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randymirrors:
This was interesting to read. It means your son respects, loves and looks up to you. That's why he took your words to heart and your words encouraged him. I believe he sees you as his greatest support.

Aww thanks, I also realized he takes what I say to heart.

You can get married and she will redeploy shikena. Marriage is a ground for redeployment.

Can you have a help that comes and goes, comes in the morning and goes in the evening.

Will he allow that? But with what I am reading this, I doubt it. Considering he's not always around getting someone to help you shouldn't be much of an issue.

3 kids 5 and below is no joke and also considering there's an advice from the doctor, Health is wealth ooo.

mariahAngel:
I know, right?

You know how to mix puff-puff, right?
Here are the ingredients I used:

- Flour 250g
- Pure cocoa powder 20g
- Salt 1/4tsp
- Yeast 1/2tbsp
- Sugar 90g
- Vanilla flavour 1tsp
- Milk+warm water 1cup (add warm water to milk to get the 1cup measure)

Plantain lady, this your cocoa puff puff go make sense Gan.

I wee try it.

The only challenge I see here is just because the child is autistic.

I have a son who is very calm and would rather report to his teachers and me at home than fight back, his teachers even told me he is calm and doesn't like fighting back.

One day he complained so much and out of frustration I told him to Fight back didn't know I gingered something in him. The teachers had to ask me at pick up time if I asked him to fight back, he actually overdid it and we all rested. No more nonsense from anybody for a while.

First time I heared about this colors stuff was through the picture below on someone's status this past weekend. I thought it was just one of those news.

Superb performance.

A lovely Nigerian-green colored dress

Talking drum.

Infusion of Yoruba in the song.

She represented naija well.

Wait first.

I am not just understanding, did she just have this baby I thought they said she had a 2nd baby for about 2months plus even before May's son died, so it's now she's coming to say God loves her so much.

Don't know how things are done in other places but where I come from there are things you do not do when your family is mourning. Your husband lost his first son and it's this same period you now come out with video on SM saying God loves you so much, only you.


Zero tact, I hate when people lack tact. Why now? why this video, what are you trying to prove, can't you thank God in your house.must you come on SM.

The husband sef kuku shared it on his page, mtchew birds of the same feather.

Ahh Nawa.

MadarasBlade:
If informed choices gaurantee nothing, what do uninformed choices gaurantee?

My point is even with an informed choice nothing is guaranteed, I personally feel marrying early is good but it still doesnt guarantee anything on this same matter.



The OP is biased (it's all over his write up) for whatever reason probably due to experiences in his line of work and well he is entitled to his bias, his way of sending his message makes me wonder.

Dimaya:
The video quotes clinical research. The link in the original post is a study tracking female fertility. It's not based on anecdotal evidence.

My position is to help young men who want children to make better informed choices.

And if you have two women, one in her twenties and the other in her thirties, it is far easier to treat primary infertility issues in the 20year old than in the 30 year old.

All right your position is duly noted, though those informed choices guarantees nothing.

Dimaya:
If you're certain the counsel isn't useful, please feel free to disregard it. In infertility, there are male and female factors. For females, there are ovarian, tubal, uterine and hormonal factors.

Male fertility is useless if the woman isn't ovulating. From clinical experience, we know women have 300,000 to 400,000 eggs at puberty and shed an average of 12, 020 annually. That puts the woman's reproductive window within 25-27 years.

If she attains menarche (starts her menses) between ages 10 and 12, she'll run out of viable eggs at age 35 to 39. It is common sense to counsel men who want children to avoid women whose eggs are about to run out

I'm actually qualified to speak on this.

It's the same common sense to advise women to avoid marrying unemployed men.

I guess you must be older than 25, and the counsel hits a bit too close to home.

Now tell me why NLders won't feel this is another female above 30 bashing thread, the bolded is very unnecesary, the person you quoted is even a guy.


You sound like you are attacking females above 30. Keep your thread free from all those stuffs, post your own facts and let others post their own counter arguments.

Most times these things are not always the way we think.

Age might be a factor but saying half of unmarried women above age 30 have fertility issues is quite unfounded. Also saying most women above 30 have issues is another unfounded statement. Most is above 70% for me and we all know it's not true

Now that I think of it, I only know one person a cousin of mine who married at 35 and had fertility issues, every other person I know that had issues with conception got married in their 20s, and it stretched to their 30s.

The others that got married in their 30s got pregnant easily.

And then most I know that married below 30 married within the range of 26-29 only one got married in school.

It's a very sensitive issue because there are lots and lots of women who married early and they had issues.mostly health related, all these hormonal imbalance and other reproductive health wahala don't respect age.


You are leaving out one fact though, what about the men? A sizeable amount of these issues come from the men and we outsiders add the women (their wives) as one of our statistic.

Nawa.

sisisioge:
Thank God for small mercies! Anything he does for his children is their right. May God continue to provide for him to do more. Awon repenting deadbeat.

@ bolded.

Don't know how far /invasive you guys want to go with the test for the lady. there are general tests done before marriage, genotype blood group, hep, HIV, other STDs possibly hormonal profile etc



But if they wanna go the invasive way i.e the more invasive tests she might say no and she has a right to. She might frown a Transviginal scan.

It's not supposed to be an issue you guys just want to do general medical checks before marriage shikena, and it should be from a neutral facility, it's better your dad is not involved.

I honestly don't see what the issue can be, you have a property in a community (community can be very large and vast with plenty number of streets) her parents have a property there too and she's the only heir.

The fact that you mentioned the heir issue points to the fact that you might be worried what people will say which honestly is not relevant here, sebi you too you are a landlord ehen everybody can buy a property anywhere.

You guys don't live in the same house, I even doubt it's the same street, na area join una so no wahala.


It's not an issue, this wouldn't even be an issue in Lagos communities, something that someone I used to meet at church camp had been living in my next street for more than 10 years, never knew until the day we just randomly asked where she lived.

Lots of times men will not choose what's best for them. You will open your korokoro eyes and enter gbege later will start opening threads up and down.



So shey you don't like the Fulani lady ni? abi what's the problem because it's like the Fulani lady is not your spec if not you will be chasing her seriously.

Soo if you cannot like the Fulani lady let the friendship go, let her be so she can also broaden her options. Of course lady 1 told you plainly she doesn't feel you so that's not an option ( but I know it's that one you might keep pursuing)

Mindlog:
No be only Nigerian artisans, Pakistani artisans dey the same Whatsapp group. My neighbour hired a bathroom renovator who is Pakistani alongside his worker, dem go come work 9a.m and work till 1p.m and give the excuse they are going for lunch, they drive off in their van, only to return around 5p.m and work for another 30 mins and call it a day....dem dey run 2 projects at the same time!

My neighbour had to bear their shenanigans because she was paying them less than what a White British contractor would have charged.

Hahaha na d same watsap group them dey true true.

Orthodox churches always build wonderful structures especially the much older structures.

Catholic, Anglican and the likes.

Wonderful edifices, they spend money on the cathedrals. Very fine.

pocohantas:
You sabi them well well. Maybe she be tailor.
Some occupation dey affect your personal life and you will see lies as nothing.

Hahaha
It's like tailors have done you strong thing before.

The lying just comes naturally.

pocohantas:
In all this your CIA work, you have never seen that she is with a man or in a man's house. I also like the fact that you don't rely on "them say...them say", but do the work and come up with evidence of where she is. These places come out clean, the problem is she distorts facts. That counts for something.

The issue here is that you might be a possessive partner, so she has to twist things a bit. It is bad, very bad, but many partners do it when they know who they are dating/married to.

If she is picking other calls but not picking yours ALONE, then wherever she went to, wasn't the worst place to be. If you were a woman, you will be advised to give your husband breathing space. Stop checking his phones and or monitoring him.

So, I will suggest you don't give yourself high bp. Is this grounds for separation? I can't be the one to tell you the level of emotional abuse you should endure. That decision is yours to take.

Your wife has the characteristics of a Nigerian tailor or artisan. Is she one?

Lool at bolded, Nigerian artisans can lie so comfortably ehn. Fear will catch the devil Gan.

Hmm Oga sofriisofri

What caused the trust issues? Is it matters like this or you have caught her with a man before?

But you try sha, tracking your wife's location on top wetin laslas she was still with the woman, the worse possible scenerio here was they were inside the house not the car as stated and it's possibly because she knows you were going to make a fuss about it.

The issue is she won't really tell you the exact truth because of the way you handled previous situations, which is not entirely right but with all you have typed here I don't blame her. she will rather tell you what you want to hear so you can let her be.

In her mind as long as she's not cheating on you or seeing another man she's okay.

Possibly you should stop tracking her.

I don't get what exactly warranted the come and pack your load?

Is it the more than 1 week visit? Is the 2 weeks too long for her to visit her parents what exactly is the issue Gan? Since you said you guys didn't have any quarell.

what are you not telling us apart from the fact that you are keeping malice with your inlaws?

Interesting

ednut1:
send troops to a war zone How do you then evacuate the over 3000 students Airport is bombed and out of service. Make una dey use sense abeg

You guys have time to be explaining things to some people on this forum sha. All they know is castigate and complain from their comfort zone without thinking critically.

Even people that can't handle ordinary petty issues are castigating the government.


As if it's only Nigerians stranded at the Egyptian border.

Naptu2 and his threads always very informative.

Weldone sir.

This is the reason why I can never ever blame Lapo and all these online apps when they go brutal.

Nigerians are not used to paying back loans or whatever and it's an entitlement mentality, an habit that has being ingrained from little.

It doesn't even start from lending money it starts from little things like

1. Expecting someone else to pay for your meal or tfare simply because you feel the person should have more money, no prior discussion about it nothing. They will now try to black mail you emotionally especially office people ,
I will never expect my collegue to pay for my meal if we go on break together, I hold my money, you sef don't expect me to pay for yours coz you don't know how buoyant I am at the time. If I want to sponsor your meal na me go tell you.



2. Years back I needed 20naira change someone lent me and later in the day I returned it back, the person was like ahan why would you return 20naira and I said because I asked you to borrow me the change.

We think because an amount is small if borrowed it shouldn't be returned and then it graduates to big cash. People that don't think of returning 500naira will never be faithful with 50k that's the way I see it.

3. We believe that if someone is rich money lent from the person should not be returned after all ' he is rich'. Major reason why rich people do tend to separate from others for a while.


Point is Nigerians are bad debtors, friends oo family ooo, collegues ooo same nooni.

Thats how a collegue told me to help him collect Gtb loan with my own salary account and he will be paying me back, you nkor you no fit collect sebi Na the same Gtb all of us use as salary account, he said he is paying one. I say I no fit, no be fight.

But there are those who keep to their word, those ones will always refund no matter what and I can go all out for these people, because I know they will pay


Shout out to LAPO the kings of loan recovery in Naija, na dem fit our people.

Caseless:
That interrogation was too offensive and harsh on a supposed victim. Is that why she came out to deny the guy actually assaulted her?

When the police who are supposed to help you are telling you that ehn 'If you see case shey you will stay' saying all sorts indirectly threatening her as an average Nigerian without plenty money what do you do, you will quickly change mouth that it didn't happen and God so good theres video evidence.

Now imagine all that was not caught on video at the police station.

Anyway it will take a series of miracle for these country to get better, you know how many cases have been handled like these and the victims bitter against the govt and country.

Any system where your money/financial worth is always the determinant of Justice will keep having issues like these.

Omoluabi16:
One wey dey always pain me na those traders we like to touch girls anyhow in the guise of looking for customers. She reacts and they begin to call her ashawo and derogatory names. LASG go use this one shine collect star.

As for all those ones they will begin to arrange themselves properly as from now, all that will be needed is video evidence.

Lagos traders can so harass ladies ehn be touching women up and down.

All of them go collect. You do anyhow you see anyhow. As for this guy involved which LASG staff of 15 years will stand surety for him? Lailai. Both are already at kirikiri unable to meet bail conditions.


Now the police intimidating the lady that pained me a lot. All of them go collect, police oo harasser ooo, everybody must get sense by force. All of them using money to get away with harassment, no hope for common man again.

Here we go..... again