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talented321:
How to still make it more and more big' i am always lost in thinking

Lol this is man's nature.
What we need is to be content with what we have first, then clarity will come as we focus on God and solving problems around us.

Na money go dey find you. You go dey tire to make money. True story.

SETHARTHUR:
What a life, vanity. I am sure what matters to him now is his health and little about wealth and material things.
Meanwhile;

This is the moral of the story of life.

Jennyclay:
Lies! Lies!!

It’s not even up to five months this man has been in jail .

Just release the rapist so that we’ll know he’s out of jail than telling us these rubbish!!

This useless man should have been sentenced to death or life imprisonment but since we’re in Nigeria, he would be pampered.

The Nigerian court encourages rape in our society! Animals everywhere!!! Shior!!!

Let he/she without sin be the first to cast a stone.
As grievous as his crime is, is death really the best option?

If God were to count our own sins, should any of us be alive?
Pray for sinners. Everyone one has one weakness or another. Before God, all sinners will go to hell even as little as unforgiveness.

I believe He has learnt his lesson and is learning his lesson.
I believe the child will heal by God's Grace.
I believe this will teach a lot of men lesson to both have self-control and beware of females- young and old.

IconicR:
See what lack of self control have caused him? I hope Faber and other men out there will learn self control and not to be sleeping with everything inside the skirt

You've rightly spoken.
God help us all.

SultanOfPuna:
Religion has turned my mother into a shadow of herself.
Ever since our teenage years my mother was not the churchy type. We are raised Catholics
Back then she was active and bubbling.

all of a sudden my mother left Catholic faith and started messing around with different churches.
This has cause countless rift between us, my dad and elder sister have done everything possible but my mum is too brainwashed by these Pentecostal pastors.

How can someone be attending Christ embassy and winners chapel?? I Heard she wants to join mountain of fire but changed her mind.
Everytime church, church, church
Yet she never gain anything from it
I have been sending her money for her for upkeep since November last year only to come back home February this year and discovered she donates everything to different churches


I feel she might have a mental disorder and I don't know how to save her.
She literally spends all the money in church donation tithe and all those craps. And those pastors always calling her to come for one program or the other. I don't know what to do

You just described my mom too.
No she is not mad. She is just desperate for the protection and success of her family especially you her children.

My mom did that for about a decade but today, thank God it has reduced.

Please do not insult her, simply let her know that she has to focus on Jesus in a good church.

You see this life, if you will not believe the Truth for free, you will buy the lie with pain.
She is simply paying for not being a born-again mother from the start.

Please let her know that all she needs is to be born again and focus on Jesus Christ. She needs to receive the Holy Spirit and start learning of Christ like a new believer.

She thinks it is pastors that will answer her prayers where as it is God, her Father Himself that answers prayers and He simply wants her to focus on Him and build a relationship.
God Himself will take care of her battles.

You and your siblings also need to be born again. You have no idea of the battles you inherited simply by being born. Also the battles you acquire through marriage. You need Jesus Christ, not only to protect you but to Lead you through Life.

taylor89:
A working nation that stands as one accord

If it’s in Nigeria now you’ll see sell outs from Yorubawood

Imagine the entire Nollywood wants to embark on national strike

You’ll see people like Eniola Badmus & Toyin Ibrahim will boycott the protest and go ahead shooting movies

Stupid country

Shameless Unity beggars

Begging us oil allocations and contracts

Na Wike I blame shaa for romancing with that Irigbaji brown teeth criminal

Una hold more than 6 countries together all in the name of unity bcuz of oil money

Nigeria can never be one

Divide this shithole una dey beg up and down

If I talk they’ll say I’m from Anambra. Shebi na only Anambra dey suffer from this bad government

A whole Rivers son like me will be buying fuel that’s from my backyard for 540 a liter bcuz of a greedy cocaine sniffer who’s not even from Nigeria

Don’t quote me bcuz i don’t respond to quotes

Can you fight who God has blessed?
Better bless those whom God has blessed so that you won't suffer the consequences of stubbornness.

Ilamina:
the race to heaven is not easy

Nothing good comes easy.
With Christ, making heaven is easier than making hell.

vastolord4:
Like I literally told my wife that my kids no matter the gender interswitch their duties in the house.. In the world of today, no gender is subdued to a particular job or role eg midwifery, transportation, even robbers have female gangleaders..

As good as this is, there are roles more suitable to each gender.

We are to improve on what has been established by our predecessors, not to rebel against them.

There's a reason God created men as male. And Women as female.
While an evolved man/woman is in touch with both their masculine and feminine sides, it's important we recognise the difference albeit as little as it may be.

HeartlessMan:
Bet why God take fine fine things give oyinbo and ugly things for black man?!

Have you seenan avalanche before?
Ordinary rain wey God give us we never fit handle am. Floods every where, poor drainage, etc.

Be careful what you wish for cos you just may have it.

Ilamina:
What is inside hell fire

Why are you thinking of hell fire when you should be thinking of heaven and fulfilling your purpose on earth?

julietdairy:
Mental illness

Mental illness is a common mental disorder. It is associated with distress and problem functioning in social, work and family activities

Mental health is about how people think, feel and behave

Example of mental illness include depression, anxiety , eating disorder and addictive behavior

A mental illness can make you miserable and can cause problem in your daily life.

In most cases symptoms can be managed with a combination of medication and talk therapy

Symptoms include the following

1) feeling sad

2) confused thinking

3) inability to concentrate

4) excessive fears or worries

5) extreme mood changes

6) withdrawal from friends and activities

7) suicidal thoughts

Excessive anger / violence

9) inability to cope with daily problem

10) problem with alcohol/ drug use

When you notice this please seek help from the following

1) Doctor

2) Loved ones

3) therapist

However there are few ways to control mental illness

1) pay attention to the triggers and warning signs

2) Get help immediately

3) speak to someone about it

4) Get routine medical care

5) Take good care of yourself

Reach out to Juliet diary via dm
Email: julietaladiekele@gmail.com
#julietdairy
#mentalhealthawareness
#therapy

Mental illness isn't a funny place to be.
It's all in the mind.
I occassionally experienced bouts of depression.
I could not explain why I would just suddenly begin to feel mentally and emotionally drained and before I knew it I would become depressed and push every one away.
Usually triggered whenever I constantly kept feeling underachieved I guess.
I would resort to drinking till the drinking got out of hand.

I sincerely appreciate your choice of care. Wish I considered therapy back then.
I will also encourage you to please inculcate prayers to your practice.

I eventually overcame my depression through Christ and I really can't believe I ever contemplated suicide.
My Hope and Trust in Christ fuels my inexpressible joy and peace of mind.

God bless you and help liberate everyone from mental illness in Jesus name. Amen.

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Omicron007:



The tyrant Idi-Amin of Uganda was once the Chairman of the Organization for African Unity (OAU).

Tinubu emerging as ECOWAS Chairman is not an achievement.

The worst president in the world, Buhari was even a former Chairman of ECOWAS.

Perhaps you need to redefine achievement for the English dictionary just so suit your own bitterness.

God1000:
I agree with Biden, the timing is wrong.

At least this war should be over before any of such discussion, but what can Putin do if Ukraine joins NATO now? Nothing

I salute the unwavering support of the Biden administration for Ukraine, the invaders should pull out and go back home.

Putin should be more concerned about the cracks in his government, he won't survive another mutiny.

The invasion of Ukraine has further enlarged NATO with Finland membership and Sweden very soon, so what's the point of this senseless war? it has turned counterproductive.

How do we forget so easily that US is not after the interest of any country but theirs?
War is simply business to US. Can you imagine how much US is making from this Russia-Ukraine war?

Yes, Russia has no right to dictate to Ukraine what body to join or not. However their concern is note-worthy if you understand the history between USSR and USA.

I sincerely hope Zelenskyy and Putin come to Peace terms as Zelenskyy comes to realise that their common enemy is USA and not each other.

slawomir:
Damnnn niggar
Your brother is a disgusting simp

See that nairaland turmac of a girl just dey write rubbish..she nor know say na her fellow gender go collect the phone from the girl..most nairaland girls nor dey read the body of a story..haha..she don hurry Edit am...


You are absolutely correct
I have sisters at home ...

Do you know another funny thing
Females don't really hate the fact that men are polygamous in nature
Infact they love it when you are capable of banging multiple women
The only time they hate it na when their husband dey do am...if you think am lying then go close to your sister and the day she will know you can bang multiple girls she will love you the more

As right as you are, I still think you need to make some new friends.
Not everyone thinks like this.
Generic statements leave room for errors.
No one size fits all.

turmacs:
Just look at how this foolish criminal is confessing to crime..Openly admiting to falsely framing someone of theft and forcefully taking their property, agbaya......Even though the phone collector is a woman, some useless men are like that too, they just don't have sense and saying they behave like small pikin is an insult to children... Broke and insecure men everywhere. Na Una mate dey buy GLE Benz for their babes for Festac here, na your mate dey build mansion dash woman.. Ordinary Tecno phone wey no reach 50k na him Una go dey carry Soldier go collect from a woman.. I don't have much to say but I have an advice for the ladies here, avoid broke men like plague, avoid them like cancer.. Sometimes too much suffering and poverty really messes with their brain and affects how they think, nonsense..Any guy above 23 years old that doesn't have a car, a House and 50+ million in the bank is a failure, avoid them for your own good and mental health.. A word is enough for the wise...

As much as it is wrong for anyone to retrieve a gift, this case seems to be justified.

The lady in question clearly said she does not have anything to do with any man from his village, yet she reneged on her own boundary by collecting a phone gift from someone from the "forbidden" village.

Obviously the man in question has a good heart for not pressing for the gift. And the sister simply stood for justice.

How she went about is also wisdom.

LegallyBlunt:
Good day everyone. For a couple of weeks now, there has been issues where I worship.

Mostly between the Pastor and his assistant (presently former assistant). They had a falling out, which escalated to a point where the assistant stopped his duties.

Now, I managed to ask questions about the issue and the Pastor gave his version. I also got to know about the assistant's version.

However, here's the issue - they're not in speaking terms! Isn't that malice? Isn't that dangerous, and a deviation from what Christians ought to do? Are they not in danger of hell and manipulation from the devil and agents of sin?

What's even more painful is that the church just continues like there's no issue on ground. It's sad, really.

They both need to learn Forgiveness and Leading by Example.
There are levels of forgiveness. Even when you are in the right, just make peace.
Everyone is growing.

Let's start with the basic component definitions:

Tribe:
1. A socially, ethnically, or politically cohesive group of people.
2. (anthropology) A society larger than a band but smaller than a state.

Veil:
1. Something hung up or spread out to hide or protect the face, or hide an object from view; usually of gauze, crepe, or similar diaphanous material.
2. (figurative) Anything that partially obscures a clear view.
3. A cover; disguise; a mask; a pretense.

In the context of this write-up, A veil is what blinds us from the truth.
Hence Tribal Veil simply refers to how our tribal differences blind us from seeing the truth.

First, permit me to introduce this discourse as a religious and social discourse based on the study of biblical teachings and societal observations, engagements and interactions.

According to the bible, all creation emanated from a Creator- God.

God created Mankind and Blessed them.
Through Adam and Eve, all humans would be born and spread all over the earth- multiplying and having dominion over territories.

Satan deceives Eve to sin (disobedience to God) and mankind inherits curses.

Family feuds ensue from generation to generation.
Cain murders his brother Abel over envy.
Evil spread all over the earth and mankind multiplied. Until God decides to refresh the earth and selects Noah's family. Noah builds the great Ark and the great torrents drowned all creation except the family of Noah.

Noah blessed some of his children and cursed one over his abomination.
Generations after, Abraham is chosen by God to cancel the curses and reestablish God's blessings on mankind. He would become the Father of Nations.
Abraham's grand child, Esau traded his birthright over food. And Jacob his twin brother becomes the lineage of Jesus Christ.

This background is important to help us understand that we are all one family- every human being.

Gen.9.18 - Now the sons of Noah who went out of the ark were Shem, Ham, and Japheth. And Ham was the father of Canaan.
Gen.9.19 - These three were the sons of Noah, and from these the whole earth was populated.

It is believed, though speculative that African lineage came through Ham who was cursed by Noah for not covering his unclothedness when he was drunk. (This explains a lot.)

Today we are polarized across various divides- racial, continental, national, tribal, state, ethnic, family, etc. This is inevitable. Even as families we are divided, one nuclear family is fighting another nuclear family especially in polygamous homes. Not to talk of the compound and extended families.

If we can really look introspectively and also see beyond our differences, we will come to realise that we have simply inherited fights, battles and family feuds from generation to generation.
Some family feuds we were never even a part of.

-Why should a white and a black man today hate each other because of the various forms of Slavery that happened centuries ago?

-Why should Yoruba/Igbo/Hausa hate one another today because Biafra happened decades ago?

The Truth is We are One Big Family.
And We need to heal.
Our generation needs to be intentional so as not to continue these repeat patterns.

When we hear of generational and ancestral curses, these are what forms the foundation of our problems- individually, as families, tribes, nationally and globally.

We should employ every means necessary to end this vicious and pathetic cycles- Religiously, Socially, Academically, Politically, Psychologically, etc.
Not only for our own sakes- but more importantly for our children and the generations to come.

So help us God. Amen.

radiolover:
I have sent possibly more than 80 applications and fortunately, I got called by a few.

I have exhausted scarce resources to attend interviews, editing and re-editing resumes to fit a certain role and position, cost of transportation, I don't want to even mention having to trek a long distance sometimes due to lack of fund to pay Tfare. I mean someone is broke and hungry and trying his best to land a job but he's rather receiving rejection mails. What is this?

On Monday, I received a rejection mail from automobile company where I applied for a marketing role. On Tuesday, I received another one from a production factory.

Now I just returned from another job hunting only to open my mail and saw another rejection mail. This very one pain me most because I had high hope on it and i have spent so much on it too. During the second stage of the interview, I can remember how I waited from 8am till 5pm just to see 'Oga', and after seeing him, I began to walk my way home and got home late. I know i'm sounding sentimental here but it's so annoying that i went through all that 'ontop empty belle' and at the end, I wasnt offered the job.

Very very painful and morale killing.

I feel so bad right now.

Feels like the world has crashed.

Feels like everything has finished.

Feels like everything has ended.

Feels like more hunger for me ahead ahead.

Who has faced this before?

How did you comfort yourself?

It's a phase and this too shall pass.
Remember there was a time it seemed passing common entrance exam was the hardest thing in life?
But you passed.
Then came Junior Waec and Waec and Jamb... yet you passed.
Then it seemed Graduating from Uni was the toughest thing... Fast forward all that and here you are, you did it onem.
That's how it will be when you look back at this phase later once you've scaled through.

Some times these things just help test our tenacity and bring out or strengths to see what we can make out of challenges.

My suggestion.
1. Keep pushing.
2. Keep praying.
3. It would also help if you added your qualification to this write-up, your employer could be on NL. You don't have to include much of your personal details.
4. While hunting for jobs, you can also consider other things to keep your juice and creativity up: Church activities, NGO activities, Build a skill, Widen your horizon in this Internet/Social Media Age there are more opportunities.

God bless you.

Adachizzy:
Let women breathe. It's not like we don't know the best for ourselves, or y'all care about us more than we do.

There are many options to making babies now, at the end of the day, what matters this day is taking care of a child, not bringing it into the world.

As long as it isn't hurting you, a woman’s age should not be your concern.

Women this, women that, haba!!
PS: I'm not 30 or 35, before some bitter people here misread and misyarn.

Well said.
But this is not an attack but an advice.
Everyone knows OP is making sense.

As it is said, No one size fits all.
For some marrying early is a blessing.
For some marriage can wait till after they have achieved certain set goals and ambitions.

Bottomline, now where you fit and adjust yourself accordingly.

Ishilove:
This is so weird... You preach at someone's burial (someone you're very close to), and the next couple of hours you're dead.

There's more to this than meets the eyes

There is so much attack in ministry work.
Which is why a lot of ministers shy away from some of these works.
But God knows best.
May their souls rest in peace and May God's counsel stand in their families. May the gates of hell truly not prevail against the church in Jesus name. Amen

RenaissanceGuy:
Praying for a dead person is futility. It's what they were before their death that determines whether they find peace or damnation in the hereafter.
You may only pray for God to grant their families the strength to bear the loss.

Even if it is futility, there's nothing wrong in it.
Pray at all seasons and pray about everything.

Pusyiter:
Stay there dey deceive yourself
Young girls of 15
Hormones control them
They lose it and get BFs as controlled by hormones
Their emotional feelings have a mind of their own.

What you just said is very instructive.

Men are more controlled by the mind as women are more controlled by their emotions.

It is important as parents to be able to win the trust of your children. When you create an atmosphere of good and effective communication in your home, by the time they become curious about such things it will be easy to engage them in sex education.

Of course with prayers, they will be able to know their right and wrong.

By the way, dear OP, why do you think it's ok for your child to have boyfriend?

Is the boyfriend for marriage or dating or companionship? You have to properly define these words. Effective communication is the solution to most misunderstandings.

Just to be clear she should only be allowed to have friends for companionship and you have to be intentional to know about the family she is getting close to.
Dating as a concept has been abused.
Dating is usually casual and not with the intention of marriage.

So she should only have male friends for companionship not for dating.

When she is ready to marry she will recognise her suitors. And she will be able to distinguish her husband.

slawomir:
Damnnn niggar



This guy never ready

I'm presently in the same shoes. So I understand.
Once you're a born again Christian, it's difficult to find a wife in this generation. And it's the same for the born again lady.

While I may not go as extreme as he did, I really do understand his plight.
When you see what born again Christians go through in marriage when they compromise God's standard of a wife, you will almost not want to marry.

Nairalander248:
Do I look like unmarried person to you?

My apologies. But it's always better to listen whether married or unmarried.

helinues:
Are babes your first priority in life?

Perfect reply.
When men and women get their priorities right, there will be so much productivity in Nigeria.

Because we presently waste the most valuable currency- Time on unproductive engagements especially unnecessary relationships and entanglements.

There's time for everything in life.

Kayceenaz:
Whenever news filters in online/offline about a man either alleged or proved to have cheated on his wife, abundant outbursts follow. Often, "Men are polygamous in nature" is argued. It is believed recognizing this reality by the man's wife and other women (single/married) prepares them to accept cheating, ridding the matter of seriousness critics give. I disagree. Men are neither polygamous (nor monogamous) in nature.

First, a man's polygamous tendencies are from nurture, not nature. This habit of justifying marital unfaithfulness, in the Christian context, by citing African culture is misplaced. Here, African men in the remote past chose to be with or marry more than one woman for social and economic reasons. To highlight their affluence to society and have more hands to help in their farming/subsistent agriculture venture. A husband who cheats on his wife makes a choice to succumb to temptation. If polygamy is actually natural to men, then we would have no cases of monogamous men.

Second, every man contains reason and instincts according to neurology and biology. Reason is a human being's edge over lower animals like dogs, goats, sheep, lions and so on, although we share trait of instincts with them. Someone may argue our bodily instincts, a biological feature passed from parents to offspring, push us toward pleasure and preservation of the human specie. This can extend to being with more than one woman, hence men are polygamous. This view is myopic. True, our instincts can suggest such but our reason can say no when we've intentionally developed it to morally serve us that way. Thus, a man chooses to be polygamous when he develops his reason to serve him accordingly. Humans, men are not the at the mercy of their instincts, as promoters of "Men are polygamous in nature" opine. A man can choose to obey or disobey his instincts courtesy of his reason.

Clearly, idea of "Men are polygamous in nature" is used by men who have a women weakness, refuse to take personal responsibility and work on it. They hide under culture and science unintelligently to secure tolerance of their bad behaviour (in Christian view) by women and society.


©Kelechi O. Naze (KON)

Thanks for such thought-provoking and timely discourse.
Permit me to answer using Scriptures.

1. There are 2 categories of people; The saved and the unsaved. One who has encountered Christ and one who hasn't but simply religious or anti-religion.

2. Every man who has not encountered Christ is a victim of the curse of the fallen Adam. Struggling to survive and Lack of self control. Unless he finds Grace.

Gen.3.17 - Then to Adam He said, "Because you have heeded the voice of your wife, and have eaten from the tree of which I commanded you, saying, "You shall not eat of it': "Cursed is the ground for your sake; In toil you shall eat of it All the days of your life.

3. The fallen woman is bound to love and cling to a man even to her destruction. She can't control it because she also suffers lack of self-control. It is the curse on Eve. Unless she finds Grace.

Gen.3.16 - To the woman He said: "I will greatly multiply your sorrow and your conception; In pain you shall bring forth children; Your desire shall be for your husband, And he shall rule over you."

The fallen Adam however is bound to be polygamous in nature because any successful man will be clinged by women. It is the way the curse operates.

Isa.4.1 - And in that day seven women shall take hold of one man, saying, "We will eat our own food and wear our own apparel; Only let us be called by your name, To take away our reproach."

5. It is the saved man and woman who have encountered both the saving Grace and the transformative Grace of Christ that can have the Power to break the curse and live a blessed and fruitful monogamous marriage.
Monogamy is not a yardstick that one has broken the curse. A peaceful home is the yardstick and it is Love and Submission that accomplishes this.

It is only in Christ that every curse is fully broken.
May God grant us blessed marriages and peaceful homes.

May God also in his mercy help repair and restore marriages of his children in Jesus name because He will build his homes/church and the gates of hell shall not prevail against them.
And even the legal captives will be set free, says the LORD. Amen.

Skyview01:
Yes, but i would not have married at 27. I felt i did not have enough of my bachelorhood.
Rented my first house with my wife.

Kindly share what you miss when you say you did not have enough of your bachelorhood?

Nairalander248:
U dey craze ooh while some are regreting not marrying early, you are regreting marrying early

Listen to married men and learn wisdom before jumping into conclusion.

He regrets marrying early, your line should be to know his reason.

Perhaps then you can know how to reason with him.

Kobojunkie:
Jesus Christ condemned religion beginning with Judaism proclaiming it is antiGod and of lies -- doctrines and traditions of men --- so what exactly does it matter the reason for denominations?

Again, Jesus Christ sent you to obeying His teachings and commandments which includes doing to others as you would like for them to do to you so what has that to do with claiming the Father is the same entity as Allah of the Muslims?

Wel said.

But if you can realise that the same way Christians have built a religion out of The Way of Life is the way Muslims have built a religion out of the Way too.

Judaism, Christianity and Islam all have Jesus (Yeshua, Yisa) in common, do you still not see it yet?

Everyone simply needs to come in contact with the revelation of Jesus Christ, whether they came through Judaism or Christianity or Islam.

Do you think all Christians have encountered the revelation of Jesus Christ?
It is by ones Fruit that you know who has truly encountered Jesus Christ.

MaxInDHouse:
YES!
As NEIGHBOURS just as Jesus taught! Mark 12:31

The only difference is according to the leading of the Holy Spirit.
And who we prioritise. We are advised/encouraged/instructed to start our charity at home first.

Gal.6.10 - Therefore, as we have opportunity, let us do good to all, especially to those who are of the household of faith.

MaxInDHouse:
YES!
As NEIGHBOURS just as Jesus taught! Mark 12:31

Kindly share the difference between loving your neighbour and loving your brother. Thx