₦airaland Forum

XhosaNostra:
That is so true. I wasn't much aware of it at 1st. Just thought I was going through a phase when I started withdrawing socially, but it got worse & worse with each passing year. How come some people seem unchanged though? I have a childhood friend that still has a lot of friends to date. She was like that even when we were younger. I've always been more selective even as a child. As an adult, two close friends is too many. I'm always cutting people off to have a "manageable" circle of friends, otherwise I get overwhelmed.

"...two close friends is too many" indeed.

Mrbolt565:
Everything on this nairaland is girl this, girl that. Wtf.. Don't you guys quit?! They are so many things in this life that's better than pussy. Can't you guys just open your goddamn eyes and see? My girlfriend is this, my girlfriend is that. That's all I see everytime. They didn't come to you to toast you or demand anything, your the one that approach them and started begging for love up and down and your later complaining? Later they break your heart , you come on this forum and start lamenting rubbish. If they cheat on you, cheat on them back! Simple! Iswear All these guys on nairaland are just stupid asslickers claiming hard men. Instead of you to use all this time to chase a career or at least something, your busy chasing these worthless animals! Rubbish!
M
I'm out!

At the end it is difficult to discern which camp you belong to. The proficiency to hurl insult at any direction you are is not restrained by the purported indignation for "boys" who obviously do not have any objectives to achieve, let alone know what misplaced priorities are.

I am the unpaid, unappointed spokesman of the "stupid asslickers" and we reject your conclusion for obvious reasons, even though we share some your premises. We have relentlessly drum it to the ears of members that on no account should emotion trump good judgment in their dealings with our sisters. Your post, once again, reveals that a lot our members are yet to fully conform to our regulations. Words aren't enough to express the depth of our gratitude to you. Even at the risk of personal harm, you steadfastly raised a topic that not a few broach in a hush tone and only in their comfort zone.
However, we resolutely and vehemently disagree with
the notion that calls for total disengagement with the womenfolk, especially those ladies nairaland has blessed us with.This is grossly unthinkable!Telling us to completely ignore them is akin to telling an infant to reject his mother's breast, the very source of his existence. We wholeheartedly submit that caution and restraint are necessary, but not for a minute are we going to listen to any view that does not promote close and unifying association. If anything, we seek to contract closer and stronger ties with these ladies, even though we are not unaware of the presence of people who, for inexplicable personal cravings, have decided to always make us have eggs on our faces.

Be assured of my greatest regard.

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
You must b a grammarian. Off course I know u did no such thing. Perhaps u looking for a soft ground to communicate with me....lol nice one.... Congratulate me when I open a thread to that effect. Thanks

Thanks for the compliment. Why would the ground be "soft" to enable discussion with you? You know, anonymity characteristic of nairaland makes it possible to say anything one wishes. So, as for me, there is no "soft" or "hard" ground.

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
Heaven has approved. Thank you.

Praise be to God! You might think I am being playerful, but deep in my heart I am on cloud nine for you. Congratulations!

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
Why is it difficult for some people to stick to one partner biko? After they'll blame devil

Op take heart

Talking about partner, have your search yielded positive result? I ask because I embarked on marathon lone prayer and fasting seeking the approval of heaven on your behalf.

tsephanyah:
weirdo. did you escape from psychiatric or they knowingly allowed you to roam free. Anyways Nigeria's mental institutions is not functional. Creepy psycho don't reply pls

Not with the prevalence of kindergarten-like grammatical errors that riddled your lame and dismal reply. Hahaha. Excuse me for having a well-deserved laughter. Let me point out just one of them: " ... Nigeria's mental institutions are (not "is"" as you ignorantly rendered it. If you have any iota of respect, you will cease calliing me underserved names, and applaud my altruistic intervention to strengthen your communication skills.

tsephanyah:
Grammarphobic is a thing, you need medical assistance

In a futile quest to impress, you unwittingly "murdered" comprehension and signification, two most basic elements of communication.

tsephanyah:
If some dude has his bro-feels hurt enough to come limping into my comments- he is not allowed to then ask me to leave my comments on my post to make him comfy in his bro-flake ways

I am gonna make a spray called "bro-be-gone" and start dousing my posts. Move on jare

You didn't succeed in making sense with this awful understanding of English language.

sandra50:
In life there is always that one person you love so dearly..yes his call did bring back memories but I spoke with him like a normal friend and told him i had forgiven him..I have gotten some marriage proposals after him but I want to be with someone I truly mlove so I will be able to forget him completely.

Move on; don't start comparing notes. I guess you are already using him as standard of evaluation even though him didn't turn out to be what you expected. You really have to outline what this harsh experience has taught you.That is the best way you can profit from it. Since you still have feelings for him, I will advise you cut off completely all channels of communication.

sandra50:
It has actually robbed me alot.he actually called me yesterday apologizing that's why I made this post.

His call must have brought back pleasant memories you are struggling to suppress and disown.Tell me the truth, did his call made you lovesick? Nevertheless, you have to be positive and optimistic about what the future holds for you. And you can bet it is bright and splendid. As it were at the moment, rising above this disappointment will serve as a litmus test of your strength of character.

It is obvious both of you are Igbo. What might have stopped him from marrying you despite the amount of efforts and sacrifices you made to keep your relationship afloat? That is, if your account of what transpired is true. Maybe he never loved you enough to challenge his people and their stereotypes. Maybe he was docile and indecisive; unable to stick to his opinion even when such opinion will earn him isolation.

It is unnecessary bellyaching when he has forgotten about you and the memories you once had and cherished. Move on, you have a whole lot ahead of you. Dwelling on the past will rob you the dividend of the present.

This is against the constitution and practice of ASUU. The decision to call-off an industrial action is not subject to the uninformed views of social media users. We sure have Trojan Horses in ASUU, people whose ultimate aim is to circumvent the constitution.

Wuraola01:
@Op, you quite funny

Well, you alone can change things. Try to speak in lame man's language. From ur post, I kind of have the feeling you do it intentionally.

My observation tho

Nope. The Op will never speak in "lame" man's language. I prefer a "blind" man's language.

I surmise it is your "comprehensive" knowledge of the English language that is responsible for the refusal to obey punctuation rules. It is one thing to memorise high-sounding words to be used for show-off, while it is entirely another thing to understand the rules and conventions of the language. The latter, and not the former, depicts true and grounded learning. So much for possessing "excessive" vocabularies.

TessBiwom:

Just submit application without much ado. A stitch in time saves nine.

AryEmber:
You're too wicked.

I am not remotely "wickeder" than you are.

excessmon:
I have read with keen attention about how people use wrong word to express issues on nairaland


The most annoying is the use of cheater for a male or female that cheats....


Note this a person that cheats is a cheat not a cheater

A cheater is not an English word....so pls let's correct ourselves...


My piece though

Oga, the word "cheater" is an English word. It is a noun. There is an investigative programme aired on DStv that exposes people cheating on their partners called "CHEATERS."

The headline of your post is misleading. You have wrongly "dictated" one word, not words.

[quote author=TessBiwom post=74351599][/quote]You just can't imagine how serious I am. The only snag here is the ongoing strike action of ASUU, and the fact that the said lady is on holiday now. She is a final year student.

TessBiwom:
Lolz..let me save you the stress,I went to a state university.

This is unbelievable. Anyway, I will take the lady's picture and send it to you. She must be your twin from another mother.

I have sadly realised that there are so many "spoilt" people on nairaland. To be honest, I am not proud of this discovery. Imagine you run into someone you know (although this time online where wolves and sheeps uncharacteristically inhabit) and decide to say "hello" to the person. Then all manner negative thoughts are being invested in your harmless desire to exchange mere pleasantries. Anyway let me wish all of you Happy New Year even in your askance disposition.

TessBiwom:
Pictures or I don't believe you

I have already seen your profile picture and yes, it is you. Although I don't know your name, but I have the resources to dig deeper and perhaps, surprise you if you keep denying your identity.

TessBiwom:
No,I'm not.

There is someone who looks like you in the department of History and Diplomatic Studies. Maybe she is your sister or relation.

Iamtosignno:
Notice !!! To those English Teachers That would be crying like baby about my English
Punctuation Is Not Compulsory
You just have to understand every words



I Started Dating This Girl This Month 3 weeks to be Precisely
first week of our relationship i started having strange feeling about her Guess What My Feeling Was Right last week
she told Me "Shocked Thing i never hear in my life"
She Played Two Guys At The Same For 3 years
19 years old girl for that matter
when i heard this
My Head Scatter As if someone hit my head with pestle
i thought of ending the relationship but i rethink i should give her another Chance so that she will not thinking because she tell me her secret
And she messaged the following day that she is for real with me reason why she tell me her secret
but i think she is trying to play me too
she called me today and told me i should buy her
Something Tomorrow And I know
she is referring to new year Gift
NO BE SAY I STINGY
and i was surprised cause since we begin our affair she never ask me for anything even when i want to buy she will say i shouldn't bother
As a player she is I don't trust and believe her anymore
She kinda virgin To ME Cause her boobs and buttock are still firm and how she responded when i asked her twice about it
first time she say she doesn't like to talk about it
second time she when we go deeper i will know
that Was Before She Told Me The Secret

As A Player She Is I Don't Trust And Believe Her Anymore


Any Guy In This Kind of relationship before or Now
Guys what do you think or Advice
Girls is Your Mate For Real Or Play

Who said punctuation doesn't matter? You? Little wonder you are being hoodwinked by a teenager.

TessBiwom:
Follow your instinct brother.At the end of the day,it's the both of you that will be in the relationship.good luck

Are you a student of University of Abuja?

How can you in your right senses refer to them as "hoes" and even invite nairaland members to be complicit in your unmentionably tirade? Any sensible user of this platform should severely and strongly chastise you for deciding to make zero use of your senses. For God's sake, these ladies you thoughtlessly address in an unpalatable term, belong to a home, have feelings and loved ones. The same, I think, applies to everyone of us. What makes you think you have the right to name and shame them?

There is no sugarcoating it; this is totally unacceptable and borderline stupidity. Whatever prompts this descent to inanity, I think there should be a way to resolve conflict, insteading of resorting to crass, infantile vituperation. Everyone deserves to be respected. You don't have the monopoly to unfairly insult everybody, because you enjoy the veneer of anonymity.

Ranchhoddas:
Lol.
I can relate.

I finished read Michelle Obama's Becoming a few days ago and in one the chapters she described Barack as a fact guy; too cerebral for most people and how so few people could relate to his way of thinking.

It was an epiphany for me; "you are not alone" I told myself. Even the great men suffer this, hell it could even be a prerequisite for greatness.

Once you begin to absorb information many times faster than everyone around you, you start becoming
very lonely. It is my reality. You begin to wonder why seemingly educated people cannot grasp basic things. You have to start operating at their level so you don't come off as an ITK.
Someone once told me with pride that he did not know who Nigeria's vice-president was. This was during the last administration. This was someone I expected to be better than most. I was deflated.

Well educated and intuitive people suffer different kind of alienations, which emanate from their struggle to reconcile their world-views with the humdrum of everyday living. It's difficult to stand out if one is encumbered by the expectation to conform to the societal norms. In fact, it is necessary, sometimes, to challenge or abandon some prevailing and established, but highly erroneous narratives that have acquired the status of a holy writ.

Almost all famed Inventors and pacesetters have been alienated and ridiculed in history. V. I. Lenin, the man celebrated for giving form to the abstract socialist theory of Karl Marx -- another highly regarded iconoclastic figure whose belief culminated in his rejection of the capitalist system and elected to die in poverty --- in a revolution that put an end to capitalism to rural and backward Russia in the 20th century to the chagrin of the West. But Lenin was a victim of alienation for being a step head of his peers. The intensity of this vice forced Lenin to withdrew from school and study at home, whose family had earned societal notoriety for espousing revolutionary ideas. Nevertheless, it didn't damp the genus in young Lenin. If anything, it prepared him for the gigantic task that would be placed on his shoulders.

Generally speaking, people are comfortable with mediocres, who rarely impeach the rationale behind every conduct. But inevitably unnerve at people who display intelligence and knowledge. If you display knowledge in formal and informal setting, you are bound to be misunderstood, to be derided, and even shamed.

So, my thesis is: alienation, although used as a tool to discourage and "tame" intelligent people, is very functional and productive. It is precisely what makes great people thick. Since they have succeeded in defining who they are, it is not surprising that majority of them are later accepted and appreciated.

A person who suffers financial difficulties does not truly know his real self, unless he has undergo the tortuous exercise of self-discovery to fully ascertain who he is. Not having money might make one calm and sober, but it is not the ultimate depiction of his personality.

Two things clearly reveal who men are: money and power. If one has money, his character manifests and is self-evident. If he is humble, then he is truly humble. On the other hand, if he is arrogant, that is who he is. The facade of hypocrisy has been shattered by the arrival of money.

Power has does many unpleasant things to those opposse it; people who were hitherto adjudged to be humble and kind. There are many famous axioms which reveal the struggle of man and power -- in relation to how we perceive human attributes. One is: " Absolute power corrupts absolutely." The other: "A friend in power is a friend lost."

MissRaine69:
I refuse to dumb myself down I accepted that we did not function on the same wave length and I would be utterly and truly miserable having to explain every single thing I said.

Here she goes again! This is a well-articulated sentence (although unconventionally long) but nonetheless marred by the refusal to use a comma and full stop.

MissRaine69:
And you felt it pertinent to comment.
Minor digression firstly it’s Tom, Dick & Harry secondly the purpose of this forum is to do exactly as I see fit and you can’t do jack about it.
Cretin!

You don't have good understanding of the role of punctuation in English language. I have read many of your post and discovered it is a shortcoming you are yet to take note of. Your second paragraph should be correctly rendered this way: Minor digression. Firstly, it's Tom, Dick, and Harry. Secondly, the purpose of this forum is to do exactly as I see fit and you can't do jack about it.

mogbojaiye:
Bro go make money, ,,,this people u are thinking of has nothing to offer u

Every century has a name ascribed to it
Like 20th century is called industrial age
21st century is called computer age

Bro u see those century even females have a name ascribed too

20th century family house wife
21st century is feminist or get money b4 u approach me,, ,,,bro go make money,

I don't know how old u are! ,but I believe u are still young for ur eye to see dat one single mother is admiring u, money way u go born for recharge card gather them invest on your skill learning, pay your dues now so u can reap it few years from now, if u know how woman matter day drain brain, finance, and career and opportunities u will make up from your fantasy

Peace
Shalom

I am impressed with the name/title you gave to the centuries, which depicts the trajectory that shaped these centuries. However, the 20th century is not called the "industrial age." The industrial revolution began in Europe in the 18th century. By the 19th century, Europe had become industrialised which greatly stimulated their quest to colonise Africa as a market for finished good and source of cheap raw materials. Colonialism formally began in the 20th century. So,19th century was the "industrial age".

The 2oth century, in history, was commonly referred to as the "age of freedom". This sentiment was propagated by idealist American President, Willdrod Wilson. Almost all parts of the world, especially those under the crushing yoke of colonialism, gained independence from their oppressors. Even ethnic groups in Europe began to reassert their rights to forge unions based on ethnic and religious lines.

While your description of the 21th century as "computer age" is perfectly spot on.

Despite the fact that this is an old tread, as an apostle of grammatical felicity, I feel compelled to make contribution regarding your view. First, it is wrong to think that every white person who speaks English is from England, or countries designated as native speakers of English. Even in these countries, some people, especially those not properly educated, still make solecism both in speech and writing. I wouldn't have bothered to write this if you had stated that people should be corrected with love, and not to shame and demean their personality. Not to use your words, "give them some slack." Obviously meaning to allow them potter in mediocrity.

Second, we should always encourage our people to unerringly obey grammar rules since we have chosen English as our lingua franca. A vast majority of Nigerians cannot speak their languages fluently, or write it without making errors. So, if we fail to master our local languages partly due to the intrusion of colonialism and struggle with understanding of English language, then what language should we proficiently speak/write?

It is clear you don't understood -- or maybe appreciate -- the relevance of ban in a social media platform. Other respectable social media platforms have rules which attract penalty. Nairaland should not be an exception. Therefore, I don't think it is wise to stop using ban as a punitive measure.

What we should demand, however, is a fair system where moderators are held accountable and are not using ban to witch-hunt people who have disagreement with their friends. In other words, a reason for banning someone should be lucidly and unambiguously expressed. A lady once opened a thread where she copiously lamented how disagreement with someone earned her a ban. It is simply nauseating.