₦airaland Forum

Sorry, there is nothing you can do about it, because it is deeply ingrained in their DNA. There is a vicious mentally a lot of them display when dealing with their in-laws, as if they are lepers that should be avoided. If the young girl were to be her sister would she make her stay uncomfirtable? Won't she go out of her way to assist her to pass her exams, and might even devise ways to get money from you to ensure that she gets whatever will make her stay in school pleasurable?

And the capitulation that rings through your pitiable lamentation says a thing or two about how emasculated you have become. If you condone this bullshit from her, take it from me, you will certainly condone more senseless and unreasonable bullshits from her.

The rebuttal should have been supported with a pictorial evidence, or the names of the three contractors to lend a toga of credibility to the claim. Merely saying that Fr. Mbaka demanded contracts as a reward for his support to Buhari's victory at the polls, could be viewed as an attempt to muddle the water, and cast the padre as a hustler disguised as a clergyman.

Still, Fr. Mbaka is solely responsible for whatever dirt that is thrown at him from his estranged friends. Picture of him smiling gaily with president Buhari and Osibanjo looks like a party of politicians celebrating their latest political conquest. What happens to keeping a reasonable distance from the circle of power, after delivery a message given to you by the Supreme Deity?

She was only being woman, a Nigerian woman, by revealing her abortion-ravaged unpleasant past, and expecting you to become emotional and irrational at once and present her with a Gold Star for being "honest." There is no atom of honesty in her odious revelation. God knows I will have nothing to do with such a woman, even if she happens to be world's foremost beauty queen. Therefore, rejecting her and her sullied baggage would only come natural to men of principle.

Kindly ignore those who have unfairly criticised you for rejecting what does not advance your objectives. As you rightly stated in one of your replies, women, when deciding to marry a man have some set of factors to consider and see if their interests are served or not. I don't know why people mistook you as a sort of redeemer, who has the resources to rejig the battered life of a promiscuous lady. No, you aren't a Saviour.

I thought that after describing the guy in the most unflattering way possible, she would regale us how the dude, on seeing her charming appearance which goes to prove she became better after he left. Alas, it was the other way round, as the dude successfully escaped your wrath. With this distasteful anecdote of yours, which man of good standing would be glad to stay close to you? This one na street fighter!

In any case, your attempt to become public nuisance says something profound about the orientation of angry women, and their proclivity to easily resort to violence. The good news is that, their acts of violence is always prone to fail because they are almost always on the offensive.

I thought that after describing the guy in the most unflattering way possible, she would regale us how the dude, on seeing her charming appearance which goes to prove she became better after he left. Alas, it was another way round, as the dude tried unsuccessfully to escape her wrath. With this distasteful anecdote of yours, which man would be glad to stay close to you? This one na street fighter!

In any case, your attempt to become public nuisance says something profound about the orientation of angry women, and their proclivity to easily resort to violence. The good news is that, their acts of violence is always prone to fail because they are almost always on the offensive.

It amazes me why some of you attach so much importance to what happens here, or how people tend to present themselves, which most of the time is diametrically different from who they really are.

No sane man will accept a lady with such grotesque sexual baggage, and even those who pretends to be liberal and accommodating would flee from her if and when they make such unpleasant discovery.

Eval123:
she is a good gal, I know almost everything about her past. so not everyone is a bitch

If a girl (This is a mischaracterisation of address; she should be called a lady) of 35-year-old is not good, at what age do you expect her to be good. 50?

Just move straight to Mr. Tinubu's house and let him do with you whatever he wishes. You wanted fame, now you are on the tortuous path to stardom. You will need a lot of luck as you traverse this path.

ZeddyR:
You don't have to take it personal. How do you know they genuinely cared about me.
The most important thing here for me is moving on

No, he wasn't taking it personally as you erroneously implied. It is the consequence of your previous misjudgment and naivety that you are batting with at the moment. You have to respect people who are bold enough to tell you the bitter-truth, even though it rankles.

My greatest worry in your tale, is that you appeared annoyingly unteachable, even with what you have encountered and the number of years you have lived in this planet. You are the person with the problem. Know this today and liberate yourself.

Condemn his tone and posture if you like, but never discredit the significance of his message. Both men and women have a lot to relearn and unlearn about dating and relationship.

If you clearly honestly express your views, it is a problem. If you decide not to say anything and act it out, with the intention that the message would be delivered, you have a bigger problem to contend with. What is it with these generation of women?

Maybe she has abused you in like manner in the past, to be able to extend it freely and courageously to your mum. The fact that she has the gut to utter such abominable word to your mum shows your position in the house. Even when tempers cool and sanity that apparently took a leave returns, words such as this, remains ever present in the mind.

Maybe she has abused you in like manner in the past, to be able to extend it freely and courageously to your mum. The fact that she has the gut to utter such abominable word to your mum shows your position in the house. Even when tempers cool and sanity that apparently took a leave returns, words such as this, remains ever present.

When, for Peter's sake, does possessing an AA genotype -- one of the mere accidents of being human -- a suitable substitute for having a fat and intimidating bank balance? You seem, as revealed by your dry, tasteless, and highly annoying advertisement, not to command a good grasp of the cognitive orientation of an average Nigerian lady.

For an average Nigerian lady, having a fat bank balance is crucial and ranks at the top of her to-get list. She can, for example, stronly downplay, whitewash, or excuse whatever terminal illnesses -- or hinderance (s)-- that might deny her access to having an unfettered control of the would-be husband's money. What I mean is that, a rich guy with SS genotype and is wealthy has great opportunity to marry a lady with AA genotype, if only he is financially loaded.

So your AA genotype languishes at the nadir of the ladder, and cannot be your only convincing power, a sort of attractive magnet.

When some Nigerian ladies get to some certain age bracket, they become intolerably irrational, could accept almost anything thrown at them if only it would change their singlehood status. I don't blame them, no, I blame them and the society.

If you think that all hope is lost and you can't meet a person of your dream, ignore the religious difference, and head straight to the union, with your eyes wide open. After all, not taking a risy in itself constitutes a risk.

Does this forum have moderators? How come people who are adept at spewing curses are not punished? Anyone who for whatever reason decides to hurl expletives at another is not supposed to maintain their membership. The function of a moderator goes beyond being a canon fodder who sheepishly executes, superintendents petty fights that are routinely embarked on to massage fragile egos.

I want to believe that those who lay curses on others must have used this supernormal power to solve their problems and that of their family members. They should not forget to appropriate this power towards solving everyday societal problems.

Sixfeetbelle:
Don't use her health as a weapon of trolling. That's the message here. You can use anything you want but when it comes to personal boundaries, don't cross it. Family, health, mental problems, financial status.

The bimbo you are strenuously defending has no iota of difference with the people she regularly spar with. I know you won't see her shortcomings, and I know the reason behind it. She, in her elements, has repeatedly crossed all those lines you listed.

It has been stated many times that you don't legislate or pontificate how your opponent would respond to an attack. The notion which says "all is fair in war" holds a lot of credence and significance. If you know you won't overlook an impolite, rude, or abusive person, do not engage with him/them in the first place. It is even gratifying these days that a lot of ladies have succeeded in tying some moderators to their apron's string. So much for bottom power!

LadySarah:
but how can a child still in the cocoon of its mother be an orphan?

This comment of yours is amazingly peppered with ignorance, even though it was intended as a flak. An orphan is a person who has loss one or both parents. One doesn't have to suffer the loss of his father and mother before becoming an orphan.

Must there be an English equivalent of the word? Words are products of culture, and they exist to perform sociolinguistic functions. That is why words that don't perform this role either fall into disuse and become clichés, or completely become extinct. Since the white man don't have such cultural practice, any direct translation of the word in English language will produce the most unintended, distorted, and vague meaning of the word.

thatthickgurl:
I'm not trying to play the victim card neither am I perfect, nobody is perfect.

But I try my very best to be a good human being.

I'm sorry if my rambling is too much

All the emotions I've been holding in, reached a threshold today and I just wanted to share.

Thank you for listening/reading

I deeply appreciate.

But you haven't stated what your problem is, or is that you don't have to disclose it? There is no way being opinionated alone would produce the effect it has on you without an underlying but undisclosed challenge or problem in the mix. Therefore, understanding this challenge/problem and discussing it with people who won't be judgemental, is the only way to become free from whatever it is you are passing through now. All what you have mentioned above are clearly symptoms of this problem.

This giant with clay feet is fighting a lost battle. If his godfather in Lagos would grudgingly fall into the line by accepting the realignment of power structure and humbly present himself for the revalidation exercise (as if there are people in the APC whose membership are seriously questioned), who is he? a mere hanger-on that does the biddings of his master, to challenge the weilders of power.

This giant with clay feet is fighting a lost battle. If his godfather in Lagos would grudgingly fall into the line by accepting the realignment of power structure and humbly present himself for the revalidation exercise (as if there are people in the APC whose membership are seriously questioned), who is he, a mere hanger-on that does the biddings of his master, to challenge the weilders of power.

Why did she deactivate when she has written what amounts to a Master's dissertation without waiting to sit for the "defence?" I stridently decry many loses here: lose of financial resources and lose of cognitive and intellectual resources. Is the deactivation executed to protect her image on this platform? Will the "dissertation" be held up to scrunity and suffer severe punctures? Is there a chance that the husband would chance upon her "dissertation," and consequently tore it to shred.

If only she knew what she missed by this uncharacteristic, knee-jerk, and premature deactivation. At least most nairaland ladies are predictably disposed to swallow her "dissertation" hook, line, and sinker without pausing to see if really there are areas she has shortcomings, and insanely take the man, a very "bad" man indeed, to the cleaners.

Such distasteful, irresponsible, and idiotic display of religious tyranny and rascality is only possible in a continent enveloped with darkness. The buffoon that ruined such a special day for this couple has no business being a pastor. One of the dangers of Pentecostalism is the harebrained deification of pastors, as supreme beings not be reproached, or have their actions questioned. Thus, they have become intoxicated and can do what is religiously unimaginable. Don't be shocked if a seizable, braindead fellowers of this charlatan try to excuse, explain away, or defend this show of shame.

A sensible clergyman would have commenced the service in their absence, and admonished them in love on the need to be always punctual. Not to cancel their wedding ceremony just because of mere five minutes late. Who does that?

fattprince:
Good advice bro. I'm out cos she's scaring me already.

Haha. You are becoming unnecessarily jittery and making fear-induced comment because she promised to pay you a visit. Despite the aggressive aura her message conveys, you didn't impeach the kind of visit she intends to pay you.

Be that as it may, I don't think your comments so far have infringe on any of the rules of this platform, despite her endlessly impassioned appeal to gag you through ban. However, what boggles the mind is why you appear afraid and thinks she has the capital to harm you. Maybe your conscience pricks you and finds you guilty and all what you have written about her, flow from the standpoint of animosity.

Is she vulnerable or downright promiscuous? You tend to think she is a sort victim that would turn things around when placed in the right environment.

Truth hurts. Sunday's remark is impeachable. The Oni, just like any other traditional ruiner, represents his pocket.

SilverNorGold:
Continue persecuting innocent and harmless civilians. Well-meaning Nigerians are watching...

And Yorubas should continue supporting lawlessness... We dey Nigeria together... Let's see how the movie ends...

God knows I will never support injustice. God knows I will never support anyone or group persecuting minorities.

God knows I will never fold my hands and watch idiots destroy or divide Nigeria.

Before any idiots divide Nigeria, they must first kill me...
Before any idiots burn down Nigeria, they must first kill me.

I am ready to fight anyone who wages war against Nigeria. I am ready to sacrifice my life for Nigeria..

Long live Nigeria!
God bless Nigeria.

Incredible! See the power of N30,000. I think people like you deserve an upward review of your monthly pittance, to enable you do your work effectively. Imagine if you're paid N50,000 or N60,000, you would have physically confronted Mr. Igboho and stop him from issuing eviction notice -- the type Arewa men issued to Igbo people -- to your Fulani masters.

Kriss216:
We're at the verge of losing a brother to these daughters of Eve.

Sadly, we have irretrievably lost that brother. Let's hold a requiem for him.

SmellySperm:
after paying for her dowry?

No, sir. Men pay bride price not dowry. We know most women weaponise sex, yet it is inappropriate to use force when she presents resistance.

There is a wide gulf between fantasy and reality. The former provides an endless range of unrealistic expectations, the latter menaces with hard-hitting, stone-cold indifference. This is something this guy knows better, but chooses to submerge himself in witless fantasyland.

It is in the realm of possibility that this guy just had an epiphany, and decides to write out a "manuel" on how to treat a woman that he earnestly lacks but sorely desires -- considering the disagreement he had with his babe.

Your wife understands the kind of man you are and what you are going to tolerate before bringing in her relations. However, she is carefree and a bit insensible and inconsiderate for undermining your prevailing economic situation and for not telling you before their arrival. It is late now to become a different person, from the one you projected in the beginning of your union. You need to become more tolerant, because nobody knows the kind of erratic, unplanned decision she has up her sleeves.