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[quote author=sirjamesjnr post=107018223]There is no sure thing as a sexual quota. And there is no such thing as a ‘hoe’. Men that slut-shaming women are not mature to be in a grown-up relationship. No lady is not accountable to any man for her past. It's none of a man's business.

If you are going to marry for 'purity" look for a virgin girl. Do not condemn a man who wants a team player, homemaker, companion, and someone who can resonate with him. A virgin girl can tick all the boxes agreed.



Mr. Man what are you saying? You want them to be free to do all they want before marriage? Do you know that the female anatomy is such that too much sex widens the pu.s.sy? People defend that with "it closes back." A fine pu.s.sy can also be disfigured from too much sex too. And before you hit me with the gender war, a woman holds more power to let sex happen by agreeing to open her legs.

My own submission:
It is the reason why these girls think there is no big deal about sleeping around. "One day, the owner of the p.us.sy will come and wife me and exclusively own it." However, not getting the D from outside her marriage may still not be guaranteed still. On body count, the female anatomy is such that a tight p.us.sy can become wide. They will defend that with "it closes back." In addition, we have fine and ugly pus.s.ies. Body count can disfigure a fine one. It's a verifiable truth.

The narrative that men are naturally cheats is actually rubbish because na woman get more power to let sex happen by agreeing to open legs. They just know how to cover up cheating than men.

adamsmith914:
Jokers are you talking of these same youths in Vikings, Aiye, Blacked Axed, Buccaneers, Eiye, Mafia & the other numerous gangs they are aligned to?

That can't prevent them from working well Sir. As a matter of fact, confraternity in the past represented good intentions. And besides, the bad side of it you have in mind actually stems from rivalry.

We are at a critical time in our country NIGERIA. Ibo's want it, the youths are tired and angry. Yul, an Ibo youth has come out. Take the country back from these old ones and let's try something different and forget these jokers. Like someone said, Falz and co should form a youth party or follow Yul. The youths are 70%.

Petyprincess:
The truth is not everyone will get married, I have the utmost respect for women living their best life without depending on a man.
A woman's happiness should not be defined by having a man because of two hairy balls!!

From observation, single mums are very bitter and toxic to raise children with that character of theirs.

Pussywar:
Almost a year later and nairaland is still infested with pea brained slut shamers.

Nice moniker

Sebastine1994:
Whàt kind of stupid news is this Biko

We just have a life span of just 80 years and most people have used 40 years already,

Yet some people waste the remaining days of their lives reading stupid news, what will this news do for me. Will it change my station in Life,

Stupid people discuss events and people, great minds discuss ideas, Biko I am going to quora instead. Nairaland dey killl brain matter

There are global events that are shaping history, yet nairaland wants us to discuss about tiwa nude video and shit, at least try to educate Nigerians,

For example tell them why vultures are going extinct, and how important they are in the ecosystem

some Nigerians are just too dumb, last week somebody said vultures are scarce because the Attah of igala cursed the vultures. Can you believe that shit?

People recklessly use their mouth to draw problem upon themselves. I am Igala. Do you know the depth of spirituality of the Attahship at all?

Afriqan:
2 & 3 for me but If I were to narrow it down further, I would go for 3.

There's something about dark skinned girls I have always liked. Sadly, a lot of these girls don't feel too comfy in their own skin, thinking they're not beautiful... It's such a turn off.

Same here. I'm a sucker for very dark skin. I went gaga when I first saw Saskay (BBNaija) and really wish she is mine. Nothing sexually attracts me to fair girls. They just have very beautiful bre.ast and that's all; and appear neat even when dirty.

MarketDispatch:
You both got married before the Bible...so, I don't see any reason you both cannot affirm your marriage by swearing before same Bible.

Abi o
As a matter of fact, they swore with the Bible with the help of the clergy who joined them. She cannot swear but can make someone swear. I blame the OP, he was not smart. This is not about his genuine innocence. He let her manipulate him. Now there is a crack in his marriage.

And this Aboki-Fulani sh.it of a government says the media/Nigerians should rather say Nigeria's security situation has declined instead of saying it is rising because the latter is weightier. In the words of a certain cleric, BUHARI IS A FULL-BLOWN PANDEMIC.

This one wants to blame men on this as her gender always does. So, a loving man cannot record for other intentions apart from blackmail abi e.g for fun.

BOOOMNAIJA:
This tochi guy is really savage wen it comes to putting bitches and whores where they rightly belong.

If u watched d last bbn reunion show, u would understand wat I mean

As in ehn...
I watched it.
Dem ladies think say na only dem get bad mouth. Talking about how they used guys. How? I still don't understand what that actually means. Tochi almost finished Boss Lady. Bad guy.

I hate to say this but the Yoruba's are the most notorious in sexu.al immoralities. Their musicians use genital and s.exual wordings recklessly in lyrics as their people (children and the aged alike) listen without any iota of concern. What of se.xual immoral lifestyle? Terrible.

This one (Tiwa) is showing y'all what obtains in where she comes from. My single mother Yoruba neighbour here in same west almost died midnight last week from abortion complications. She ran into our yard asking a neighbour who owns a bike to help her to the hospital. Before reaching our yard, she had collapsed at my window, I heard the thud. God saved her she could wake up again. After losing much blood, she was lucky to be saved that night. She had feigned ordinary sickness before this happened, but the landlady confirmed it was an abortion attempt to people from the blood and what came out from her body as found on the ground the next morning in her absence. She is back home now recovering with her children and pissed by rumour.

I will keep saying this: I know people can pretend but always be on the watch. Don't tolerate anybody you suspect with the wrong spirit. There are good and bad people in this world. LEARN THE SKILL OF CUTTING OFF TIES WITH BAD PEOPLE.

fourboys:
u just promoted immorality

Are you minding them? We should always learn to leave Hypocrisy out of the subject matter and always condemn bad things to make the society a better place even if we as human sometimes do these bad things too.

effort1:
So, there is segregation and discrimination among Igbos? Now, you will say the Yoruba man is your problem, whereas you are your own problems.

Are you just knowing that Discrimination and Segregation are in the blood of the Igbo's? You should read up on the Osu caste system, a bigger evil by themselves among themselves.

BeeBeeOoh:
Baba, that una Maguire sef nawa o. I think that his fridge-head is the cause of his problems

To be honest, I nor like the way una dey yab my elder brother Maguire for here. Wetin he do una? Abi he dey borrow una leg use?

Sonnobax15:

Wahala for any guyman wey say he trust him woman finish....Las las,na faint he go faint when he go begin to listen to him woman tape...
My fellow men, it's very commendable to trust your dog with your life than to trust your woman....E get why......My papa dey always dey use am dey sing for us.....No ever make your woman your best friend especially when you no trust her at all.

My brother I don taya.
To marry like dis na serious wahala o.
If you talk, some will blame men join as if it is not a woman who holds the more power to allow sex happen more than the man.
They'd say men want loyalty but they can't give it. But I keep saying this: A woman's loyalty is opportunistic, a woman is not loyal to a man, she is loyal to his "power" (e.g Prince involved in this)Sacrificial loyalty is only for her children. A man on the other hand shows opportunistic loyalty too but he naturally has sacrificial loyalty more.
Na to blend follow their way sure pass aswear

[quote author=Oluboh post=106789013]Someone dropped this, and it actually clears the air a great deal. ���

There is no balance that would be returned to CBN.

"it is a face saving statement from EFCC".

For the benefit of those that would want to know let me try to state some fact about the whole saga...

Unlike what EFCC claimed, the loan wasn't from Sterling Bank but a bailout loan from CBN (not a single commercial bank in Nigeria will give an entity a loan @ 9% interest).

As we all know CBN does not give loan directly, they usually use DMBs for such facilities, and Sterling Bank was chosen for this particular facility in 2019 with the following details;

1. CBN request SB to give KGSG 20billion and monitor utilisation, meaning all the loan will be disbursed from SB.

Rubbish! For not empathizing with the suffering people of Kogi and attempting to defend this f.ool of a young governor, you won't escape curses from mouths of spirits of the dead and suffering Kogites due to the torture.

[quote author=bodybuilder post=106785768]The easiest to avoid heartbreak is being real with yourself. The girl is not yours, it just your turn. Men bin dey handle before you, and men go still handle after you.

The problem is the you guys have been sold the concepts of soulmates.

It's good to be in love, but just enjoy the moment and stop thinking to love long term.

Don't let your life revolve around your girl. Let your be your girl, don't try to make your girl your best friend, your therapist and shit.

It will be harder for you to recover from heartbreak if you do everything with the same person. It doesn't mean you must cheat on your girl. But don't disconnect with your friends, family, hobbies and passion because of your girl.

My brother, guys claiming exclusive right to the p.us.sy when girls don't see it that way, is what girls are using to take guys for fools.

Attention and providing and caring for her nai be her own main concern.

Y'all should stop criticizing the guy. I earn double of that, no girlfriend. But the money no dey do me.

A new job, they pay me for the month in the third to fourth week of the next month sha.

Parents dey collect from my pay and I don't cook (Buhari's Nigeria makes eating out cheaper than cooking - prove me wrong on this if you can). I am contemplating beginning cooking this month. I nor sabi cook. But I have a plan on what to do.

Kobojunkie:
Cruise and vent on what? Why don't you see that even now your level of confidence remains low since you still approach as enemy, the opposite gender?

If you had really countered your original fears, you would have no need to approach them as enemies but as ordinary humans.

Thanks for your time. Goodbye.

Kobojunkie:
Fear/anxiety of any kind as far as engaging and communicating with another is low self-esteem or confidence related. It does not matter what tag you give that fear or anxiety.

What you instead ought to work on is building up your confidence level, not hedging yourself into a situation that will ultimately result in more mental damage than actually resolve the original issue.

Who be dis one naw?
Pls don't use me catch cruise and vent.

Kobojunkie:
When you harbor fear(anxiety) of any person or gender, it is a problem of confidence, self-esteem.

Ofcourse many stylishly tag at as being careful but it is a confidence issue. Not wanting to get tangled with the wrong lady does not need to illicit anxiety of any kind. You should be able to confidently make your choices without fear.

Hello. Fear of what are you talking about? Rejection? Hell no! When I was a Simp, I was just naive and not scared.

Now, why should I fear as a REDPILLER when there are many girls around and even the beautiful ones are not yet born.

Kobojunkie:
nah! What you describe sounds more like struggle with low self-esteem or low self-confidence!

Nope. I was rather being too careful before. Too careful not to get involved with the wrong girl. Now, I don't even care. If I get involved with the wrong girl, I bear her small and dump her as.s.

And beleive you me, I've got the good looks for any low self-esteem you are talking about.

OP, it's that same Redpill that is helping me to man up and face any girl with great courage.

Back when I was a Simp, I go dey fear girls, to face a girl na war. But now, I can face and get any girl I want. If she embarasses me or reject my advances, no big deal, I go for another. All because REDPILL made me become very free.

pocohantas:
The OP is actually correct. Henceforth I hope we are all in agreement that Nigerian women are doing well in all spheres.

Someone like you knows a rich working woman sef. So this woman can buy a GL43 tomorrow and she won’t get called olosho. She worked for her money. This one sweet o.



Nothing to counter. OP is very correct. Nigerian women are not being marginalized, they are doing well educationally and professionally.

The future is…



Y’all get triggered even when they agree with you? Wonderful.

Hahahahaha...I laugh enter Buhari's office.
See as you dey take style shift goalpost.

We will not stop calling una olosho whenever una shock us and flaunt properties/lifestyle wey pass una earnings while un-marginalized.

Walkee:
yen yen yen. It depends on the house. In some homes, where they use firewood to cook or do physically demanding work, the guys are expected to split firewood, do all the heavy lifting while the girls cook. You won't tell the girls to come and do those heavy work, why should the boys do the lighter work like cooking with girls?
I always see females moaning about cooking lol. My girlfriend feels fulfilled if I even eat the food she cooks. All these moanings actually stem from see finish.

My brother, oil of sense dey your head.
The cousin may have been doing other works appropriate for a male child in that house o.
But because of see finish, this girl wants to rubbish the guy. No matter what anyone says, cooking (home) and everything associated with it is appropriate for a woman only.

WesternOligarch:
Lol....this confused social political climber.

The article is full of sophistry, falsehoods and fallacies sprinkled with half truths, sentiments and biases targeted majorly at diluting the indigineous people of Yorubaland while tactically not talking about the ethnic syncretic of the north. Yoruba's and northerners have absolutely nothing in common. From our ideologies and attitudes to life there's a big difference between both people.

We Yoruba's aren't known for religious extremism or terrorism.

Yorubas are largely progressive and socialist liberals. Hausa/fulani are largely retrogressive and conservative extremists.

Yorubas believe in orderliness and don't subscribe to grazing cattle openly destroying people's property.

Yoruba's live in cities and villages like normal human beings. Fulani lives in the forest reserves like wild animals with their cattle.

Yoruba's don't subscribe to oppressing our women or girl children, women in Yorubaland are given equal freedom and opportunities as men(too much freedom in some cases) and we also don't subscribe to child marriages.

Yorubas rich and poor believes alot in education and it's ability to advance societies. Hausa/fulani believe that western education is Haram.

We Yoruba's don't pardon yahoo boy's, terrorists, militants or bandits. Hausa/fulani believes that terrorists are humans like us and should be pardoned and reintegrated back into society.

We believe in freedom of expression; it's why bobrisky is still walking freely in Lagos. Northerners believe in breaking beer bottles and banning mannequins because it is Haram.

We produce Noble laureates, tech Titans, globally recognized scientists, athletes, execs and self made business people. The north produces military men, presidents with school cert results and a large voting population.

There might have been intermarriages and inter relations with neighboring Northern tribes but hausa/fulani are never one or the same people.

Lastly what really makes a person Yoruba apart from his paternal genes is his embodiment of qualities known to Yoruba's and the tribal loyalty you have towards Yoruba, it's people and it's interests, if you find yourself scheming against or working against Yoruba interest it's most likely that you're not Yoruba but either an imposter or a bastard. Yoruba isn't just an ethnic group but a religion, a state of mind and an ideology

Farooq A. Kperogi like most non Yoruba's are quick to talk about Yoruba history trying to delegitimize the rights of indigineous Yoruba people and pushing silly narratives and agendas but would hardly talk like this about their regions or tribes..... ibadan men like me will see straight right through your bvllshit Mr Kperogi.

No bad blood with Northern people but it's an insult to say yorubas and fulanis are alike. It gets me really triggered.

I think he meant you share ties with each other and not similarities.

Amhappy:
I laugh because it's you men that put yourself under pressure. 1 Wife, 3 children,10 side chicks,20 relatives,50 friends,100 village/church members and 500 strangers these are the number of people you want to impress. Na you dey do yourself

Aunty, only 1woman wahala fit kill the man. We are talking about the wife wahala-ing her husband to death in the home. Who is talking about sidechicks, relatives, children, friends and strangers and impressing anybody?

egopersonified:
This is the effect of generations of family life. When we start solving this problem from the cause, there will never be answers.

We encourage our girls to focus on being wife materials and mothers. We teach them how to cook and take care of the home while the brothers are outside playing ball, making connections and going places. He is taught that a man's place is outside the home. To bring home the bacon. To take care of his family and be the bread winner. Till we start to teach our kids differently, we will still get this same results till eternity.


We teach our boys to not cry, don't show emotion and he bottles it up till he has a heart attack while a woman will cry from morning till night, shout out all her frustrations and be relieved from that burden.

We tell our men to take care of this girlfriend so another man doesn't snatch her. So he does two jobs and a side hustle just to 'maintain' her.

Why can't we teach our kids that both parties should be equal contributors to the family purse? Why can't the first person home make dinner? Why can't the man take the kids to the hospital while the woman goes to sell her tomatoes? Why do we have men coming on nairaland to tell us 'I take care of all the responsibilities in the home and all she does is to fill gas and she is complaining when I boil ordinary water to bath'?

Till we begin to train ourselves as one and the same unit, men will keep dieing young and women will keep enjoying the fruits of both their labours.

Don't start that Feminism bull.shit.
We are talking about the stress and pressure your gender (wife) is giving the male gender (husband) sending him to his graves. And instead of discouraging your gender from being drama queens and mischievous, you are talking about proper training of the boy child and girl child.

Alfamann:
They are just trying to make allah happy now.

Imagine if allah gets depressed and wipe out the land.

Lol. My brother, to win souls for God no be by force. I think that is what makes Islam different with extremity and compulsion features. Abi Allah make the duty of conversion a must in Islam I nor know.

Instead of just preaching and allowing each man to face God for judgement each, their own na to force pesin and kill if necessary.