₦airaland Forum

It's simply idiotic and a sign of desperation to tag every crime committed in the southeast as IPoB related. The federal government forgets that it's talking to international organisations and governments that have their intelligence agencies on ground. These people don't rely on the position of the government; if not, IPOB would have been designated a "terrorist" organisation by them, which appears to be the preoccupation of the federal government.

You are obviously not ready for marriage. Since the idea of having one child comes from you, why not undergo a process that would eternally make it impossible for you to bear children after having your first and only child?

Ah, your sister-in-law is the replica of the devil himself. Mr. Malami needs to take a crash course from you on how to professionally defame a person that going to the court of law won't be necessary. How can a person appear completely useless, just because you are obsessed with throwing her out of your house? I am cocksure if she were your sister, you wouldn't be so crass and indifferent in painting her bad.

It's same people, same story. You know the talk about how to easily hang a dog, just give it a bad name. Sadly for you, your husband has seen beyond your infantile territorial wrangling, and should be commended for ignoring you.

This is one of the problems of Nigerian university system. No functional educational system would allow such repeated failure rate from a lecturer/teacher who knows his onions. He must have been a feared figure in the department, because results are routinely moderated at the Department level before the faculty dean appends his/her approval. In fact, the lecturer has unknowingly done harm to his pedagogical and intellectual rating/record by continuously recording high failure rate.

Since the authorities would not address this anomaly, the student should call for a remark of his paper through the vice-chancellor, the dean, and the HOD. Since the lecturer habitually fails students, let the letter be written as a group of disgruntled students who feel that they have been victimised by the lecturer. They should involved the press, if their concern/plight is not addressed.

Annabelle12344:
Yes. I was supposed to cut him off from the beginning if he's intention was defined. But he came in as a friend. Like a big bro Who is already married and happy. Who only wanted to guide and help me secure a job and a good life.

Nope. The material goodies you benefited from him was what made you keep him around as a "big bro," even I don't believe a word of it. What I know for sure is that the thinking processing/faculty of an average Nigerian lady is weird. And you know that the crap about helping him heal "emotionally" is bunkum.

What rubbish! That you are even considering her unreasonble anti-Catholic posture, reveals an unpleasant side of your person, as someone fickle and effeminate. Couldn't she find any "brother" in her church to marry her?

One thing I have to realise is that most supporters of abortion are people have had multiple abortions in the past. Their mission seems like increasing the fold of women who have undergone similar process, and not protecting their personal and economic welfare.

Similarly, the most vociferous supporters of Covid-19 vaccines in a country like Nigeria, where there is actually no real and demonstrable case of the virus, are those who, on their own volition, decide to take the "jab." The argument is that since they have taken the vaccine, everyone else must take it as well, regardless of their view and choice. Ditto abortion.

His kidnap and prolonged absence is a product of exaggeration lamely concocted by the clueless enemies of the well-performing regime.

22o62021:
I won’t pity you

When you see a good guy

You take him for granted

Christy did same to me

She went back to her Abusive boyfriend
I had to move on with my life

Oga, please kindly complete your story. Did you beating stopped? Did the abusive boyfriend changed? You seem to be in love with this Christy.

queenblossom:
There is nothing like upgrading yourself. I am a successful business woman and a graduate. But I am still upgrading myself. I still register for more courses on business and marketing, because I see that I have a strong passion for business and marketing. A lot of people think I studied marketing in my first degree.
So my brother, this should motivate you to upgrade your knowledge.
But is good as you are saying you can't upgrade yourself because of your girlfriend. That really shows how much you love her and if the marriage was going to last or stand the test of time. You think marriage is easy. Just one test, you failed woefully.

I have a problem with your concept of the word "upgrade" and the manner you are chanting it as if the word possesses the halo of a holy writ. You claimed to be a "successful" business woman so your direction of upgrade lies in the area of marketing and its related field. I thought you would have advised this brother to toe similar line as well, because he is a business person like you are. But your ideal "upgrade" for him lies in a gratuitous pursuit of a certificate -- not knowledge because it's actuated to satiate the ego of a family that obviously needs an upgrade-- that won't add much value to him.

I hope your lack of reprimand to girl's family is an oversight.

DaddyRochie1642:
Your English and your writing is good for an Ssce holder.

Your inability to discern where concord/agreement is necessary in a sentence, cast you in the category of an SSCE holder.

I don't think you have a scintilla of love for this hardworking man, the very reason you are not proud of his means of livelihood. With this mindset of yours, the young has no business being close to you, since you are already convinced that he does not fit into your "class." This needlessly self-created ordeal of yours feeds to the popular trope/narrative about women's obsession of marrying financially stable and well-to-do guys, and their corresponding disdain for men who are "struggling."

Who says he is going to be an Uber driver forever? You? The problem with ladies who think they have achieved a degree of success is their irrational fondness to look down on men, even those with good prospects. I will advice you focus on "executive" men out there, whom you are convinced suffer no job hazard that is lethal. It's more appropriate for you because these men match your "executive" social status and appear way more presentable, instead of a mere driver who earns peanut for a living.

Patriarchy has many downsides; this is just one of them. Part of this structure makes it somewhat legal and socially acceptable that men will pay for sex even when women derive pleasure from the exercise as well. We have been culturally socialised to view sex as if it's an activity men alone engage in or exert absolute control, and almost always leaving out the role of the womenfolk.

The practice of putting the blame on men whenever an unwanted pregancy occurs will not end anytime soon, because while everyone knows the boy committed no crime, yet the police who were supposed to protect his rights -- by telling the disappointed and visibly angry man to explore dialogue as a tool to settle the dispute -- had him incarcerated for days, simply because they are criminally disposed to exploiting and monitising human rights violations in Nigeria.

Is there anyone close enough to nudge the convener of the meeting to consciousness? It appears she has completely lost touch with the physical world.

It doesn't make sense to argue or pretend that women don't suffer marginalisation, if you adhere strictly to the literary and figurative meanings of the word. If you admit that the world has patriarchal foundation and imprints, and turn around to deny that women are not marginalised, know it that you are a drooling hypocrite. The contention is not about what caused marginalisation, or the various forms it manifest itself, but whether it actually exists or not.

The trouble with our Nigerian women is that they don't tend to sincerey fight against these marginalisations, but are easily poised to extract benefits from it and at the same time complain about male domination and control when they are not interesting in ending or reducing it.

The story looks more fake than real, but it's the sort of things people do to themselves and start looking for assistance. I think this is karma at work, because you had a lady you claimed you loved and whom ticked almost all your boxes, what the heck were you looking for outside?

Then she had miscarriage at a time you were riddled with uncertainties about the workability of the union, you didn't realise your mistake and end things with her immediately. In fact, God gave you a redeeming opportunity to right your wrong, you couldn't optimise it and then continued to have unprotected sex with her. Now you are sad, she is not happy and you don't have the balls to end the union. I have to ask you at this point: what exactly do you want?

The fact that you have become gratuitously jittery, and couldn't ensure that your life aligns with your previous quotes on this platform, shows what a fake you are. A man is a small deity, next in line only to the Supreme Deity.

As a man, don't forget you have redeeming value even though you are too blind to recognise it now. Don't settle for less simply because your financial standing isn't what it ought to be. Look inward and see how you can get a lady, any lady, of your choice to marry.

AutoChick4U:
3 baby mama guy is here again

You need to count one before you count two and three. Just like you are baby mamny ONE to somebody, even though you have invested a lot of lies to deceive yourself. At least, he isn't telling barefaced lies about his baby daddy status, but can the same be said of you?

How is the long and tireless search for a beast of burden going?

debbydams:
I Hop u v have a good heart, because with your age u should have a wife nd considering the fact that the mother of your kid is not with you,there's something u are not telling us,cos I met a single dad few month ago tru my friend, Initially he's not my type of man but my friend was saying he's nice blah blah I gave him a chance,

I was in 3days fasting,I decided to visit him nd I told I wont be eating anything he said OK,the next day I was supposed to eat a good food,dude gave me 200 to buy egg nd tomatoes paste to do corcortioon nd I don't take egg I just told him not to worry, I helped him clean everywhere, he called Me nd ask if I can marry him I told him he should give it time,he dropped me at my friieend place, I was very hungry my friend got my oranges nd den gave me food,I was very weak already.

I was about leaving I wasn't that buoyant i went to his shop nd told him Im leaving cos nobody is in my store, he said I should wait that he wanted to collect money from someone,I sha calm down it was 6pm already nd said I should wait till Monday,I was very angry, he den make a. transfer to me I was like so u have money but choose to waste my time..I left nd pass the night with my friend, after 2 weeks he didnt call or. check on me I ignored him,my friend den asked if he called I said no nd I don't have time for his bullshit,my friend confronted him, he said 'I purposely don't cal her because she ddidnt sleep at my place' I was surprised, I told him no woman will ever stay with him, had similar experience with a divorcee I promised myself not to date or marry older men, divorcee or single old father most of them are toxic..forget money peace of mind ni koko

Men: beast of burden.

AnonymousBee:
Thanks for your input.

I have moved on.
Maybe why I feel this way is because he gave me a platform to acquire a skill. It's more like apprentice-oga relationship. No matter what there will always be reference to him. This reference is a constant reminder. People would ask where I gained my experience. So, you see.

About those stuff, he doesn't need them again.

Still, it's not in your place to discard these items for him. Seizing his properties shows there isn't much difference between him and you.

The family needs your financial support since to them you are just an ATM. Why won't her parents intervene, explain away, excuse, and extenuate their daughter's promiscuity to ensure that a cash cow continues to produce enough cash to help the family? Your type doesn't need advice because it is a waste, but events would reveal how stupid you have been and it will be brutal. Just continue being unreasonable when logic would have alerted you to the dangers ahead.

It seems like these youths have run out of cash. The federal government should send cash as usual, but this let be in hard currency. We all know that naira's value has massively depreciated.

olaric:
At this point, I want to sincerely and from the bottom of my heart apologize to Buhari and El-Rufai for criticizing them when they started dealing with this guy. This man is no saint after all. This is exactly how an average Muslim thinks--he doesn't regard the rights of other non-Muslims.

What do you mean by "dealing with him?" Are you advocating for extra-judicial treatment of this man by the government, outside the confines of the law? I don't understand the hoopla over a man's view that we should strongly disagree with instead of thinking that Buhari, a serial violator of the rule of law, is an angel. Even in the jungle there are rules, so when a judge makes a pronouncement on any case, it is the duty of the government to obey it. Even your now-beloved Buhari once declared that he is very pleased to see Sharia tumbled all over Nigeria. What is the difference between Buhari's shortsighted Sharia advocacy, and this man's eerily unfounded claim? Our problem is that we are too emotional as a people.

Why do you think they have been unable to nail this man in the court of law, despite the toxic media campaign? It's precisely due to lack of evidence to convince a judge of his wrongdoings.

Date from any ethnic group, but marry from your ethnic group.

bigjackass:
By the way, hope the Christians saying leave her alone will keep up the same energy if it is a Christian girl that goes to school and starts attending mosque and jumah

I am sorry to inform you that the scenario you painted has never happened in this country. Whenever you see a Christian who converts to Islam, there is always a sort of coercion and abduction supervised and orchestrated by Islamic clergy such as an emir, denying the family of the lady access to see their daughter. It's for this reason that most conversions of Christian ladies are performed in the emir palace.

This young lady was not coerced by any pastor or priest, she isn't abducted and is accessible to her family members. This shows a huge difference between a Christian and a Muslim conversion process. While Christians would easily accept a person who chooses to convert to another religion, it is not always an easy task for someone who decides to leave Islam. However, south-west Muslims have shown remarkable tolerance that is unique, that is why this young man is frustrated because he is fearful of the opinion of people.

2mch:
Most have lost wombs due to illegal abortion. East don’t support babymama and we know the high level of prostitution in the east from a very young age. This criminal tendency makes them steal babies too. Very criminal minded group of people. They do the worst things for money. No conscience.

It's a shame you can even conceal your deep-seated hatred for the East despite attempting to present your view politely. Tell me one crime that is prevalent in the East that you can't find in other parts of Nigeria. Even this crime of "baby factory" that you are using to tar the East with, it is not peculiar to the East. Which ethnic group do you belong to, let me know if your people don't have any sort of criminal tendency?

If you don't have anything with your baby mama, I suggest you should wire the money to your daughter through your wife for peace reign. That is, if she won't become unreasonable and began to question/challenge the amount you regularly send to your daughter.

My only concern is that this man is a clergy,an imam. What a shame!

As for FUTO, the school has shown through this damage-control clarification that it does not worth it name. So any dick and harry can applied for the post of "professor" and receive it without due diligence.

When there is no problem in the house, just look for a means, any means, to create one. Since you work, what stops you from buying a TV to watch whatever programme of your choice? Must a man do everything for you?

I have to blame you for not being adequately prepared to confront/manage whatever unreasonable behaviour that your wife might display if and when the going gets bad. Why didn't you realise she would jump ship if things become rough and tough? You weren't emotionally alert to plan ahead, to anticipate she would not provide some sort of closure to you in difficult moments. This sholud serve as a teachable experience for you.

It makes sense now to include your in-laws and see how their intervention could make her return home. But you need to seek out ways to provide for your family because, as you have known by now, your wife does not accept -- nor practice -- "for better or worse" Christian teaching of marriage.

This platform is a haven for single mothers. What annoys me the most is that, they feel so entitled that a single man should accept their condition of single mothers without asking questions.

One of them -- a mother of two -- looked at me maliciously the day I told her I can never marry a single mother since I have never impregnated any lady before. Unfortunately, reason is not their strong point.

authority2006:
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Just remember that this is her thread, she didn't compel you to comment. Why frustrating her life more when you Could have lent a helping hand or ignored her plight? What if she is indeed a single mum? Whether the husband is a nairalander or not, dead or alive shouldn't be point of discussion at all. Do you want to put her deeper into depression? What do you stand to gain from all of this? She hasn't begged you or anyone for money. Let's be human first before anything else please.

What sort of nonsense is this? Why do we always protect people who tell lies or are in the wrong just to appear as good people? Isn't it inhuman that she deliberately intends to deceive members of this platform with her inconsistent tale? That you couldn't see her equally unpleasant words to the person you quoted, shows how partial you are even though you struggled to appear fair-minded and polite.

As her "chief defender," what makes it right that she would tell bare faced lies in a platform filled with intelligent people and expect not to be called out? If she isn't here to beg for money, what other motive do you think compelled her to share her story here? Well, to beg is not a crime, but if one must beg here, members, at least, deserve to be told the truth.