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Cipriani:
@N101 I actually experienced that yesterday when I asked in the game forum whoever has a Sony PSP for sale. So, now I understand. As per the information, well, if that is your opinion, it's all good. Everyone have their different way of doing things. I would have preferred letting the forum know of any evidences got so those affected can as well start making a move. But if you insist on keeping it, all the best. Just report to the relevant agencies ASAP.

I speak not from my perspective, but from that of people like Collinsfbi who feel they have a case. If there's information that is general knowledge, then fine, I have no problem sharing that. If it is something dubious and conclusive with hard evidence, as far as I'm concerned take it to the necessary authorities. I'm not one of those people who are talk and no action.

tonnyflicks:
@ risktoget i don't have BOND FM phone number,  I just gave own opinion that's all.

@ N101. How do you expect me to know if it were for budgetary reasons. I just gave my own opinion about the so that you guys could work on that rather than insulting each other.
For those who believe in the Programme . Goodluck and for those who don't believe in the programme , Goodluck ,  God is our strength and we don't have to insult ourselves becos of issues like this. And for the company Crystal services, i pray they make this programme a reality, becos if they don't they'll be breaking the hearts of thousands.

So my fellow Nigerians let's hope for the best.
God bless everyone ( AMEN ).

Thank you

I asked a question; there are a number of radio  stations in Lagos,  I cannot imagine why something as significant as this would be advertised on only one radio station, and not even a  networked one at that.  Bearing in mind there are a number of applicants, I would have thought it would be best to broadcast as widely as possible. 

You are new to this forum, I would appreciate it if you don't even cross the line of accusing people of imagined insults.  Have I ever insulted you with my question?  I am not here to fight you or anyone else, if you can't answer a simple question I would appreciate it if you ignore my posts in future.

Lexusgs430:
The gingerbread is probably been duncked in the fanta !!! Android devices aka battery drainer
Every good thing comes @ a price !!!

What make and/or OS doesn't drain the battery? I get the impression it's a Smartphone thing - the first time I encountered this was with a Nokia E72.

So, hundreds of applicants and only 20 travelling?  Does that mean that only 20 people have paid for  their medical?

@ Cipriani -  you are obviously not aware of how anti-spambot works on the site. There are lots of regular users whoset up secondary IDs because the first is blocked for a period, this is nothing new.  I'm sure if you click on Collinsfbi you will find what he was trying to post before he was blocked.  He could have easily set up a profile and pretend to be someone else (as others have done) but he didn't.

Second, if I had information about any "fraudulent" activity going on in the name of a business I would not be posting it on this forum.  Just as Crystal has its "secret" ways of doing things, so do those who gather information.  If Crystal Services are straightforward and legit, the information to be posted is irrelevant and can be explained away.  It's only where there's an abuse of the system that is the problem.

@ tonnyflicks - sorry, only Bond FM?  Was that for budgetary reasons?

To stechi, Luka315 and others

Technically speaking, when you apply for a new driver's licence, they're supposed to issue you with a receipt - yes, you have to drive around with a receipt.  I did hear a FRSC official say this on radio that you will be able to drive around with this in lieu of a licence, so if police are harassing you then they obviously know that you aren't aware you're not "illegal" (as if the average Nigerian policeman cares about what is legal!)

The alternative is to get a drivers permit from your local LCDA or the nearest office that issues them in your area.  You will find however that you will probably have to pay twice as much for it as this delay in bringing out the new driver's licences meant that people have had to resort to getting a permit in order to conform to law.

The online form has been faulty from day one, I tried filling it in for someone and you always get stuck on the last option.  This was months ago and I see they still haven't bothered to correct it.

As for whether they've started issuing driving licences I don't know.  I know someone who was waiting for his since early February 2011, when they finally got one a few weeks ago it wasn't the new one.  Don't ask me what happened there, my understanding is that the materials for the new licence hadn't yet been issued.  If they have  been issued now it's no time too soon, imagine withdrawing materials since February and six months later still nothing properly put in place.

So, are we doing nothing with the market posts waiting for the new moderator to do it?  They're going to have an awful lot of work (or maybe the powers-that-be want to throw them in at the deep end  )

I got a bag of whole dry peppers and put them in with the beans - voila, weevils killed
I think having an airtight container with the pepper in helped, as I coughed like crazy when opening it.

If  your cousins can do it and follow a logical discussion, it goes to show that there are women out there who can keep their word.  Generalisations are not constructive.

You can't train someone like a dog to do what they never saw or learned to do in their family homes.  Yes women are emotional creatures, and yes they can vacillate between two things, but that doesn't make them unnecessarily indecisive or unreliable or unable to keep their word.  It is about making a decision and sticking to it. There are a LOT of women who do keep their word, you just seem to be mixing with the "wrong" type.

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ehie: Nigerians in general celebrate mediocrity, and i see it all around me not even in governance in the individuals i meet on a daily basis.
My two kobo on this is that you should seek to excel and continually improve yourself,strive to be better in terms of intellect and self awareness and not in terms of materialism and avarice.
We believe in conformity,the herd mentality it is pathetic, they believe in everything the newspaper tells them and are not curious,they font talk to themselves,ask themselves questions,look for solutions instead assign blame because it is much easier to be a critic than an achiever, Nigeria is a very medicore nation,success is actually having money in the bank,being a lawyer or a doctor a politician or a pastor.

creativity and innovation is not encouraged,brain stimulation is not encouraged,how many companies ask their staff to brain storm,make presentations?How many young people are encouraged to take creative risks,how many politicians.presidents can talk to the people in mind blowing oratory and not read a dull laborious speech in papaer not eve with a teleprompter.
Yes we are medicore

[quote author=$tunna link=topic=744295.msg9014174#msg9014174 date=1314372399]if all else fails, wait for god; try nothing, wait for god; misuse what god gave ya then wait for god; refuse to be informed n wait for god; wallow in corruption then wait for god; elevate mediocrity to your most important institutions and when the results come, sigh and wait for god; do RUNZ and when the consequence come knocking on your door, wait for god,[/quote]

Kobojunkie:
Mediocrity is reason why we feel it is our place to manufacture EXCUSES for why our politicians ought not to be expected to do MORE with the resources available to them. Considering many are aware of the parable of the ten talents, it is amazing how the same would quickly cook up excuses for why we should not expect so much from our Governor's and politicians because of one reason or another.

adanny01: The second question almost made laugh as am typing. Imagine it, the more cheaters, the less divorce. The more divorce, the less cheaters.

Cheating isn't the reason for less divorce.  The answer is here:

kokoye: Some people marry to be looked at responsibily in life, some do it for financial reasons and some for religious reasons. . .companionship. . .child-rearing, etc

Lexusgs430:
Android owners can also ping now through eBuddy XMS, the beauty of eBuddy XMS, is that it cuts through the android and iphone platforms. Once data plans are sold on other mobile platforms inclusives, then the death is nigh for Blackberry !!!!

I'm not convinced by eBuddy XMS. Ideally I would love something that is cross platform (Windows Phone, BB, Android and iPhone). THAT would definitely be the death of Blackberry.

omicpet:
it has been confirmed that new Nokia devices starting from the n97 to present release( including the n900, x7, c7, n950, n9. n8) and a few to list will die out by 1st month of 2013. this is due to as a result of nokia been sold out to windows and so there fore all Nokia devices running on maemo, meego, symbian 5th and os3 will die out as results of hardware failures and expired certificate, This comes as a big blow for us Nokia fanatics and lovers

Source?

malik sr

Age isn't the issue here, but you need to deal with your insecurities about it.

It seems to me that you are living in the house like a visitor and your wife is the landlord. If you share the utilities you should also share opinions. It isn't easy - either for a man or woman - to move into someone else's home. It's obvious you and your wife interact but don't talk about what really matters, otherwise the kind of situations like her sister's visit will come up again and you will once again act like she's "taking advantage of you".

seedord247:
since am not marry what should say ?

Come back to the thread when you're married?

A text sent 24 hours or less about a group photograph doesn't sound very organised.

@ OP, they say we subconsciously marry someone who looks like our family members, either mother, father or sibling we are close to.

Now marrying someone with the attitude of that parent is another matter altogether!

Ariblaze - I can totally understand where you are coming from. I can tell you from experience that when you meet the right person, marriage is definitely worth it.

I would never say I didn't see the relevance in marriage, but I enjoyed my single life, probably because I was doing what a lot of singles weren't.  Some people thought I was too traditional, I was even told my standards were too high, but I was not prepared to compromise for the sake of culture, tradition or because of family pressure.  I've put up with a lot of abuse from supposed well meaning people because I was single past 30, but thankfully I was never under pressure from my family.

Responsibility is not just for married people but for any mature adult.  It is not wrong to remain single, the big problem is that culturally (if you choose to live within those confines) some people think you aren't a responsible adult or even an adult if you are not married.

What is there in marriage?  Companionship and commitment.  In marriage you learn about the other person but an awful lot about yourself.  Being selfish is not an option within marriage.  Don't get into marriage if you're going to be looking for an exit in the near future, and don't marry someone if you have seen things you don't like and think they will change.  It is no use marrying someone because you feel you should without knowing who  you're dealing with.  You find you appreciate your spouse a lot more when you're apart because you miss having that other person around, you miss someone to talk to and/or harass, you simply miss their presence.  And never marry someone who you don't appreciate.

Marriage can either be a tie that binds in a healthy way, or a millstone around a person's neck.  That is why I'm often surprised at how people get married for some glib reason, or string along lies, or are deceptive (in collusion with family) and how naive some of us are when it comes to marriage.  Boyfriend and girlfriend is NOTHING compared to husband and wife. 

Don't feel the need to conform to society's values regarding marriage, you are the person that has to live with it not family or friends.  If you are remotely in doubt about a person, think twice before committing.  The person you are when single is the person you carry into any relationship.  Enjoy being single by all means, but never rule out marriage.

As for marriage's irrelevance to men, what you need to do is go to a man who's marriage is a good and happy one, and ask him why he got married.

harakiri:
From a man's perspective, there's nothing in marriage most especially in today's "civilized" social construct. Gender "equality"/the feminazi movement have killed the essence of marriage. Most people who get married today are in it for the wrong reasons e.g they are old enough,they have the finance,they want kids,they want to please society,their religion dictates it,for sex, etc. When the temporary euphoria elapses, it's only a matter of time before reality sets in. You can have company,sex and kids without marriage. Nuff said!

Marriage is and will always be relevant in society.  Many people are quite happy to emulate certain aspects of marriage - I'm sure you'd still want sex with a woman whether "feminazi" was real or imagined.  But the thing is people nowadays have options and can pick and choose what they like.  Most of those options are a pretend marriage i.e. want all the benefits but without the responsibility.

dragnet:
About tagging 'common words', that isnt easy cuz there isn't really any distinct 'common word' which can be associated with such threads and if there's none, machine cant work. . So it all bores down to 'human action'. . The mods.

I agree. If it came down to common words some ordinary posts could be blocked and there would be even more problems.  Human action and antispam bot can work well together, but the humans have to keep their eyes open and not just rely on technology to do their work for them.

@ Mukina - I wonder if the person who wants to moderate should have a minimum amount of posts on NL?

ceejay80s:
@seun why u divert one of the best thread on MOBILE TV to another section, u remove am for sticky thread then u send am go ajamgbadi. Secondly: na u dey chop your money alone and u say mods no try,u dey pay dem for internet browsing? Guy, dis na man to man talk, if u ready make we sign contract, i go be mod for 2yrs. I dey ready to bann aieromon,honsule,semid4lyfe,wilfem,Puskin,andrew,dragnet,texaspette,seun,etc for life . Sign me as dem sign mikel for 20million per week, me go give u discount sha

You are not well, lol.

I actually find it frustrating trying to read through posts in the Phones section because there seem to be more ads for phones for sale than anything else.  I think Seun may have a point, even if it's a bit harsh. 

There were land ads in this section for at least a week.  After the first few were posted, the poster threw caution to the wind and next thing there were like 5 or 6 land for sale ads, and they stayed there for a while.  I did a "Report to Moderator" but they were still there a couple of days later. 

In the light of the sticky by one of the mods not to put phones for sale here, it just seemed funny that even more phone ads were clogging the phone section, so it was a bit like a lion without any teeth.  Having been a moderator on another site I know it's not easy, but you have to be persistent and consistent.  Only then will people get the message and show some respect for the phone section.

Bet the woman was just the cook. Kidnapping is hard work o!

^^You've just highlighted something there. I wonder why these people can't give an estimate of what they charge?

[quote author=Sisi_Kill link=topic=740790.msg8981614#msg8981614 date=1314029628]Rotflmao @ Feminist Cabal! So what did we do? We used our secret telephone to call arrange's wife, instructed her to beat the royal crap out of him then we used our special powers to psychically suggest to OP to come and post his story here so we can use it to promote our dastardly goals? Bwahahahahaha!! https://l.yimg.com/us.yimg.com/i/mesg/emoticons7/24.gif[/quote]I think since last year that word "cabal" has become very popular.  Is "feminist cabal" a new Nollywood film like Blackberry Babes?

CanImServ:
Dear Members,

I found this post intuitive and amusing. " There is no "secret formula" for working in Canada for two years,"

There is always a trade secret in every successful and legitimate business otherwise others will take advantage of your exposed skills. Trade secrets are never revealed to any one. However it is possible to be overly secretive and arouse suspicion. We are not however a strictly business network in Canada and do not have an office in Lagos. So, we urge those who are really concerned to stay close to their contacts at Crystal Services, engage an attorney or an investigative journalist and keep their eyes open.
Things might be better though, had Crystal Services had a comprehensive website.

Good Luck.

"Secret formula" is applicable to running a business, not moving people people via immigration processes.  In this context we are talking of a business that wants to move 40 or 4000 people to another country to work.  I don't expect to know the graphic details but then when you hear a company is not going through the prescribed channels, people have every right to question them.

If there is anything "secretive" about the immigration process, that can only come from the government in question, not the potential immigrants/emigrants, nor those looking to send workers abroad.   While there are legitimate workarounds, no government wants to open themselves to litigation if "secrecy" - and I use the term loosely here - means double standards i.e. breaking their own immigration laws.

Even without a website, they could have done a better PR job.  Whoever felt the need to advertise on Crystal Services' behalf should have put all the relevant information in the first post, not scatter a number here or address there - you can't blame people for being suspicious if they do that.

justwise:
Were u banned by the system yesterday while trying to re-post/ edit the post by mcommcerce ?

Two words: antispam bot, the curse of many a NLander.

arrangee:
Thanks for the posts. I had to run to south London to meet with a friend and eat some egusi & poundo. It was also good to hang out and he regaled me with his own marriage issues too, some were funny and others quite astonishing. He is not speaking terms with his MIL! His general gist was that it's a control thing and that the London wives know the laws are on their side, so they take every advantage. Even then he was shocked at her behaviour. He said from a pure naija perspective he is convinced she has no respect for me and that I'm finished - how disheartening.

@N101
I really didn't see this coming, She had a bit of a temper but it didn't manifest in this manner. This never happened when we were dating. Could it be that she hiding her true self during the dating period?


I have firmly made up my mind - this will not happen again. Soon this madness will begin to affect my work, the very thing that keeps us both going. Not to speak of the damage to my health with all the thinking and stress.

From personal observation I know some people with bad tempers get worse once married.  I had a friend whose wife was exactly the same.  No one in the family believed him when he mentioned how violent she was, until one day she ripped the phone from the socket to stop him calling the police.  The same day the elders came and were still in denial, he simply showed them what she had done.  They were shocked and had nothing to say.  They have since divorced and sadly the whole experience has left him bitter about marriage.  I don't want to see that happening to you.

I don't think this has to do with London laws, I know enough women in the UK who don't have this kind of wahala in their homes.  It has to do with a certain type of woman.

It seems to me that your wife is unhappy which is why she's picking a fight with you.  Coming to the UK and studying hasn't made her happy and regardless of your support, I don't know what will.  Having a child will not necessarily make her happy, that is added responsibility.  Being jobless and childless does not justify her unreasonable behaviour.

You family and hers need to find out from her what she wants.  If she doesn't want to be married, at least you've tried on your part.  If she wants this marriage to work, then she needs to decide what she will do to make it work.  I definitely would suggest counselling, but not just any kind of counsellor.  She has issues that have nothing to do with you.  

I think you need and deserve the break, focus on your job, ensure her needs are met, stay away from her until someone can mediate.  This time around not just someone from her family should be present, but your own side as well.  She needs to realise how serious the situation is and take responsibility.

CanImServ:
Dear Members,

I am still here in Lagos. Further to my last post I just want to explain that many services in Canada are on vacation or preparing to key-in on the changes in the new Canadian immigrant laws. Apparently, information on what's possible (and what's plausible) is at bay. Organizations are re-writing their guides and agreements in order to comply with what is envisaged on the new law. The processes from Crystal Services can only be deduced from its foreign partners in homeland Canada - if known.

If any of the forum members have any useful knowledge that can - intelligently - guide this forum, please do not hesitate to post them before September 4/5.

Thanks and good luck

I think you would be better off providing an email address or contact number that people can pass on any useful knowledge. Putting it on a public forum may make them vulnerable don't you think?

[quote author=Justwise. link=topic=741630.msg8980083#msg8980083 date=1314016912]@All for your informations[b] i did't know there is someone using the username i choosed[/b] "Justwise but now that there seems to be some confusion i will open another username and abandon this one but i guess i will need to check through all the name on this forum to choose a suitable name.[/quote]As  you seem to know a bit about forums I find the above in bold unconvincing. You know full well that if you register a name you will be informed if it's in use or not.  In this case the fact that  you've modified it a bit speaks volumes.

oienst:
House, to confirm my person please go check and confirm even my previous  post outside of this thread in clothings in this forum.i beg kindly tell this mindless buffon called "justwise",to act  up like an adult-assuming he is one.

House,my question is this:if crystal knows how to make things happen(its own secret formula), do you think he will explain the details to you? if it doesnt,will that make it a scam?, if you think so then, vertually all humans had been conned because Cocacola never gave anybody their mixture or did google tell you how they made us to fall in love with the google site(least yahoo search was there earlier)and their andriod os.

As part of the "house" let me respond. Because you have one post on another thread does not necessarily make much of a difference.  One out of nine isn't significant.  Others have joined solely to respond to this thread. I've seen someone post up to 50 times but it was the same thing.  When I first joined NL I was involved in one thread, but within the first 9 posts I branched out to others.

If Crystal have a "secret formula" for getting workers for Canada, that automatically generates suspicion, and you can't blame Nigerians for that.  There is no "secret formula" for working in Canada for two years, unless that "secret" is to make money unscrupulously from Nigerians equally desperate to improve their lot in life.  I know of people who went to Canada as temporary workers (not from Nigeria), and what went on was no secret.  The sending organisation didn't repeatedly delay the trip for questionable reasons, there was no going to a third country for orientation.  "Secret formula" in Nigeria is always an excuse to circumvent due process and not operate above board.

You can't compare Coca Cola or Google to what is going on here.   They've taken advantage of the market, where they have broken local laws (such as Google having people's information via vulnerable wifi in the UK or Coca Cola's questionable bottled water in India), they also had to pay the price .  Neither Coca Cola or Google are so powerful that if they break the law or take advantage of vulnerable situations they will not be called to account.

If Crystal Services are sincere, then they are out of their depth on this one.

@ arrangee

I think you know very well who you married:

arrangee: When we were dating, I noticed she had temper but it was nothing like this. Besides I thought it was manageable, we all have imperfections. They told me show her love and I did - there is nothing I have not done for her within my means, sometimes I go without for her.

Your wife didn't suddenly become this woman with a bad temper, she ALWAYS had it.   You chose to overlook it, and chose to believe and listen to others saying "show her love" when you know full well these people will not be living in your home.

Sorry, but "love" cannot make up for someone's foul temper and  bad behaviour.  You chose to ignore it and married her thinking it wasn't a big deal.  Well, now you know it is. 

Being unemployed and/or bored is not an excuse for bad behaviour from an adult.  If you don't want to divorce I suggest you make some space between you and your wife.  Tell her family the situation, she needs to decide what she wants to do regarding your relationship, the onus is not on you. If after a period  you both decide you want to be together, you have to establish ground rules, especially regarding her behaviour.

@ poster - if this little girl is not being molested - and I hope for your sake this is not the case - I think both you and the mother have taken the wrong stance. As for the mother's virtue, far be it for me to question it, but to think beating the child will deal with the problem is simply burying your head in the sand.

And this is the second time?? She "dealt" with the child the first time after the househelp reported the child - how? Should the mother not have started monitoring her child/ren from the time of the first incident and try to get to the root of the matter?