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 Romance › Re: Am I About To Make A Wrong Marital Choice? by Mikester: 7:52am On Feb 23, 2021*. Modified: 1:58pm On Feb 23, 2021 |
To be honest, I think it's best you 1. Leave his house 2. Don't give him or anyone else sex no matter what till they marry you rightfully, else your loss 3. Give him some time alone. Sometimes to draw people closer, to make people realise your value to them, you have to give them a little distance 4. Focus more on investing in yourself 5. Remember number 2 6 Likes |
| Nairaland General › Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by Mikester(op): 9:19pm On Feb 22, 2021 |
DSC7:Thanks man |
| Nairaland General › Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by Mikester(op): 8:59pm On Feb 22, 2021 |
SpiritFree:What is my offence?  1 Like |
| Nairaland General › Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by Mikester(op): 8:57pm On Feb 22, 2021 |
Escabado:Thanks Sir. May you be fortunate in your dealings 9 Likes |
| Nairaland General › Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by Mikester(op): 7:11pm On Feb 22, 2021 |
aomine:Ok 1 Like |
| Nairaland General › Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by Mikester(op): 7:10pm On Feb 22, 2021 |
theGUDgameR:Life may have no manual but it has principles. 15 Likes |
| Nairaland General › Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by Mikester(op): 4:33pm On Feb 22, 2021 |
BadRadio:Feel free to leave sir 28 Likes |
| Nairaland General › Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by Mikester(op): 3:53pm On Feb 22, 2021 |
BadRadio:You've no points, evidence or logic to argue with so you come up with conspiracy theories against me? That is but a poor way to defend yourself. By the way I didn't apologise. One word "sarcasm" 37 Likes |
| Nairaland General › Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by Mikester(op): 3:48pm On Feb 22, 2021*. Modified: 5:28pm On Feb 23, 2021 |
BadRadio:I'm sorry. I'm confused. Plagiarizm from my experience and information? 4 Likes |
| Nairaland General › Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by Mikester(op): 3:45pm On Feb 22, 2021 |
LikeAking:I believe bad things happen to people who are too nice and gullible. In this selfish world, people take advantage of very nice people but there is good news. You can be nice and have a good heart and still say no. Setting standards is what makes you less likely to be controlled by people from my perspective Self love is key. 22 Likes |
| Nairaland General › Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by Mikester(op): 3:40pm On Feb 22, 2021*. Modified: 9:29pm On Feb 22, 2021 |
BadRadio:I don't see it sir. Where have I gone wrong? Come on Sir, please show me 4 Likes |
| Nairaland General › Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by Mikester(op): 2:59pm On Feb 22, 2021*. Modified: 9:28pm On Feb 22, 2021 |
BadRadio:Observe my post Sir, contradict any of my points then we'll listen to you Last i checked - I said men before 30 not at nor after 33 Likes 1 Share |
| Nairaland General › Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by Mikester(op): 2:35pm On Feb 22, 2021 |
LikeAking:Someone hurt you bad? 3 Likes 1 Share |
| Nairaland General › Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by Mikester(op): 2:25pm On Feb 22, 2021*. Modified: 10:11pm On Feb 23, 2021 |
LikeAking:Not really though. People will take you for granted when you forgive too easily. If someone offends you, don't forgive so fast. Create an impression that you don't like what they did. Let them be aware that you don't appreciate their offense towards you. Let them realise the gravity of their offence, shun it, then you forgive BadRadio: We're all unique bro. I'm not an expert like I stated but I have an advice to give, an advice veritably true backed up with facts. I'll advise you get rid of that delusion you're maintaining and you might find the sound advice or help that have always eluded you. Don't look down on anyone in life. No one knows everything but everyone knows something. 91 Likes 9 Shares |
| Family › Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by Mikester(op): 2:19pm On Feb 22, 2021 |
GoldCircle:True but I said "before" not "between" |
| Nairaland General › Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by Mikester(op): 2:16pm On Feb 22, 2021 |
LIVINGICON:No be lie but "before 30" also include those in their teens 4 Likes |
| Nairaland General › Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by Mikester(op): 2:15pm On Feb 22, 2021 |
Lalasticlala I don't know if this is front page worthy 5 Likes |
| Nairaland General › Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by Mikester(op): 2:14pm On Feb 22, 2021 |
LikeAking:Don't forgive when you're exceptionally perfect 26 Likes |
| Family › Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by Mikester(op): 12:56pm On Feb 22, 2021*. Modified: 5:53pm On Feb 22, 2021 |
I’m almost halfway through being 21, an age I’m legally an adult and a man. Having emerged from the tangled forest of adolescence I’ve learned many lessons. I learned a lot of them through watching other people. Some I just figured out through wisdom and insight and some were learned through trial and errors. I want to pass this wisdom down to fellow young guys like me hopefully they have a bit more of a roadmap to help guide them than I did. 1. Some people should be kept at arm’s length. It’s a good thing to show love and compassion to people. It's good to be friendly but it’s also important to understand who should be in your inner circle and who you should keep at a distance or even avoid. Proverbs 13:20 says, “He who walks with wise men will be wise, But the companion of fools will suffer harm.” Destructive people are out there. The sooner you spot who they are and where they should fit in your life the better. 2. Forgive. People are going to do you wrong and hurt you. No matter what you do, you will be hurt by someone at some point and that’s often out of your control but what you do in the aftermath is entirely in your hands. Holding grudges never does anyone any good. It’s self destructive and can even seep over into relationships that have nothing to do with the person who hurt you. That said, that doesn’t mean that you should necessarily let them back into your life right after. Forgiveness is about letting go of the hurt and grudge, not about completely forgetting and pretending it didn’t happen. 3. First impressions are more important than you can imagine. You only have a chance to make a good impression, so putting your mind toward it is always your best option. From dressing decently and speaking articulately to standing tall and making eye contact. The way you present yourself is the way people will see you and the way people see you will determine how they treat you and the opportunities they give you. Make sure you make a powerful impression. 4. It’s good to take risks and be bold. Most of the best things in life usually comes with a risk. Know how and when to take risks. Be wise and strong enough to invest where necessary and be bold enough to take on challenges you encounter. 5. Being real is more important than being posh. “You’re such a genuine guy,” is my favorite compliment. This to me is so much better than being told I’m posh. Real people see, recognize and are drawn to authenticity. Believe it or not, most people, especially girls, can tell exactly when you’re faking or trying too hard. If you want to draw the right people to you, then just be real with yourself and them, instead of putting up a facade in order to look cool or to be accepted. Being cool is for a moment, but authenticity lasts for a lifetime. Simply put, don't chase people - man or woman, rather be yourself and invest more in yourself and the right people will come around you. Chasing people leads you to the wrong people and puts you at a huge loss. This also applies to relationships 6. Don't do drugs Drugs make your mind perverted and your sense of judgement corrupted not to talk of the terrible health effects of drug intake. It's not for men with ambition to take drugs, give drugs to men who have decided to wallow in mediocrity and scornful living. Moreover smoking causes impotence in men. Hope you quit smoking after reading this. 7. Other people can’t heal or fix you. Your friends, family and romantic relationships can help you. They can speed up the healing process, support you when things are bad and guide you towards where you should go. They can reveal truths to you that maybe you couldn’t see. But in the end, when dealing with deep internal wounds and life establishment, no one can actually fix you. That part is on you and your God. 8. The world doesn’t owe you anything. You’re not owed stuff and things simply by virtue of existence. Life tends to give back what you put into it. The people who always get the most seem to be in my experience, those who give the most freely. So, instead of walking around with an entitled mindset, try to figure out what you can contribute. 9. Just because it “feels right” doesn’t mean it is. A lot of people will abandon their previously set moral boundaries because something “feels right.” Sometimes things feel right in the moment and are simply destructive in the long run. Feelings are important but acting out entirely on them is a path to destruction. 10. The future is a reality. You’ll hear a lot about “live in the present,” and you definitely should, but living in the present also comes with the responsibility of making choices right now that will affect your tomorrow. Living in the present is not permission to live like tomorrow doesn’t exist because when it comes around, it can be a rude awakening. 11. Control your sexual urges Sex isn't everything. It has no profit nor reward. Early and uncontrolled sex makes you inactive towards aspects of your life that needs your energy and attention and an inactive man an unhappy man - a loser. It also makes you more liable to have an unhealthy marriage later in life. Don't rush into sex or make it a priority else you will find it very difficult to attain greater heights in your life which will lead you into depression and regrets especially when you see your mates ahead of you. There is a lot of time for sex after marriage. 12. Your value is everything I don't know much about ladies but for a guy, you're only followed, respected and regarded by your value - what you can offer. A man with less or no value is looked down by society. A man creates himself not finds himself. Daily exercise in self-control, knowledge and wealth acquisition gradually creates improvements in your worth. Don't underestimate that. You're meant to be a leader in your home so invest in yourself in order for you to lead well. The lifestyle of a man largely depends on IQ and a higher level of intelligence leads to a better lifestyle for him. Your intelligence and energy is everything. Work on that. 13. You aren't the first to face your difficulties Most men today think that they have it harder than previous generations did but it is not true. If you could make it to where you are now, you can still do better. Life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we react to it. Through perseverance many people win success out of what seemed destined to be certain failure. Be strong and keep hustling. Lessen your gratification and double your hustle. Remember energy and persistence conquers all things. 14. Be careful with women Do not give your strength to women. Don't love women you can't trust. Study any woman you want to settle down with and don't ignore the red flags you find. You do this for the future you so that you won't find yourself in troubles you could have avoided. Do not make your woman your superior rather see her as your daughter. Love her and correct her when she errs. Any woman who doesn't respect you shouldn't be in your life. You're the one marrying her and paying the bride price. Don't settle for less. 15. Give attention to your wife and children Children turn out better when they have the attention of their parents - when they parents spend quality time with them. As children need mother's love and attention, they also need father's care and attention. Have time for them and converse with them. Sometimes children wish their parents had more open conversations with them. Same applies to your wife. Pay attention to her. Don't know if I'm communicating Cc Lalasticlala Mynd44 3 Likes |
| Nairaland General › Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by Mikester(op): 12:46pm On Feb 22, 2021*. Modified: 10:10pm On Feb 23, 2021 |
Upcoming thread - Things every lady should know before 30 46 Likes 1 Share |
| Nairaland General › Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by Mikester(op): 12:15pm On Feb 22, 2021*. Modified: 11:48am On Feb 23, 2021 |
I’m almost halfway through being 21, an age I’m legally an adult and a man. Having emerged from the tangled forest of adolescence I’ve learned many lessons. I learned a lot of them through watching other people. Some I just figured out through wisdom and insight and some were learned through trial and errors. Not saying I'm an expert though but I want to pass this wisdom down to fellow young guys like me hopefully they have a bit more of a roadmap to help guide them than I did. 1. Some people should be kept at arm’s length. It’s a good thing to show love and compassion to people. It's good to be friendly but it’s also important to understand who should be in your inner circle and who you should keep at a distance or even avoid. Proverbs 13:20 says, “He who walks with wise men will be wise, But the companion of fools will suffer harm.” Destructive people are out there. The sooner you spot who they are and where they should fit in your life the better. 2. Forgive. People are going to do you wrong and hurt you. No matter what you do, you will be hurt by someone at some point and that’s often out of your control but what you do in the aftermath is entirely in your hands. Holding grudges never does anyone any good. It’s self destructive and can even seep over into relationships that have nothing to do with the person who hurt you. That said, that doesn’t mean that you should necessarily let them back into your life right after. Forgiveness is about letting go of the hurt and grudge, not about completely forgetting and pretending it didn’t happen. 3. First impressions are more important than you can imagine. You only have a chance to make a good impression, so putting your mind toward it is always your best option. From dressing decently and speaking articulately to standing tall and making eye contact. The way you present yourself is the way people will see you and the way people see you will determine how they treat you and the opportunities they give you. Make sure you make a powerful impression. 4. It’s good to take risks and be bold. Most of the best things in life usually comes with a risk. Know how and when to take risks. Be wise and strong enough to invest where necessary and be bold enough to take on challenges you encounter. 5. Being real is more important than being posh. “You’re such a genuine guy,” is my favorite compliment. This to me is so much better than being told I’m posh. Real people see, recognize and are drawn to authenticity. Believe it or not, most people, especially girls, can tell exactly when you’re faking or trying too hard. If you want to draw the right people to you, then just be real with yourself and them, instead of putting up a facade in order to look cool or to be accepted. Being cool is for a moment, but authenticity lasts for a lifetime. Simply put, don't chase people - man or woman, rather be yourself and invest more in yourself and the right people will come around you. Chasing people leads you to the wrong people and puts you at a huge loss.This also applies to relationships 6. Don't do drugs Drugs make your mind perverted and your sense of judgement corrupted not to talk of the terrible health effects of drug intake. It's not for men with ambition to take drugs, give drugs to men who have decided to wallow in mediocrity and scornful living. Moreover smoking causes impotence in men. Hope you quit smoking after reading this. 7. Other people can’t heal or fix you. Your friends, family and romantic relationships can help you. They can speed up the healing process, support you when things are bad and guide you towards where you should go. They can reveal truths to you that maybe you couldn’t see. But in the end, when dealing with deep internal wounds and life establishment, no one can actually fix you. That part is on you and your God. 8. The world doesn’t owe you anything. You’re not owed stuff and things simply by virtue of existence. Life tends to give back what you put into it. The people who always get the most seem to be in my experience, those who give the most freely. So, instead of walking around with an entitled mindset, try to figure out what you can contribute. 9. Just because it “feels right” doesn’t mean it is. A lot of people will abandon their previously set moral boundaries because something “feels right.” Sometimes things feel right in the moment and are simply destructive in the long run. Feelings are important but acting out entirely on them is a path to destruction. 10. The future is a reality. You’ll hear a lot about “live in the present,” and you definitely should, but living in the present also comes with the responsibility of making choices right now that will affect your tomorrow. Living in the present is not permission to live like tomorrow doesn’t exist because when it comes around, it can be a rude awakening. 11. Control your sexual urges Sex isn't everything. It has no profit nor reward. Early and uncontrolled sex makes you inactive towards aspects of your life that needs your energy and attention and an inactive man is an unhappy man - a loser. It also makes you more liable to have an unhealthy marriage later in life. God forbid we be counting sex partners while our mates are counting money. Don't rush into sex or make it a priority else you will find it very difficult to attain greater heights in your life which will lead you into depression and regrets especially when you see your mates ahead of you. There is a lot of time for sex after marriage. 12. Your value is everything I don't know much about ladies but for a guy, you're only followed, respected and regarded by your value - what you can offer. A man with less or no value is looked down by society. A man creates himself not finds himself. Daily exercise in self-control, knowledge and wealth acquisition gradually creates improvements in your worth. Don't underestimate that. You're meant to be a leader in your home so invest in yourself in order for you to lead well. The lifestyle of a man largely depends on IQ and a higher level of intelligence leads to a better lifestyle for him. Your intelligence and energy is everything. Work on that. 13. You aren't the first to face your difficulties Most men today think that they have it harder than previous generations did but it is not true. If you could make it to where you are now, you can still do better. Life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we react to it. Through perseverance many people win success out of what seemed destined to be certain failure. Be strong and keep hustling. Lessen your gratification and double your hustle. Remember energy and persistence conquers all things. 14. Be careful with women Do not give your strength to women. Don't love women you can't trust. Study any woman you want to settle down with and don't ignore the red flags you find. You do this for the future you so that you won't find yourself in troubles you could have avoided. Do not make your woman your superior rather see her as your daughter. Love her and correct her when she errs. Any woman who doesn't respect you shouldn't be in your life. You're the one marrying her and paying the bride price. Don't settle for less. 15. Give attention to your wife and children Children turn out better when they have the attention of their parents - when they parents spend quality time with them. As children need mother's love and attention, they also need father's care and attention. Have time for them and converse with them. Sometimes children wish their parents had more open conversations with them. Same applies to your wife. Pay attention to her. Courtesy - Mikester 490 Likes 72 Shares |
| Romance › Re: How Do You Discipline Your Partner Without Physical Hitting Her by Mikester: 9:47am On Feb 22, 2021 |
Ignore her. Sometimes to draw people closer you have to give them a little distance Also you can be more receptive towards other ladies 6 Likes |
| Romance › Re: Girl Runs Mad After Dumping Guy Who Sponsored Her Education by Mikester(op): 9:36am On Feb 22, 2021 |
In spite of the aftermath of the experiences from men who took this naive action, some men still believe that they will get married to ladies they sponsor at schools. Only low self esteemed and ignorant men reason this way. If you want to sponsor a lady do it from a free mind else you accept whatever you get 2 Likes |
| Romance › Girl Runs Mad After Dumping Guy Who Sponsored Her Education by Mikester(op): 9:31am On Feb 22, 2021*. Modified: 9:48am On Feb 22, 2021 |
A student who recently graduated from the university has gone mad after ditching the man she promised to marry after finishing undergraduate studies.https://i0.wp.com/asedeyhotblog.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/02/PicsArt_02-21-06.27.38-scaled.jpg?resize=300%2C300&ssl=1 |
| Romance › Re: Photo Of A 91 Years Old Woman That Got Married To 73 Years Old Boyfriend by Mikester: 9:23am On Feb 22, 2021*. Modified: 9:57am On Feb 22, 2021 |
Congrats to them |
| Family › Re: So many have been strong for too long (Picture) by Mikester: 9:03am On Feb 22, 2021*. Modified: 10:24am On Feb 22, 2021 |
Dont you have friends, relatives, loved ones, religious leaders who can be of help? If you kill yourself, you will always be remembered as a failure by all who hears. Your situation is survivable. Try other approaches and seek help from the right places. 1 Like |
| Family › Re: My Worries And Concern About Family Life by Mikester: 9:02am On Feb 22, 2021*. Modified: 10:26am On Feb 22, 2021 |
One or two families doesn't define all families. Quit generalising. |
| Family › Re: My Friend's Wife Just Told Him That Their First Daughter Is Not His. by Mikester: 9:01am On Feb 22, 2021*. Modified: 10:13am On Feb 22, 2021 |
Why should those men have a say in their affairs? It is quite discretionary and unfair. Nevertheless, that man is the cause of his own misfortune. This is why I advise men to study their women and not ignore any red flags before marrying them. Love is not enough. Wisdom and discernment is key. light099:You've spoken well Sir Remijuice:Then the future is full of shit 1 Like |
| Family › Re: Baby Found Dead Inside Running Front-loading Washing Machine In NewZealand(Pic) by Mikester: 8:48am On Feb 22, 2021 |
Parents with kids should learn to do things with more caution |
| Family › Re: Is Africa Really A Better Place to Raise A Child Than The Western World? by Mikester: 7:32am On Feb 22, 2021*. Modified: 8:46am On Feb 22, 2021 |
From my perspective, I will say it depends on the parents raising the child and not necessarily the environment, though the environment is also an undisputed factor in a child's upbringing, but the parental factor determines the outcome of the child more. Speaking of environment, Nigeria was once a good ground for a child's moral upbringing as it unapologetically shunned deviant behaviours till it imitated the negative lifestyle of the west which I dare say is decadent (showing more interest in pleasure and enjoyment than moral standards). This singular act brought about a proliferation of decadence and debauchery amongst the multitudes including the teenagers and children alike. Children and teens alike learn more by imitation. Teens are dealing with a huge amount of social, emotional and cognitive flux and have underdeveloped abilities to cope. They need their parents, those people with the more stable adult brain to help them by staying calm, listening and being good role models but due to the decadence in the land and nonchalance of most parents, we have the defective children we have now. These are things we know deep down within us. 18 Likes 2 Shares |
| Family › Re: I Destroyed My Sister Relationship With Her Fiancé And She Lost Her Job by Mikester: 11:20pm On Feb 21, 2021 |
BRATISLAVA:Yes boss |
| Family › Re: I Destroyed My Sister Relationship With Her Fiancé And She Lost Her Job by Mikester: 6:20pm On Feb 21, 2021*. Modified: 11:19pm On Feb 21, 2021 |
BRATISLAVA:I'm not supporting her. Don't get it twisted. I know you are angry but the best way to advice someone is through positive encouragement not criticism. I'm not saying she is innocent though. |
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