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omicron:
Thanks y'all for your comments! They'll really be of help.
@lady T, it's not zero sperm count, it is low plus other sperm anomalies!
@nekai, yes i agree wt u. Stuffs like this are not usually discovered until after marriage, cos people rarely set out to check if they have any hidden sperm abnormalities. But the guy in question is a frnd who happens to have some subtle features suggestive of a certain condition that presents with infertility. And tests have comfirmed it. Now his conscience would not let him marry his love without letting her know. So that's how he managed to know, otherwise he would most likely discover after years of childlessless in marriage (of course after the initial stage of blamìng the wife)
Pls more comments are welcome.

hunkyjohn:
"Turning" gay = frustration.
It's all part of psychological disorder.

AlbLin:
This subject is still new in our lives. We found out one week ago that our daughter got married and never told us. We are very close (or so we thought), and had absolutely nothing against her boyfriend, we were looking towards a wedding, and discussed it together quite often. However, this is not the first time we've been "knocked to the floor" with a major life-changing event from our daughter, but we started relaxing because it seemed as though she was finally heading down the right track and thinking before acting. Aside from ignoring the need to have our blessings and allowing us to be an integral part of this very special time of her life, they do not realize that this is deception, immature, and blatant dishonor to her dad. Our plan was to give them $20,000 to start their "new life" off with (as a surprise) and definitely our blessings, when they got themselves financially stable and prepared to handle the challenges of marriage as well as her small children. He was still struggling to take care of himself (financially) and we were still semi-supporting our daughter and her children. It's very obvious to us that they have absolutely no clue of what they've done and have repeatedly said to us that they don't feel they've done anything wrong. Our family is a very loving and close family, but I'm afraid he has come into our family on a very sore note. The pain and hurt that we are all feeling is indescribable and the deep concern of what they're facing troubles us so much. But the answer to the question is, definitely not. It's unfair and disrespectful towards the parents who love and care and it adds so much unnecessary emotional baggage to carry into a new marriage.

yemmykemmy:
Good day to you my darling,your question is very good and i know you need a good and sincere answer.
Every human being created as an iota of selfishness in them ,that manifest at a time in ones life ,you wonder why go through this child birth pain and discomfort to be a mum,its unfair on women, BUT WAIT AS A christian or muslim woman,we should not forget our duty which GOD as given us ,its like our reason here on earth,to look after our home .So my sister what do you clasify as your home or what will become your home,your home is not 50'' plasma TV in your front room ,or 10 bedroom house if you are lucky BUT(PAUSE) your home is (1)your husband(the man you chose,the man you love to the extent of living with him,sleeping with him and(2) majorly your GOD GIVEN CHILDREN.
AT THIS JUNCTION THINK GOD DID NOT GIVE MAN THE FACILITIES TO CARRY PREGNANCY (9months),ITS ONLY US WOMEN,SO IF YOU CANT CARRY PREGNANCY HOW DO YOU GO INTO LABOUR.

I WROTE THE ABOVE AS AN INTRODUCTION FOR YOU TO KNOW THE REASON WHY YOU ARE UNIQUE AND WONDERFUL,SEE YOURSELF AS SOMEONE A LOT OF PEOPLE LOVE,RESPECT AND DEPEND ON TO BE ABLE TO DO THIS TASK.

BY THE SPECIAL GRACE OF GOD ,AM A MOTHER AND I CAN TELL YOU ITS PAINFUL BUT

1)THE SPECIAL GRACE OF GOD

2)THE LOVE OF YOUR HUSBAND MAKE IT LESS PAINFUL,

DURING PREGNANCY READ A LOT OF BOOKS ON CHILDBIRTH,MY SISTER IT HELPS TO PREPARE YOU,IT MIGHT NOT BE AS IN THE BOOK BUT YOU HAVE AN IDEA,TRY AND WALK AT LEAST 30MINS AROUND YOUR AREA EVERYDAY.GET OFF THE BUS 15MINS BEFORE YOUR HOUSE AND WALK,DONT JUST SIT ON THE SOFA ALL DAY,THOU YOUR BODY WILL WANT TO DO THAT PARTICULARLY TOWARDS THE LASTS 2MONTHS .EAT FRUIT DONT JUST EAT HEAVY FOOD ALONE.MAKE LOVE WITH YOUR HUSBAND WHEN YOUR BODY CAN ALLOW(AROUND 5MONTHS AND 7MONTHS IS MORE ENJOYABLE)
ABOVE ALL BE VERY PRAYERFUL,APOSTLE PAUL WROTE IN THE BIBLE HE SAID WE(WOMEN)WILL BE REDEEM THROUGH CHILDBIRTH SO IT THE TIME OF YOUR REDEMPTION.
LISTEN CAREFULLY YOUR FRIENDS CHILDBIRTH EXPERIENCE MAY BE PAINFUL AND TRUMATIC YOU NEVER KNOW YOURS MAY NOT BE SO ,IT DEPENDS ON YOUR CERVIX OPENING ON TIME AND YOUR BABY READY TO COME OUT.
LASTLY ,THE JOY YOU WILL EXPERIENCE AS YOU HOLD HIM OR HER CANNOT BE EXPRESS BY MOUTH ,ITS UNIQUE .SO MY DEAR SISTERS THERE NO JOY THAN WHEN YOU HOLD YOUR BABY AND HE OR SHE SMILE BACK AT YOU.
GOD BLESS YOU ALL

Naominna:
My Dear Friends,
Many thanks for all you do. I have made 'notes' and jotted down very important points and counsels from all of you. I feel some form of 'empowerment' and a great sense of belonging here.

I have always have the fear that he might want to take the child someday, but i do not trust him enough to afford him that privilege. I have reservations that the child will not be better off with him at least for now. Please, just in case he raise the issue of taking the child with him how to i respond to that?
I have some cockroaches, lizards and all sorts dancing in my belly. Am so scared.

dustydee:
I admire his courage

annita19:
Even Jorge Lopez got caught screwing a love-peddler ewwww, but John Edwards, the american most wanted guy? Wow never woulda guessed, I'm just Gonna have 2 assume ALL MEN Are DoGS UNTIL PROVEN OTHERWISE!!

Naominna:
@ Ifyalways:
You 've made such an impact and I so adore you for that. He should be coming all the way from warri delta state for this meeting in lagos. I do not know what plans he has, i do not know either if he has friends/relations in lagos he intends to put up with. sincerely, i would like to be in control of my life. where exactly do you thing would be the best place for this meeting. does it make sense to let him know where we live.

ifyalways:
Have u told the boy yet?You don't want to give him a rude/pleasant shock do u?