₦airaland Forum

Ryan03:
I never grew up with my dad, five kids raised by my mum and if you try nonsense, you die. The woman is a tiger Some kids were raised by both parents and still turned out bad

Loool and lool

mickyarams:
I was 12 years old when we moved to the UK, and after some few months I made the mistake of telling my dad I will call the social services on him for shouting at me one morning. The first thing he did, he called his work place he won't be coming in because of family emergency, that was when I knew I 4cked up big time!! The kind of a55 whooping I got, I never ever made that mistake again.

Sorry I just had to quote this.

I love your dad,brain resetting asswhooping

Kikikiki.

novakk:
which is why i belive I can pray about it, and all will go well

Not necessarily bro, sometimes its just better to stay off and see how things play out.

Some dreams are direct warnings that the only remedy is to stay off
Some dreams are also shown to you of things that will happen but you can use prayer to avert them.

But for me oo, marriage is too delicate for this I can pray it off. That dream is too direct Its like you don't understand the implication of your supposed wife just leaving you abruptly after sometime and not finding her again. It could mean any thing (maybe even death) would take her from you suddenly .
This is not about her faults temperament or character that can be worked on .

You better take your dreams serious, very serious. God still speak through dreams

Prayer is not everything oo, obedience Is better than sacrifice.

God can speak to you in any way too.

Maximusdecimus8:
Hillsong is a church, sadly a lot of people live in a bubble and haven't stretched themselves to see what else there is. Pastor Brian and Bobbie Houston are its founders. They have branches in major cities across the world, and minister to the locals in that country. What I can say about most of the African churches that we make noise about, is that the simply provide a service for their kind overseas and nothing else. Hillsong ministers to all and is located not far from Oxford Street in London for instance, while most CE branches are in areas that are popular with Nigerians. 95% of church members in reddened, Christ embassy, winners etc in the west are Africans, predominantly Nigerians. These lot aren't reaching any lost here, but providing an extended service of their churches to their Nigerian clients. Similar to mama Calabar restaurant and co in London, these restaurants have 95% plus Nigerian guest and simply cater to them. Just as these restaurants provide a service for their kind in the west, so are most of these churches. All those videos you see of white members fronting for the church is to make folks think they are reaching the lost. CE bermondsey, Christ embassy barking area, redeemed Jesus house, VPA church barking Essex and winners all provide an extended service to Nigerians and nothing else. Even the location of these other churches are in African areas.

Hmmm you have a point oo

EngineerBode:



[b]
I like Christ Embassy but your claim which I made bold is wrong. That title goes to the Hillsong Church in Australia. Hillsong Church from far away Australia has produced the highest number of gospel artist and sold the highest number of gospel tracks/album out of any church worldwide

The same hill song albums we listen too? I never even knew there was a church named hill song.

SMJay:
A motion was filed in the court where money in his account was used to settle his debt.

Wow that's so nice

Loool the OPs last statement sha

SMJay:
He paid.

Nice, at least he didn't run away with the money.

SMJay:
Good morning,

The tenants has left. Thank you all for your inputs.

Without paying for 4 years rent ??

yettymuse:
But always remember say only your own hands would never disappoint you as a woman. Your own money is your shock absorber. You need to make your own money to avoid nonsense!


.... But you see Man money...na goldmine... na him sweet pass! Pray to chop am, no be noise.. Your life go soft!

woman wey man dey spoil no get two heads abeg

I like it when people are factual and realistic .

Oyel dey your head, your points are so so so true.

The 'your life go soft' part got me rolling with laughter.

ovalrose:
Happy Sunday, ma'am. How's the family? Please I just sent you a PM

Kindly check your mail

How can he expect you to leave your house by 4pm to computer village which is 2hrs from your place and he doesn't see reason with you saying you will go the next day instead.

The way you wrote 'I tried to pacify him' as if its an offence to prefer going at a more convenient time to change your laptop battery. If this one needs pacification what will you do when you offend him, wil you offer a sacrifice?

You are seeing the red flags now at least he's not pretending you better do the needful.

zedegit:
You will be shocked. How do you think the 2 months deduction will come from if it's regular payment?

Chai na real wa

zedegit:
I dont think it's a good offer. It has so many hidden things which needs a sharp sighter to note it.

Are you aware that they will not pay for the first 6 months? They know that you will get tired and wish to opt out, that's why they said they will deduct 2 months salary if you don't inform the management who will try to cajole you to stay

You can be told to work on Saturdays and Sundays. They will change it for you soon.
The more you look, the less you see.


Infact their way no pure.

Shey some private companies don't pay during probation period ? this is the first time I am hearing such .

Humbleamanda:
Is not a new company, according to them they have been existing since 1981. Am living in Lagos but to go to work on Monday morning, go home on Friday evening to resume back on Monday morning

I believe you don't live close by around ojo or something if you did you might be able to go and come daily.

Its well sis, hopefully they will respond well to your mail and modify it to microbiologist only.

Humbleamanda:
They said there will be salary increment after the six months probation. But I doubt that because in the job advert, they stated the salary range is 40-50k. We were upto 10 people that went for the interview, they choose me because I have 5 years experience and have attended some training with NAFDAC , so I insist they should raise the salary because I am the first person that will be working as a microbiologist in their firm. I am their to start everything from beginning, both working in Lab, developing all the documents needed by NAFDAC, etc. I think what they want to do is after I must have developed those documents, and placed SOPs on how each equipment is being used they will employ new person after six months to pay lesser salary and give me one excuse why they can't increase my salary

Well this is more like it, it sounded more like what a new organization will do, they want to use your brain to set everything up abi. They want to add the Job of the secretary to it that's not fair, I guess they intended to pay a secretary 10-20k so they are paying you the 60k for both jobs.

Just insist on the microbiologist job ALONE and do it for the 6months ( having in mind that after you set everything up they might let you go) and try to save up since you will be spending tfare on weekends only. They should type another offer letter for the microbiologist job alone

This kind job that will take a young married woman from her husband for 5 days in a week sef na wa.

Jamesbiodun:
did [b] I just see Igbesa? are you staying around there? which factory is it Viju or Tiles, most of the factory in Igbesa are owned by Chinese and India... [/b]my advice for you is to get a better job, people working daily are treated bad by the Chinese or India master.
they want you to work without going home till weekend, that is very bad.

As I saw igbesa the same thought came to my mind too.


The microbiologist and secretary is a no no for me, workload will almost kill you if you complain they will say its in your letter.

Writing offer letter as if you are going to a war zone

Microbiologist

or secretary , they should choose one .


Or is it a very new company?? @ OP

Wow and wow

Life is truly unpredictable sha, followed this thread back then.

Sorry for your loss OP.

J111333:
Gas cylinders are mostly heavy even without gas in them.

Going/Trekking/climbing okada/driving out to get it filled should be the job of a responsible husband and not the wife unless the man is disabled or unavailable at the moment

It's not even something to debate about or open a thread for.

I like your analysis of the bolded, the first and last time I carried a cylinder on okada (12.5kg oo that thing can break someone's leg, I never tried it again) was before I got married, Myself and mum at home only.

After I got married my husband does it, the few times I have bought gas it was because I was taking the car out and would pass by the filling station selling gas and would buy in the reserve cylinder .The gas guy would pick the cylinder from the boot fill up and return it to the boot hubby will drop it whenever he comes back.


My mum ditched the big gas cooker last last after i got married because of filling issues the now she uses a camp gas.

That 12.5kg is annoyingly heavy

The koko of my story is its a mans job.

larryking540:
I get your point of view ,but we have to listen to them first before we draw conclusion ,like me ,I always ask every girl am dating about their parents if they are still together how does your mother treat your father ,that part I wouldn't know untill I visit their home and spend a few long hours with them ,even reach how they treat their pet at home ,I am very very observant when it comes to relationship ,I am not perfect o,but I day extremely careful .

yes there are extreme cases of violence ,which it's understandable ,no matter how we portray Western life , the lady is sometimes give a little slap on the face ,when she misbehave ,it is when it involves breaking of bottle ,or going too extreme on the correction phase ,it'sokay of the lady leaves the hux
I have a friend who left the husband house Bec the husband slapped her , Sense day that one abi,same way she will definitely advise the daughter of man slap u ,pack comot from e house ,

You believe a lady should be given a slap on the face for correction


Have a nice day abeg.

Ybaby:
Pmoye is a wise man.

What he did not say is that those lazy men will suffer eh have you seen the tactics of a bitter woman.

The man will be disgraced everywhere they go - she will remove every masculine from him and make him her sissy and he will not be able to do anything about it.

Pay the Bill's as a man !!! It is for your own good or else wo ma wooo eh wa wooo mummy eh.


Just this evening one of my staff husband came to report her that because he has not paid the rent for 12 years she is always embarrassing him - I said ah! I will talk to her.

Of cos I am not talking to her- she works hard to put a roof over his head and that of thier 3 children. She is resentful and if it is only embarrassment he is getting I think it is fair

This woman ehhn you will not kill someone on NL.

larryking540:
bro we have 3 types of single mother.
the one that got divorced
the one who lost the husband to death
and the one who separated from the husband

The ones I am talking about is the divorced and separated.

larryking540:
marrying a lady who was raised by a single mother isn't a problem ,you should try know wat went wrong and also ask her back if such should happen in her own marriage will she leave the hux just the way her mother did? from there you will know where her loyalty lies after marriage

What if the 'such' that happened during to the mother was extreme domestic violence and she had to leave will you expect her daughter to condone such so as to know where her loyalty lies

I have seen someone that left a marriage because her husbands people wanted her to carry a sacrifice, they did not see anybody in their family to carry its the wife, wife now said if I must carry I must inform my family members, they didn't agree that's how kasala burst and wifey packed her things and child and ran away. she never remarried.

Would I advise her to stay i dont think so under such circumstances.

Someone will now say he won't marry the girl because the mother is a single mother

Its very easy to judge we don't know what led to what .

People will never address the main issue, its the mother's single hood they are blaming.

Loolz people and their issues.

Everybody is saying don't marry a woman that is raised by a single mother, even those that have turned women to single mothers will be among.

Now everybody is realizing the importance of not having live in family let the tables turn and you see the same set of people saying otherwise.

Calling police for what? Did she kidnap your child, is she not the mother.
Will calling police solve the issue, you should know where to look for your wife and kids naaaw.

Considering that I only view this thread, i doubt i have ever commented I will say this.

A woman has been called a prostitute, scammer and all what's not for a deal that didn't go through.

I wonder what will happen if commitments have been made, papers signed and serious issues arise. I was actually thinking it was something else when I saw the accusations. I have read more serious client contractor issues here.

Mr Dennis3D I will tell you from a neutral point of view, your handling of this was very wrong.

A lot of people would be very weary of contacting you for a job.

You are accusing her for not giving you a job and hurling such insults on her person even going as far as calling her a criminal that's very very low.

lilyheaven:
My sister, for my house, I have four elder sisters, Na only me the do everything for house, no rest, infact, if I say pin, they will beat me ontop. as them de marry, Na so I dey move from house to house de do nanny . They see it as my responsibility, my mama come talk say , make I no complain because them be my senior, na so I endure, come marry, they still carry their seniority come, them go the call me up and down, I want to do this, cook this, serve me this, I wan drink water, come and take your cup , water dey here o, come clean de water etc. my husband come ask me one day, if my sisters no fit help me do one thing, I tell am , say if I talk now , they will say I don grow wings, why I go send them message. One day, our eldest call me say she de come, make I cook her favorite keep, I say no problems, as she come, my two elder sister join body follow come plus my brother.
I just dey look them that morning, na only one person I tell my husband de come, now na four people dey house. I carry my bible, tell them say , yam dey for store, moi moi dey for fridge , even stew dey, if my pikin carry, make una help me feed am, I wan rush go church.
As I dey go, I leave my phone for house.
I leave house around 3pm, I come back around 8pm.
As I come back, I no come see them, na my children and their papa dey house.
Morning no reach sef, my phone dey ring up and down say make I no try dat kind thing again, say my pikin just dey cry cry, make I no try leave my pikin for them again. I come beg them say make them no ves.
Last last na them cook food wey them chop, scattered everywhere.
As for now, I no dey try say I wan go do Christmas for my house, all of them go come with their pikin , na me go carry all the chores for head. Them no no say person don grow
Chio, it's not easy to be last born. I benefited too, they paid my fees, they clothed me their oversized clothes even their adult gist the sweet me too

This tori sweet my belle.

The 2nd bolded is always the issue with elder siblings.

My mums elder sister still expects my mum to serve her and family even as both of them are old arugbo. she lived with her when younger trained all the pikin.

The space between then is quite much no1- no7

adetunjioludami:
Really and I couldn't achieve that with my LG 43" lk50, anything you play via USD or antenna would use tv speaker even after connecting home theater via HDMI. I had to stick to cable or use laptop HDMI to tv and sound to theatre

There's a tiny cable like that used to connect the home theatre direct to the TV. Optical cable I think, you connect the TV direct to the home theatre.

I know we use the HDMI for the decoder to the TV.
Then optical cable for home theatre to the TV (both are LG products)

Everything played on the TV , sounds through the home theatre and also the TV speaker once the function is on optical.

I remember because I was the one that looked for that tiny cable at alaba.

Living with somebody (friend,relative ,blood sister,in law whatever ) a lot of times doesn't end well. Issues like this will always come up.

Even siblings can be very terrible, some will use you to train their children and won't have any plans of progression for the sibling. You just notice that what the sister does for 2-3 years is nanny and housekeeping job, no personal achievement or anything.

You can resume doing the chores after you have totally recovered don't kill yourself ooo, just ignore her please or you can go home joor.

I wonder how she can't understand that you are not feeling well.

'This is not my dream way of getting married '

I find this statement very funny sha.

Orishirishi, you better go and marry her. I don't blame you sebi its the girl that is sleeping with you, getting pregnant and aborting it.

Nonsense and ingridents .

Fear God naaw haba

I am so pissed, irresponsibility of the highest order.

emkz:
I am not in Aisha's camp. I have never entered the villa in my life and never met Aisha. I have been a supporter of Buhari since his days in PTF and campaigned for him in 2011 in Lagos buses without receiving mobilisation from anyone. I took the insults in my stride because I believed he meant well.

Today, he seems disconnected from a lot of things that troubles me. His former Chief of Staff smuggled names into board appointments and usurped the powers of his VP, Buhari did nothing. His PA on new media promised to influence a court judgement, Buhari did nothing. His SA on media and publicity undermined his wife, his nephew's daughter mocked his wife and now his nephew had the guts to report his wife to his uncle and Buhari is doing nothing?

How does Buhari treat his wife that makes these people disrespect her so much?

If you are a man, would you allow your extended family treat your wife like this? Do you realize that a disrespect to your wife is a disrespect to you, especially as your wife is now a part of you?

If I have a wife like Aisha, I'd leap for joy every morning. When Buhari's tenure is over, many of these people undermining his wife would be no where to be found because he'd be useless to their devilish interests.

Thank Goodness we still have some sane people here.


What I am really concerned about is nobody is even talking about his supposed exposure to the covid 19 which caused all this wahala. Why can't the Tunde go on isolation must he put everyone at the villa at risk.

okine4real:
I know be baba ohh. Am a very young guy... 38 years to be precise. Am just lucky say I get sense small. When money enter person hand, use am wisely because money na visitor. If you use am go drink beer or go dey carry woman, na you sabi

Words of wisdom

Baba - The title is not only about age jooor