mortee:

Yes, you are a natural pessimist, but then, sis, you could have at least spared a good word for the one who has the heart to care about an innocent little girl. Why on earth would you even think it's just a status booster for the poster? I don't like your line of thought, I must tell you, and you really need to work on it. You are one of those who could run their cars over the girl because you don't see her as good enough to have a life.
And if you keep waiting for the government to take care of situations like this, then the Naija of our dreams won't come soon.
Poster, God bless u jare. Even if you eventually could not locate the girl again, heaven rejoices over you for the care and concern you expressed over the girl. Heaven will take care of you and yours too.

LOL! No, I am not a natural pessimist. I am just naturally cynical. Nigerians are typically empty-barrels, inviting God and market-woman emotions into every little thing instead of using their neural cells to think through a permanent, lasting solution. What on earth exactly is the OP hoping to accomplish? Remove the child from her grandmother to an orphanage? Did she bother to talk to the old woman? Did she find and talk to the child's mother first? Does she know if the child is a special needs child, hence why she has stubbornly insisted on hanging out by the roadside? Why do people think they have the right to put somebody else's child in an orphanage because the child looks hungry and unkempt? Why has the OP assumed that because this girl looks desolate, she has nobody in the world to claim her? Some people just like asking for trouble. Sorry, I just have no patience for this kind of thinking (and apologies that I am a little rough around the edges on Nairaland). Like I said earlier, carry on! I am rooting for you all! I hope the poor little girl finds a new home in the home of a kind Nairaland member

PS - Run my car over another human being ke? Where did you get that from? God forbid bad thing.

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kambili190:

before you complain about the government, no matter how bad it is, try to be the change you wish to see in the world.

apart from this, you don't know the poster so how do you know she needs to boost her ego? is it because you don't do anything that is of no use to your self-esteem?
and yes, it's a free world. so we all have to put up with UNEDUCATED answers s well.
go, hide, do nothing and complain about the government. and if you do anything, make sure, it serves YOUR ego!

Hahahaha! I keep my charitable acts to myself; I don't publicize them on NL. Like, I said, carry on! Don't let my comment be a distraction. Go save an "abandoned" child from her grandmother and come back to tell us how that goes.

Greatest Ife! Almost everybody in my nuclear and extended family went to Ife. However, the one year I spent in Ife was pretty bad! I got stuck in Angola because I was hoping in vain that my parents would get me a BQ spot in quarters and they didn't!!! I saw pure hell! The room was over-crowded and the bathrooms were gross. I used to run to my uncle's place in quarters every weekend. The lectures were even worse! I can never forget marching to Ajose before sunrise (you had to get there a couple of hours early to get a seat) under a teeming cloud of shitting bats to attend CHM 101 with that fat lady professor (she's muslim, I think). Or sitting through lectures in Amphi. The one bright spot was fellowship and new buka (that's where I ate breakfast and dinner everyday)! Hahaha! Thank God I traveled out after my first year! I don't think I would have made it in that place!

But Ife is still great oh! Although I hated my experience there, I still love that place because it was never dull and I met so many incredible people.

kambili190:

I can't believe someone thinks like this!

it's a shame!

Blah, blah, blah... instead of organizing to protest a thieving, evil government that is depriving MILLIONS of children of basic healthcare, education and nutrition, one woman wants a cheap boost to her ego by "saving" a random unkempt child that lives with her grandmother. Some people just don't think rationally. But of course, it's a free world and she can do as she pleases with her time and money. She came here for opinions and I gave her an educated one. So carry on! Go "save" the "abandoned" pikin and make sure dem no call police on your head for child kidnapping.

hercules07:

I do not know where you got that your statistics from o, the man is not only qualified but very honest, you think you can face politicians with skeletons in your cupboard? Your Erastus has not even accused him of being dishonest, as per Erastus, he is a hero to his own pockets, you should go and investigate Erastus links with Adenuga and IBB when he was just coming up, as per the acquittal, hope you listened to the judgement, the judge was more concerned about the SANs prosecuting than the case, also he was acquitted on the money laundering charges not for running his bank down, those ones are still pending.

There are certain claims no sane man will make with a straight face. Sanusi is qualified to be CBN Governor? What qualifications, pray tell? You keep claiming he didn't know about probably one of the largest loan write-offs in the history of modern Nigerian banking. How can he NOT know? So he found a way to draw-up a list of debtors but he missed a $100 million + loan write-off? If he didn't know about the write-off, then he is NOT doing his job and is thus, useless. Stop digging yourself into a hole with stupid arguments like this one.

Tgirl4real:

Sowwy o. I couldn't finish reading it with d way it was typed and was sleepy already. D main part I left out is dat she had 2 kids already.

Somehow, I think I get d woman's fear. But she shouldn't panic. Some of our mothers are are not so pleasant and we know it yet we don't throw them out. Rather, we learn to live with them. D woman just need to make some adjustments.

Moremi, omugwu is when MIL comes to take care of baby after delivery.

Thanks for explaining omugwu. I agree with your advice to the lady not to panic. There's really nothing she can do about it. What she needs to demand from her husband is some outside help.

I think you should mind your business. This child may by malnourished and unkempt, but she is NOT an abandoned child. The child is obviously trying to go after her mother but she'll soon get over it and return back to the old lady. Why do people like to create trouble and drama when there is none? Why don't you focus your energies on the hundreds of babies that are truly abandoned around Lagos every year? When last did you visit an orphanage? Please mind your business and leave the child alone; I hope the end result of this is not trouble for you and your family because I have seen situations where the child's family turns around and accuses the good samaritan of trying to steal the child.

This is shocking! What kind of MIL is this? Thank God for deliverance. Your friend needs to tighten her belt of prayers; this MIL is not going to stop after this. How can you go into your son's home to poison his wife and the mother of his children? Is she insane? I think your friend should get her arrested so it's in the government records and nobody can deny it. Mama needs to spend a few years in jail to re-think her life and seek God's forgiveness. What she tried to do is unforgivable.

chaircover: Truth be told, it depends on the maturity of the boy and his upbringing, life experience etc

one cant compare the maturity of a 23 year old orphan who has 4 junior siblings that he is fending for, to the 23 year old last kid who was born with a silver spoon and had househelps at his beck and call.

I finished school at 21, so while I had my own job and was responsible for my own finances that young, some 21 year olds are still at home with their parents washing cars every morning and busy chasing the housegirl round the house for sexx as soon as the parents set off for the office.

@poster like I said, there is a very slim chance that it may work but there are a lot of odds stacked against you so you need to think carefully not just about today but for the future.

I had a well-paying job at the age of 21 but I can reassure you that I was far from ready to marry because I didn't know what I wanted in life or in a woman. I was heedlessly cocky and hopelessly romantic. I needed to make some progress in my career; fall on my face and pick myself up; and get my heart broken to wisen up. I also needed to date a bunch of ladies to figure out what I want and need in a woman. I am immeasurably wiser now and I can't imagine what a disaster of a husband I would have been had I married at 23. In this modern world, a 23yr old might be man enough to make babies but is hardly old enough to be a stable, positive force as the head of home, especially when his wife is much older.

Tgirl left out some details. MIL is not sweet or innocent. From the little I can comprehend, she has given the lady trouble in the past and apparently uses her like a housegirl anytime they go back to the East.

PS - WTF is Omugwo?

How old were you when you wrote this? 14? 16? Hahahaha!!!!! So sweet, so innocent, so dangerous.

Your friend needs to hire a housegirl that will see to mama's needs while she's around. She can't possible take care of 3 kids (incl. a 3mth old baby), the husband and a needy, demanding MIL at the same time or she's going to go crazy. I honestly don't know what to say because it looks like a really tough situation and the easiest way out is to get some help around the house to ease the stress (hopefully, she'll get a job soon and clear-out of the way of this MIL).

Your husband was just testing his dribbling skills. Just be on the look-out; you should only confront him when you have direct and serious evidence of cheating.

Wow! Didn't know Nigerian banks were THIS messed up! How can banks be run like this? Wonders will never end! So Saraki wanted to just run-off with over $100 million dollars of investor deposits?!!! And Sanusi just sat back and watched? Hahahaha! Nigeria is finished!

chaircover: I wouldn't rule it out completely.

I know a couple where the wife had 2 kids and was 6 years older than the husband who had never had any kids. They went on to have another 4 kids together.

The marriage lasted a good 21 years before it broke up which is a lot longer than a lot of other marriages.

LOL I sound like UJU with all her "I saw" stories BTW where is she? Missing her o!

How old was the guy when they got married? The age gap itself is not the problem (although 7yrs is quite large by any standard). The real problem is tying down a 23yr old guy in this day and age that has barely tasted world and probably doesn't know what he wants yet. Everything might be fantastic now but give it a few years and the cracks will start to show. Good thing somebody mentioned the fact that women age faster than men. By the time the guy turns 30, this woman will be almost 40 (with a few kids and saggy body). That's when wahala go start. This marriage is unlikely to work. Let's keep it real.

@OP, abeg go ahead and marry the man. It's your life after all. Just don't forget that you were duly cautioned.

Please, everything is possible but not everything is probable. The union is probably going to fail. A woman at 30 is a woman in full bloom but a man at 23 has barely even started! Once the sheen of romance and the flush of love wears off, the marriage was start to show cracks and then problems will start. He will suddenly open his yes to women closer to his age or younger, his friends will start to laugh at him, calling his wife "old cargo" or "mummy" and he will begin to feel trapped and insecure. There are lots of age-appropriate men out there. At 30, she still has time to find a suitable husband.

I am not saying that marriages with older wives don't work but 7years is a giant gap and it doesn't help at all that the husband is still so young. I would have said "yes" if the woman were 37 and the husband 30.

LOL! Abeg free the sister-in-law jare! God provided her with an obedient housegirl and free rent, and you all are hating on her blessings!

@OP, you had better wake up from your slumber. Lots of good advice on this post already, so you know what to do. Good luck!

A big owambe wedding is not for everybody. Most young couples forget that it's the parents/family members that should pay for a large wedding. If the couple can't afford it and there's nobody in the family to sponsor a large wedding, then the wedding should be small. The problem is some couples have misplaced priorities and want to have large weddings by force so they mortgage their future financial well being for a brief couple of days of lavish owambe festivities. This almost never ends well oh!

ifyalways: @OP,where is the child now?Have u been supporting her?

You lived with her when u were down,noticed she were not honest,she left her house for you,she bore a child for you and now this ? She DID not change,so whats new?

If you were able to live with her then why not now?she helped u then what stops you from helping her now become a better person?

Have u sat her down to tell her about her flaws,find out why she feels she needs to lie(whats she hiding,whats her fears,insecurities,fears),encourage her to be open,honest to you and don't judge her past.

Btw,you need to get that DNA test done.

Ify, I don't think you have ever met a compulsive liar! It does't suddenly develop from "fear" or "insecurity." It's often manifests in childhood and it's very hard (if not impossible) for compulsive liars to stop lying about the simplest things. It's extremely hard to build a stable relationship with a compulsive liar because you never really know the truth and the marriage becomes a bedrock of distrust and chaos. Now combine compulsive lying with infidelity and you have a lethal and highly combustible combination. I would caution the OP to thread very carefully.

Sorry buddy, that woman isn't wife material at all!!! This is the type of woman that will bring a man friend into your home and claim it's her cousin from the village! Compulsive liars aren't reliable people and trouble follows them wherever they go.