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Kayceenaz:
Whenever news filters in online/offline about a man either alleged or proved to have cheated on his wife, abundant outbursts follow. Often, "Men are polygamous in nature" is argued. It is believed recognizing this reality by the man's wife and other women (single/married) prepares them to accept cheating, ridding the matter of seriousness critics give. I disagree. Men are neither polygamous (nor monogamous) in nature.

First, a man's polygamous tendencies are from nurture, not nature. This habit of justifying marital unfaithfulness, in the Christian context, by citing African culture is misplaced. Here, African men in the remote past chose to be with or marry more than one woman for social and economic reasons. To highlight their affluence to society and have more hands to help in their farming/subsistent agriculture venture. A husband who cheats on his wife makes a choice to succumb to temptation. If polygamy is actually natural to men, then we would have no cases of monogamous men.

Second, every man contains reason and instincts according to neurology and biology. Reason is a human being's edge over lower animals like dogs, goats, sheep, lions and so on, although we share trait of instincts with them. Someone may argue our bodily instincts, a biological feature passed from parents to offspring, push us toward pleasure and preservation of the human specie. This can extend to being with more than one woman, hence men are polygamous. This view is myopic. True, our instincts can suggest such but our reason can say no when we've intentionally developed it to morally serve us that way. Thus, a man chooses to be polygamous when he develops his reason to serve him accordingly. Humans, men are not the at the mercy of their instincts, as promoters of "Men are polygamous in nature" opine. A man can choose to obey or disobey his instincts courtesy of his reason.

Clearly, idea of "Men are polygamous in nature" is used by men who have a women weakness, refuse to take personal responsibility and work on it. They hide under culture and science unintelligently to secure tolerance of their bad behaviour (in Christian view) by women and society.


©Kelechi O. Naze (KON)

Thanks for such thought-provoking and timely discourse.
Permit me to answer using Scriptures.

1. There are 2 categories of people; The saved and the unsaved. One who has encountered Christ and one who hasn't but simply religious or anti-religion.

2. Every man who has not encountered Christ is a victim of the curse of the fallen Adam. Struggling to survive and Lack of self control. Unless he finds Grace.

Gen.3.17 - Then to Adam He said, "Because you have heeded the voice of your wife, and have eaten from the tree of which I commanded you, saying, "You shall not eat of it': "Cursed is the ground for your sake; In toil you shall eat of it All the days of your life.

3. The fallen woman is bound to love and cling to a man even to her destruction. She can't control it because she also suffers lack of self-control. It is the curse on Eve. Unless she finds Grace.

Gen.3.16 - To the woman He said: "I will greatly multiply your sorrow and your conception; In pain you shall bring forth children; Your desire shall be for your husband, And he shall rule over you."

The fallen Adam however is bound to be polygamous in nature because any successful man will be clinged by women. It is the way the curse operates.

Isa.4.1 - And in that day seven women shall take hold of one man, saying, "We will eat our own food and wear our own apparel; Only let us be called by your name, To take away our reproach."

5. It is the saved man and woman who have encountered both the saving Grace and the transformative Grace of Christ that can have the Power to break the curse and live a blessed and fruitful monogamous marriage.
Monogamy is not a yardstick that one has broken the curse. A peaceful home is the yardstick and it is Love and Submission that accomplishes this.

It is only in Christ that every curse is fully broken.
May God grant us blessed marriages and peaceful homes.

May God also in his mercy help repair and restore marriages of his children in Jesus name because He will build his homes/church and the gates of hell shall not prevail against them.
And even the legal captives will be set free, says the LORD. Amen.

Skyview01:
Yes, but i would not have married at 27. I felt i did not have enough of my bachelorhood.
Rented my first house with my wife.

Kindly share what you miss when you say you did not have enough of your bachelorhood?

Nairalander248:
U dey craze ooh while some are regreting not marrying early, you are regreting marrying early

Listen to married men and learn wisdom before jumping into conclusion.

He regrets marrying early, your line should be to know his reason.

Perhaps then you can know how to reason with him.

Kobojunkie:
Jesus Christ condemned religion beginning with Judaism proclaiming it is antiGod and of lies -- doctrines and traditions of men --- so what exactly does it matter the reason for denominations?

Again, Jesus Christ sent you to obeying His teachings and commandments which includes doing to others as you would like for them to do to you so what has that to do with claiming the Father is the same entity as Allah of the Muslims?

Wel said.

But if you can realise that the same way Christians have built a religion out of The Way of Life is the way Muslims have built a religion out of the Way too.

Judaism, Christianity and Islam all have Jesus (Yeshua, Yisa) in common, do you still not see it yet?

Everyone simply needs to come in contact with the revelation of Jesus Christ, whether they came through Judaism or Christianity or Islam.

Do you think all Christians have encountered the revelation of Jesus Christ?
It is by ones Fruit that you know who has truly encountered Jesus Christ.

MaxInDHouse:
YES!
As NEIGHBOURS just as Jesus taught! Mark 12:31

The only difference is according to the leading of the Holy Spirit.
And who we prioritise. We are advised/encouraged/instructed to start our charity at home first.

Gal.6.10 - Therefore, as we have opportunity, let us do good to all, especially to those who are of the household of faith.

MaxInDHouse:
YES!
As NEIGHBOURS just as Jesus taught! Mark 12:31

Kindly share the difference between loving your neighbour and loving your brother. Thx

MaxInDHouse:
Then you supposed not to say:


Rather this is how you should put it:

"All humans are brothers no matter the religion because we are all from Adam"




That's exactly why we aren't BROTHERS with any other religionists but NEIGHBOURS!

Exactly. So we need to understand that it is religion, race, class etc that have become barrier between us.

With understanding we will learn to love one another.

MaxInDHouse:
Exactly!

Your neighbour is anyone you see no matter where he or she comes from so as human we must love people anywhere we see them and think of their good but brother is the person with whom we share the same line of thought! John 17:22

So a Muslim who doesn't believe that Jesus is Christ son of the living God can't be a brother to a Christian, they're both neighbours that means the Christian must love the Muslim just as he wish to be loved as taught by Christ Jesus! Matthew 7:12

The only thing that should differentiate a follower of Christ or "Christian" from others is the way of life, living in love- bearing the fruit and gifts of the Spirit and passion for God's Kingdom.

MaxInDHouse:
Exactly!

Your neighbour is anyone you see no matter where he or she comes from so as human we must love people anywhere we see them and think of their good but brother is the person with whom we share the same line of thought! John 17:22

So a Muslim who doesn't believe that Jesus is Christ son of the living God can't be a brother to a Christian, they're both neighbours that means the Christian must love the Muslim just as he wish to be loved as taught by Christ Jesus! Matthew 7:12

We are all brothers through Father Adam and Abraham. Do you still not get this?

Kobojunkie:
The simply answer to the question is that you should do to others as you would like for them to do to you. It is completely different from any of that described in your OP where you attempt to cast the God of Abraham as being the same entity as the Allah of the Muslims..

Unless you realise Jesus Christ did not establish a religion, you will not get it.

Judaism, Christianity and Islam are simply the names people/leaders named their doctrine made out of their own encounter.

Which is why within Christianity there are mini-religions we call denominations.

Jesus came to show us the Way, the Truth and the Life of God through Faith, Love and Obedience.

MaxInDHouse:
When your beliefs contradicts that of the other person next to you both of you aren't brothers but neighbours even if such a person is your blood relation as long as your beliefs contradicts each other you're not brothers but neighbours! ~ Jesus of Nazareth {Matthew 12:46-50}

Where most people got it wrong is the love we must have towards our neighbours {Matthew 22-39} which is different from the love we must have towards our brothers in faith! John 13:34-35

According to Jesus of Nazareth the rules of our religion may differ from that of another faith so we must consider such a person as well meaning neighbour who is ignorant of the rules of our own faith and love him the same way we would want to be loved but when it comes to the person having the same religious beliefs as we do our love for such a person person must be exactly the same way Jesus loves us (ready to surrender his life for us) when it's necessary! John 15:12-13

So Christians and Muslims can't be brothers in faith they can only be neighbours loving each other as themselves! Mark 12:31

How did Jesus Christ ask us to Love our neighbours?

Luke.10.29-37 But he, wanting to justify himself, said to Jesus, "And who is my neighbor?"
Then Jesus answered and said: "A certain man went down from Jerusalem to Jericho, and fell among thieves, who stripped him of his clothing, wounded him, and departed, leaving him half dead.
Now by chance a certain priest came down that road. And when he saw him, he passed by on the other side.
Likewise a Levite, when he arrived at the place, came and looked, and passed by on the other side.

But a certain Samaritan, as he journeyed, came where he was. And when he saw him, he had compassion.
So he went to him and bandaged his wounds, pouring on oil and wine; and he set him on his own animal, brought him to an inn, and took care of him.
On the next day, when he departed, he took out two denarii, gave them to the innkeeper, and said to him, "Take care of him; and whatever more you spend, when I come again, I will repay you.'

So which of these three do you think was neighbor to him who fell among the thieves?"
And he said, "He who showed mercy on him." Then Jesus said to him, "Go and do likewise."

Eid-El Kabir to our Muslim friends.
Happy Holidays to us all.

It's always a blessing to be alive to celebrate significant days of the year. It is a testament of God's Goodness and God's Faithfulness and a Charge for us to Do Better, to demonstrate our sincere gratitude and appreciation as our acts of reciprocation.

Yoruba adage says "Eni to ba monu ro, yi o mope da."
Which loosely translates "Who ever has insight will be grateful."

First what are we celebrating?
What is Eid-El Kabir?

It is a Festival in commemoration of the Day God instructed Father Abraham (Ibrahim) to Sacririce his only beloved son- the son he had waited all his life to get. Yet as painful as it was, he obeyed.
God seeing his Faith and Obedience provided a ram in the stead of his son. And an everlasting covenant was sealed.
He became the Father of Many Nations whom we are still celebrating 4000 years after and will continue to celebrate.

What Are The Lessons
1. Abraham was from an idolatrous home. But God called him out and he heard God and left everything behind. He had no clear idea of his destination but he followed.

2. He walked with God and grew to Trust God with every instruction and experience.

3. God Promised to make him the Father of Many Nations and He believed even when it seemed impossible and his wife Sarah was old.

4. Abraham was always watching as he prayed. He recognised his angelic visitations and encounters and quickly invited them for hospitality. These angels assured him of God's Promise.

5. Unfortunately Sarah out of love and frustration tempted Abraham and got him to marry her maidservant Hagar. Who conceived and gave birth to Ishmael (Ismaila). Ishmael would go on to be the progenitor of Islam.

6. At the set time, Sarah too conceived and gave birth to the promised child- Isaac, the progenitor of Christ.

7. Perhaps out of pride and jealousy, Sarah would eventually force Abraham to chase Hagar and her son Ishmael packing. Hagar cried to God in the wilderness and God out of His Mercy and loving-kindness saved her and her child and pronounced a blessing on them.

8. God actually waited years till when Abraham had invested so much in his children, before he instructed Abraham to sacrifice his beloved son.
How painful and costly a sacrifice to demand?
What a Test of Faith!

9. Abraham however still obeyed. And God provided the ram instead. And honoured His sacrifice by establishing an everlasting covenant with him.

10. Both Ishmael and Isaac are sons of Father Abraham. God blessed both of them. Muslims and Christians disagree over which of the sons is the promised child who was offered to be sacrificed.

11. But the moral of the story is simple- Have Faith in God and learn to hear Him for yourself.
Walk with God and Obey His instructions.
God honours our Sacrifices- especially painful sacrifices.
Muslims and Christians should be brothers.
The Quran actually teaches Muslims to learn Godliness from true Christians.

12. Abraham and Sarah were called barren even when they served God, because there was no child to show that they served a living God.
Abraham trusted God for a child but God made him the Father of Nations whom we are still celebrating over 4000 years after. God's Way and God's Time is the Best.

May God help us to have Faith and help our unbelief. May God increase our Faith and Help us Build our Faith in Him through Obedience and Personal Convictions.
May God honour our Sacrifices even beyond our expectations in Jesus name.

Heb.11.6 - But without faith it is impossible to please Him, for he who comes to God must believe that He is, and that He is a rewarder of those who diligently seek Him.

taylor89:
His only crime was speaking in favor of common citizens for Government to ease their burden and suffering

Your oppressors call you and your gang gave you people highest go be 50k each to burn a building of a man who will survive any hardship but chose to speak for you

50k wey no go last one week finish

Some things are simply God's judgment.
Some ome may think he is good but God considers them evil.
Good and evil is not defined by human standard but God's standard.
And it is as a result of the state of a person's heart. Only God knows our hearts.

I didn't know I was evil in the sight of God until I rededicated my life to Christ.
Our sense of right and wrong is mostly warped.

FeelGoodAlways:
Times are definitely not nice to Nigerians. The streets are not smiling. People are not happy. You could see from their sad faces.

I am an undergraduate working as a security guard at night to help myself financially.

So due to fuel situation and the economic effects, I have been trekking to and fro the place, because no money and the transport is very expensive now. Today, I didn't feel very strong to trek back to the place due to malaria seriously holding me down. I approached my neighbor who is earning over 100k+ salary, minus side hustling to help me with transport fare to go to work. Guess what? He started by laughing cheapishly. When he paused, he narrated how he trekked back from work on Friday, trekked to and fro work today being Monday and not sure how he'll get back to office tomorrow morning being Tuesday. That the new transport fare has eaten deeper into his small earning that even before middle of the month, the salary had long gone. Last night, the children drank Garri to go to bed and this morning, the children left to school drinking only Pap and he put only N100 Akara for each in their lunch boxes. Sad story. He added that due to the economic impact of fuel subsidy removal, retrenchment letters for 3 of his colleagues in the office are ready to be served by the end of the month, and more to go.

Who will rescue us, we don't know? Sad truth is that the money that will be generated from this subsidy removal will not be put to use to the benefit of the commoners. It's just a plot to generate more money for the elites/thieves.

Could you believe that nobody could borrow me N500 in the whole compound? Incredible.

Well, even when I wasn't feeling strong to trek coupled with all I'm passing through financially, I just had to trek which I did.

I picked up this job because instead of sleeping freely at night and when the rent expires, the landlord would come after me + plus all the bills heaped on me, I could rather spend the nights here reading my books, sleep (even though not as recommended) and still earn some money no matter how small.

Finally, I would say do well to help people when you can. People are going through a lot. Not untill the start falling in the street.

*In mama P. voice* - "God will see us through".

God bless all hard working Nigerians no matter the tough times we face.

Your write-up is very emotional and truly the reality of many Nigerians now.

But I want you to know that God's hand is in everything. Nothing happens that God is not aware.

I'll encourage us all to please endure this temporary suffering. Make the necessary sacrifices you have to this period. Let your hope be where it should really be and where it is truly assured and secured- in the government of Jesus Christ.

You will realise that God Himself becomes your provider when you turn to Christ.
He does not only rprovide money, he provides ALL you need.
Wisdom, Strength, Direction, Food, Help, Health, Peace, Joy, Hope etc that you need. Philippians 4:19

Most times these sufferings help us expose our weaknesses so that we can know what is blocking blessings in our lives. It exposes fake friends so that we know who to be careful with, who to separate from, etc.
It helps us build the Fruit of the Spirit and even Gifts of the Spirit.
It is also the time some people with receive ideas that will change their lives for ever.

2Cor.4.16-18 Therefore we do not lose heart. Even though our outward man is perishing, yet the inward man is being renewed day by day.
For our light affliction, which is but for a moment, is working for us a far more exceeding and eternal weight of glory,
while we do not look at the things which are seen, but at the things which are not seen. For the things which are seen are temporary, but the things which are not seen are eternal.

Majenn:
Kids are always happy when ever they are been offered gifts. There are lots of gifts you can buy for kids to make them feel happy and excited.

In this article I will be discussing various gift you can offer your kids to make them feel I too if the world, and they include the following;

Doll House

When buying a gift for your kid, most especially if it’s a female, buying her a dull house can be so amazing, because girls find doll houses fascinating and they never get tired of playing with it.

A doll house is an educational toy that makes kids learn about household chores and the need for cleanliness.

Read full blog article
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The best gift you can give your child is the bible and a good educational foundation, with you living a model life in Christ.

Do you know that the devil is recruiting children like never before through cartoons and Internet?
Be careful and intentional what you expose the minds of your kids to.

Jesus especially love's children, for they are an example to how we are to receive the kingdom of God- open and teachable heart, trust and obedience.

Matt.19.14 But Jesus said, "Let the little children come to Me, and do not forbid them; for of such is the kingdom of heaven."

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You spirit of witchcraft, stop disguising yourself and stop destroying lives and homes.
Desist from this business or you will experience the wrath of the LORD.

Whoever you are behind this moniker, Repent and accept Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior and you will experience the peace of God in Jesus name. Amen.

ellizy:
I was in my 20’s during my internship days, on this faithful day I realized my department was changed from maintenance to lab been an electrical student. Mrs ***** will alway buy food for me and take good care of me
On this faithful day she invited me to her house for a party and other colleague and she instisted I stay behind till the next day
At about 9:00pm she ask me to go have my birth and I was already sensing something is going wrong
She gave me a room to sleep of which it’s her husband room that travelled abroad, she later joined me in the room asking me if I care for anything and I replied I’m okay and she said she doesn’t wanna sleep alone being her big day
Everything began to go wrong when she asked me if she was looking too old for me and I replied I don’t understand ma
She dragged me closer and gave me a light slap and I comported myself all of a sudden my panties are being dragged down and I started this shit with someone who is of age with my mother....
She’s always treating me as a child after then but sincerely I regret the whole bullshit

Did it continue after that experience or have you been able to stop it?

Nonso92:
As the topic suggests, let's hear it.
Also, colleagues who had office romance with other colleagues, how is it going, how did it end?

Office romance/affair is very rampant in a lot of offices.
I never dated by boss (though I once relished the idea) but I have had office romance- with a single lady and later with a married woman. I wish I could undo ever meddling with a married woman.

Like everything in life- some engage in it and get away with it unscathed (physically). While some engage in it and it ruins their life.

But we all know the Truth. It is wrong, unprofessional and sinful. It spreads.

I have been delivered from it but this same married woman has simply ported to another guy in the same office.
As much as I hated her for it then, I have come to realise she really is just looking for happiness, to fill the void her husband seems not to fill. Also seems to justify her action because her husband is also keeping side chics as she claimed.

She is a victim of her beauty and has become an agent and vessel for the Jezebel spirit. It's quite deep.

I have tried to preach to her. But words fall on deaf ears. I have simply resolved to praying for her and her household. All she needs is a personal encounter with Christ. The thought of exposing her to her husband once crossed my heart but I have also resolved to let God deal with it the way He deems best.

I pray we all come to understand the power of sin and especially sexual immorality. It is simply the reason why some are stagnant in life as they expose themselves to various unclean spirits and curses.

siofra:
I worked very very hard to be in the position I am today. I wasn't seeking for favors or demanding preferential treatment. All those days I went hungry, all those days I cried frustrated and the days I didn't have the energy to wake up and face the day. Everyone around me thought I was wasting my time. They still think I am because I'm not even paid here regularly. But I know the experience I'm gaining at the place I'm working is priceless.

Do not compromise but wisdom is profitable to direct.
Do you work in HR?
Have you shared this situation with your management/boss to know his thoughts?

Management's expectstion is key to your decision-making.
And please to stand for justice/rightness anywhere requires a prayerful person. So please be strong in the Lord Jesus Christ and the Power of His Might

God bless you for doing right. Nigeria needs more of you.

Jokanem:
What Does the Bible Say About Marriage?

After creating the first man and woman, God brought them together in marriage. He instituted marriage as a special bond between a man and a woman as a foundation for the family unit.—Genesis 1:27, 28; 2:18.

God wants married couples to be happy. (Proverbs 5:18) In the Bible, he provides standards for marriage as well as principles that can help a marriage succeed.

What are God’s standards for marriage?
From the beginning, God created marriage to be a union of one man and one woman. (Genesis 2:24) God does not approve of polygamy, homosexual acts, or couples living together without marriage. (1 Corinthians 6:9; 1 Thessalonians 4:3) Jesus taught his followers to adhere to God’s original standard for marriage.—Mark 10:6-8.

In God’s eyes, marriage creates a permanent bond. When a man and a woman get married, they promise to be loyal to each other and to stay together for as long as they are both alive. God expects them to keep that promise.—Mark 10:9.

What about separation and divorce?

There may be times when a husband and wife must be apart from each other, such as when one mate needs to travel to care for a family emergency. But the Bible discourages separation resulting from marital problems. Instead, it urges couples in such a situation to work toward reconciliation.—1 Corinthians 7:10.

Adultery is the only Scriptural grounds for divorce. (Matthew 19:9) Hence, if a husband and wife decide to separate or to divorce for any reason other than adultery, neither partner is Scripturally free to date someone else or to remarry.—Matthew 5:32; 1 Corinthians 7:11.

Does a marriage need to be registered legally to be approved by God?

God expects Christians to obey secular laws regarding marriage. (Titus 3:1) When it is possible for a couple to register their marriage legally, their doing so shows respect for secular authorities and for God’s standard that marriage is a lasting commitment. a

What roles and responsibilities does the Bible assign to husbands and wives?

Shared responsibilities. Husbands and wives should treat each other with love and respect. (Ephesians 5:33) They should care for each other’s sexual needs in a loving way and avoid all forms of unfaithfulness. (1 Corinthians 7:3; Hebrews 13:4) If they have children, husbands and wives share the responsibility of raising them.—Proverbs 6:20

The Bible does not discuss in detail how married couples should share secular work and household chores. They can decide together what will work best for their family.

A husband’s role.

The Bible says that “a husband is head of his wife.” (Ephesians 5:23) He is the head in the sense that he should guide his family and make decisions that will benefit his wife and children.

He should strive to ensure that their physical, emotional, and spiritual needs are cared for. (1 Timothy 5: He shows that he values his wife’s qualities and capabilities by working closely with her and by carefully considering her opinion and feelings when making decisions. (Proverbs 31:11, 28) The Bible says that a husband ought to care for his responsibilities in a loving way.—Colossians 3:19.

A wife’s role.

The Bible says that a “wife should have deep respect for her husband.” (Ephesians 5:33) God is pleased when a wife respects the role that he assigned to her husband.

Her role is to assist her husband, helping him to make good decisions and supporting his headship. (Genesis 2:18) The Bible speaks highly of a wife who fulfills her important role in marriage.—Proverbs 31:10.

Does God require married couples today to have children?

No. In the past, God commanded some of his worshippers to have children. (Genesis 1:28; 9:1) But Christians are not bound by that instruction. Jesus never commanded his followers to have children. Neither did any of his early disciples say that married couples must have children. Couples can decide for themselves whether they will raise a family.

How can the Bible help your marriage?

The Bible contains principles that can help couples get their marriage off to a good start. Bible principles can also help couples to avoid or overcome difficulties.

Bible principles can help a married couple to . . .

show true love.—1 Corinthians 13:4-7; Colossians 3:14.

deal with differences.—1 Corinthians 10:24.

be good listeners.—James 1:19.

show respect.—Romans 12:10.

be forgiving.—1 Peter 4:8.

be loyal.—Mark 10:9.

be patient.—Ephesians 4:2, 3.

work as a team.—Ecclesiastes 4:9.

strengthen their commitment.—Song of Solomon 8:7.

Regarding the Bible’s view of customary or tribal marriages, see The Watchtower of October 15, 2006, page 21, paragraph 12.

Bible verses about marriage
Proverbs 18:22: “The one who finds a good wife has found something good.”

Meaning: The Bible speaks positively about marriage.

Malachi 2:15: “Do not deal treacherously with the wife of your youth.”

Meaning: God wants husbands and wives to be faithful to each other and to treat each other respectfully, even after many years of marriage.

Mark 10:9: “What God has yoked together, let no man put apart.”

Meaning: God intended for marriage to be a permanent bond of companionship.

Hebrews 13:4: “Let marriage be honorable among all.”

Meaning: Couples should place a high value on their marriage and work hard to protect it.

1 Corinthians 7:28: “Those who [marry] will have tribulation in their flesh.”

Meaning: No marriage is perfect; couples need to work together to overcome challenges.

Thanks for sharing sir.

Godfather898989:
I have difficulties keeping relationship with the opposite sex,for clarity I'm heterosexual male....I'm single, I need help brothers and sisters

How old are you?
If you're not old enough to marry, know that it is a blessing and a covering for you to protect you from the many jezebels out there.

If you're old enough to marry, then you simply need to build your confidence.
This comes from knowing yourself and embracing who you are- augmenting your strengths and working on your weaknesses.

You can't really do this successfully without Christ.
There's a difference between toasting a babe you want to have sex with and making connection with someone you want to build a meaningful relationship with- whether for friendship or marriage.

klimkid:
My girlfriend and I have been dating for 3 years now and it's about time we start planning on getting married.

One thing I no for sure is that she loves me and I do love her too. Recently, she told me that her mom went to some churches and they told her it won't work, about 3 pastors. But my girlfriend told her friend to tell her pastor to pray about it.

So he prayed about it and he gave us feedback after 3 days and he said the marriage will work, he said I will give my girlfriend peace, take care of her and make her happy.

There's a woman that prays for me here in Lagos, she said there is nothing wrong with both of us. I also called my Rev. Father and he said that nobody has the right to say the person is for this person or the marriage won't work.

He said marriage is a decision both of us will take and pray about it.

He said hence we love ourselves so much, should leave it for God and continue with our relationship.

Guys, have you experienced this before? What do you think? I am confused.

First, it's a blessing and I am happy for you that you find peace with your lady friend.

When it comes to prophecy, it is a very sensitive gift and ministry.
Sound pastors will tell you not to seek prophecies especially from people you're not spiritually under.
Even those you are under may mislead you, how much more those you're not under.

Now concerning the visions the Prophets saw, they may both have seen skme thing but they only saw in part, which is why prophecy is a delicate gift. But we are advised not to despise prophecy but test all spirits and hold on to what's true. 1 Thes 5:20

More important than what anyone prophesies is that you should know that marriage is a very sensitive institution and a new level of glory for both of you.
So you both must be spiritually and other wise ready for it. And I mean in Christ.

Because it comes with a lot of spiritual baggages- you inherit both the blessings and battles of both your families.

If there's is any thing you must do, be sure both of you are born again. By this I mean that Jesus Christ is your LORD and Saviour.
You're not Christians because you were born into Christian homes but that you have both submitted to the Word of God and both have personal relationship with the Holy Spirit and you serve God in one capacity or another in His Kingdom.

God can cancel any evil prophecies once He knows you love Him and love one another. Because Love covers multitude of sins. 1 Peter 4:8

allen113:
Good one, make them they give religious leaders opportunity to rule make them see as e dey be, no be only to they on pulpit they criticised and lay curses against people way no support their candidate.

Honestly a great idea... scriptural but delicate.
I pray he succeeds.

RockHard:
She was probably afraid of posting these pictures earlier on her social media out of fear of being mauled to death by the Obidient mob

That was Wisdom on her part.
Don't underestimate what bigot obidients can do out of their Hatred and Desperation.

Let's not forget she was once victimised when they kidnapped her mom because she suggested the removal of fuel subsidy to Jonathan.

I pray the true master-minds behind the scene fueling this obidient hatred and terrorism are swiftly exposed and death with.
And also pray the misguided followers of the movement come to see the true light and reality and dissociate themselves immediately.

The worst thing to experience is self righteousness.
When you are so sure you are right when you are unknowingly wrong. Judges 17:6

Peter Obi's situation is a clear case of the plight of every human being.

We are all driven my our idea of what is right.
But the question ultimately becomes, "How are we sure our own idea of right is what is right?"
May we not be victims of costly assumptions.

Peter Obi Vs Tinubu Vs Atiku's ongoing case hits home even more interestingly because it pitches three different personalities- each one of them presenting their idea of right before the judge with us all as the witnesses.

Is this not just a similitude of how it will be on judgment day?

On the surface it seems Peter Obi is the most righteous of all the 3.
While Tinubu seems as the most unrighteous.
And Atiku is simply in-between the extremes.

The seemingly unrighteous Tinubu seems to have won the election.
The seemingly righteous Obi, and seemingly obvious people's choice seems to have lost the election.

This is very instructive and curious.

Judging by Tinubu's stellar performance in his first few weeks in the office of the President and the endorsement and support of the citizenry- both high and low, and the foreign powers, it would seem like Tinubu is God's chosen one.

A reality only blinded from a disobedient demographic ironically named "obidients".
Although a sizeable initially misguided obidients who have been awed my the undeniable feats of the Tinubu-led government have now converted from obidients to truly become obedients.
A decision and choice that has earned them various attacks and unprintable names from the obiidient camp.

What then should we conclude in this?

I say the ball is in the court, the expert lawyers defending their cases.
And ultimately, let the Judge rule wisely and justly.

God bless Nigeria and all who bless her.
God bless Nigerians, especially well-meaning Nigerians.
God bless Africa and all who bless her.

God help us all.

yinkus6750:
I learnt , means a statement that needs confirmation.
It's a pre assumed as information.
Guess the Fayoses all have the same problem.

Peter Obi obviously knows the influence he wields.
He should make statements out of assumptions but confirmed facts.

The question you should ask really is, Does he do this intentionally or unintentionally?

55truth:
Let's discuss as a family, those mistakes you made which you later regret and you wouldn't want your children to make.

Mine was going to the university without learning a skill and solely hoping to land a good paying job with the certificate after school. When "Nigeria" dawned on me, I realized I made a mistake by not fortifying myself with skills while going to school.

My children will not make such a mistake. If God approves, they will go into sports and entertainment from tender age.

Let's learn from each other.

Not having a relationship with the Holy Spirit early to lead and guide me through life.

Honeydenz:
Very correct. Friends can be of positive help like assisting u in getting a job opening, same way friends can teach u how to spoke or how to do runs as a lady, but expect more of negative influence than positive cos a typical Nigerian will lead you to do things that would lower ur chances of succeeding in life than actually making it cos of our competitive nature. A typical black man don't want u to do better than him or her so what's d need of keeping friends. Many friends are just too manipulative n opportunistic and nowadays they don't even hide it anymore

Well said.
God help us all.

Ronaldo723:
I find it so extremely difficult to keep friends before you say Jack we have gotten issues don't know what's wrong with me


I can stay in the house for a week without my neighbors knowing I'm around


Please I need help my social lifestyle is dead

It's a blessing not to keep many friends. Many friends means many influences- mostly negative.
But it's not good not to have any friend.

It might help if you gave your age or range.

There's time and season for everything in life;
There's a time you will need to learn to love yourself.
There's a time you will need to learn to love others.

It is when you gain mastery of these that you can learn to love others as you love yourself.

It is important however to first, learn to love God.
God will teach you how to love Him, love yourself and you neighbour.

Every season is a blessing when you understand the season you're in.
Introvert or extrovert should simply be different phases, I believe we are meant to be ambiverts.

Please see God as your first in every thing and truly life starts making sense to you. He created you, no one else can explain you to you better than your Creator/Father.

Know this and be blessed.
Proverbs 18:24
One who has unreliable friends soon comes to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.

Freetech:
This man sha always shaking the table

Tinubu will be loved more by attacking poverty headlong through wealth redistribution, agricultural development and sme / youth empowerment leading to reducing the use of foreign contractors to manage our scarce fx

He must not throw money at poverty like Buhari did. You can't deal with poverty by feeding it with free cash

Wow, you have spoken with so much wisdom. I pray this happens and even beyond.

Thanks for your optimism.
Yorubas say "irorun igi ni irorun eye."
By my loose translation it means- the comfort of the branch is the comfort of the bird that perches on it.

If and when Nogeria becomes prosperous, will it not be a Prosperity for us all?

Should it so much matter whoever God uses to deliver the Prosperity?
So far, I see God's hand on Tinubu and as the word teaches-
Who God Has Blessed, No Man Can Curse.

God bless Tinubu and his team.
God bless Nigeria.
God bless Nigerians- especially those who bless her.

press9jatv:
read the epistle that he posted now

I wrote it and I believe I understand what I wrote better than you do.

However communication has shown that we all interprete information differently, hence my interest in your position. It is also fine if your disposition is to remain in opposition.

KingAzubuike:
Just 12 thousand dollars.. very poor.

Which meaningful thing person wan use $12k do


Moreover the girl studied Islamic law.

This is an ungrateful heart.
If you're like this with God you really need to repent.

1. I doubt it is stated anywhere that the school or government must reward the best graduating student.

2. What difference foes it make that she studied Islamic Law?

3. If you're ungrateful in little, will you truly be grateful in much?

Search your heart.