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Romance › Re: What Is The Big Deal In Hitting A Woman? by Nekai(f): 10:35pm On May 10, 2011

Romance › Re: Romance Section Chat Room III by Nekai(f): 10:59pm On May 08, 2011

realityyyy!!!

Family › Re: Why Are There So Much Pressure On Girl's In The Family? by Nekai(f): 7:19am On May 08, 2011

I think it is ironic that the boy, who will become the head of a household someday, is sometimes allowed to be more irresponsible.

Family › Re: Happy Mothers Day by Nekai(f): 6:56am On May 08, 2011

Family › Re: Son slaps mother by Nekai(f): 5:02am On May 08, 2011

Tosinville:
head first? don't understand

Never mind, lol. I don't think you want a visual. But really, I would be on the next flight out of the U.S. and I would give that foul-mouthed little snot what he's asking for. When I'm done, something will be broken.

Advocator:
Probably copying his dad.

There isn't anything wrong with this kid. He is expressing a normal emotional upheaval that all of us did as kids. The real problem is the Mother. By allowing this kid to scream and vomit rhetoric in disgrace and dishonor, actually hurts him. Had she backhanded him sharp and quick with much pain the very first time he disrespected her, he would be a lot better off and contain the ability of self control. No wonder he is overweight.

Truth!

Family › Re: Son slaps mother by Nekai(f): 4:23am On May 08, 2011

Head first!

Romance › Re: What Is The Big Deal In Hitting A Woman? by Nekai(f): 4:21am On May 08, 2011

I hope very intelligent women don't repulse and frighten you!

Family › Re: Son slaps mother by Nekai(f): 4:04am On May 08, 2011

If I he was my child I would stuff his azz back where he came from and let him cook for a few more months.

Romance › Re: What Is The Big Deal In Hitting A Woman? by Nekai(f): 6:30pm On May 07, 2011

[quote author=Blood_Shed link=topic=661433.msg8272668#msg8272668 date=1304718350]I literally LOL'D grin

I almost laughed myself to death, seriously, my cosuin just walked into my room all concerned.[/quote] angry

Ok, we'll see. cheesy

2buff:
<british>
I say!
I'll have you know that opium is not a drug!
It is many things BUT a drug.

I would advise you take heed of this concept prior to speaking about this again.

</british>

Romance › Re: What Is The Big Deal In Hitting A Woman? by Nekai(f): 10:41pm On May 06, 2011

[quote author=Blood_Shed link=topic=661433.msg8272613#msg8272613 date=1304717439]FV<K OFF MAN!

Was I F<CKING talking to you?

Well, now that I am lol, I was just stating a fact, that's all.[/quote]Was I talking to you?

Well now that I am, lol, I was just stating a fact and asking a question, that's all.

Blood_Shed I'm not giving up on you. By the time I'm done with you, you'll believe in the intelligence and positive contribution of the female species.
kiss

Romance › Re: What Is The Big Deal In Hitting A Woman? by Nekai(f): 10:28pm On May 06, 2011

He is responding to the subjects question by saying if a woman hits a man, a man can hit a woman. Why should I be accepting respinsibility for something I don't do?

Romance › Re: Why? by Nekai(f): 10:24pm On May 06, 2011

Advocator:
I refuse to call those kind of weak creatures men. Where I came from, where I reside I have observed that men fall in love with their women so much when moment she gives birth to his child. His respect, love, kindness and look-out grows for her to the maximum. Dear, I don't know what kind of species you toddle with, but in most cases what you just narrate never occurs in my hood nor is it done by my people (well most cases).

Romance › Re: What Is The Big Deal In Hitting A Woman? by Nekai(f): 10:22pm On May 06, 2011

2buff:
wow, where did that come from?

Say no to drugs. tongue

Violence is wrong both ways. wink

Romance › Re: Why? by Nekai(f): 10:12pm On May 06, 2011

Advocator:
How can any guy demean a woman who give birth to his baby. She is the mother of his baby, the core of the family and his love for her should increase in great percentage.

OP I think you are as confused as the word goes, your topic should have been why is it that men fall in love with their women even MORE when they have their babies?

It may sound strange, but some men actually demean women who give birth to their babies, and even neglect and mistreat their own babies too. She is saying that the man broke up with the mother of his child years ago, but he still thinks she should be having sex with him, and he doesn't want her dating anyone else.

Romance › Re: What Is The Big Deal In Hitting A Woman? by Nekai(f): 10:03pm On May 06, 2011

Nekai:
Well then we agree. Men can walk away from a provoking person, even though it might not be easy to do. A coward is defined as 'one who shows disgraceful fear or timidity'. Therefore the man that would walk away from a provoking person that is stronger than them, or armed, but feels no such restraint when it comes to weaker women, are cowards who are displaying disgraceful fear and timidity. If you are 'man enough' to hit a woman, you should be man enough to hit an armed policeman. The men who realize that they don't have to resort to violence to maintain their position as head, now those are real men.

beejaei:
What kind of reasoning is this? What is cowardly about beating someone that is weaker than you? What is "disgraceful fear or timidity" about hitting a woman or anyone? It does not make sense. The fact that you hit the person mean you are neither afraid nor timid. And the reason you do not hit the policeman is because he has a gun so he is "stronger" than you. That does not make you less than a real man, that makes you a sensible person who knows what fight to avoid.

Re-read the quote. If you are the type of person to respond with your fists, you should be that way with everyone who provokes you. If you are only picking fights that you can easily win, that makes you a coward.

Romance › Re: What Is The Big Deal In Hitting A Woman? by Nekai(f): 8:59pm On May 06, 2011

[quote author=Natasha,, link=topic=661433.msg8272106#msg8272106 date=1304711409]well we all get pushed to the wall and when that happens we have no other option than to strike back however it can't still justify hitting a woman or a man its not only women who get hit men too I for one I am a man hitter yep its very true I hit men but every single one I have hit has never retaliated. Anyway bottom line is its not a good thing whether its the woman who's been hit or the man. We should try to control ourselves even if sometimes its difficult [/quote]Are you a men hitter, as in current? If that is the case then you are dead wrong. Point blank, plain and simple. If your man is unfaithful to you you will be complaining about the trauma you are experiencing. If not, simply ignore this. If you cannot physically restrain yourself from hitting your man, you shouldn't be upset when he can't physically restrain himself from cheating. It is just as mentally and emotionally abusive.

Romance › Re: What Is The Big Deal In Hitting A Woman? by Nekai(f): 8:48pm On May 06, 2011

[quote author=Blood_Shed link=topic=661433.msg8271999#msg8271999 date=1304710120]Not really, but sooner or later they'll be off duty and/or without their weapon(s) so they'll get dealt with then.

Again, that might be easy for you to do but everybody's different. But if I had my way, if somebody provoked me and I had the power to kill them on the spot by, I dunno, snapping my fingers for example, hell I'll gladly do it.
One less prick in the world.
You call it murder, I call it pest control. And that should teach people to keep themselves to themselves.[/quote]Well then we agree. Men can walk away from a provoking person, even though it might not be easy to do. A coward is defined as 'one who shows disgraceful fear or timidity'. Therefore the man that would walk away from a provoking person that is stronger than them, or armed, but feels no such restraint when it comes to weaker women, are cowards who are displaying disgraceful fear and timidity. If you are 'man enough' to hit a woman, you should be man enough to hit an armed policeman. The men who realize that they don't have to resort to violence to maintain their position as head, now those are real men.

(Mr. you may want to revise your personal philosophy on the subject of killing folks. What did I expect from someone named Blood-Shed? grin

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Romance › Re: What Is The Big Deal In Hitting A Woman? by Nekai(f): 8:22pm On May 06, 2011

[quote author=Blood_Shed link=topic=661433.msg8271830#msg8271830 date=1304707804]Look, miss me with that bvllsh!t. "Uh, no matter what they do, you shouls always walk away, ra hrah rah". FVCK OUTTA HERE!! Like its easy. Funny nobody tells women that, when they feel the need to provoke people. If someone decides to provoke somebody else (male or female) then it must be okay for the other person to retaliate by any means. Think that's unfiar? Then DONT PROVOKE. You don't have the right to go out of of your way to provoke someone then tell them how to feel. FVCK DAT!

Don't start trouble with anyone and you'll be fine, if that's a problem then don't be mad when you get your face punched in or your stomach blown out. Simple.

Women don't want equality, they want superiority. That equality talk is all a front.

You can't put yourself in a man's shoes and not expect to get treated like a man.[/quote]It's easy to walk away from a provoking policeman, or a provoking armed man. Also, nobody said anything about having the right to provoke another person.

Bottom line, you shouldn't let another person dictate your life. Provocation can be easily avoided by walking away. Like I stated earlier, why walk away from an elderly person. What about a mentally handicapped wheelchair bound person? Retaliation by any means? You can't control what other's do. You can only control your response to their actions.

Romance › Re: What Is The Big Deal In Hitting A Woman? by Nekai(f): 8:12pm On May 06, 2011

[quote author=omo_to_dun link=topic=661433.msg8271816#msg8271816 date=1304707598]@ Neka
You do have good points. But women are generally not demonized for hitting their men because society deem them as physically weaker. Men are always told to walk away! Men don't go around hitting people who are much bigger than them, unless their dignity or ego is on the line. Yes some men are abusive and have decorated their women with indelible bodily marks, but there is nothing worse or even comparable to the emotional and psychological distress that some women put men through. The fear of a woman is the key to a long and happy life.[/quote]Men put women through emotional and psychological distress as well. It doesn't make it right either way, but women are generally not demonized for hitting/assaulting their men because it boils down to a different form of abuse. Mental/emotional trauma is just as damaging, but society doesn't get down on men for cheating/playing the field with different woman and that is just as mentally abusive. When it comes to other forms of abuse it is more equal because men/women are on a level playing field when they are wronging the other person.

The demonization comes when the physical advantage is used to make another a punching bag. Men are biologically stronger than women in terms of muscular strength. The biological advantage makes it so wdely accepted.

Romance › Re: What Is The Big Deal In Hitting A Woman? by Nekai(f): 8:00pm On May 06, 2011

Yes. Avoid those individuals that resort to provoking others.

Romance › Re: What Is The Big Deal In Hitting A Woman? by Nekai(f): 7:30pm On May 06, 2011

Blood_Shed, provokation isn't right but it takes mental strength and discipline to realize that you shouldn't take advantage of the person. (It's my opinion that people who take it far with provoking others are really immature and it's best to just avoid/ignore them since reasoning won't work) Just like you wouldn't take advantage of a 9 year old sexually developed girl that was provoking you, even if she came and sat on your lap.

With kids, we don't hit them out of anger or frustration. We hit them to teach them an important lesson on the consequences of disobedience. Only those people who love and care about the child should administer physical discipline. If my sister hits my child out of love and correction I will not be upset. If a stranger hits my child simply because he/she was unknowingly standing in the way, it is a whole different story. There are men who think their girlfriends/wives are subject to this same level of discipline. If she reached the age of adulthood and she can legally consent to marriage, her disciplining is complete. If not, don't marry her, or take her to her parents.

"Just like a real woman knows her place and understands not to provoke a man who is physically stronger." I agree that a woman should not provoke a man, (people shouldn't provoke one another, really) but the problem men (I'm not referring to u) face when using this argument to defend hitting women is that provoking is a relative term. One man may be provoked by their wife hissing her teeth. Another man feels provoked when a woman publically rejects his advance. One can also be provoked by false assumtions, like if a guy is dating a girl and he thinks she deliberately turns off her phone for the night to mess with someone else. He may blow into a physical rage as soon as he spots her, not knowing her phone was broken.

I have a problem when people abuse others in general, even when provoked because you don't know what caused them to act the way they did. They could have recieved a scary diagnosis, or their marriage is in trouble. Just be thankful you are not them and move on.

Romance › Re: The Most Difficult Stage In My Life by Nekai(f): 7:05pm On May 06, 2011

prophet1:
I am 28 years old and throughout my life i have been through alot and seen many challenges as everyone has. Before anyone becomes a full grown adult he or she faces many challenges in terms of love, education, job related issues, family problems among others.

I have finally rented a new apartment at dansoman for 2 years. and fully furnished it. So i will be leaving my dads house and finally starting a life in an enviroment an not use to.

Am praying to marry this year too as many friends of mine have married and have childerns. Even though i earn GHc 500 at my current job a month. I think i can focus in life and change my condition. If i want to wait for a big opportunity to come before i marry, buy a house or complete my on going house it will take ages.

So i guess its time for me to move out and face the world as every person does. thats what makes you a man. This is my year and i will many in my small ways and with Gods help i will survive even though it will not be easy for me. But when i look around am far better than many people yet still they are happy. So how much me who is educated, working and recieving a managable salary and have a sleeping place.

Please wish me luck, advice me if you have any, but what ever would happen i will be here after sometime to update you about my new stage in life. This is a realy story. The story of my life.

Thank You all and may allah fulfill my wish.

Good luck! Isn't it a great feeling to close the door to your own place and sit down and look around? It will be lonely at times, but resist the urge to move someone in, even if they offer to pay half of everything.

I can remember my first night in my first apartment and it was a great feeling. After everything was settled I took pictures and just walked around. I prayed and asked God to bless my home and vowed not to allow sinful activities to take place in my home by myself or others. It was so quiet (and kind of scary) that first night. The thing that made it hard to sleep was that my mind was swirling with all of my goals and plans for the future. I was still in school so I wasn't thinking about marriage, but more about balancing school/work/housework/social life with the responsibility of living by myself. I also wanted to build on skills I wanted to take with me when I started a family, like cooking daily, having a stable time for meals, and not watching too much tv.

It's great that you have such a positive mature outlook on life. God Bless you on this new phase of your journey and your search for Mrs. Right. Keep us updated!

Romance › Re: What Is The Big Deal In Hitting A Woman? by Nekai(f): 6:43pm On May 06, 2011

I agree livedit!

[quote author=Mynd_44 link=topic=661433.msg8271405#msg8271405 date=1304703200]@Poster what is the point of hitting someone who you would overpower easily? It takes out the very meaning of the word "FIGHT"[/quote] cheesy

I wish guys like you would come with these so that you would be easily indentifiable.

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Romance › Re: What Is The Big Deal In Hitting A Woman? by Nekai(f): 6:28pm On May 06, 2011

Since men have a physical advantage in terms of strength and muscular ability, it is cowardly to use this advantage to physically assault women.

Similarly if a child, a mentally handicapped, or frail elderly person were to provoke someone, the unfair advantage makes it a big deal to hit them.

If you use your physical advantage to physically assault someone who is weaker than you and can't fight back it makes you a coward.

A real man who knows his strength doesn't need to resort to such things. It's funny how the same cowards who hit women, wouldn't hit their boss, a policeman, or a professional boxer. (Not to mention they wouldn't hit a man holding a loaded gun)

Romance › Re: Why? by Nekai(f): 6:06pm On May 06, 2011

He is probably basing his view on observation. Many women have a child for a guy, and even if they break up, the man always comes around 'for the baby' and can usually maneuver his way into gaining access to 'the goods'.

It's not fair of a guy to play around like that. However, a woman shouldn't sell herself short, kid or not. Next thing another child comes along and they still aren't 'together'.

Romance › Re: Ladies How Would You Like To Be Approached by Nekai(f): 9:41am On May 06, 2011

Are you sure? There's going to be an exam at the end.

Romance › Re: Ladies How Would You Like To Be Approached by Nekai(f): 9:05am On May 06, 2011

[quote author=BABE! link=topic=660980.msg8268278#msg8268278 date=1304664572]^^ LOL-- that was my way of saying "watsup" madam. wink

If WAEC asked me that question, that's what I would say. Coz the question was "how would you like to be approached and what do you want from a guy"?

I'll probably get 5 out of 10 points though.[/quote]Watsup to you too? That's true, he did ask what u wanted from a guy. I would have composed my whole essay and missed that. My score would be 4 out of 10. embarassed

Nairaland General › Re: Seun, Do You Care About Your Forum? by Nekai(f): 8:38am On May 06, 2011

Quote from: Genius100 on May 03, 2011, 08:11 PM
Every time I come here, I'm extremely disgusted by how you allow bigots to flourish on Nairaland. You do not seem to know the importance of a good brand. The Nairaland brand as it stands, has a terrible reputation as being full of bigots. Yet, you continue to watch in silence. Are you really that naive?

I read a post in the Family section where you e-mailed someone about the title of their thread, and I found it so funny that you continue to ignore the eyesore that your forum is becoming, yet you have time to ask someone to change the title of their thread to "househelp pregnant or whatever". This is really a classic case of ignoring leprosy to cure ringworm.

You do not seem business savvy at all, perhaps it's the Nigerian factor that is not allowing you to see the potential of your website if you eliminated bigots. Your forum rules are a complete joke. One would expect the Administrator of the most popular Nigerian forum to benchmark other sites and apply best practices. You know you have a problem with ethnic bigots, yet there is no rule against "ethnic baiting" in your forum rules. Yet, guys like you are the first to criticize politicians in Nigerian, but you are unable to provide a good user experience in an ordinary internet forum. I'm thoroughly and absolutely disgusted.

If you do not get your acts together, a well administered competitor will come soon and knock your forum out of the water. Good luck.

I find this rant to be highly amusing.

The "naive" administrator of this "ordinary internet forum", (which by the way has a "terrible reputation as being full of bigots" wink

who doesn't seem to be "business savy", created forum rules that are a "complete joke", and is "unable to provide a good user experience", must have had a good chuckle over this.

Genius 100, I hate to poke fun at your frustration (since I know there are some provoking members out there) but if you look back at this post in a few weeks you will have a good laugh too.

Romance › Re: Ladies How Would You Like To Be Approached by Nekai(f): 7:37am On May 06, 2011

abacha2011:
ladies how would u like to be approached and what do u want from a guy

abacha2011:
u walking along the road and a random man-dem comes to you what do u want him to say to you what do you want him to do or do ladies like to be approached

[quote author=BABE! link=topic=660980.msg8268157#msg8268157 date=1304662685]So if WAEC (Home Management) asked you that question, that's the story you'll be yanning abi? undecided

@Topic:
1) Brush your teeth before you speak to me.

2) Smell good! --You don't need to use Ralph Lauren perfume-- Tura Soap or Dudu Osun is ok!

3) Don't force it-- Do you--Be yourself!

Those are the three basic/complusory criteria---i.e What must go down for me to even look at your face.

The rest is left to me. The decision is mine to make. wink

[/quote]I don't think if WAEC was asking the question this would be your response, because you are giving him tips on basic hygiene. tongue

As far as being himself, it's obvious that he is unsure of what that means yet, hence why he's asking the question in the first place. Your point is taken though.

Poster, try this thread:

https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-519.0.html

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