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Mariangeles:
As a vlogger, talking is also part of the business.
Some people might not even be interested in what you do, but they just like to hear you talk.

Ok.
I even drafted out one recipe today that I’m going to try soon.
If it comes out right, I’ll keep it for my book.



That’s cool.
I respect people who make move for reconciliation.

When you hung out with him, did it seem awkward or was it like old times? Like, the drift never happened…



I na a mata ihe osiso because you pay attention to detail.
You know we’re the same zodiac, so our personalities match perfectly. And I consider it a blessing.
We talk and think alike.
At least, two of my sister’s friends have read some of my posts on nairaland, and thought I was her.

I think when siblings don’t get along, it is due to clash of personalities.

Abii..

That's nice..Recipe ga, o wu maka pastries, ka o wu general home meals?

No..we didn't quarrel na...I just ghosted him then...He drove down to where I was waiting for him..we came out of our cars and greeted like old school guys who ran into each other..

Then drove to the venue..and gisted like guys..Same old vibes...sip our beer and gisted..He is one guy We don't hide anything from each other..

Even in the presence of his babe, we still talk about her... men eeh!!!... I knew he wanted me to weigh his babe as his guy...I did.

She is a graduate..and she is daddying him Very calm and loyal babe from what i observed...So likely he will kick start ihe ishi di babe by December.
It was fun rejuvenated...First time I am happy mending an old way...If not, onye mgbara nkiti, nke ahu a gaala...

Yea, I mutala m ofuma o...
I do...In physical, I listen more.

But, talk more when I am comfortable with the person.

O tu eshi muta unu di very unique and lovely...And your parents will live long o because they have a busy home steady activity ...kitchen nor unu na aka..

Your mom wu director, gi wu manager...Your sisters wuzi followers..

If things where moving exactly as planned, I would have encouraged them to adopt a little girl as our sister..And one who will also keep them busy parenting.

Yes clash of personalities can mess the circle...Ya wuru my two last brothers when we were growing up...Clash was too much..Ya suru ha mma m eburu utali na aziza... military mom..

But now, they mix up fine...The older wu di onye na ga na nke last born steady.

princeemmma:
abi wetin person go do, life no balance, op they complain, but some people no even get that kind of savings

He isn't aware..I do business..It is funny when you see some married guys account balance...

But they are living and training kids...A man is blessed when he marries that lady meant for him on earth...I mean you two wake and smile at eachother.. you are satisfied and morale is high to conquer the day...

E no easy, but don't relax o...Try so Many things at the same time...to pick multiples on income no mattet how small.

Betterprospect:
Good day Nairalander. I'm single, 30 years old. I studied agriculture related course at University level, and I presently worked in that field and I earned about 120k monthly.

I feel unfulfilled and I'm lacking interest day after day. The unfulfillment brewed mostly from my bosses egoistic and narcissistic approach to his employee, the insane working hours, and the lack of liberty, and most importantly, I feel I could do better. Now I have a meagre 2 million naira saved up, small? I know. Buy I'd like to pursue my passion in tech albeit from ground zero.

Now my dilemma is:

1. Seeing that I'm old and already past my prime for a career change at 30 yrs old, does a pursue of another career make sense?

2. Knowing that 2 million is small and would not last long. Does is it make sense to just up and leave?

3. I have a small biz I ideal which I feel could give me close to 50k monthly, but thing is, this is Nigeria and I might be wrong.

4. Should I just suck it up and continue for another year or two? Everyone I asked seems to think I should.

P,S. I worked 12 hours a day and its impossible I merge the two together.

First, I see a low self esteem case in you..

Many people, even married people are in your condition...Doing the job for the bills...Nothing else..
Whoever employed and pay you, is like a god you have here....With the talk down on boss mentality, are you sure you can be a boss? I doubt.


2Million is meagre to you? Another case of lack of confidence in yourself..Some people who live in flats with a car, may not even have upto 100k in account...Just one shady deals to another but using packaging to mess your ego.

You work 12hours, you still have time to engage in side hustles...Use it to test how hard it is to start and grow a business in out volatile Economy, then you will learn to appreciate your boss...You think it is easy employ just one person and you will know humans are the worst animal to control on earth. We are too stubborn.

Lastly, the marriage talk @30 you are putting yourself under unnecessary pressure, mind you, depression is real..
Guys wise up, you must have that mental, psychological and a bit financial security before you will go and frustrate somebody's daughter.

You might be a bit financial secured, but from your write up, you seem indicisive such men don't make good husband...I mean how you be soo scared of your little achievements and so unsure of yourself @30.

As a man, life starts @30...Your life just started..Go and conquer your world...You started well and on a fair table.
Your 2million should be saved in dollars If you are not using it in the next 5months...Or you go for a genuim landed property if you are not going to use the 2million in the next 2-3years..When the land appreciates you resell and take your capital and profit.


At this stage, you must learn to move at your pace..the only competition you need is you, and yourself...Working smart to double whatever you have...And strive to marry at 35.....

Remove yourself from peer pressure...you are now a man...How confident you are is a what makes you super attractive for the woman you are going to settle down with...

No age is small to change career in tech world if it is your passion.

Exkandayee:
Bro you senior me with 2 years and I worth close to 500k dolls,,,I dropped out of school at 23, through wuru wuru I found myself hereinAmericase,but life is not easyoooh,see ehh bro, lemme tell you something,use that your 2 mili,300k go get you sk Visa, just japa,,and hustle hard,I bet it before you clock 35 you go deh alright, find one mixed race marry or kpatakpata marry Asian you go see how happy you go be,no marry naija girl or you go be unhappy

No marry naija girl...Please is this a normal now?

I was speaking a friend who left the country recently, and some how Our discussion lead to wife matters...Dude told me plain..He has no business with a Nigerian woman again.

Like I know understand wetin the play?

Are Nigerian ladies that totally off?

Nawa o

princeemmma:
My man you are you own problem, no matter how much you save, its still won't be enough for your life and future, sometimes life is not really about how much you save, its about how much you are ready to face life....... i was once a business owner, i thought my business could sustain me to any length, because my income at the end of the month sometimes is more 50k....... but during the covid19 pandemic, everything crash up,............... i picked up myself, and applied for a job where i am currently earning less than 50k monthly and am married with a kid................. I pay house rent and feed my family with this few money....


How am i surviving? i don't f$cking know.....

Mehnnnnn!!! This life sef...

Mariangeles:
Cannot be overemphasized.



When I saw the title of the thread, I intentionally avoided it.
Your comment led me to read and comment.
Nsogbu kariri.


I’m in this generation, but I’m not of this generation.



What I can truly tell you is that one does not know what they’re capable of -how far they can go for another person- until they’re in love.

Again, one cannot honestly answer certain questions (like that one) until they find themselves in the situation.
In other words, only in that situation can you truly be tested.
Kind of like how Peter swore he can give his life for Jesus, only to deny him.

Lol...That narration with peter is spot on.

Though very different from relationship stuffs...After all Abraham si sarah wu nwanne ya nwaanyi mgbe ihe kariri nwoke biakwutere ya..

Your answer was logical and intelligent...Maybe this man is living a reckless life as well...Excessive consumption of substances especially aphrodisiacs and man powers I was advising my guy, ya ana efe ishi kpaka kpaka.. Unhealthy habits set one up for such issues...

Just like the popular musician...Chinedu Nwadike...He was a baller during rochas regime..All his Christian functions, chinedu used to lead others...Plus ana eri na añu nu...Ugbu a o dala kidney failure

Mariangeles:
Did you watch it? Gordon is fun to watch.
He hardly keeps still.

I’m more of a writer.
If I would do anything with my love for food, it would be to write a recipe book.


Who made the move? Your or him?



True.



Especially when in the mood and midst of people we’re comfortable with.

The other day, my sister was just talking and talking to me, and I was not in the mood, then I was like I hope you’re not planning to talk me to death?
Then later, when she was about to sleep, I kept on talking and talking to her, and she kept quiet, then I was like are you listening? Why did you keep quiet?
Then, she said when you wanted to talk me to death nko?



Yes, ndi nke anyi ji eleda ha anya...Especially na Anambra...Gi kpa agwa ka onye bush, asi na ishi Ebonyi.

‘Ke ndi Anambra jiri otu ukwu karia.

I did, he resemble one vloger...Best food ever..
Talks a lot...

Cool..Do write and start selling na..

He posted something on his whatsaap status, I replied, he was like but chief you dey fvck up...I told him I know..I can explain.. I accepted the mess up whole heartedly..So we fixed a hangout wuni yesterday...He was happy sha .

Na very loyal friend..And such people you strengthen the ties with them. He too accepted he was soo desperate with chasing of the cash then...

Thank God he is a bit comfortable now..With a woman by his side...You know umu nwaanyi unu wunu mmiri na meju anyi oyi...He is calm now.

Hahahahaha talk her to death...Everyone talks more in the midst of comfort..

Gina umu nne gi ndi nwaanyi, must be best of friends okwa ya?

Ndi Anambra eeh

Mendeline:
My traditional wedding is in 2 months time but I just discovered I am 5weeks and 5 days pregnant. My last period was 19 of January and on 23rd, I had sex with my ex mistakenly and it happened without protection. I didn't allow him release his fluid inside me because I started feeling pains and when he pull out, there was plenty blood on his dick.
From 25th my husband to be has been having sex with me almost everyday. Now I don't know who is responsible for my pregnancy.
Doctors in the house, please who could be responsible? I don't want any issue in my marriage

You are getting ready for marriage, and you still dey bleep ex? Smh women sef...Must you give him farewell sex?

I think most of you don't understand what it is to be an ex....Ex must be in the past...You want to chop peter, chop paul, marry John and keep Tom as assistant...

Imagine the peace of mind if it was on your finance that was fvcking you currently...The joy of carrying his baby would have made you glow like never before..

Well you have set yourself on a journey of no trust...Just know your husband will bleep outside very well...Karma is real..

As for the baby, hehehehe pray he doesn't resemble your ex in all looks...He will come for him/her....

I don't keep track for ex..It gives me bigger space to appreciate the next lady.

Keeping an ex is a ticking time BOMB..

Their GOAT is really a RAT....

blackboy:
APC should stop displaying why their 8 years at the presidency was a fiasco.

All mentioned governor won their current positions under the PDP not with the APC

Such a dumb association called party.

They don't even know zamfara state governor moved to APC with a PDP mandate..

Same with Ayade..lmao..

Anything APC becomes a joke.

Mariangeles:
That is what happens when people don’t take their time to get to know each other, to fall in love.
They’re always in a hurry.

I feel sorry for this generation.

As in eeh...That get to know eachother for a period of time is very important...

But, ndi a ma nu onwe ha, OP said he was part of the lady's training in school...I just don't like this...Because of some reasons.

I feel a man kwesiri I meet a lady nna ya zuchara, bia kwnayere ha ugwu....Ha gozie ya, ya kporo nwunye oma ya lawa..

Too many disappointments with all this I trained her school people...It will lead to marrying out of pity.. from both sides.

I si sorry for generation oma anyi a, o lee generation nke i no?

Honestly, can you do that for your husband? Sacrificing a kidney for him? Gwa m eziokwu o..

Mariangeles:
No. Just the size of Gordon Ramsay’s kitchen below, that’s all. And I’d be fine.



No aspect in particular.


I ji onwe gi a ma atu?



I’d say just normal. Not unnecessarily.
I can get chatty when I’m in the mood too.



O di ka ndi Igbo na e leda ha anya?


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mhDJNfV7hjk

Ok...gina YouTube..chefs ...when will you Start your own channel na....ka anyi mara gi amara...Ya wuru godi your pastries.

;DEhe na..Me and any human as well...

That my friend I told you I ghosted, I reconciled with him last week...We hangout today...Although his babe ekwehu ka anyi kpa nkata as guys... O huziri m, Ihe love ha anoro on 100%
He told her he was coming to see me, she insisted on coming along...Come dey distract men discussion...It reminds me of the things people do When they are in deep stuffs..my rugged guy, ga wuzi onye PDA I thank God...ije love

I had to reschedule the meeting...


Lol, Chatty , Okwa i ma si zodiac gi ji ekwu piom! Initially they will appear like they don't, but ya suru unu,eweee!!! Unu ga ekwulahu onye owula.. Ma mpa m, ma some sagg I know physically..That's why I had to ask...Anyway i si chatty...That's cool.


Yes, ndi nke anyi ji eleda ha anya...Especially na Anambra...Gi kpa agwa ka onye bush, asi na ishi Ebonyi.

LemmyCreationz:
Eweeeeeey!

Any song from Ada Ehi

By the way, I'm available for your writing and design jobs, see my signature below, thanks

Especially congratulations..

NwaAmaikpe:




Trust me, I had a lot as a bachelor.

We all know my type is rare;

Being an AA, O+, HIV-, cute-faced, smart brained, big preek, sweet-tongued, comfortable pursed, relatively fulfilled weirdo with a dual-nationality, I was the object of many ladies' cravings as they considered me the true epitome of the term 'husband material'.

NwaAmaikpe had to device a plan to avoid being trapped by those thirsty broads.
I'd date mostly A.S genotyped girls, and when they start getting comfortable, I'd tell them I was A.S all the while but was scared to tell them out of fear I'd lose them.
Depending on the temperament of the lady, I could say I just found out the previous day.

The same mumu girls will be the ones counselling me on how the future of our relationship was bleak for the sake of our kids.

I'd grudgingly accept their verdict that we couldn't get married but that didn't stop the kpekus from being served, Some even after their marriages because I was their soulmate, while their husband was just a partner.

I happened to see one many many years ago with her toddler at a busstop waiting for a ride, I picked them up and while introducing me to her son, she said. "that could have been your daddy but fate said no", I nodded.

If only the mumu knew.

Lmaoooo...the comedian in chief...

BigBashiru:
Females always do what's convenient for them. There's nothing like love.... they stay only so long as it suits them....

100%...

It's a pity.

Just few will be different...Very very few.

Hamachi:
My cousin who got married last year July is actually thinking of leaving the marriage because the husband was diagnosed of kidney failure and needs a transplant. The summary of the story is that the family of the man is expecting the newly married wife to donate one of her kidney to the man because my cousin is biological match to the husband, she and her family has said LAI LIA O, that his their child and they should find a way to go about it. After dragging this issues for some months, my cousin family are pushing her to file for a divorce

A. Would it be considered wickedness on her part considering, his not only the husband but PARTLY trained her in school too?

B. The marriage is less than a year no much money to even look for a seller, Aunty want to japa and leave the man

What do you think?

For better for worse in the mud...

I wonder where them the meet these kind partners...

Ndi Ara!.

The kind beating them go chop for people's farm

Richy4:


When you said that the money is not there, I just kind of wonder how much should be available before someone can decide to take responsibility...

If his father is not leaving with him,
<<< Won't he pay rent... Won't he eat or will he go to the shop owner and tell them to give him their products but that the money is not there that they should bear with him?

<<< If he stays on his own, electricity bill will be paid with the money that is not there right?

<<< I will not blame the man for anything because even if he instilled good values on his kids... Some will still turned out to be what they wanted to be... Some turned out to be selfish, some liberal minded...I wished that he should go with tough love on him....

I really wonder what they will do to a 29yr old man..who is acting ignorant to responsibilities

Okeosisi wey die on top woman is that one an Okeosisi

A na ezuzu na.....fools using the opportunity to humiliate a woman on her own.

Twoclans:
I just hope they arrest everybody who humiliated the woman and prosecute them.

As long as the man has no physical wounds or Mark's on the mans body to suggest she hit him then I dont know where this accusation is coming from.

It was totally inhuman...I mean a wife humiliated for giving her husband her local government to service

This ununna must have tried luck with her and she no gree if you do proper check...Na person wey she curve go carry her Matthias....

Ndi ara

Mariangeles:
Unless the kitchen is spacious and the man is there to help out.
Personally, I can hardly stand cramped spaces.



O wu ha bia jizi uka kwuzugbuo m ahu?
I don’t like talking/gisting while cooking



For real?

Spacious! I choro hotel sized kitchen


Help out like in what aspect na?
Hapu ga o, i huru love, ihu love, onweghi ihe i na agahu eme o.

It is something that can change the way you see things normally...And you won't even know when you will adjust.

Normally do you talk very well, when you are not cooking?

Yes for real o, though the uneducated ones. Umu nwaanyi ha ji kwa ama mma o..but no height.

Mariangeles:
Of course, a biala m!


Nuruni nga ahu.



I ga a wudi o kpa n’usekwu.



Na Lagos ebe a, ndi Ebonyi have taken over the business, including I ye puffpuff.

Lol..

Eche m ma umu Nwaanyi unu na alike nwoke na bia nso na usekwu na?

You know when cooking, The man will be there na wugi gist...Even ya nwe kwuo mmanya, ya ñuru ya enyetu gi love ana ato...

Ka iwu ndi nwaanyi ahu ga agbakashi ma ya hu onye owula na kitchen Onye zee ishi ga chuo ya oso.


Yea, Ebonyi people carry such hustle for head..E ji ha agbali...Iwe m ebe ha no wu, ufodu ha ji amu umu ka okuko...No control...Just Deepening the poverty well..

Mariangeles:
Of course. Umu nwaanyi shigburu onwe ha n'ike.



You dey mind am?

Okwa i biakwala ugbua, e ji zi iye akara a ma Nwaanyi shiri ike
It is more fun watching your woman take time to prepare such things just for you and the household...Chukwu goziwe unu.. gozie kwa anyi nwere ndidi chere ya di ready

Nke a wunu oru diri ha na...Although a man can do it as well.

Lies in the media can make a Region look like hell..

othenok:
Still being practised in Anambra.

Interesting...Thats nice

Mariangeles:
The bolded should've been the main point.
I think that is where the problem lies.

How can you say the money is not there, when he works?
No matter how little he earns, at the end of every month, he should be able to say nna m, jide nke a. That is being a responsible adult.

Teaching o wu oru oge ugbua

Just to pass time..Okwa nke akwu ga some 13000naira...ego data

Hapu, i gahu aghota ije nwoke.

I know for a reason, when a child see money, he or she will want to impress the parents...This is a must.

He should sit him down and talk to him...The problem we assume as humans a lot...Some believe you must ask before it will be given.

I have come to accept a principle, if I need anything from anyone, I won't assume he/she knows...I must ask for it...Bible see kuo aka, a ga emehere gi...Seek and you shall find.

He should go talk to his son like a man.

Richy4:

Oga the money not being there is not an excuse... A son that had a liberal mind to give will make an effort to give and help the situation no matter how small...If he makes an effort with the little he has, it will give the father the assurance that if he had more based on his financial situation,he will do more... and I believe his dad wouldn't have been here to ask for solutions from his fellow young people like US ..

What about little domestic chores like mowing the lawn? Cleaning the house? Buying even an item as small as detergent powder for family use... Does that also require millions as well?...

He earns little and could not open his eyes to see a struggling father at his age, is it when he starts earning millions that he will do it?

Since he can't see the situation on ground on his own, he should be meant to see it clearly by every possible means...

Like you said, a son that has a liberal mindset to give...Unfortunately he isn't.

And I still maintained, the money is not there..

Lastly, parents should find a way to teach their children how to be responsible from that tender age..
For example, there are little little things you could pay outsiders to do for you, You simply let them do it amd and you pay them..Then ask your wife to monitor how they spend their earnings.

Parenting is a serious job..How you train them is how they will grow.

Growing up, I and my siblings were taught to hustle from teenage..We revolt when my parents try to get labourers do some jobs..We rather do it with our friends collect the money and share.

By the time we became adults, there are quite a handful of things we can do in addition to education..Now, my parents are relaxed knowing they have done their parenting to best of their ability...

If you don't your kids training well, you will grow old to keep struggling when you are meant to relax no matter how small.

There is no way you can force a 29year old man to do anything aside sitting him down to have a man to man discussions.

TempUser:
Ororo!

Pessi fans right now...

So messi is now pessi...

You guys are cruise masters

Desusi:
Naira landers, kindly advise me on what to do.lam over 60 years old, a widower. By the grace of God,l was blessed with three children of which two are graduates with good grades from reputable universities here Nigeria, one is still undergraduate before the departure of my late wife some years back. As a retired man with meager money,l decided to manage a little business which barely give me much money. One of these my children,a professional, though not teacher, is currently residing with me doing teaching job in different places as part time, pending when he would get a much better job. We are living in my personal house.l would single handedly pay electricity bills,lawnman,etc .My son would not want to help in any way,not even with pure water of #10 claiming that he is with his father.Efforts to convince him to assist me is not yielding positive result, instead he would pick quarrels with me.His senior sister has married, while the junior brother is still in the school as dependant, what sort of counseling do you think he need to change. Iam afraid even if this boy owns chop rite in future, he would not help either.

The honest truth is that the money is not there..When a child starts earning, the first show love to their parents, before extending to a lover/life partner.

Again, it depends on how you trained them, did you raised them in a way they must accept responsibilities? Were you the type of parent that is always giving?. If so, he has become comfortable with that..

Nowadays I don't have money is no longer excuse, we have many ways of making legit money...That teaching can deceive people a lot and push the person to poverty with comfortable mind.

With current economy of Nigeria, teaching that is not in the tertiary institutions shouldn't be for a man.

It is mainly a woman thing now, as she will use it to support her man.

Lastly,don't put pressure on him, some human move at their own pace...depression is real...Allow him work at his own pace and grace...Talk to him às your fellow man...He must assume responsibility now..if he can't now, I doubt if any woman can tolerate that..make him understand things he learn now, will be what he is going to live with when he marries.

Mariangeles:
How can that akara be 1k in the east?
I makwa ihe I n’ekwu?

That guy talk nonsense a lot...The akara is still 50naira per one here..

Them go come online, dey talk rubbish..

Akara I bought 2weeks ago here was 50naira per one.

A great Aquarian....doing great without forcing it.

Mariangeles:
Of course, it does but making it is fun.

Yea sure...Very fun when you have a mom or a sister or a wife/gf who does it very well, and doesn't see it as stress at the same time.

MufasaLion:
Brother, there's no problem with a lady that squirt but I don't think any man would want to be with the type of woman OP married. He described her as someone that squirt like it's a fountain.

Also, how did you cope with that lady that peed frequently? I wouldn't like such thing.

I think there is a place we all make sacrifice as human...Relationship/marriage is that one of such place.