts, the grace and favour of God will encompass you like a shield. Your generations will call you BLESSED. Your life will remain connected to the good things of life never to be disconnected by anyone.
Thank you for coming through for him.

God bless Nairaland and God bless Nigeria. Despite everything, I believe we will all scale through!!

How can someone be this mean to another? She helped almost all her family members to secure a job yet couldn't help you, kindly take the advice the good people of Nairaland has dished out and leave.
That woman would be using you till thy kingdom come if you don't move.
If you don't know your worth or have something positive to offer, you can and will fall for anything being thrown at you.
Know your worth, own it and capitalize on it

Zzor:
is he married?why are all the people I admire here married?what kind of luck is this

LOL. You came late to the parry

That man big wella.. Sweet family, that smile will never cease from their faces.

fight go soon start now between Zzor and Chii59
Make una remember say na pastor and person husband im be, so adultery is outta the equation
Make your pick from the sweet gentlemen and responsible men we have here on Nairaland and leave our pastor alone

Keep it coming guys

Community preeq is now more important than Nigeria problems, issorai

The age ain't really the bone of contention here, trust is. He should have been honest from the onset, if the said relationship is meant to be, it definitely will. Let her confront him with her findings and if he's remorseful about it, and also states why he did that, then she should reconsider and forgive him.

No relationship is ever perfect, and for the fact that the guy treats her right should make her give the union another chance.

She shouldn't lose a beautiful thing she had going all because of age wahala. It's only but a number! The happiness and peace of mind you enjoy when with someone is all that matters.

God will make your wishes come through. Be patient okay, your best half will waltz into your life sooner than you think.