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Are you not ashamed of yourself? Asking your wife to contribute 50% of the wedding expenses? Some men these days shaa

Chimzy09:
Right here Cappo. Time suddenly seems too short I feel so not ready

samme here. I’m like God I need at least two more months lool

I feel like I’m not organised.

I haven’t finished buying things
I haven’t packed any hospital bag
My back is aching me so I can’t do too long of a walk
I just want to sleep and rest all day, plus eat good food and that’s what I’ve been doing.
Lol why am I like this ?

Mzleemah:
Team March Roll Call (February)

Happy new month teamies, I guess we are all doing fine, how are the cute ones in the bump doing? I believe by now we should be through with shopping and plan on packing hospital bags because porting is allowed.

We thank God for bringing us this far, I pray he won't forsake any of us. May we all give birth successfully and carry our bundle of joys with us home. After February comes March, we cannot wait to shake this thread with out back to back BA.

Congratulations to our very own Iya triplet sacredlily, how is vigilante with the triplets?

Let's welcome our new members rollykotex (please supply your Edd and baby gender ma'am) and mama Zaynie is here too on behalf of her sister (mama give Team March discount on purchase because you are a March born and here in team March with us)

#teamkiakiadelivery
#babyalivemotheralivedaddyandfamilymemberaliveandrejoicing
#teammarchfornoloss #teammarchforsupernaturaldelivery

Moniker....................Edd..................Gender

1. Mommadd ............30th/31st..........(twins) XY& unknown
2. estilo ....................7th/11th............. unknown
3. Mzleemah ...............3rd/6th.........XY
4. olabrinks ................13th.................XY
5. safeob27 ...............19th.................. XX
6. marygold .................7th.................. XY
7. Jellyshine ...............13th................XX
8. ladyjblinks .............28th............... XX
9. Graced2018 ...........11th................. unknown
10. Chimzy09 .............16th................. XY
11. mumsjoy ..............30th...................XY
12. PINK1000............. 8th....................XX
13. nahzyla .................19th.................. unknown
14. Bluefin ....................5th................. unknown
15. Anapuao ..............20th............. unknown
16. Sophiemama ............4th/7th............ XY
17. MumDiamond ............15th.............XX
18. Danny4God(for wifey) .......17th....... XY
19. smoochii ................20th............ unknown
20. Orente21 ..................31st..............XY
21. Asapretty ..................6th..............unknown
22. Piragirl ....................28th.............. unknown
23. Sacredlily ................14th.............. (Triplets) XY, XY & XX. Delivered 29th Jan... BA/BS Seen
24. Folash .....................20th..............unknown
25. HolySteph ...............23rd................XY
26. SeyiAyoride (for wifey).....21/26/28......XX
27. Favourme026.......... 10th...............XX
28. RealAngel55............. 8th................XX
29. Rollykotex................. 7th................XX
30. Zaynie (for her sister)......... 3rd......XY

Please try to answer roll call so that we will know how you are fairing.

Simple as abc. You’ll see the difference in comments between the inexperienced and experienced. Some people are the cause of their own misfortune.

PrimadonnaO:
@IwantPeace, I absolutely agree with this guy. It would seem that his very presence in the house irks you. By “dipping hand” into your pot of soup, I’m pretty sure you don’t mean that literally. You mean he goes to serve himself or what? Do you have a policy of being the one who dishes food to everyone? He shouldn’t eat until you’re there to serve him? Is that what you mean? Babe, you have strength, and beyond that it would make you come off as a difficult person.
When I’m dishing food to baby boy’s friends, it’s really out of courtesy, otherwise, I let them know to feel free to go help themselves.

I’ve learnt that in dealing with your man’s friends and family, it’s a lot easier when you accept them as your very own people...and take them as they come. When they see that you’re not putting on airs around them or disproving of them, y’all will get along very fine, trust me. Plus you’d get less affected by every little thing they do.

The way I grew up, when one person cooks, the other cleans and washes up the dishes. There was a time when baby boy has his brother and two friends living with him, and there would be times when I’ll cook and everyone will eat and stack up the plates in the sink. Most times I’ll wash them up if I’m in the mood, and largely because I hate to see the kitchen untidy. But at certain other times, I wash just mine and leave the rest so they’ll get the message that under normal circumstances they should clean up after themselves. And while I’ve done this, I’ll still go into the living room to shine teeth with them. They can’t even get angry. If I’m pressed to complain at all, I complain to baby boy not his friends... and my attitude towards them won’t change at all.
The point really is that, you go about these things with wisdom.

ireneidiva:
Okay.

Good. Wait until you get married first and you have to deal with in-laws with different personalities. Then you’ll have the right advice to give to this woman.

ireneidiva:
Nobody is dragging the ownership of the grown man. He is now starting up his own nuclear family which comprises of him, his wife and kids. So any other person is a visitor to that home. It is not his house. It is the husband and wife's home.

Are you married? I highly doubt it, I’m sorry.

Because I don’t understand how you’re making such a big issue over food or kitchen issues.

What you’re complaining about is really not a big deal. You’ll realise that marriage comes with much bigger problems along the line, this one is so inconsequential.
‘ he dips his hand inside my pot of food’
‘ I don’t like him entering my kitchen’
‘ he wants me to greet him first’

Humble yourself my darling. He is a part of your family, as long as he is not being totally disrespectful, you need to tolerate peoples personalities at least for peace to reign. If you’re cooking for everyone in the house, is it a necessity for him to ask you before he serves himself? Why do you want your brother in law to feel like a complete stranger in your house? You’re just creating unmeasurable headache for yourself.

Mummiesgirls4:
I didn’t scatter her home because am not the one that made the vow with her , it’s was her husband that came after me and took advantages of me because I was hopeless. She is wicked because she aware of my child but she don’t want her husband to help his own daughter which it is not fair

she doesn’t owe you nothing, the same way you felt you didn’t owe her loyalty when you opened your legs for another womans husband. The problem is between you and the husband not the wife. So grow the hell up and stop victimising your pitiful self.

Graxie:
Dont mind her, she is playing the victim card. Stand your ground. Maybe nine months means nothing to her.

to be honest child molestors are normally the ones closest to you. Family members, family friends, even teachers at school where you believe your child is safe. The truth is that you cannot padlock your kids next to you 24/7, and even if you’re super cautious it’s just the grace of God that will proctect them. Parenting is be very challenging, and we all make mistakes. Cut the mother some slack please. I can tell you that 90% of molestation cases are from people you would never expect.

Both women and men have serious responsibilities in the household. Both must make huge sacrifices. God gave men the physical and mental capacity to work, that’s what you were called on earth to do. It’s called life.

Jellyshine:
#TeamMarch
#MarchingIntoGracefilledDelivery
The tiredness I feel is knocking me out.I can barely stand.My bag is packed but I need to get another bag and put my own things for easier access.I am looking at the bag but no strength to even open it.My baby is currently lying breech at 34+ weeks.
It must surely end in praise.
February please hurry up we want to March.

Me too. Sometimes I worry because I know exercise is so important especially during this time. But I’m so tired and sluggish, to even walk is a chore. But I’m trying my best.

All this over analysing for nothing. This is why people are depressed and miserable, because they over think about every little thing. A simple mistake now possibly equates to madness in her family? Chaiiii what will I not see on nl.

eyinjuege:
Has she got traces of madness in her family?
Please, check very well o.
Those kind of play are unnecessary. She could not kiss your back, tickle you on the back, kiss your cloth at the back with the lipstick on her lips.
Na hot pot cover dem dey take play with you?
Can she play that kind of play with her own child?
I'm not understanding how it is a mistake o.
Perhaps if someone stepped on you mistakenly and uprooted your toenail from the nail bed (very painful), perhaps even scratched you while tickling you, or even poured hot water on you while carrying hot water and you guys were chasing each other and the water spilled on you. We can consider that a mistake.
Did your back look like the kitchen table? She wanted to cause you discomfort, perhaps not as severe as this but it ended up causing a burns injury on you. I would be weary of such a person

See stupid question. All because of a silly mistake? This generation is really finished.

We4all:
There are people with your kind of mentality; who only need a life partner to feel happier. I'm not saying it's a bad thing, but not everyone was wired that way.

Loneliness is relative. There are married people who still feel lonely, while there are single people who don't feel lonely despite their marital status. In my opinion, if you need someone to make you feel complete, then you may have a problem.

the reality is that we all need human beings to feel complete. Whether it’s your friends, your cousins, your mum. We are not wired to be on our own 24/7 and be completely isolated from the world. A lot of people come online to fill in that social isolation in their lives because of this. So yes I need people to feel complete, including my husband. I refuse to accept isolation as the norm like this generation wants to push forward. I will proudly accept that, and there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that. If you have the right people around you, it’s unlikely you’ll feel lonely. Unless you’re dealing with personal issues that you need to deal with.

I agree.

When I met my husband I became a lot happier it opened doors for me, and now I see life a lot differently. Not to talk of the joy that parenthood brings. My happiness doesn’t rely solely on him, but partnership with him sure does make life easier despite our ups and downs. Everybody deserves to find someone, loneliness kills fast.

CsRockefeller:
You people saying she should be happy, live her life to the fullest bla bla bla.

What if having a man in her life would just be that one thing to trigger her joy?

I once stayed with an uncle who was so bitter and angry, always quarrelling with me on little issues. The day his GF now wife came to visit him for the first time, he was so happy, I couldn't believe it, my uncle was so happy for a long time you would have thought he hit the lottery.

They are still married for about 6 years and I can still see that happiness in him.

You think at 30 it's easy to stay alone? Be alone, especially emotionally?

My dear, I only hope you find a man who truly deserves you. God cannot be wrong, if he says it's not good for a "man" to be alone then it's not good.

Amen in Jesus name. God bless you

4realwoman:
Prayer Monday
Father in the name that is above every other name I come before your throne of grace to ask that in any area that we have sinned against you please have mercy oh lord in Jesus name, Amen.
I pray for all pregnant mamas here that you will meet them all at their point it needs in Jesus name, Amen
Those of us going through one problem or another I ask that yiy slove it for us all in Jesus name, Amen
Those of us in financial need Lord please send helper our way In Jesus name, Amen.
Lord I ask on the day of delivery be it normal or CS that you will go before us and we will come out victorious and alive with our baby/babies in Jesus name Amen.
I pray for our dh that you will provide and make them the head always in Jesus name, Amen.
I pray for our TTC mama believing to have a child to call their own that you will visit them this year in Jesus name, Amen.
I pray for the sick among us to get their healing in Jesus name, Amen.
I pray for our children/ family's / in laws and loved ones that you will continue to guide and protect them all for us in Jesus name, Amen.
I pray and cover all the prayer points with the blood of Jesus christ. Amen.
Thank you Lord for answering prayer.
Thank you Lord.
Thank you Lord
Thank you for everything that you have been doing in our life, I say take all the glory in Jesus name Amen.

angeltolly:
If you are on exclusive breastfeeding, baby do not need any water as long as the EBF last because the breastmilk already contain lots of water

But in the case of mixed feeding that is, the moment you start giving baby formula, please and please include water in the daily feeding even if baby is one week old to avoid constipation.

Hope this help

okay thank you so much. Thank you.

rvpbae:
Oranges and watermelon?

Baby is just 3weeks old.

me sef I’m just confused. I thought babies under six months are only meant to drink milk strictly formula or breast milk.

I thought it’s not advisable or very wrong for newborns to drink water? I’m asking because I’m a ftm so I’m learning new things everyday on this thread. Please let me know.

zaynie:
If your baby is already taking formula then this isn't the norm.
These tips can help.

1. Give warm water first thing in the morning. It helps the baby to go to toilet.

2. For every bottle of formula given, make sure baby drinks at least half amount of water. So for example if your baby is fed about 6 bottles in a day every 4h,you may want the baby to drink water every hour except when asleep.

3. This, I do personally, some frown at it but then it works for me.
I reduce the number of scoops per meal and increase the number of meals by one to make up for it.
So if I need 6 scoops or formula for 120mls of water, I'll make it 5 scoops in 120mls of water and if my child usually eats like 6 bottles in a day, I'll increase it to 7. That way, the 7th bottle makes up for 5 out of 6 scoops that has been missed in that day.


To battle constipation rn, thankfully your baby isn't exclusively breastfed and can eat fruit in real pureed form.
Squeezed orange does wonders ensure the roughages are intact cos that's the real koko
Pureed Seedless watermelon is okay too
Avoid bananas and apples as they both contribute to constipation.

kokanepyramid:
It’s like saying a guy dating u for 4 years can’t take u out or get u a gift for once U complained yet he waved it aside. In ur right senses u think he gives a fck about ur feelings and you’ll go ahead and marry him.

After all gift or outings won’t take u to the alter.

I repeat the girl is not into him, if she is she’ll want to impress him or offer a sincere explanation if any why she can’t cook for once for a guy she’s been dating for four years.

ok that’s understandable.

Jehovahoverdo1:
Wow you need to watch your weight so you don't weigh 90 something kg later in your pregnancy... I will advise you eat light food especially at night for example take more of eko elewe .....don't know the English name and eat it with lots of vegetables and also make cucumber part of daily diet....it helps with weight loss.

All the best sis

I mean sometimes you can’t help how much weight you put on during pregnancy. Sometimes the weight comes from excess fluids, extra fat storage for the baby Etc. Sometimes if you don’t eat you experience nausea. I do think one should try and eat as healthy as possible but stressing too much about weight during pregnancy or dieting during pregnancy can make one depressed or too anxious and it’s not even advisable. I’ve had friends that have added 22kg, one even added 30kg+, they lost it all after childbirth. So please just do your best and leave the rest. You can start thinking about weight loss once the child is here.

Is it food that will carry somebody to the alter? Yes it’s important, but he has obviously stayed with Susan for four years because there’s something about her. She must have other good quality traits, cooking may not be her specialty, which can be worked on. Nigerian men are too easy to fool, just cook them all manners of meals and clean their house and they will tag you wife material. Shior, it takes more than that to survive Marriage.

kokanepyramid:
He has dated Susan for four years and not once has she bothered to prepare a meal for him. And the best you can come up with is this? Even ordinary female friend with no strings attached they cook for their male buddy sometimes talk more of a romantic relationship of four years. For all I know she might even have another guy she’s seeing or be a terrible cook, or just lazy to cook.

OP if a lady is really into you she would do things to impress you and vice versa, when you even consider that the OP has discussed this with her and she still no send. Red flag everywhere bro.

The Susan girl is one of those wannabe feminists when she clocks 30 and still single her brain go format.

Do you know how many people are insane and they are yet to be diagnosed? Thank your God that her own is cured before you marry a woman that will stab you in the middle of the night.

7 more weeks to go. I’m ready to just release this heavy load!! I’m very excited for labour, I can’t wait to share my story ohh.

IAMBlesssed:
Postinor destroys reproductive organ??

yes it does overtime, with constant use. It’s only meant for emergencies. These are the things doctors do not tell you because they make money from it.

age might also be a factor. When you're young, having casual sex, you're at the peak of your fertility. These days most women and men get married in their late 20s early to mid 30s. Fertility would've decreased by then. Also a lot of the foods we eat, medications we take destroy our reproductive organs over time. Postinor, alcohol, junk foods just to mention a few. Our bodies are extremely sensitive, and we get worn out very quickly if care is not taken.

Looool I nearly died of laughter reading this

Preshy561:
Broke useless men, who should be thinking for themselves and the despicable shìthole they live in, are online, crying and carrying another man's load on their dead irritating brain.

I shudder!

24 is still early twenties. Still very young and a complete different stage to let’s say 29 or 30. That’s like a 6 year difference which is half a decade. I know what I’m saying, you're not the same person at 24 that you are at 30, there’s a huge growth spurt especially mentally. Men also mature a lot less slower, but everyone is entitled to their opinion.

Efewestern:
I get your point sister, but I still believe you shouldn't stress on the age part, the reason most men settle at 30 is because of the present state of the economy, age doesn't make one a man, but life challenges.

24, baby mentality? I wonder the type of 24yrs old guys you have met over the years, if at 24 one still thinks like a baby, I wonder when he'd start thinking like a man.

What OP is presently experiencing with his man, he can experience with majority of men above 30, no love between them, few sex lead to pregnancy and then marriage, everything was just too quick. I'm not trying to absolve the man of his irresponsible act, but one shouldn't marry a lady all because she got pregnant, it never ends well.

Why are you stressing yourself? If that’s what he wants in a marriage, then leave him. He is going to marry ONE woman out of the millions in Nigeria. Why argue or force your opinion down his throat? If he doesn’t want his wife to work, then that’s his problem/issue to deal with. There is a woman out there who is more than happy to be a housewife. Please understand this.

This nairaland will not kill somebody lol.

ImaIma1:
Which nature? Or you mean it's your own idea of marriage? You think all the couples you see practise this archaic idea of marriage? It is peculiar to you and some few other that happen to think like you..

You think marriage is supposed to be a disadvantage for women and an advantage for men?

You obviously don't know what marriage is about. You are just using some traditional mumbo jumbo to make an excuse for you to intimidate and suppress an unfortunate woman

Lol please tell that to my husband who is a certified chef. I’m so blessed and grateful. My respect for him will always be on 1000.

True. But this is a new generation. Most men cannot take responsibility for a family until they reach 30 or near. Of course not excluding the minority who mature fast, but most don’t. At 24, you’re still a baby mentally, esp for a man, I’m sorry to say. I wouldn’t advise a lady of 22 to settle with a 24 year old man unless she wants to waste her time and wait for him to man up.

Efewestern:
We have so many men who are above 30 but still act same way as OP's husband, 24yrs ain't no baby, our forefathers started having families at 20.

The guy should man up, he is simply irresponsible, he doesn't even care about his own child, what nonsense.

At 24 he is not ready to stay in the marriage. Most men cannot be good husbands until 31+ . They need to get that youthful exuberance out of their system.