₦airaland Forum

Why won't the Tunde self isolate??

ovalrose:
Happy Sunday, ma'am. How's the family? Please I just sent you a PM

Happy Sunday ma, replied.

One4me:
Landlord- Tenant relationship is a Business relationship, they are not father Christmans. It is a matter of BUY-and- SELL


Save for it, avoid other expenses, just to make sure your rent is always available.

The only thing l cant and will never tolerate is a tenant that owes me rent, l so much detest them.


when the Landlord came to our house to collect the rent (5th of every January, he never misses it), l heard him praying for my Dad as usual. You will invite me to your own house warming bla bla bla.



l beleive that those tenants who really take their rent seriously and pay it on time, those who get the prayers of their Landlord, will build their own house in no time


But they know that if you want to see my red eye, just dont pay your Rent once it is one week before it is due then you will know that l am not nice at all.



Even the young banker who just got married two years ago and was trying to buy a second flashy car, [b]l told him there is no parking space except he buys a land first [/b]he was angry but has bought the land anyway, now the Wife and his Mother are thanking me.

Nice points sir, some got me rolling in laughter

okine4real:
Definely the house will always undergo repairs. I don't joke with mine house ohh. This year alone I have spend close to 200k doing one repair or the other... If I leave the repair undone, the problem would expand. After like three years Max, I would paint again. The senerio is, as a landlord don't be greedy, spend money on your house, so when you want to increase, know body go complain.

Another mistake landlords make is, you collect cheap rent when you collect cheap rent, where do you want to get money to be used to maintain your house? If I have a room and parlor self contain and you paying 300k for city ohh, if anything spoil, I can't come and fix it, the 300k know reach me self for a year, but if tenants are paying 500k, I can still spend 100k to maintain the house for the tenants yearly. As a landlord, if you don't get things right from the beginning, you would be putting yourself in big trouble.

This baba is talking the facts but sir there are some locations you cannot just put high rent. Like locations of my mums properties, self contain with the best finishing can't be more than 200k maximum in one and the one in ikorodu can't be more than 100k I think. Also locations determine the calibre of tenants too.

bigcee:
Lmao

I don't know how someone would say something like that.

Me too I am a tenant and I know how we start planning for house rent, even before 5 months to the expiry date we ensure we make provision for it. We paid another rent recently during lockdown landlord is abroad, the baba didn't even remember , exactly on the day the rent expired we had to send watsap message to baba that how are we going to pay oo, account no and everything. Baba was surprised, he called hubby and gisted with him.

Baba sent account no and we paid the money in. He now transfered money we had used to buy a new pump( we are the only ones in the compound) and also a gift for the new baby.

We could have used this lockdown as an excuse that there was no payment blabla bla (like one of my mums tenant did again) as if one doesn't plan rent before the due date.

I have seen how painful/annoying it is to deprive landlords of their right and as a tenant by Gods grace we won't do such we too want to have our own home.

Saw this picture online somewhere, there's a story to it


I think that guy sitting was interviewing the family they were helped with some palliatives I think.

Can't remember the full story

okine4real:
The mistake you guys made. Never ever share prepaid meter with any tenants.If your house have 10 rooms, give each room its own prepaid meter, don't merge two rooms to use one prepaid meter. If you really want to solve problems of NEPA, give each tenants his/her own prepaid meter. Mine house has 6 flats, I booked for 7 prepaid meters. The borehole is having its own prepaid meter. The service charge would take care of the units to be bought for the pumping machine.

You are right sir, but getting meters is like ww3, before we got these was war. If only it was as simple as cash and carry.

Amyyy2020:
Heyyyyy
Any more self-con available?

ND, where is the location pls?

Nope not available .
It's ijanikin LAGOS.

If I talk ehn book go full.

Mumsies tenants and their wahala.

The one that was reminded about his rent being due that said it skipped his mind

The ones that will never pay NEPA bills, you were owing about 24k and then prepaid came, ekedc diverted all the debt to the prepaid you now said you won't pay it ,you now expected the new tenant that came in that you are sharing the prepaid with that is not owing kobo to pay the debt on the prepaid, who does that.

The ones that always pay rent in arrears, you would have used 6months before paying 6 months rent again and then you use the next 6 months to be asking for rent (we felt maybe yearly rent is too much out be paying 6monthd now wahala again).

One is presently owing 7 months areas now, the money she dropped early this year will elapse november last year.

The one that was owing NEPA bills of 17k and couldn't pay 120k rent for self con, oya pack out now, we wipe off the 120k just pay the 17k NEPA bill as that one is not our own money its nepas money and it will reflect when prepaid comes. Shishi he didn't drop, we had to pay that debt when they installed the prepaid abi shey its new tenant that will pay debt on prepaid?

I must confess since we got the prepaid meters wahala has been reduced,although there's a stubborn one that is refusing to pay her own share as she is sharing a prepaid with another person, how will you expect someone to be buying units for you. How these people sleep at night baffles me.

I don't blame harsh landlords, in all honesty I don't. Those ones ehn you dare not try rubbish with them.

I also find it annoying when people think you are wicked when you ask them for rent.

tonididdy:
the house I inherited from my late father... there's this tenant in the house, I have given them more than 7 quit notice with court orders but they refused to leave.
the tenant told me to my face, " I dey this house before them born you"... so I just let them be, when them get rent, them call me... I go go take otherwise I dash them the rooms before


well out of the blue, they called me and said they had moved out of the house.

I went to see for myself and truly they had packed out. the room condition was an eye sore. they trained chickens right in their living room. some people Sha...

Pele looool and loool

People are going to get this loan as some are shouting scam.

We are so used to being defrauded that even real opportunities pass us by.

Someone asked a question if others got an SMS he got and then he is being accused of scam. I understand those who feel the SMS is a scam but saying the OP wants to scam others is what I can't wrap my head around.

sweetmelanin:
What is this?
.. she's disrespectful because she didn't carry your mother's bag? Such nonsense!
If this lady loves her life, she mustn't marry into your ridiculous family

Actually if they are all Yoruba's its very disrespectful.

The Younger sister collected her mums bag, the next available young person is supposed to collect the luggage of the other elderly person that is how it is.

It really has nothing to do with with whether its her prospective MIL or not. Even if it was another person entirely its still disrespectful.

But then all these is happening because they are all in close proximity, these are issues distance helps avoid.

Ibime:
She was abroad while the Popsie was home alone. He must have given the brother after he fell ill

Okay then.

Lool

Disadvantage of staying close by. If its the one you visit his parents once in 6 months this can never come up lailai.

Ibime:
Dey there dey act timid. I have a friend from Anambra who collected deeds to her late fathers property from a greedy uncle under duress from Police escorts right there after the fathers funeral in the midst of other family members. Property she sold for N30m within few weeks.

What I don't understand is why should the deed of her father's property be with the uncle. Is it not suppose to be in the possesion of the children or wife?

Until men stop entrusting their brothers with documents of their properties, children will continue to suffer and their properties confisticated by greedy uncles.

Parents sometimes cause all these issues .

Ten06:
In my case, immediately I put my father's corpse in the mortuary I went straight to MFM and did 5days strong fasting and deliverance there. Immediately I came out of the deliverance I started visiting my uncles to plan the burial, all their wisdom they tried to play to shortchange me and my brothers fell on the side ways. The wisdom I displayed during the discussion preceding the burial and after the burial still baffles me till today.

This is the way to handle this people, be spiritually fortified.

If you want to do it in your might, you are on your own ooo.

Those uncles can be brutal and ruthless,ready to nack you jazz because of shikini property. Terrible people.
Fighting because of property in Nigeria most times doesn't end well.


Op the deed is done already, they have taken his corpse to mortuary and fixed date, go along with them

For the shop and properties matter follow this advise I quoted look for a true church since churches are closed now look fora true pastor and narrate the issue to that will pray with you. This peoples matter is about fasting and prayer, if prayer reach where e suppose reach they are the ones that will call you and had over the properties to you personally.

But to do gragra? you may have to pay with your life, yeah they are that wicked.

donttouchme:
The battle is lost my friend. Just nurse ur wound and move on. Similar thing happend when my father died in 2012 I was in Nd2, my elder brother was not interested. i had to take charge. First, i took d corpse to the mortuary and all the pressure and threat mounted by my uncles to send the corpse to them fell on a deaf ear.With my mother behind me, i matched on. They held several meetings without informing us; but they had one problem, they dont hv d corpse. Finally, they invited me for a meeting. In that meeting, i realised they hv planned everything. I asked how they are going to raise the fund, they said they will take a loan which they will refund with the proceed of the burial. And that we dont hv any business near the condolence register. My suspicions were confirmed. I left and went around the village to meet my fathers friends who helped to raise the burial funds. We planned the burial in the city with some elders in the village.

On the burial day, i had to get my elder brother on our side. Infact, i told him everything that transpired. He promise not to disappoint. We drove the corpse to the village on the morning of the burial. During the condolence, my elder brother chased my uncles from the canopy with a cutlass and threatened to kill any of them that will come close.

Elders begged him to allow one of them. He accepted on the condition that the uncle will sit there as a spectator. My younger brothers served as d secetary and treasurer.

In the end, we realised a lot of money that helped all of us to finish school and become the men we are today.

So my brother, u did not act on time. You are a way older than me when i faced my uncles. People were advising me to leave them but i refused. i had to outsmart them. Just move on. U didnt make a move on time. In the end, they will sell ur father's lands and tell you they use the money for the burial and money realised was used to pay up balances.

I just pray God will touch their heart to leave u guys with something. Just move on, its too late to cry.

I learn a lot on NL sha

The deed is done already and she's even pregnant.

Try to be supportive she's pregnant, you might be lucky and none of your children will be a sickler.

Try and know the baby's genotype as soon as the test can be carried out.

Loool, I like this kind of aproko

Howmon:
mine was Bird, terrible UX

Lool I used this phone too, The Slim bird, that must be years ago ooo about 15 years back or more I was so happy to use a color screen phone . Dad bought it for me it was around 15k . Theives broke into our home during the day and it was one of what they stole. and it was a nice phone.

Archos was a more recent terrible brand I used in 2016-2017, always insufficient memory space, the thing hangs like something else, always very hot, battery drains like water in a basket. I took it to their office at computer village twice. Then the screen broke finally and could not get a replacement at Alaba.

Let me give a shout out to Alcatel.

Having the info about how much you earn might not even be the issue.

Seizing ATM card by force and demanding for the pin is the real problem.

Na wa.

What kind of marriages are we having nowadays

EdmundDantes:
The key to success in these endeavours is to engage a pro and establish multiple (independent) sources of checks on the progress of work.

Oya who will you engage to check is it not the same family and friends.


Its just to get a professional that won't compromise with standards at least if he will cheat you, your mind is at rest that you were not cheated in vain.

We have a very long way to go in this country honestly.

immaq8:
they even try to lay foundation. my mom's was only having pictures, when she came back, she met nothing..
A guy that stays at Switzerland do send money to family-friend to build hotel at Asaba, when he came back last year December, he meant a complete building with good interior as proposed only to find out that the name on the documents was on the man's name (family friend).

Yeeparipa
I was smiling as I was reading with the thought of finally one good story about relatives and then came be bomb.


The thread is not even about the quality of job done if you ask me (because some are already saying why didn't she engage professionals blablabla,) its about the fact that relatives (most times) are supposed to engage professionals to do the job but inorder to cut costs and fleece the individual as much as possible a shoddy job that is not even commensurate to the amount of money spent is done so as to make maximum profit .

Most times you still need someone on ground to help check some things even if you are using a contractor. In cases where the professional refuses to lower the quality of work done, the relatives will recommend to the person abroad that they should change him.

Even the professionals too can scam.

Finding a trustworthy person(including relatives) in naija is a hard thing - very hard thing.

There are exceptions though,

My own is Do not let your little sister live there if your parents can afford to train her in school or whereever, if you have to inform your mum about the incident please do.

If your parents do not have the capacity to train her she might have to end up going but prepare your sisters mind very well, tell her about your experience and that there's a possibility she might not be treated equally like her cousins or might even be used as an househelp but as long as she sees food to eat, clothes to wear, safety is assured and most importantly her training/ schooling is being paid for she should bear it all, the end is the koko as long as the means is legal.

Fear is such a terrible thing and its making your mother act so irrationally. She doesn't want what happened to her to happen to you, its not like marriages with sons don't breakup. Just ignore her please.

Carrying a pregnancy itself is extremely stressful already then adding all these wahala to it, I just can't relate abeg.

tunjilana:
If you cannot confidently tell your spouse what you feel about a situation like this, then something is wrong with how u both relate.

The ideal thing is that you tell him and if he shares your opinion, he will handle his sister and family in a way that they will think he is the one who doeant even want you to pick it up and start feeling pity for u sef...

Couples should use each other to neutralise threats from their families while they remain United and do not open up one another for ridicule. If it was your fam too...he will let u implement your mutual decision on the matter while he stays underground.

That is how marriage should be... but these days you have a lot of overtly sensitive people who are yet to take a stand between their extended family and nuclear family

You see the bolded is the reason why I am thinking those stating she doesn't have a good relationship with are husband are not being realistic.

Lots of male nairalanders have posted that they choose their family members over their wife, they have not yet drawn that line and I won't be surprised if its the same category that are saying she doesn't have a good relationship with her husband. For some men their family can do no wrong and that's the fact, we don't know the dynamics of their family so shutting the whole thing down seems the best.

Even if they have the best relationship, telling your husband you suspect that it might be a scam whether directly or indirectly is dicey.

Even if the SIL is not aware its a scam and she thinks she's trying to help from her contacts the best was to reject the offer politely.

You can almost never win when issues involves in-laws.

Its better they accuse her of being proud than hubbys 500k to get wasted in this economy.

Besides NNPC slot can never be 500k everybody knows this.

Ohemababy:
For those of you asking about the relationship with her husband and why she cannot tell him it's a scam.

I dont think I can tell my husband anything funny about his family members. Especially a sister in law that is 10years older. Naaaaa, that is out rightly going to be disrespectful and can cause family problems.

No matter how free I am with him I cant just say oh I think that help your sister is trying to offer is all scam.
Where money is involved?

Two things can happen from there.

1. The husband angrily goes to confront his sister on the basis of his wife's accusations. Fight will start, then they will start to hate his wife.

2. The husband gets angry at his wife for thinking that his own sister is capable of scamming her when all he think she wants to do is to offer help.

Matters like this, one needs to handle them maturedly and calmly.
The marriage setting in Africa is not one that allows you to treat your in laws fu3k ups and banish them forever.
Naaaaaa. They will still be in your lives for as long as forever. And in laws do not forgive.
This is Nigeria

You see the bolded is the crux of the matter she has not even stated she thinks its a scam ordinary rejection oo the dislike has increased, what if she now says it outrightly. The in-laws that did not see anything wrong with the deal of OPs cowife that went sour.

Op handled it nicely

Besides even if they want to sell a slot at NNPC, its not and can never be 500k

The poster is even taking it too far abroad loun loun

Even here in naija once it is presumed you live a 'good life' - have a good job (God help you its one of those popular organization that 'pays well' ) drive a decent car, just normal things you seem to have the request starts pouring in and every body feels you are rich.

-family members

-Church members ( they will tell you to donate a huge amount)

-Even the vegetable seller on your street if you price too much she ll say madam na wa ooo you carry jeep come dey price my vegetable like that

-Everybody starts begging you for one thing or the other.

If you finally want to nail yourself go and flaunt on Facebook whether you are in abroad or naija the requests will be extended to friends acquaintances distant family.


We have this entitlement mentality.

My cousin , he should be older than me with nothing less than 20years asked my retired mum for 50k to add to house rent about 2years back, mumsie came up with 25k the dude came to her house collected the money and didn't open mouth to say thank you, mumsie didn't believe it. She told me I just laughed, she couldn't bear it she had to tell his younger sister that one said Iro ooo it's not possible, she called him and said egbon is it true somebody dashed you 25k you just collected it and left he was blabbing.

He now called mumsie and was trying to apologise, last year he got married, its family that still contributed, mumsie sponsored the food part of the wedding.

This same cousin refused to tell another cousin of mine he was getting married simply because he asked that one for money and the other cousin said he's not really boxed up presently because his daughter got admission to college of medicine and he has paid huge amount as fees, my guy lock up stopped calling the other cousin despite all he has helped him with in the past.


After this my cousin got married I sha told mumsie to be ready too, she will pay hospital bills and train pikin. Wifely gave birth this year during lockdown, they say called to rejoice I was watching, the next day it was ermm no money to discharge , its was a normal delivery ooo no complications mumsie was like what you no get money you go private hospital . You didnt know the amount they charge before ni .He now said his wife said general hospital wahala is too much she can't go through that stress. Issorait.

Mumsie vex me sef I vex join even me I didn't use private as I know quality private hospitals are pricey its General hopsitaly I jejely went for antenatal as they will have specialists too and price will not be too much.

After about one week he now called and said he was expecting that mumsie would have sent him some money, that's how mumsie para wella and started listing the amount of money she spent on medicines for that month that she too has expenses that who will she tell.

I was just looking at the both of them. The annoying part is that he's working.

If people can still try to collect money from a retired old woman who is now free.

The entitlement sha.

If you want to engage in sex before marriage, that one is your choice we all have our choices, if you want to justify it you are free to do so but to come here and tell us 'sex before marriage is not a sin' is total blasphemy and not acceptable.

You even went as far as saying the bible doesn't condemn those who engage in premarital sex.



Even those who engage in premarital sex know that sex before marriage is a sin don't redefine what the bible states for us please.

What nonsense.

Eulalia:
Have you called to tell him you have been delivered of a baby ?

For crying out loud, your father in-law is not your age mate. Accord him the respect due him. If it were to be your father, won't you call to formally inform him? Haba!

I think I have read this statement almost 4 times on this thread and I can't grasp it.

Formally wetin , person born e don born, you hear you don hear. Is there a protocol to announce birth again.

As a matter of fact she might not even call her own parents to inform them, the husband or whoever was in the hospital with her if the hubby is not around shares the news to parents and in-laws most times because she's most likely weak after delivery.

Where I come from it is a very big deal if someone doesn't congratulate you after delivery on purpose Even if you are keeping malice with the mother, the child will settle the quarell .

Her father in law not congratulating her is something that will not be taken likely in my place.

She can call him just to greet him normally and see if he will congratulate her, if he doesn't there's a big issue.

OP's story is like the story of most people being trained by other families , at least he is truthfull and honest about how he felt while with them, he told the story as it Is.

You need to find closure.

I am just concerned about that your uncles statement when asked aboutbif they have done anything to warrant such sickness- 'It was in time of ignorance' I hope it has nothing to do with you and your travails .

Pray seriously too, seeing a dead one often is not good

Sex before going to church.
Romancing in the church.

The fornicator is complaining that the co-fornicator is kissing some one in church.

Orishirishi