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4 transformers in a year?

No wonder they resorted to prayer.

Lool this marital rape matter that cause brouhaha in family section .

Basically rape = sex without consent or through force or threat of force.

Since under Nigerian law consent for sex everytime has been given during the marriage vow, how about the forceful part does consent given during marriage vows validate forceful penetration? I don't think it does

What of men that have violent sex with their wives against their will and the wives get injured under what category is that ?

Most normal couples would hardly have any situation like these but we forget some people are beast like in nature.

midehill:
.exactly so do u advice she leaves hiM

Leave as in divorce?

No I wouldn't not in this case at least he is not yet beating her besides she doesn't have anything doing so its going to be a case of going to suffer more if she doesn't have an excellent support system.

If he is still providing for them she can still stay, also the husband is practically with the other woman leaving or not leaving has little effect here technically she's alone already.

Since they are not having sex with each other again, no fear for STDs or pregnancy so no wahala.

She should also pray


Her case is Eniti ko to iya ko ti o fe ko iya , Ajekun Iya ni o je.

She should get a JOB first, very important there are bills to be paid which the man doesn't seem to do.

Reading the story even before getting to the part of the pregnancy with another woman it had signs of someone they are drumming for from the outside, he is simply responding to the beat/sound of the drum hence the reaction in the home.

Once you have extramarital affairs with some people your life and your main family are in shambles problems here and there . Adultery opens you and your family to all sorts of problems.

She should get a job pls .

How about just doing what they want till you eventually leave the house.
You will not die if you don't wear trousers oo

Get the job first and your parents will see reason why you should live with that your friend or anywhere else for that matter.

Then you can do whatever you want / feel like doing.

Loool, there's a full7minute video the mother of risikat was interviewed too and she too can't be lying, she said he stopped providing for them when she was pregnant with the twins ( the last girl is a twin, the other died at 4 months and had non- blue eyes) he didn't provide for them and after giving birth the Father in law said will he still continue to give birth to blue eyed children

The guy said he buys 10,000 naira cloth for each of the children ; and that risikatu o ki gboran ( she's not respectful) and even if they come back together she still won't be respectful.

Shes not respectful, you provide for them and the children are not in school not even public primary? The guy is lying joor, he said he buys 10k cloth each for them and even said not okirika ooo ready made ni and they are not in school

He may not have a problem with the eyes but family influence/ inlaw interference might be what is at play here and also his irresponsibility .

And risikat left him because of his irresponsibility.

Sorry OP you have to keep talking to her, things like this can be very annoying and painful. Its an habit.

If talking doesn't work at all, you might have to talk to her mum or something someone she listens to.

This habit is not good ooo

Cleanliness is next to Godliness.

Emescot:
What exactly is the issue with all this people shouting simp up and down .

I can't just understand the way these romance section boys shout simp up and down, its irritating.

Someone is posting an issue that is bothering him and some are shouting simp simp simp.

Lexicon123:
Aguda, Surulere. You can confirm from others if you know anyone there.

Where exactly in Aguda , aguda is quite broad - name of the particular street?? Or name of streets around if you don't want to mention the particular street.

Beremx:
For the past 5 years, I haven’t seen LAWMA trucks coming to my area to evacuate waste. Cart pushers are there to solve the problem. Lagos will become dirtier if cart pushers are banned.

Lexicon123:
I thought I was alone. There's an LCDA just on my street, yet the Agency never comes. Why would I typically patronise the far more expensive cart pushers if LAWMA was available? Honestly if not for those boys, a lot of places in Lagos will be eyesore.

Besides when has LAWMA become a law enforcement agency to arrest people trying to make livelihood?!

Location

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' The safest sex is marital sex'

Preach it bro

God bless you OP.

Dedetwo:
How do the cart pushers add to environmental degradation in Lagos State? The dudes are not market square and do not generate any form of waste from pushing the carts. Mr. Ibrahim Odumboni is compound dunce. I hope Ibrahim Odumboni becomes the first victim when some of these kids who perform this lowest and most tedious job in society turn to armed robbery.

Wrong , they do generate waste these people go to dump the refuse in different locations some on the road,the road median some in swamps, in bushes in canals etccreating black spots up and down and the same LAWMA will be called to clean up.

Okay let me ask you, where do the cart pushers dump their waste? You see that is the problem they dump the waste in illegal places.

I know for sure its not ojota or igando dump site these people dump the waste.

Abudu2000:
I'm pretty sure u left school with the worse grade ever

Well you are quite wrong

fujirice:
Yes they are palace boys but that does not mean that they are on chains. And what the person said is that those are bangles (which I referred to as ornaments).
Now, look at the arrow you drew and follow it to the right leg. Can you see where it terminates? On the boys ankle and not even on the bangle.
Secondly, if that boy is on that kind of restraint, how will he walk or even “protect” the Oba assuming a harm is to come on the Oba.
If he’s to walk ahead or behind the Oba, how will he do it, hop? It doesn’t make sense naw.
Follow the white lines on the tiles very well and you will see that it’s just an optical illusion.

Yeah you are right it is an illusion now looking very closely.

So at what age do they leave the palace?
Is there a number of years they must serve before they leave?

I think MFM has stated they will open 13th September.

Its like people are just talking about opening of churches, most of them need to prepare to follow the laid down procedures the govt has laid down.

fujirice:
The tiles are demarcated by white lines that coincided with the ornaments making it look like a chain.

It’s called optical illusion.

That doesnt look like an optical illusion

Check the arrow its touching the line of the rope or what ever ,that's not the white lines of the tile.

Anyway someone has explained that they are palace boys.

Asababoi2:
Did anyone see this?

I saw it.

It looks more like a rope not necessarily chains, maybe there's a cultural significance to it.

The woman is so so pretty


I hope they get lots of help, those children should be in school .

Its good she wants her children to get the education she didn't get.

Its ignorance that made the husbands family say that will he keep on having children with blue eyes, Its just genes naaw.

SmartKitty:
Beating his woman was showing his niece, she is the boss

This is the point the OP doesn't realize yet as that girl will never respect any woman he marries when she visits the couple because she's the boss.

Marriage requires wisdom there are better ways he should have handled the issue and the one thing he shouldn't have done was what he did that's the worst signal he sent to the girl.

gracevile:
reading peoples comments well is dishearting . Why should u invite a girl to stay with you when ur girlfriend is around (bad parenting) just a quick question who is suppose to clean and wash the toilet let me guess ur girl friend and still cook and i am sure wash ur nieces clothes too I put it to u u are still a child just a knock on ur niece who is clearly stubborn u beat and caused someone's daughter to bleed and you are proudly saying u feel no remorse for what u have done. If u had spoken to her and she did not hear do it ur self its ur house. I really hope someone does the same thing to u in revenge then they will take u to a hospital mumu Hope as she is better you send her away and do the house chores yourself [if you send or ask her ur niece to do anything in the house God will punish u for all u did to ur girlfriend.

Phewww somebody finally asked the question.

Lool its two of them remaining now let's see if the 14year old niece won't do any chore.

If you want to cancel the marriage because she knocked your niece that's your choice but which one is beating to hospitalization

All these wouldnt have even happened if the fiancee remained a fiancee and didn't graduate to a wife before time.

He should also note that the 14year old girl would never respect whoever he marries.

Lots of businesses are not that profitable, some of them are just 'let it not be that I am not doing anything' try getting her a well paying job or if its a business something that moves fast.

She might not be okay with not doing anything tangible, lots of graduates don't even have anything tangible doing they are just hustling here and there.

You might be wrong that she's complacent.

As for the pregnancy part, go for family planning after this, you don't expect her not to get pregnant without any prevention.

ibrahim55:
my dear I must tell u there might be no issues here my wife does same infact exactly what this OP is complaining about she is always tired its over three months now just after she discovered she was pregnant... eventually one day I asked her what the problem was she said she is not happy about the pregnancy, note that before now I don't ejaculate down there I pull out as soon as possible we had two kids already... but right she is wanting the d..k again and no longer tired but now me ayam tired jare. My advice to the op is if u are a Muslim getting another wife is the key solution make them dey two competition is if good if they become frnds denie u sex make them three again make am four thats the solution and thats what i intend doing asap

Sorry I am not a Muslim but I have cousins who are and we once discussed this issue,he told me categorically ( he's married for 19 years) that marrying a 2nd wife doesn't make economic sense. He started listing school fees he was about to pay that term, he stated his first daughter wants to go to medical college (she's now in medical school) stated a whole lot of things and said it just doesn't make sense.

I laughed so hard basically it means he can't afford having another set of family members and we see some men in the same estate ( its a muslim estate)he lives that can barely feed their first wife marrying extra wives.

He is quite comfortable but he feels having extra family will not make them all comfortable.

His wife said he is not against him marrying another wife as religion permits but where problems will arise is when things need to be paid for he starts telling stories that is where her own wahala will start.
She basically said 'you can't go ahead marrying another wife and start having issues providing for your family'

We all laughed over it that day about 5-6 years back , he's still married to the same woman and his children are doing fine.

Before you marry another wife think about it - can you afford it?

humblespirit:
I used to think my wife was wicked for saying no to sex after staying home with my kids due to covid am the one denying my wife sex(Joking). many of us men are wicked , how could someobe leave twins with a woman without help & come back to ask for sex? Children specialise in strength eaten , you get exhausted in no time; if the man wants to be having sex he shud get heis wife 2 maids.

Loool Finally someone who sees and says it as it is.

After taking care of those twins daily sex will not even be at the back of the mind at all.

Even those with one active child are feeling the heat not to talk of double.

Mrlouis:
Well that's why many die so easily. People just outrightly downplay anything spiritual when in reality, these things exist. We are Africans, black magic, voodoo and the likes are very much alive. As much as at times, a number of these cases are blown out of proportion, it will be wise to live a sober life and be spiritually active life because believe it or not, the spiritual controls the physical. For instance, That Job you lost was already marked in the spirit realm before it even happened physically.
Anyone quoting me please do so carefully.

Its only on Nairaland juju doesn't exist loool.

The spiritual controls the physical but no they will never believe.

Rick9:
I took my time to go through the comments.
Truly Africans are extremely arrogant and this arrogance is what breeds ignorance.

You are insulting the o.p anyhow, no problem, but just pray very well that you wouldn't experience certain things in life that would make you question to your Existence.

You show total disregard for spiritual things because you are spiritually insensitive, you have disdain for things that you don't know instead of trying to find out if what you hear is true or false, you just concluded that the o.p is talking rubbish. No problem

The universe takes note of everything you say. Be careful how you rush to make conclusions without first finding out if it's true or false.

People are just too arrogant and most times they think they know, but in actual fact, they know nothing.

@ o.p I thank God for saving you from the spiritual attack.

P.S before you throw insults at me thinking that I am ignorant or delusional, it might interest you to know that I hold a Bachelor of Arts Degree in Philosophy.
I am a hardcore Philosopher, when I say hardcore I mean an unbending Philosopher,
I need not remind you what philosophy entails.
If you don't know find out.
So not everyone is stupid ok.

For the Records.


I am a Christian.

Loool leave them, everybody forming woke online. As much as it might be an ordinary bat which I doubt dismissing the OPs claim is ignorance of the highest order in this same Nigeria that we are.

There's a place for the spiritual and there's a place for the physical.

somethinggood:
location and prices please

I had modified the post, kindly call her to make an offer.

A family friend wants to sell off the items below, she said they are in good working condition bulk buyer preferred, it can be bought singly too.

HP officejet 6700 premium -80k
HP deskjet 648C

Brother MFC printer scanner copier
Hp LaserJet P2015d -22k

Negotiable

For those without prices make an offer for them.

There's also an electric typewriter



Call her on this line to make an offer
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Note I am only helping her advertise, do your due diligence and test the products. Thanks

Modified: Location is Ijanikin Lagos.

I was just laughing throughout ,Its only someone who hasn't raised or lived with children that would find the video unusual. They can be so dramatic.

Would I record my child displaying such -Yes
Would I upload on SM - nope

This one is not abuse at all.

chriskosherbal:
Madam it seems you are the one giving yourself headache in your marriage from the above I can deduce that your hubby is the type that loves attention, all men are different as for me I don't care weather u post my pics or not just make sure there is all kinds of food at home anytime I want to eat lol.

Why not post his pics everywhere since he likes it, and pls don't give me that BS of am a private person, it is only applicable to a 3rd party not your hubby, if you are really a private person as you claim you won't even fancy SM, you are giving the man the reason not to trust you.

Except you are not telling us certain things, I really don't see issues here at all cos you will bite you finger if the Union go south & reason for it is SM, I don't think he would have demanded continuously for the password if you had constantly posted his pics as well as the pics of both of you .....madam say the truth are you really proud of him.

See sometimes we men want to trust our women first before loose guarding ourselves for you guyz, try it and you will see him freeing himself, work stuff as well social media account for you cos to him you have earned his trust. Madam I beg listen to me there can't be too captain in a ship, pls let him be the cap ok, I believe he loves you he just facing insecurity. He is tripping for you he doesn't want to loose you but also doesn't know how to go about.

Good luck.

@bolded really??

The things I read on NL sha.

If its Yola town itself its still okay, if it were the other local govts closer to bornu then one might be a bit skeptical.

Did a bit of my NYSC in Yola that was around 9 years ago and peeps kept on shouting its not safe , all they watched was aljazeera on that fateful day in January 2012, about shootings in mubi even myself in Yola town didnt know what was happening , some of those we served together are still there, they have gotten married with children they are making it there too.

If you are concerned about social life or meeting a partner, the truth is you can meet your partner anywhere its all about time and chance. Since you are an introvert its all good, Besides Yola is not that far from abuja compared to those of us that travelled from LAGOS .

Once you get married you would be thinking of your family first you can't change jobs within different states just like that, now you are still single make good use of the opportunity.


Yola might be your own land of milk and honey, As long as your accommodation is in a decent area of town you are good to go.

You said its still your company and they got a huge contract and need someone to be there so you are certain they won't owe. You would be spending much less, you would save more and make more investments.

Take the opportunity girl the contract your company got might last just few years.

If I were you I would go for it, I am already in abuja anyway



Cc: Epistemology

aieromon:
It's a large leak that should be easily detected by a competent mechanic. The mechanic is yet to check the steering rack and its seals for damage due to old age. Delay in fixing will affect the power steering pump.

Thanks sir, the leak has been detected it was quite large and has been repaired I have driven it out twice and no leakage.


One more thing please, car was scanned with one of those personal scanners and it was showing transmission something and knock sensor before the leak correction now after the leak was corrected it showed only the knock sensor.
Its not showing any faults we can notice for now when driven .
what can be the issue pls picture attached.

We did notice some weeks back too that the car window ceases sometime and refuses to go up and after returns to normal maybe after few hours.