₦airaland Forum

Rapture2021:
Before I say one thing my wife has abused the hell out of me,she was such a calm and reserved person before we married,but today at the slightest of misunderstanding she begins the insult,even getting close to my face telling me to beat her,I have never laid a finger on her,but she is tempting me to do that. How can a woman calls a man fool, idiot, animal? I have reported her family severally and yet she is not changing.

I opened a boutique business for her last year,now she said she wants to sell baby things,and I have done it half way,I had to just prank her that the other money I was expecting hasn't come, immediately she began the insult again to my face,as it is the prank is getting real because I will not give her the money anymore

the day my wife will call me idiot will be a very interesting day

izonborn098:
You are a big simp...
Don't marry woman
1. Who have strong head.
2. Don't marry women who don't respect u.
3. Don't marry women who are violent.
4. Don't marry women who always have excuse for their mistakes.
5. Don't marry women who don't take correction.
7. Don't marry women who is always getting close to their families because she will use her family as excuse to either go and do hookup or other sins.
*oga the space u give ur woman was too much' she is just treatingu like her kid... Abi na she dey feed u?
Three kids'' try and have talk with her involving her family and yours to see whether see will change and u also need to stand ur ground... Because if u divorce her the fate of the kids is at stake....
But if she don't want to change then let her go...... Divorce her asap before she turn u to a house boy.
And pls do DNA with ur kids because there 70% chances ur wife is cheating that is why she potray head of the house... Maybe ur deputy is doing well.

do you think any man will see all these faults in a woman and yet marry her, there faults will be latent and will spring up of given the chance,and that chance is what the op gave the wife from the beginning,I will not even call any family meeting for such or contemplate divorce,I will match her violence by violence,if she created a scene I will manufacture a better scene,infact the man is the cause of all the problems because he tolerated too much rubbish,the riot act must be read to her on day one and be ready to follow up with action

Pamfresh:
Please I need mature minds advise on this topic.
My family recently discovered that my younger brother who has been in the seminary and was supposed to be a reverend father in few years time has a very big gambling issue.

Over the years, he has accumulated a gambling debt of 2M (borrowed majorly from loan sharks). When I discovered about the incidence, I hesitated involving my retired dad and mum because of the shock they might get hearing about this but when I discovered I couldn't pay the debt alone, i had to involve them. Thank God they handled it calmly. My dad and I have offset 700k debts already but I recently discovered that he is still borrowing and betting even recently (someone that has access to his details revealed this to me today). I am totally devastated and I don't know how to relay this to my parents to avoid heart attack. The gruesome part of the whole story is that he is JOBLESS because of his seminary school journey (which he has willingly pulled out from because of this issue).

Please my fellow nairanders, how do I handle this problem? I'm fed up

stop offsetting his gambling debts,it only makes the matter worrse,just call a general meeting and tell him he is on his own,if he chooses to gamble he should do so with his money

Landlord97:
This is lovely igboland is fast developing thanks to God for the strength and wisdom

and to think all these was razed down and destroyed barely 50+ years ago in a brutal war is a testament to hardwork and grim resolve,the only drawback to more progress of our region is the country Nigeria itself,it is a huge anchor that is trying to drawing us back to the stoneages,it is unfortunate but the inconvenient truth

Kenochi:
Economics 101: Refine your crude oil and stop importation of petrol,diesel and aviation fuel/kerosene

If those in government are expecting anything apart from this to reduce inflation,then they need to go back to school and question their certificate
Force NNPCL to supply crude oil to Dangote and all other modular refineries and conserve your foreign exchange.This is the only short term measure to stop this galloping inflation
The cost of production is very high as we run a Diesel Economy, our Electricity is kaput and we rely on Diesel to power our industries

infact the restoration of the refineries should have been the major task for tinubu before he removed subsidy, petroleum imports are gluppimg almost 30-40% of dollars and government is still wondering what to do,the refineries should be a prority project of national security

TemplarLandry:
Another sinister speculation for Hellu Pee scavengers to rejoice over.

this is no longer a matter of Peter obi again,are you sure we have not passed 30% inflation right now,the worst gaffe by BAT is that subsidy removal announcement without proper advice or backup,he did not even anticipate how fast the market will react or the domino effect it will cause,now what money they will save is now to be wiped out by inflation,pls leave mr obi alone he is not the president

codedgalaxy:
Thread Reminds me of back in the dark days, when my bro was dating a carterer damn !
It was heavenly babe was just bombarding us with assorted dishes damn it was bliss while it lasted.

I remembered when I dated an old mama restaurant owner in gboko just because of food,poverty bad my brother

immortalcrown:
Na who create himself?

if the condition of his teeth will make him kill himself I am sorry because as a man he will encounter many more problems in this journey of life that will make his teeth problem look like kids play,

Emekaphilip360:
Like she doesn’t get Hot sometimes. On a norm ladies do get Hot but in her own case she hardly feel it. How can a lady doesn’t feel Hot in 6months or more ? Is this a medical condition or something?

women body is a bit more complicated then men and almost all women differ from, one another,some are hypersexy,some wet like shower just talking to them,some feel hot,some are frigid,some are not even moved by anything,don't believe that every woman must wet it is a lie,most of them are dry like Atacama desert

Blaze14k:
I would like to use this opportunity to seek guidance based on the issue I have on ground. I believe it's igbos especially elderly person who is in a better position to give me a reasonable explanation. I told my mum my girlfriend is from ohafia, abia state and she instantly told me I can't get married to her. Her reason is because people from ohafia, arochukwu, izombe, and few other places in abia state are regarded as OSU. I complained to other members of my family but they also rejected her.

I have made some research personally and found out people from other part of igboland marry from those places. Now my question is why are they strongly rejecting her cos it doesn't make sense to call everybody from different local government in abia state OSU.

I've made more research on the girls family and found out they are king makers and her father belongs to eze's cabinet.

Her father and mine are no longer alive. They both have a traditional title and belong to eze's cabinet too. Please I need your advice cos I really want marry this girl. I also know that people encounter alot of difficulties when they want to get married. So I need a clarification from someone who has extensive knowledge on igbo tradition. Thank you

your mother's idea that the girls from ohafia,arochukwu and surroundings are osu is not only ignorant but malicious and degrading,I am from arondizuogu in imo state and we came from mazi ixuogu family from arochukwu,the aros and their cousins from ohafia,item,abiriba,etc were the first Igbo tribes to meet the white man and traded with them,these people are kingmakers and warriors,let her not go to ohafia and call them osu she may lose her head,these people are the warrior mecenaries of igboland.
There maybe other reason your mother didn't want her,but tagging a girl from ohafia osu is just giving a dog a bad name to kill it and that leaves you in a dilemma,there is now a battle line drawn between your mother and your fiancee and they will never be peace between them for life if you marry her,if I am in your shoes I will drop the girl for peace of mind

GanagiBitrus:
Consider yourself lucky If your wife has never destroyed anything in the house.

if she does such I will use police and arrest her to pay for the damages,after that if she likes she can go back to her father's house,let her try such,infact the man is a gentleman for just videoing her,before she will raise that hammer i will give her series of hot mind resetting slaps that will bring her back to reality

Zico5:
Destroying lives on wheel chair. Nigeria has gone from worse to worst. Someone that supposed to be seeking for God mercy is also destroying lives. I wonder the kind of jail they will put him.

it is who wants his life to be destroyed,will you force me to smoke SK moreover this drug officers are just wasting tax payers money because drugs are now common like cigarettes

jeromestarks:
This girl am scoping lives a street from me.
Whenever she's coming to my house, her friend - who is her close neighbour - will start calling me. Sometimes, she says "I just called to say Hi"
Other times, she would say something like " Have you eating? How are you doing?" Etc.

Note : This her neighbour doesn't call on a normal day but until her friend - my girl- is coming to see me.

I spoke with my girl last night and we agreed that she's coming to see me today after church service. As usual, her friend has called me this morning. She didn't say anything reasonable as usual. She just said " how are you doing?"
"How was you night?" And some other stupid stuffs which made no sense at all.

I answered blankly and ended the call.
Who do you think her friend calls me whenever she [my girl] is planning on visiting me?

this is another classic example of okafors no 2 law,which simply stated that if you are in a relationship and doing a good job,you have a high percentage chance of also dating any girl or woman close to your partner,your girl obviously is boasting and praising your sexual prowess to her friend before visiting you,which will make her friend wet and want a bit of the action,I will take a bet that her finger will be in her pvssy when asking you on phone have you eaten.

victooman:
hello dear Nairalanders,, have been dating this girl for two years now and l am thinking of tieing the knot next year,, she has all the quality l want in a woman and l really love this girl...
When we meet she told me she dated a guy for six years in which her parents did not accept her relationship with him when he came for introduction,, l told her to make sure she have gotten over the guy before dragging me into something l dont know..
just yesterday night when she came to my place during love making a number was constantly calling her,, when l enquired she told me it was her ex calling l got mad and surprise she is still in communication with him..
l told her she have to make the decision between me and that guy now ,, long story cut short ,, she was begging that the guy was the one disturbing her and she called him in my present to tell him to stop calling her ...
seriously my trust for this girl is almost gone and l am seriously thinking on ending this relationship,, l need ur input my lovely Nairalanders.

okafors law no 1 is a deadly virus and from your story the woman is already infected

Goodlyhrt:
Of course, not everyone will win in this race of life.

Me I know I am a failure so I will try my possible best to enjoy my failure status and stop disturbing myself thinking of ways to make meaning of my existence

Eat when I can, wear anything I have in my wardrobe..just living my unfortunate life in peace✌️.

Not bothering myself with the female gender as they seldom put up with losers so my darling vaseline comes to the rescue. Call me toxic I don't care.

Peace

what is your own definition of failure?is it not having money,car,house, education,good job,wife,children,connection or inheritance,do you know that your failure status could be another man's success,or do you think eating two square meal in Nigeria now is not a success story and you even have wardrobe to hang your clothes,bro you have not failed you are just indifferent to life,

lecoeur:
While growing up, sometimes my father takes me out with him and during those times he teaches me certain things that a man should know.
Thing is, something happened I can't recall but that thing made him tell me he preferred my younger brother to me (We are 3 boys tho), I even noticed it because he took him out more and bought things for him. I was this kid that's so quite, reserved and always on my own and he never liked that. On the other note, my brother is very agressive have this agbero type of behaviour lol. My dad fell ill and I took care of him both at home and in the hospital to the point of his death I was with him, I didn't take what he said to heart and he never apologized but I did all that because I loved him very much, I saw him as a hero, even the person that he preferred wasn't interested in taking care of him as much as I was.
I totally forgot about this whole thing until this my younger Bro accused my Mom of been bias towards him which is true but as the first and oldest son I always stand for him whenever that happens because I know how it feels.
Please I urge present and future parents to do better with hiding or avoiding this favourite child thing, it's not really ohk.

most times there is nothing a parent can do because the likeness is natural,out of my 6 children I loved my fourth child the most she is currently doing nursing science and she is the excat replica of my late mother,both in stature ,speech,behaviour,manners,will of character,infact what she is called is osodiemeaku or osodi which means a wife that helps her husband to make wealth ,which is my late mother's alias when she was alive.

Vinnie2000:
Even in the past, The Price of Clothes has Always been Inflationary in nature. 🤨🙂

it is person that still has change after spending on food items will buy clothes,it is getting tight

elipheleh:
The only reason why Nigerian women are still being married is because an average Nigerian man has no means of japa.

Once a Naija man goes outside this nation he will never look at Naija girls again.

Naija girls are the lowest in every good quality worlwide

don't let economic reasons cloud your judgement,why does the west have highest divorce rate? feminism?or passport Bros?do you think an average African Americans black woman is better to be a wife than my woman from imo state?do you think you can marry a 50yr old American woman if not for papers and her money? Nigerian girls maybe dumb,stupid and low in your region but in my imo state our girls are smart,educated and beautiful.

BOSSkesh:
Mordern day sex slave market

I don't think it is modern slavery but simple economics of demand and supply,we too many women here in Africa,xery good women with mind blowing entertainment facilities,the Chinese has less women
population and even at that their women are nothing to write home about,with zero everything I don't see anything remotely interesting in them,

udofia234:
Good evening every one!!!

I have an issue at hand, I'm in a serious relationship with a lady, in fact I intend marrying her, she spends her weekend with me, during her working days I check on her at her place of work and she's always there, she's so committed.


Just this Monday! A friend of mine said he saw her come to the shopping mall with a guy and the way they where on each other he's suspecting she's dating the guy, I just waved it off because I still went to her office that day and I saw her myself and that there's no way she could be the one, he felt embarrassed, so I told him anytime he sees them together again he should snap them and call me if I'm around that area I'll come see for my self.

After I got the info I never changed towards he and neither did I ask her about it, she even allowed me check her phone, I read through her msg, watttapp, Twitter, fb and others! guys I no see anything!!!

so I had that confidence that she ain't cheating on me, I mean she would have left a trace for me to know, she acts normal, she never changed towards me.

This time I intensified my checking on her and calls her regularly and when ever she didn't pick up she'll call me back apologizing.

Her movements and phones are crystal clean! I know my friend cannot lie to me cos he recognises her even in the dark! I'm hot on the inside knowing she's doing something behind me and I can't even trace anything. Before confronting her on anything I need to be sure she's really cheating....


To the wise men and women in the house! I wan catch her red handed or how do I unravel this mystery!

try and catch a fish in the water with your hands that's how difficult it is to catch a cheating woman that don't want to be caught,don't give yourself unecessary blood pressure and paranoia about monitoring women,she already knows how insecure you are and will be on her guard

AoifeNightfall:
Let us show human kindness first before our bias.

only a homosexual gay man can help such person

Aareakinwunmi:
Isn't that what you women want.

are you sure they even know what they want

Aaaaarghmed:
Omo,you just dey write story OP.you must spend for Nigeria woman .if not..relationship go get k leg.Nigerian ladies enter relationship with the mind of profit . .i agree with your views o.but kolewerk in Naija

hmm,I am just wondering how long a hungry girl in need will love you,women are naturally attracted to successful men that will provide and care for them and I don't think there is anything wrong in spending what you can afford to lose on a woman so long she plays her part well

YeyeGbami:
Before opening, i know say e no go pass either ogun, osun, oyo.

My people too dey mumu sha, hang them all.

In igboland it is said that when a taboo is tolerated it turns to normal tradition and culture,,if that man is captured in igboland with such grixly trophy not only will he be burnt to ashes but his house and properties will be destroyed as well

Absuchat:

Let's see how one criminal lawyer will defend this one

the lawyer may plead for Insanity,so the stupid idiot can go to an asylum instead of the gsllows

PerfectStranger:
Cry of a lonely girl

the cry is an understatement ,in 30yrs time with no husband or child then the wailing and Lamentations will begin,what the op is missing is the future,men are gradually no longer interested in marriage and even relationship is now transactional

Pooldrowning:
E reach to laugh abeg

but it is the man that betrayed the woman's trust,you can't hardly blame the woman,if she has children even adopted ones it may stop her from relocating

CoronaVirusPro:
Fvck Israel!

Genocide in disguise!

this is a lesson that some actions had deadly consequences,if you like use toy gun to rob in onitsha,if you are caught and before you explain it is toy gun you are already roasting in fire,Hamas should know better how isreal will react before holding the tiger by the tail

ebubeson:
As a lady, you have the right to reject a man you don't want. You cannot be at the mercy of a man, and the fact you refused marrying a man does not mean you will suffer in life. Again, you can still reject a man and meet him very poor later in life.

But my advice:
(1) When rejecting a man, do not dehumanize him.
(2) Do not eat the sweat of a hustling man that intends to marry you, if you are truly not interested in him.
(3) It is a nice thing to marry a rich man, but go after him, enjoy the money, but do not go after the money.

this the reason why side chicks are fvcked without mercy like a hired bicycle,spend what you can afford to lose on a side chick and hammer the pvssy at any slightest opportunity,this is an expendable relationship and the pvssy may just be your only benefit at last

englishmart:
I'm planning to tell her husband, who happens to be an acquaintant of mine. On the other hand, I'm considering the consequence. He's been suspecting her of infidelity, and this could finally nail her.
I will be very glad to destroy that marriage if need be.

don't be a joy killer,she may post such after a fight or bad day with her husband,mind your own business it is not your concern and it is unhealthy to have a scorned woman is your enemy i

Middleborn:
my question is, why would they want to hide this truth that there was a cataclysm in the past and that the human survivors inherited some knowledge, technology and edifices from destroyed old world?

a cataclysm that left no evidence?even fossils and bones of animals that died millions of years ago are still been discovered,why is there not a single piece of evidence found In the Sahara?that is how they say aliens built the pyramids but new discoveries in Egypt has shown the dwellings,tombs,kitchens and identities of the workers that was involved in building the pyramids