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temmitats:
There’s no argument here, we were having a conversation but I understand why you would think it was one, you can’t stand to see a woman express her view without throwing a fit, I mean look at your response here, you’re the one that should be ashamed, not me.

Who cares whether it’s a conversation or an argument? Express your view all you like and I’ll continue to poke holes in them, because there will be holes. I see why and I have said as much on that.

So, what’s that your YouTube again? Lmao!

temmitats:
From what I’ve seen, the real anger comes from seeing that a woman would rather be single than get hitched with a man she doesn’t like and it’s become some men’s worst nightmare. Especially men that think they’re doing women a favor by marrying them.

You say it like there haven’t been millions of women who “got hitched with a man she didn’t like (sic)”. They are all over the place, so your argument holds no water. But why would it anyways? It’s not like you can really think as such, despite all the hopes I had for you. Shame!

As men, our ultimate goal is to avoid those who would become such nightmares in the end, merely because they have a Canada PR. Again, I’ll say it. That’s why droves of Nigerian men in Canada continue to head back home to pick an angel. And that’s how it’s going to be for a long time…

canadaishome:
Really?

Yes, really.

What’s your own YouTube channel? Lmao. Or those of the two cacklebirds above? Just say it. You never know, you could increase your follower count by a few just mentioning it here.

temmitats:
Lesson? From you? I’m good on that, thank you

Good girl. Way to go! I don’t give out lessons to women.

temmitats:
I think she actually dodged a bullet, I really hope you find peace too, it can’t be normal to think like this.

What are you on about, lmao!? Don’t get all snoozy. I’m at peace, always been.

Again, she bungled her chance. They delivered a man to her door, but she chose to entertain the weirdest thoughts. Maybe it was the weed. Sadly, something tells me that’d be her last chance. It doesn’t take much to figure out. I hope you got a lesson or two to grab from that for yourself. I can only hope because it doesn’t seem so to me.

ciwi:
Wow… you really took this personal. So getting married is now securing the bag? Hmmmm

Yes, for women, getting married is securing the bag. It’s what it is. I didn’t make the rules. Just telling it as it is. Otherwise, there wouldn’t be tons of YouTube channels of female Nigerian immigrants out there, nor would there be countless nights of incessant tears as they contemplate their missed chances and bungled romances. It’s what it is.

Herbworks:
I avoid them like plague

Good job

temmitats:
You’re funny o, you knew she was smoking and had knife-fight stories and still introduced her to your friend. It’s obvious your plan was to take advantage of her and she didn’t fall for it.

You obviously didn’t get the memo that she was to be managed. They pitied her sorry as.s and thought to help her secure a bag, but, being the loser she was, she bungled it anyways. That wasn’t any surprising. These ladies are not known to be the best thinkers, always quick to wallow in imaginary thoughts of “doing him a favor” because they will be filing for him. That’s all well and good. In the future, she had better not blame her woes on men on her lowly subscribed YouTube channel which will remain her sole company till death!

ImaIma1:
I noticed some things from your writeup;

You don't defend/protect your wife.

What happened to her own hands and legs that she can't defend or protect herself? Is she a cripple?
Half-baked opinion that should stew in the gutter of nonsense.

Sijo01:
When the children become great and well to do tomorrow and refuse to acknowledge their fathers, the deadbeat fathers who turned their back on the innocent kids will start blaming the woman for turning their kids against them.

And if the children don’t become great or well-to-do?? That’s such a shallow reason to advance. I’m sure you can do better than that. It’s just wrong plain and simple, whether the children become great or not. That should never happen. The children didn’t decide of their own accord to just pop out.

ednut1:
unfortunately you made zero sense.

who cares about your opinion? Why would you even imagine that was directed at you? Beats me...

ednut1:
https://torontosun.com/news/local-news/two-dead-one-injured-in-vaughan-nightclub-shooting

Shooting at a popular Nigerian club

I don’t know who go to these places. But whoever they are, they had better pen their wills before going. These are the most dangerous, low-life, life-sucking shitholes anyone can go to in Toronto or its environs. So, when they get shot in the head for trying to, then they are possibly only getting what’s coming.

This is extortion. I see Google also leaving Russia

RightToReject:
I understand your position. However, I have never seen, and will never see, anything wrong in a self-conquered and established man putting up with a woman that holds a philosophy that places immaterialism above materialism whether or not she has any form of material accomplishment to her name.

Also, as expressive and alacritous as I am, I am not a proponent of women subjugation - but I am surely a proponent and practitioner of hypocritical, crass, and opportunistic women, and men alike, subjugation, especially when they come closer with their shenanigans and fail to embrace change. A good woman deserves the best from her man, regardless of her social stratum. Servility is as bad as unjust cruelty; say no to both of them.

Okay dude then. If that works for you, that's great. Have a blast.
That's not my own philosophy. A woman or man is only as immaterialistic for as long as a pig stays away from dirt. We all know they are going to to back to it at some point.

I'm also not a proponent of women subjugation. No one should be. However, women should step up or be ready to step up to the level of the man they want to be with. It's all about equality, after all.

RightToReject:
I used to think that you were merely glossing your status to taste the waters to sieve opportunists out of your way, but that doesn't seem to be the case any longer. Well, the fact that none of these overgrown women in teenage bodies and mentality who are desperately in need of husbands here has deemed it fit to come closer to you, talk more of giving you a temporary lead to rescue you, is one of those obvious pointers that 99% of the time 99% of them only disingenuously come closer to one forming feelings because of one's material possession rather than the quality of one's soul, thus the reason why you must strive to protect your riches whenever you come across it without allowing evanescence emotion to lead you astray.

And don't allow anyone to make you think that your desire is out of ordinary, the opportunistic and/or self-absorbing attitude of most of the female folks made it seem so together with the fact that 99.9% of them here within the age bracket you seek can't even cater for themselves talk more of giving you the temporary lead you long for. The emotions of love being the most powerful of all emotions and your guts telling you that with the right push from the right woman that you will rise, you have no reason to feel ashamed of your display here - even though you can do better.

If I were you at this juncture, I would rather squash the desire and transmute the emotion to something else that could lead to financial emancipation as such would be an easier route for your self-conquest. Of course, when you succeed, do not forget to protect your riches so that devourers of any gender and shade won't take you back to square one.

God knows nothing will ever make me settle for a lady with no means of her own. Forget what many of them claim about loving a dude, they look first at his pocket, what he has at the moment, and what he is likely to have in the future. Ain't no broad trying to build a man up. They simply are all coming to feast on his resources. But if she's going to do that, she better be coming with her pocket full as well. We chop each other together. That's the way.

The broads are all circling around this thread now like vultures telling the sorry dude to go get a job before even as much as talking to them. I'd find it interestingly pathetic for the dudes to not extend the same treatment to them. The evening newspapers littering this thread would rather stay unpurchased and age into the night because they do not want to "suffer with a man". All well and good. Wise men had better extend to them the same treatment and not let a broad come reach into their pocket, if she ain't got her own dam.n money.

Idealists who are imagining love in their heads are the ones I pity, especially if they are men. And do they often get all mushy! They are the ones who end up training a girl in school, only to have their as.s dumped. Sometimes they also sponsor her abroad thinking she'll come back to fetch them from the trenches. Instead, the broads just sail into the sunset with their loot.

Dudes, pity no broads, please. Do not pity them. See this thread as the evidence you need to hustle your heart out, live your life at the top of your game, make some dough, and find that working class Nigerian girl also earning in six-figures.

AyabaS:
And the pig takes pleasure in knowing he lacks the bandwidth to be a better person. Pfft, enjoy the cesspool.

Gladly, ...with cherry on top.

AyabaS:
Whether in person or on social forums, opinions can be expressed with some decency. At the very least, have your field day without being a condescending douchebag. When you’re done running amok on the thread, I hope that you have other things going on in your life to return to.

Cool. At least you’ve gotten rid of the illusion that Twitter is for “other” conversations and Nairaland is for the one that suits you. That’s some progress for your simple mind. I take credit. Now I can go right back to other things, including dumping their a.ss while you watch like the simpleton you are, lol.

I have no care in the world what your opinions are of my opinions. I’ll have a field day and more.

ciwi:
Oga please I didn’t quote you for a reason. Face your front please

But I quoted you. Deal with that.

ciwi:
U sound like a child. Then u wonder why the Nigerian girls don’t wanna date y’all. Just imagine the mindset. Appalling, to say the least

You got it wrong. It's the reverse, actually. We dumped them lmao

AyabaS:
Common, what is this vitriol. I expect better quality of discussion on this forum. If we want to engage in bitter gender wars, there’s twitter for that biko , let’s keep this place safe and sane.

When did Nairaland stop being a social website or any less better than Twitter in having conversations?
Opinions are expressed on social websites and everyone should have a field day having some. There is no one corner of the internet any more restricted than the other. Deal with it.

heartofcity12:
This one is still contemplating if he should make a prostitute a housewife or not.. What a question..
When redpillers aren’t even ready to wife a non virgin not to talk of an harlot..
Some men will be trying so hard to save hos that will never save them if they can’t provide. The standard is just too low.. Common sense should tell anyone that people don’t change, a leopard can never change its spot, all it takes is a little push and they go back to their old selves again. Ashewo wey marry, na vacation she go

Normally, every girl has her price. You may just need to go high enough. But for the girls who have done hookups before or sex for cash. It doesn't take a lot of negotiation to get them in bed. They know the terrain and they have a moral compass that has repeatedly justified it enough to make it happen again.

SlowlybtSurely:
Go back to Nigeria to pick an angel?? Eiya

Let me know when you have valid points worth an intellectual discourse.

Yes, go back to pick an angel. How's that for repeating it?
There shim goes, scurrying away

ednut1:
some don dey wise tho. They are dropping their ‘unrealistic standards/expectations’ small small. The adamant ones continue o. The depression and loniness is biting hard sha ( more on the female side). A man must not be earning six figures. Have a nice car, live in an expensive condo and lavish on you plus being religious before he is a husband material. Some high earners have lost their jobs this month for example. If you can , marry before coming here. I don talk my own lol

The demands are just the most outrageous. Yet we know that their whoring side also comes to the fore once they are catapulted to that freer society. To want the best man when you aren't even close to being the best girl, cannot hold a conversation, and have little to give out is the height of irresponsible inconsideration.

This is no surprising. A government lacking in priorities will do anything like this. This is just absolute nonsense.

legionISproteus:
You can't be fuccking serious. What kind of ad is this?!

You never see anything. The epidemic of loneliness among Nigerian women in Canada has entered epic proportions and we are just seeing the beginnings of it. Some women who had bright chances of getting married in Nigeria are suddenly watching their chances dim to nothingness as they live in the suburbs of Brampton, Etobicoke and environs. They are at the near bottom of the barrel, not looked at by their fellow Nigerian men and certainly not by Caucasians who find them less attractive. Add to that the fact that many don’t or won’t go back to Nigeria to marry for fear of being exploited by red-eyed local Nigerian men, you get a veritable stewpot of chronic loneliness seasoned with several nights of intense crying and an escape as a content creator on YouTube where they hope to enjoy more visibility.

The Nigerian woman in Canada is near done. Now it’s an ad on Nairaland. Soon it will be billboards on Canadian roads. This is the result you get when you japa totally unprepared, thinking it elevates your life and not knowing that a whole new set of challenges is just lying in wait.

Hafizah:
Me sef want to japa oo.. May God bring that man into my life who will lead me out of this country. I promise to be the most supportive. loving and hardworking spouse you can think of.. Just give me a chance to meet and know you

Go and get a job, madam

Shegzdave:
Madam Pocohantas, are you over thirty? Cause I don’t understand why you carry this matter for head like dreadlock?

She is in her mid thirties

cayorday89:
First thing first, I am also on this boat, my job has not been stable for quite some time now but this society we talk about are humans like us who are also mostly struggling but it's we in our own mind that think the society is putting us under pressure but the first set of the fabric of the society that puts us under pressure are our parents who have a mindset of the now and comparing us with a very few people who are quite okay and some who are only about the outside and not what really happens inside, for example some appear sophisticated outside but inside they are not any better and it is what most of our parents focus on especially in this new life of yahoo, flashy clothing and accessories with many owing backlog of debts and house rent but that is not to say many are also genuine and doing well but you have to be real with yourself and measure your progress and hope for the best...
Also, thank God you know getting married will most likely worsen it unless something extraordinary comes up, face your reality and continue to work as no one will tie you up to be flogged for not been married, this is what I have decided on, it gives me less pressure, and I am working on my mental health as it has been badly affected...

Wtf, dude! Don’t you know how to use a full stop. You just made my head spin.

This is the kind of thinking that will continue to make Nigeria worse and terrible to live in. You guys need to grow up