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If it’s in her past, it’s in her past. The fact that she’s had multiple abortions should prove that she’s very fertile and she’s capable of having children in the future. Yes, abortions are terrible I’m totally against it. My ex boyfriends mother had eight abortions she still managed to have 3 boys. If you’re so concerned, then both of you should go for fertility tests before getting married.

How any woman would want to purposely put herself through stress and aging with four kids, I don’t understand. I have one, and it’s harrddd work not to talk of four. Some women try sha. No one should be having more than two unless you have a lot of help and millions in the bank.

https://www.nairaland.com/889053/pregnancy-pregnant-going-through-high

Please go to this thread where you will see genuine pregnant women who comment daily on their pregnancy journey and struggles. They’re many pregnant women there who will appreciate your kind gesture.

History555:
Marriage is not a child play agreed. But it is a child play to the cheater

Most couples at one point will flirt With the opposite sex outside of their spouse. ESP when you have long disagreements or when things aren’t going smooth. Marriage is not for the emotionally weak, you will have trials and tribulations. You just have to get through it. Do not listen to anyone telling you to divorce, be wise!

blovesther:
what he saw was just a chart between them blaming themselves for not waiting/marrying each other and is not enough to just call off the wedding.
just that hiding it is where she got it wrong. me, I communicate such chats with my husband and we just laugh/gossip over it and that is all

that is it ohh. Flimsy messages, and you want to end your marriage? This man has not seen anything yet, That’s why it’s always good to be best friends with your wife/husband. That’s what will sustain your marriage.

blovesther:
Don't call off the wedding....if you guys doesn't have a child yet, just pray for God to give you one soon and by that time, she will be looking at her phone and there will be no chance to use it because of the child's care.

though you can confront her so as to scare her and possibly make her change but if she doesn't feel remorseful and probably doesn't want to change, please show her the exit door

I just gave birth a month ago, I’m still very much on my phone. Having a child doesn’t stop a woman from adultery, that’s not the issue here. Their underlying issues need to be resolved.

You want to call off the marriage because of some flirtatious messages? Though, not justifying but how many women leave their husbands because of cheating? I’ve realised that a lot of men are seriously emotionally weaker than women, and they really do not know how to use wisdom to handle situations. Go and complain to your people na, they will tell you to manage your wife and that is just the truth. There’s nothing better outside that you are looking for. Marriage comes with ups and down, and unless your life is at risk, you’re suicidal or something very significant has happened, you better stay in one place.

Why not sit your wife down and talk. Why not try to patch the underlying issues in your marriage ? Do you think marriage is child’s play, something you can just leave anytime you like? Na wa oh

Prudify25:
Mummies I am worried, my bp has been over the roof for some days, lo's heartbeat is also beyond normal, i have been scheduled for emergency cs but hubby isn't saying anything since the doctor told us abt it, what do I do? I have suffered so much to put my life and lo on the line.

you better do that cs, I know what I went through my bp was super super high, it was just God. Please don’t take any risks, don’t be like me that was so stubborn wanting to do a vaginal delivery by force. It’s not worth it, it’s not worth your life trust me. High bp very dangerous during labour.

tyhgfrdeswscbhf:
I just dey oooo...had sex through out yesterday still nothing

E b like say we are team thick cervix


It will end in praise

i keep coming back to check if you have given birth ohh. Please tag me when you do, I’m going to be so happy

BigJoe19:
meaning you can engage in prostitution.

if I have absolutely no other option yes I would. I cant watch my child starve. In an economy like Nigeria, what else can you do that will yield fast results?

As a mother, reading this posts makes me want to slap you. I can literally die for my child, you are a very stupid human being.

crackhouse:
The woman must be a retired harlot.

Reichel99:
Why, because I don't like cheats, my last boyfriend cheated and I left him, I can forgive any other thing but not cheating.

but then boyfriend is completely different from a husband that you have children with. Your life is literally interlocked with that person, it’s not just easy to get Up and leave. The truth is that a lot of married women can relate to what Florence has said, they just wont come out to say it.

I don’t even care about the act of sex with another woman. My problem is the lack of trust that comes afterwards, the betrayal, lack of respect and the embarrassment and resentment I will have towards you. That is something that will take years to heal from, and I just think those issues will lead to more issues leaving more cracks in the marriage. But like they say, marriage is not easy.

You can’t expect your tummy to be so flat after two weeks when you carried life in you for 9 months. Depending on how much weight you gained during pregnancy and how much your stomach expanded, please understand that your tummy might take months to go back to normal. And honestly sometimes your stomach can never go back to EXACTLY how it was pre pregnancy, and there’s nothing wrong with that, that’s the sacrifice of motherhood. All I can say is breast feed (if you are)and drink lots of water. Wait until you’re at least 6 weeks postpartum before exercising, that will make the biggest difference to your tummy. I Also wear belly binders if you can as it will hold everything in. And please don’t put too much pressure on yourself, be patient and allow things to happen gradually.

HolySteph:
Mama's good afternoon. ..

Pls no waka pass me by... I'm a little worried about my tummy. It's been two weeks of postpartum and my tummy still looks like 5months pregnancy. I was doing the hot water session morning and night, plus pepper soup filled with uda but I'm still worried it hasn't made any difference. Although I started late, like 4days before the hot session cus I'm scared of the hot water thing after my experience with my first child.
My question is, is there any other milder way of losing the liquid or fat in the tummy I can follow up with?
.. i dont like my tummy skin after this hot water thing. I'm afraid my skin will never be the same.

Pls experienced mamas help out. I need to start on time. I'm sure not everyone went through the pressing. I would rather drink hot water than pour on my skin.

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saxxyb:
@vickdankal, You are very insane, a right thinking lady that is want to get married should have a source if income

Personally I don't support the idea of early marriage(20-25) for ladies because it comes with different problems such as , delay in achievement of one goals, marrying someone who isn't your mate, .not fully independent and finally not fully understanding the concept of marriage

As a lady you should also have a source of income to support you husband, don't be a liability, life is just unfair in this part of a country, very imbalance , a man will want to do everything, starting from paying exorbitant bride price

Ladies trust me men usually seek and respect women of value, if you are well to do as a lady men will come to you for marriage, no one wants to marry a liability, another reason for a lady to have a source if income is because at a time your family will need your financial help, just imagine a scenario where a girl from a family whose sibling are all girls and they all decide to be liabilities looking to all marry rich men and here is an urgent need (mama don fall sick), what will happen? Is that how you will calling your husband for every little thing, common to buy sanitary u no fit na your husband go provide, another is if a wife unfortunately lost one spouse and there is widowhood, Is that how your children will suffer?

Please girls equip yourself and add value to a man life and stop minding all those feminism movement valuable women are real women.
#my2cent

Blah blah blah please . This just an excuse. Adding value to a Mans life does not always have to be monetary, infact men who are providers do not want their wives to be stressing about bills and working too hard to support them. The truth is that if by 23/24 you have not found yourself to a certain degree you will probably never find myself. Marriage is not a hindrance to your life, marry the right person and you can only build up from there. You do not have to be a liability if you marry young, that is personal choice regardless of age. The truth is that a lot of women use this ‘finding themselves’ excuse to justify late marriage. If you met the perfect love of your life/best friend who was ready to marry you at 23, you would’ve taken the offer. So please let’s stop deceiving ourselves.

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B.A!!!

After being in labour for 48 hours, and trying so hard to have a natural delivery, my baby refused to Dilate my cervix he was so comfortable in my womb lol. My beautiful boy came out yesterday at 11:00pm 8/03/20, yesterday via c section weighing a whooping 4.6kg. I’m so happy and blessed and my labour was truly a long and beautiful experience.
Birth story coming soon.

Congrats to meeeee

Cutemarvel:
God will make it easy than you can imagine.

amen in Jesus name

ijeije123:
@Olabrinks, how are you sis. Didnt hear from you. Hope you, hubby and baby is doing fine?

thank you so much for checking on me. My induced labour was delayed, but i was rescheduled to have it this morning. I am currently in the hospital and have started the process. Having mild contractions, but so far everything is going smooth.

punisha:
Have u seen Ned nwoko lately?
Trying so hard to look like a youngster just to meet up with his Regina.
Marriage is 30% love n 70% commitment.
Requires both of them to make it work if it's what truly they want and it may shock u that they will get along so perfectly and there won't be regrets. It isn't always about money.

its working because Ned has money. Without that money, Regina would not look at his feet. That’s just the unfortunate reality, nothing more or nothing less. I don’t know why every guy uses his situation as an example, do you have ned Nwoko money? Most men will never get to that level of wealth, so stop trying to live vicariously through him. At 40, your marriage spec is very limited without money.

What exactly does a 40 year old have in common with a 20 year old girl? If the relationship is not based on transactions (money), then he should forget about it, the girl will get tired of him if she’s not getting serious cash from the relationship.

NextD18:
Big or small diiick, it takes a very skillful, slow and gentle doings, to disvirgin a lady.

You don't fvck virgin ladies, you make love to them. Fvck is meant for non-virgin ladies alone.

You’re actually such a troll, anytime I read your posts I just laugh. Lol well done oh mr virgin professor

cherishyy:
God will make it a success.

amen in Jesus name.

tyhgfrdeswscbhf:
Wow congrats in advance...

thank you love.

Baby boy is 4.1kg at 38weeks so my doctor doesn’t want to risk complications since he is growing too big very quickly. I’m going to be induced in 24-48 hours. Wish me luck and pray for me

when I met my spouse I knew how to cook but I wasn’t like a 10/10. I think I was below average lol. My husband was a better cook than me, sometimes I would get embarrassed because his food was much better than mine. But he looked past all of that and he taught me how to make meals to his standard. It took some time, but now I’m a better cook than him and I cook for everyone. Mind you, hubby is a very very good chef. It’s not really a big deal, there’s more to marriage than food please and it’s so easy to learn. If you meet a girl with good character do not discard her because of egusi soup.

Sniper101:
Ögbeni shift make I see front
.....ur time with me dun expire

if you’re arguing or debating, try to make valid and reasonable points. You hear?

Sniper101:
Young men chase after married women not cos of their looks or how tight their puna is ...but cos of the money they have to give.

So once again, your argument doesn't apply here. Thanks!


goodnight jare

is it only young men that chase after married women? What is this one saying sef? Which married woman will give money to a young boy that is supposed to be used for the family? I think you’re talking about older divorced sugar mummies. Yeahh

What does that have to do with the way a woman looks? Go and tell that to men who are chasing married women. The end result is always to cum and that will always happen. ahbeg goodnight jare

Sniper101:
Madam, quit trying so hard to convince me or to force your own opinion on me.

You're a woman, am a man.
Or have you gone down on a woman before

Women are sweet in the middle, yes.
But the taste between a woman who's had kids and one who haven't, the taste is always different; whether one is using the tongue or diick. It's always different.


...take it or leave it and leave me.

Goodnight!

What about tiwa savage?
What about Annie idibia, they’re so many to name a few. If we’re talking about people that I know personally, children doesn’t automatically make you lose your sex appeal ahbeg, when they’re girls who are single who are out of shape and not well kept. It’s all in the mindset of the individual. It’s not just about weight, it’s about how you carry yourself, how you package and your determination to never let yourself go. We have too much technology and advancement in this day and age to look like an old mama granny just after two kids. Let me hear word please.

Sniper101:
Oh please
Enough with the hype on Omotola

Most guys will pick Adesuwa over Omotola, any time any day.

That is to say, you can never compare the beauty and physique of a single "lady" to that of a "woman" who have gone through childbirth over the years.

You can't compare both.
They are incomparable.