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As men of the house, you’re supposed to provide for all the family without any excuses. The needs and the wants plus extra. If your wife needs a car, u must get it. If your wife needs money for maintenance you’re supposed to give plus excesss. But most men are struggling to perform their manly duties and are even relying on their wives salary to survive. Does this mean that wives are entitled to side men? Boyfriends on the side?
The truth is that most of you place unrealistic expectations on your other half, and when things are not done your way, you complain bitterly. It’s emotional immaturity. And people like you should seriously not get married, because you’ll be highly disappointed. Nobody is going to kneel down and serve your food to you, especially when you’re not transferring millions to their account monthly. Get a grip.

CrazyMan:
Have you ever been to Benin republic, you're here saying advance country.

For your information, in the so called advanced country which I myself have been opportuned to visit their women cook and serve their husbands.

In areas where the wife is a career woman, she hires a nanny/cook and pays her from her own purse. Cos she knows it's her responsibility.

The problem with you girls is that you're much better as girlfriends than wifes. A girlfriend would wash her guys clothes, cook for him, keep him company...etc. but the moment he upgrades her to a wife it becomes a tug of war who does what and who doesn't do what.

Do you know why many men cheat on their wives it's because their side chick knows the role the wife is supposed to play and is fully aware that she's (the wife) isn't playing it. So she capitalizes on that error, illfitrates the home and wins the husband over to her side.

So please spare me the crap of advance country bullshit. If you're not ready to be a wife to a man you married, the be prepared to share him with someone who's ready to give him what you're too arrogant to offer.

My husband that even cooks for everyone what is now there in washing plate. Well I guess everyone has their own individual rules in their marriage.

Asapretty:
As in eh the heaviness I feel now is something else, the pelvic pain, to get up from the bed or turn is another work, 3rd trimester is indeed a different ball game. My weight is something else me that used to be a size eight ��

To walk, to stand, to sleep, to turn, everything is a problem and it hurts. my dear I’ve added 22 plus kg. I’m just embracing my whale body for now because i cannot starve myself. Lool all is well, we shall deliver safely .

nnekaike:
choi,I feel same way with my big nose,the ugliness dey make me run away from mirror .

I avoid mirrors now at all costs Lool. I can’t come and kill myself

3rd trimester is definitely harder than the first trimester. Kai I just feel like a fat whale

Going through the exact same thing. Exactly how you described it.

MumDiamond:
Congrats Cappo! Team Feb has snatched our own cappo, una strong o. Welcome to your lovely son. We await your BS.

I’m almost 37 weeks gone. I was talking to my doctor yesterday, I told him that I want my baby to chill small. She should come at 40 weeks. Mama is still prepping, haven’t even packed hospital bags yet (laziness). I’m so looking forward to meeting her, but then, my darling, please hold on a little.

I also noticed that it has been increasingly difficult to walk these days. If I sit down for too long and stand up, I feel this heaviness around my pelvic area. Same with when I lie down, I can’t turn easily like I used to. Getting up from bed as well is no longer as easy as it was. When I asked my doctors, they said it’s normal at my stage. But I haven’t heard anyone complain about it. Please is there anyone going through this?

Mummywifey:
Congratulations, wow I like the size of your baby. I don't want a big baby.

why na

You’re making me feel bad Lool my baby was already 3.5kg at 35 weeks.

Bisade44:
I’m still not showing at almost 14 weeks. Is it normal?

very normal. I didn’t show properly until 6 months which is 24 weeks.

Mzleemah:
BA
Alhamdulilah, My baby boy made his grand entrance this Morning@38 weeks weighing 2.4kg.
Team March I don port o February geepee don catch me @beyedew.
I wish all the remaining belleful mama safe delivery.
BS coming soon

yaaaaayyy congrats cappo. I’m so happpyyyy

Shallypop:
Take a look at d Kardashian family. The only male in the family is almost useless.

yes. And they’re many useless female children out there. I know you mean well, but stop acting like All Male children grow up to be useless.

People saying that she should be grateful because they’re people out there looking for the fruit of the womb. Well I’m sorry, just because you are blessed in a certain area, that doesn’t totally disregard your feelings or emotions. You are very entitled to feel sad about a situation, no matter how many people want to be in your shoes. Everybody has their own individual problems. The rich do cry, yet millions of people want to be in their position. Does this mean they are not entitled to feel sad?

As for those saying female children are better than males and blah blah blah. A child is a child and the behaviour and actions simply rely on the upbringing and training of the child. They’re many wayward females as well as males, if you train your child up well, they will never depart from it. It’s just that simple. No need to start spreading lies to make the OP feel better. The problems with Africans is that they don’t train their male children well, they spoil them hence why many believe female children do better in life. It’s all bullocks.

To the op, I think your main concern should be getting your tubes tied. You have too many children and clearly you all are struggling financially to take care of them. You are not destined to have a boy, and that is fine. Train your female children well and they will be a source of joy for you and your hubby in old age. Good luck.

Mzleemah:
teamie carry your body and prepare because porting is real

i will. I promise lol. This week.

Awesomemama:
Look at this woman
Seems you're not waddling just yet
Try and get ready o, time waits for no one

i am. I can barely walk sef but I’m too lazy to finish preparing. God help me ohhh

tyhgfrdeswscbhf:
I like how fast February is unlike January....can't believe next week Sunday is march

its going too fast seriously. I’m not ready to drop this child just yet

sadi78:
As a nairalander, i want to share a cute picture of my lovely kids!
Amina and Bilal.
Wish them well please[color=#006600][/color]

beautiful family. God bless you

Jellyshine:
BA
I happily announce the arrival of my 3kg bouncing baby boy yesterday at 36 weeks via cs.
Mother, father and baby doing ok
TeamMarchRocks but I ported to February.
To God be the glory.

congrattsssss ohh. We were due on the same day. Congrats to you wishing you speedy recovery I’m so happy for youuuu

funmisticqueen2:
it is necessary, and way better than bringing unworthy seed from unworthy men into the world.


You most likely haven't heard of elective surgery before. Go and sit down.

goodluck

funmisticqueen2:
the fetus that cannot inhale its first breath. It is not an individual, just a mass of cells with potential. That's all.

Oga, let her abort it. If you want, you can look after the child should nshe give birth to it

so what about fully developed babies that need medical assistance to breathe, to eat and function? What about premature babies that have to be transferred to a neonatal intensive care unit, are they not living beings? From conception to a certain age, all living beings need assistance to live, whilst depending on the age some will last longer than others. You’re lost and I hope one day you will open your eyes.

funmisticqueen2:
if that is the case, then the fetus should be able to survive on its own, outside the woman.

if you leave a fully developed baby on its own for longer that 24 -48 hours without care, the baby will die. So what is your point? Whether it’s from the point of conception to a two month old baby, it is a life.

funmisticqueen2:
Appendectomy is not safe abi. C/S is not safe abi. Now you are contradicting yourself. Abortion is not a life or death situation. Lol!!

Just stop already, perish the thought of arguing further before you dig yourself a pit you cannot come out of.

Theres no medical safe surgery hence why it’s only done when necessary. There’s nothing necessary about an abortion if not for the selfish reasons of the mother. So why put your reproductive organs at risk for something that is not necessary? Continue lying to yourself. Hopefully you will not have to go through having an abortion if you have not done so already. Good luck.

funmisticqueen2:
neither is appendectomy, or ceasarian section. But does that mean that doctors should not perform those too. Who told you that abortion is not safe. It is only unsafe in a useless country like nigeria.

they are not safe hence why they are only done to save the child or mothers life. It’s a life or death situation. Abortion is not a life or death situation in most case and you are putting your reproductive organs at risk for what? To forcefully vacuum out a living child that is implanted in the womb securely is damaging to the uterus. Take it or leave it.

funmisticqueen2:
your sister is a doctor is not the same as you are a doctor. So please don't talk like to know everything.

i dont know everything, but what I do know is that abortion is not natural or safe so stop deceiving people. Thanks

taylor89:
Una too small and young to marry

they’re at the perfect age. Mid 20s at least. Leave them alone

Carrying out an unnatural procedure, using instruments to forcefully kill and remove a foetus from the womb is kinder than something that women are born to do? What exactly is the purpose of the uterus? Why do you think so many women these days have fertility issues? The uterus was created to carry life, it was not created to have man made instruments fondlingg in and out of it, destroying and weakening the uterine walls, ripping out foetuses from it. The earlier people understand this, the better.

merahki:
I had to do that, sorry, kinda, but not so much
Meanwhile having a D and C is generally kinder to a woman’s body and life than carrying a pregnancy to term
You may advocate for her keeping the baby which is a good cause without resorting to blackmail and threats which are fallacious when the chips are down. She may decide to have an abortion too depending on her circumstances (and considering the Nigerian society and the dividual, judging and patriachial nature of its people). That doesn’t make a monster, that is t likely to make her infertile, and that is certainly her decision to make
Cheers

So if everybody lived their lives based on the opinions of others, do you think anybody in life would take risks? Even those that are married still end up being single mothers, such is life. Have they died? This stupid fear of being a single mother, las las that’s where most women end up later on in life. That child will always be hers. Killing her child and running away from her problem, is that going to bring back the 10 years she has wasted with this man? The resentment, bitterness and self doubt that she has gained from this? ‘What will people say, what will people think? ‘ that’s why most of you are depressed, you live your life trying to conform to societal norms, and in the end you still fail.

spiceadole:
Oil dey your head.
Well scripted.

The way Nigerians are anti abortion on social media...If I wasn't a doctor and practised in Nigeria,I would not have believed almost 90% of women including the married ones have had at least 1 abortion.

They are not anti unprotected premarital & extramarital sex...Its abortion ,that everybody begins to preach against.

Funny!

This lady will be a very big fool to keep that pregnancy.
The same people,especially men,advising her against abortion..will be the same calling her derogatory names for having a child out of wedlock.

I'm glad I left Nigeria.
Our hypocrisy is sickening

funmisticqueen2:
story story, if she meets a gynaecologist for the abortion, chances of those side effects are greatly reduced.

even if the doctor is a professional, the instruments they use weaken the uterus. Making you more prone to miscarriages and fertility issues, because it’s not a natural process. Even these pills you take are not good. These doctors will never tell you this because they make money from you. My sister is a doctor so I know. Why is infertility such an issue in this day and age? You young girls don’t understand what you’re doing to your bodies, and it’s when you get to a certain age you’ll be crying on top of a mountain begging God for blessings.

Men will always be men. Most of them cheat even if you are the best wife in the world. Don’t even beat yourself up about it, it happens to most women even if you look like Beyoncé.

What I will advise is, take care of your child and try to take care of yourself. Focus on you. If you have any male friends that you can confide in, to distract your mind then do it. Try to look after your appearance. Don’t make yourself miserable, getting premature wrinkles and making yourself old before your time for this man. Be happy and joyful. Eventually he will use his mouth to confess what he’s been up to.

So because you’re broke, you’ll now ignore your lover of 10 years who is pregnant for you? Making the poor lady doubt herself and question the relationship? This same man has not talked about marriage or settling down.

To op, this man has wasted enough of your time please. He has probably found someone else abroad. As for your child, it is not the end of the world. Your child will bring blessings to you and you will find a man who will love and accept you wholeheartedly. Good luck.

TO ALL THE PEOPLE ADVOCATING ABORTION, JUST KNOW THAT THE FEMALE REPRODUCTIVE ORGANS ARE VERY VERY SENSITIVE. ALL YOU YOUNG GIRLS DESTROYING YOUR UTERUS WITH PILLS, ABORTIONS ETC WILL FIND IT DIFFICULT TO CONCEIVE LATER ON IN LIFE! GO TO A FERTILITY CLINIC AND SEE HOW MILLIONS OF WOMEN ARE SUFFERING AND CRYING. I PRAY NONE OF YOU WILL BE IN THAT POSITION.

thesicilian:
When a man of integrity is broke, he distances himself even from those he loves. Is your boyfriend a man of his word? Consider that.

Personally I wouldn't recommend abortion due to the likely complications, and your age. And the fact that it is for someone you truly love. And what if God doesn't bless you with another child later?

My advice is deliver the child and raise him by yourself. Even if he rejects the child, it is yours for you to love.

Asapretty:
Hello teamie, how did they know your baby is 3.5kg I guess through a scan which can't be reliable because it's mostly assumptions, so don't let that put fear in you. You can also reduce your beverage and milk in take that's what I do now and take more of Lipton tea to put the weight gain in check. Hang on there we are almost at the finish line.

thank you so much. My mind is at rest now.

Jellyshine:
Put your trust in God and ask him to guide your doctor.Besides that, have you finished packings your bags.labor is around the corner.
I have finished packing o,but yet to put nylon for placenta and a can of baby food.

I haven’t finished buying things talkless of packing any hospital bag. But i know that all is well and I will be prepared when baby arrives. I’m really struggling to walk around as baby is too big and heavy right now

[quote author=Jellyshine post=86541868][/quote]thank you. I think it’s the doctor that scared me. lol I don’t like that man at all.

Hi mums
Has anyone given birth to a large baby before? Please is it something to be worried about , as I’m concerned that I’m 35 weeks and baby weighs 3.5kg and the doctor said he is long and large for his gestational age. I need to hear the truth to prepare my mind please..