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I never understand why people abroad always want to desperately buy land in Nigeria. The money you use to buy a property in naij, why not use it for a mortgage, eventually pay off the mortgage and get onto the property ladder in the country you reside. Set up generational wealth for your children. I mean unless you want to eventually move back to Nigeria, I see no point of this and it’s just a waste of money. I guess it’s a status symbol for most.

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Carchoice:
so why marry in the first place? Why don't we all just agree to parent kids and move on with our "different" life?

Are you saying marriage is a scam?

why don’t you decide to kill your self since life comes with different obstacles and challenges? That’s the answer to your question

Oh please marriage will always have problems.

We are talking about two completely different individuals who will come together to live under one roof forever. Do you think it’s easy? It is completely to normal to have times where you dislike your spouse, where you would like to plot against them. It’s also very hard to sustain a marriage for 15 years plus without one party cheating either physically emotionally or mentally, yes that is the truth. It’s how you overcome those hurdles that really matter.

Congrats

Hopefully your story will inspire others who are struggling to conceive or hold a pregnancy till full term. It’s not easy and it doesn’t make you less of a woman.

GoldenJAT:
He did not nothing wrong!! Stop ranting!! ONLINE LION.
WORK ON YOURSELF TOO.

you don’t post people’s unflattering pictures without their permission. His wife has just put to bed, she’s probably insecure alreAdy, then seeing herself in photos posted on her husbands watsapp will only make things worst for herself. The same way you wouldn’t take a picture of your wife tying wrapper and post it online. He should’ve asked his wife if it’s okay to post the picture considering her condition. It’s always good to know The kind of person you marry, to avoid conflicts like this.

You don old finish. Grandpa daddy.

mandate12:
To think that 32 fools liked this shit is a threat to marriages in Nigeria

the truth is painful. A man without money causes too many problems in marriage. We are in a new generation where a woman should have her own money however for peace and stability to reign, the man must lead financially. End of story.

tyhgfrdeswscbhf:
Is a BA BA BA


My blue plane landed yesterday through ECS... Weighing 3.4 kg. God is indeed faithful. alot wanted to happen but I thank God I survived the favor room

yaaayyy

I was getting worried about you

Millenniumlady:
The man just played himself he'll leave to regret the curse of his actions.......how dare you take side With your mother when i'm your wife which automatically makes me your new mum ......Ladies never you marry a guy that's so close to his mum if you want a successful marriage.

one day you will be a mum, are you telling me you wouldn’t want to be close to son all just to please his wife? Let me hear word please

Yawns.

Life is all about risks. If we were all scared to take risks, there would be stagnancy in everyone’s life. Whether you get married or not, you will still go through pain, sorrow, disappointment, eventually get old and pass away. That is what life is all about. So if you’re scared about the bad side of marriage, I suggest you stay in your little bubble to stay safe.

Sepsis:
I’m patient. But getting frustrated. The more patient I get, the more I realize that things probably wouldn’t change.

10 months is patient, plus she’s breastfeeding? It’s not as if she’s just getting fat for nothing, she’s breastfeeding your child and she’s probably overwhelmed with the changes that motherhood brings. During my pregnancy I added 22kg, my face, neck and body turned extremely black, my legs were swollen. Completely different look to how my husband met me, and I know looking at me was probably an eyesore for him, but he had the emotional maturity to understand what happens to women during pregnancy and postpartum. You need to grow up ahbeg, you never see anything in marriage yet.

Losing weight is not really about exercise, it’s about food. Because they’re women who go out everyday and work yet they are still big. Take a look at any big persons diet, and that’s where you will see the problem. No amount of exercise can cover a bad diet. It’s very important. Eba, pounded yam, oily foods and excess sugar causes weight gain. She should only drink water, 1-2 meals a day at a reasonable size. Snacking on fruits or vegetables the weight will drop.

Please also consider that she’s a breastfeeding mum, the first year after giving birth to a child is very difficult. The body does not belong to the mother as she has to supply milk for her child. Many women do not get their body back until 2 years plus after childbirth. Your child is not even up to a year and you’re already complaining. I know you don’t want things to get out of hand, but you need to be patient. If she’s in her 20s, you are lucky as weight loss tends to be easier in that age range. Goodluck

Have you divorced your wife yet?

hohafrank:
I am 'fortunate' to marry a nagging wife.We never agree on any issue.Any issue relating to my extended family does not concern her.She always wants to involve me in her own extended family-cousins,grandfather and grandmother affairs.Initially I was involving in all her affairs naturally.When I realized that my family affairs does not interest her,I decided to put a stop to participating in her family affairs financially.We are 8 years in marriage.She nag alots and does anything to run me down financially.I open a beautique shop for her when I LOST my job with the hope that the proceeds will be used to take care of domestic expenses.She hyjacked the business.She never spent a dial for her children upkeep let alone making a contribution for the children school fees.She spent money on her people.She does not play any specific role in the running of the home.I evatually buy everything up to salt and DPK.Iam considering divorcing her.NL please advise.

Tyhgfrdeswscbhf I hope you are well? Hope everything is fine with you.

Young girls use your youth wisely. It’s easier to get a provider when you’re young, I know what I’m saying. I know what I told my elder sister then when she was dating a stingy broke ass, at 22, that couldn’t even drop one kobo when my mother was extremely sick in the hospital. I thank God for my sisters life, she’s with a stable man now years later. When I met my husband, I made it very clear to him that I’m not the managing type. I like money and I’m not afraid to hide it all in the disguise of forming miss humble wife. Never. If my husband likes, he should misbehave, keep malice, I don’t care at all. I have peace of mind knowing that there’s money in my back account, I have assets and my child is taken care of and set for life. That’s all I’m going to say.

Don’t marry for love marry for money. We have been saying this for centuries. Let them call you a goldigger, let them shame you, you will have the last laugh. What is a man, when he doesn’t have money? What can he do for you? What kind of husband will he be, and how can he provide for his future children? What is potiential, everybody in this world has potiential. You need to see monetary proof that he can lead a home. Think with your brain and not your heart, you will avoid many problems. You will grow to love a man who is a stable provider, you will grow out of love with a man who is a stable broke ass. This is not the generation of building with a man, if a man ain’t got money today, he will 90% not have tomorrow. At least when the man gives you problems (which is 100% certain), you will have stability in regards to finances which is One less problem to deal with. A word is enough for the wise.

She needs to endure the pain so it can dry up.

If you suck the milk or she uses a breast pump, the milk will keep on flowing forever. Why would she even want you to suck the milk? To me that’s just disgusting, I’m sorry.

dinachi:
No, you are not. And you know it.

okay

dinachi:
You are an evil woman with a horrible heart. may you never marry in Jesus name, Amen.

im already married. Thanks and love.

DanseMacabre:


When last you treat malaria

some people are hallucinating during this corona.

Darling why I’m triggered is because some women after reading your post may start unnecessarily abstaining from sex because they believe your comment is factual. If you’re going to state your silly opinions on this thread, please make it very clear that it is your opinion, because from the looks of it, you’re typing as if you’re a medical professional who knows what they’re talking about. You probably just made all of that up in your head.

Eulalia:
Buahahahahaaaa. Please can somebody advise this uncivil fellow to stop getting herself worked up over a harmless opinion I made since morning and almost forgot I did? Like seriously, what's the hullabaloo all about?

Look, the last time I checked, opinions are like behinds and every body's got one.
If its for the likes you're clamoring, sorry you're ain't getting any with the way you're going about it.

Be civil.
Peace.

Eulalia:
Stop making a noise cos it doesnt change anything as people will still do what they feel is best for them with or without your noise. So, chilax.

Total waste of time. Lol....

don’t spread nonsense here ah beg. Think before you type, nonsense.

Im sorry but I have to be harsh, because some women will actually read your comment to believe it’s factual, causing problems in their marriage. Polygamy was practiced heavily in the olden days, hence the reason why women waited one year. I’m sure it made no difference to their vaginas, it’s all down to other factors. Why do some women’s breast sag after pregnancy and some don’t? Elasticity, age
and genetics, that is the main factor between a tight body and a looser one. Don’t spread false information on nairaland please, they’re a lot of young impressionable people reading comments here.

Eulalia:
Please can you make your points without being undiplomatic? Just leave me out of your snide remarks. Ok? Do what you feel is right for you and let others chose what is best for them. I'm talking from what I've witness first hand. you may want to do your research to confirm what I'm saying instead of going about, sounding derogatory and uncultured.

Who's spreading false info? Someone asked for advice and I gave my 2 cents. Its left for the op to take or discard it. You too should give yours and move on instead exerting bad energy all over the place. It has not gotten to that.

I come in peace.

Good day!

NobleAngell:
Farting through the vj? Pls elaborate.

she doesn’t know what she’s talking about please. She’s spreading false information on Nl, people will read her comment and will feel it’s necessary to wait one year after birth to have sex, all to remain ‘tight’. It’s a bunch of lies. It all depends on your genetics, your age and how much you tore during delivery. Do your kegels and sits bath, by 6 weeks you are medically and physically okay to resume sex and any healthy vagina should regain its normality. If you have to wait one year just to be normal, then maybe your vagina needs medical attention.

Eulalia:
And what causes the VJ to lose elasticity? Let's stop deceiving ourselves. No woman's VJ goes back 100% to normal after delivery but it can still be corrected and maintained by allowing it time to heal during which you'll do hot seat baths and use other herbs to quicken healing.
Not allowing it go through these processes will make a woman to start farting and leaking uncontrollably through the VJ.
I have seen so many cases in the my years of practice. This is life not what I read somewhere. But many are ashamed to admit it out there.

There's nothing like "poor elasticity" something causes it to lose elasticity. Poor maintenance, which is one of the things we are talking about.

what do you mean there’s nothing like poor elasticity? What are you practicing, because clearly you don’t know what you are talking about. Genetically some women have poor elasticity, some have great. Some women will go right back in to shape, with no flabby skin and a toned body after pregnancy. Women with poor elasticity will have loose skin, excess fat and cellulite for years that will be almost impossible to get rid of. The same goes with the vagina. There’s no amount of waiting that can heal beyond measures when the natural elasticity of the woman is poor. I’m not saying there’s not certain things you can do to help, however waiting a year is totally unnecessary and there’s absolutely no difference if you wait 6 weeks or one year.

Eulalia:
At least, six months. So that the vaginal walls that expanded during delivery can can contract back to normal. My mum taught me this and during their time, it was 1 year before they resume. Resuming almost immediately weakens the walls and getting them back together is usually difficult cos it was not given enough time to heal. And that is why mother's of today after one or two children have slack VJ and Begin to run to us for vagina tightening. That was why during our mothers time you hardly find women looking for vagina tightening remedy.

So 6 months to 1 year is fine. It will also help mother and child to stay healthy.

I don’t know why you’re spreading lies here please. Who is going to be tight will be tight regardless of how long you wait. It all depends on the individual, age, elasticity and hiw much the vagina expanded during delivery. Same way some women go right back into shape after delivery, some women remain fat for years. If you like stay away from sex for a year, if your elasticity is poor and your vagina expanded significantly with tears, it will leave some permanent damage that only surgery can treat. The only reason why olden day women didn’t use tightening creams, is simply because they didn’t have access to it.

I’m telling you most of the guys here are calling her dirty because of her skin tone. If this girl was extremely yellow, would they be saying the same thing?
Fair enough, she may not be attractive to anyone. But calling her dirty and unkept, I sincerely don’t understand it, have you met her

When I see what some women go through in the name of being a wife, I thank God for my life. God forbid bad thing.

The only reason why you’re going back to your wife is because your side chick has failed you. You are a disgrace please. Your wife will have the last laugh in Jesus name. God will heal her wounds and place her above all her enemies.

Yes, she may forgive you, but you must definitely face the consequences for your actions.

NoLotty7:
how did you knew that your ex boyfriend's mother had eight abortions?she told you herself or your ex boyfriend did unbehalf of his mother?lf op is your brother can you encourage him to marry such lady with more than two abortions?

the woman told me herself. Anyways the truth is that most women who are sexually active have had at least 1-3 abortions. It’s more common than you think, it’s just a forbidden topic that no one talks about. I am 100 percent against it, but the chances of my brother or my son marrying a woman who has gone through that procedure is very very high, so there’s nothing I can do to prevent it.

I had a cs, waited 6 weeks. But then cs does not interfere with the vagina so I can’t speak on those who delivered naturally

DanseMacabre:
Eight ke E sure me die say she don abort the person wey for make Nigeria better.

Yes ohh lol then when she thought I was pregnant for her son, she told me her life story, telling me she’s had eight abortions and that if I’m really pregnant she will take me to the abortion clinic herself. Thank God it was just a pregnancy scare, very useless woman.