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Lol.

My mentor told me that he is probably drunk. But the man is not known for alcohol!

What Yar'adua is doing is an investment. A time investment.

He know that Nigerian need it. He also know that zimbabwe is in dire need.

Someday, Nigeria may run into trouble, it won't be hard to appeal for international aids.

Kobo,
what joke? Did American win Iraq war?

A Rusian profesor had predicted that America will break into 4 republics in 2010. He cited the current economy as part of the catalyst to the breakup. The professor, a former KGB said Russia and China would then become world dominant power. Alaska wil become a part of Russia, while New york will join EU!

You can get the full news by googling the topic.

I think it is crazy!

Yup, the biggest mistake was the creation of Isreal.

For those seeking extermination of Hamas, do you think wiping out Hamas will stop the crisis? Isreal is surrounded by enemies. The only way it can survive after exterminating Hamas is to exterminate Iran, Iraq, Syria and all surrounding countries. We all know that is a larger crisis. Isreal cannot win the war by destroying Hamas. It will only create enemies for itself in mideast.

Isreal must learn from America. America defeat Saddam Husaine but the result is very clear to everyone.

Even within Isreal, enemies were quietly increasing their population. Isreali Arabs are multiplying and giving the authority headaches. Someday, they would revolt and the state of Isreal would be in tumoil!

The only way Isreal can avoid this is to respect palestinian right to self determination. Destroying Hamas would be a costly mistake as a new group, more vicious than Hamas will arise. Just like al qaeeda

Right step. He is in order.

H202,
so you mean I didn't show enough sorrow already? Well, I am a man, and that is it. No permanent grief. Don't forget, the child was "stolen" by her mother. Every probability will indicate that she is alive. But the worst that can happen is she is dead. Now, when a mother stole her own child, does that mean the father must grieve? Sad, yes! Grieve, never!

What you don't know is that as long as the mother confirmed already you are the father, the child will return home eventually when it is time. The mother obviously want to to desert the father and flee with the baby just as IYABO OBASANJO did with BELLO. Nothing can be farther from truth, if the father is a good man, it is the run-away mother that would bear greater consequent in future. In fact, the child may eventually hate her. With that knowledge, only a foolish man will grieve over an issue as clear as that.

And if she kill the baby, must I kill myself too? Sure, I can always press charge. That is it. What is there for a man to drown himself in sorrow over what had already happened?

H202, take it that it has nothing to do with experience.

I am still expecting your input anyway. At least I made it clear it is what I will do. It is not a must she do what I will do.

Let assume you are the mother, what will you do?

If you have come around with the intention of dragging me to return insult with insult, of abusing me, whatever, you you will just be dissipating your energy on useless venture.

I know your type. You derive pleasure only when dragging other people down. I look forward to more of your assaults.

Please don't forget to put me right so I can learn sanity from you.

Adam had demostrated willpower to enforce his policy. Whomever he appoint as commisioner does not count. It is his ability to ensure that works get done that matter.

By the way, who is not aware of the circumstances surrounding is ascension to power? Must he rush to appoint people that would be foisted on him anyway?

@H202,
what do you understand by experience? Perhaps you mean I should die first and see the pain of death?

By the way, how many heartbreaks must one suffer be he can know how to endure and outlive betrayal?

I acknowledge I was hard on the parents. What non of you would deny is that it is true! You cannot completely exonorate parents from that kind of thing coming from a 10 year old and a 5 year old! I challenge you to prove me wrong. I am ready to learn from the wise ladies above. If you can't convinced me, then shame on you!

I expect that rather than attacking my point, you should have done what sane people do- offer a better option. You didn't. You merely pick up hole in my point and that show how intelligent you are.

Since I have given a bad advice, I will suggest then we adopt your stands. Let us congratulate the poster for finding out. Let us then congratulate the parents for hearing that the 10 year old and 5 year old kids that grew up under their nose is practicing lesbianism! Let us then allow the kids continues to relate with the same people that taught her the act in the first place!

Let us cease to monitor them and allow them grow in leap and bound!

I feel sorry for this generation!

At any rate, I stated earlier that I have not seen that kind of thing around me. So I am only telling you what I will do if it happen.

Good luck to you! We all make a choice and the choice make us!

Lol
koboj, you must be a jester!

Well, the man always see doom.

This is the kind of Man we need at National level! The gov who encourage the poor to fight for their right and still intervene personally is a man of the people.

I quite support his action as it would have sent a strong signal to other greedy coys. Not just in petroleum sector.

I think the next logical step is for him to raise a team of negotiators that will then dialogue with the tanker drivers before they embark on strike. If all go well, the strike my be averted unless they are determined to give Adam a dose of his own poison-strike!

He should then ensure that he look into the problem as a whole. For instance, what happened to NNPC depot? What are the challenges facing the drivers?

That is democrazy!

H202,
You underestimated the power of man to take anything. What you mentioned about a woman running away with a day old baby is a very minor issue from my own personal point.

Let assume that it happen. Of course, it is a form of heartbreak.

The question I will ask myself is WHAT IS THE WORST THINK THAT CAN HAPPEN IN THAT SCENERIO? You see, if a man can think, he can absorbed the worst of life experience and still come out stronger.

Ok, she run away with my day old baby. Before I do anything. Ask myself, WHY will she do that?

Next, is she justified?

Next, WHERE will she be?

WHO could she be with?

WHAT is the worst thing that can happen?

Oh, my goodness. The worst thing that can happen IS THAT SHE KILL THE BABY for whatever reason! I can take it!

I will simply assume that the baby is killed already. Then what will you do with a killer?

Sure, it will grieve me to know that my baby is dead. That doesn't mean I must commit suicide. Only the living can tell a tale.

Once I am through with my inner drama, I can then sit down and plot my plan. How to locate the woman etc.

And if the baby is alive, your joy will know no bound. If she is dead, how many times do you think I will grieve? One!

That is to your question. This formula has always been working for me. And those who applied it. Try it, and you won't even grieve a departing partner for long!

Just plan in advance using the "what if" scenerio.

Much as I would castigate you for habouring her for that long, I think it is not too late to eject her!

Like someone said, you are tired of her. You have had free sex for 2 years. Soon, you will start seeing a better gal. Soon you will stop visiting her. Soon you will find fault with her. And then, the final "CLOSURE!".

Well, the best time to eject her is now. At least you will save her from further trauma in future.

When you get home, sit her down and tell that you feel it is unwise for you guys to be living together now. Try and reason with her. Alternative, you may arrange with any of you friends or her friends staying in the building to swap room. If there is a female living alone, try and talk to them to share room while you also find a guy to share your room if need be.

To show her that you are not pushing her away:
1. Give her time to make her mind up.
2. Give her time to get alternative room. You may also lend a hand,
3. Give her your room spare key so she is free to see you anytime. Afterall you said you don't want to end the relationship.

Finally, in anything you do, Remember the Law of Karma! She may be weak today, if you punish her unfairly, tomorrow will do justice on her behalf.

Cheer.

Not really. If you looj at everything on the card, you will note that the man is not saying anything new. He has carefully studied the environmental and political situations before coming out with verdicts.

For Instance, everyone know about Yar'adua's health. We all know that he does not want to contest. We all know about world global economic meltdown. We all know that in Somalia the president had already resigned, thus paving the way for precipitated crisis. We all know that there is coup attempt already in Guinea, and we know that some states are unstable.

We all know about obama's character. And how power Secretary of States are.

As for some old men dying, it is just normal. And sectarian crisis is annul ritual in Nigeria.

So what is a prophecy? The man is as smart as everyone. He wasn't saying anything new.

Are you living in Isreal or Palestinian?

Hmmm, irresponsible parents!

Her first instinct would be to beat the poor girl.

I have not seen this type of problem before, so whatever I am going to give is what I would do if I were the parents.

I think the girl must be withdrawn from the school where she picked up the bad trait. And the mother should inform the school authority if possible.

The girl should be put in another school must be closely monitored for the rest of her teenage years.

Parents had got to understand why they have to get closer to their children. Most of the bad manners exhibited by kids were picked up through innocent programming. They saw, crammed, and then practice!

The bad news is that most kids never practice what they saw until they are well outside the prying eyes of their parents.

That kid must be urgently reformed. The bad programming can only be removed by replacing it with a good one.

Kids brains are like empty tapes. If you record something bad in it, you cannot completely format the bad habit unless you record another one there.

@iice,
you that "what if" scenerio is my personal insurance against heartbreak? I always like to prepare for it in advance. I believe anyone can move on after heartbreak if he/she is sufficiently educated by the "what if" scenerio.

That is because things don't often go the way we view them.

What if the guy dump you tomorrow?
What if he die unexpectedly?
What if he impregnate another gal?
What if you are both biologically incompatible?

What if?

I always enjoy these moment and had mentioned it somewhere that one should always be prepared for the worst. That is the only way he won't breakdown if things go against him.

Why? Well, have you ever invest in a business that consume your life saving? If yes, great. If no, just imagine yourself in that state.

Then when you think it is time for payback, your partner suddenly say that he is withdrawing with all his investments.

How do you feel when anyone ask you why you are concern about the break up or why you are upset?

@poster,
Every single posts above is a great input. And you have got the best advices up there. All you have to do is put them together and adapt to your situation.

Just let her read the story on Nairaland and you will find your pixs in The City People.

@mishoo,
Is that you or another person? I mean the same Mishoo I always know.

Good summary from iice. Kudos.

And how long has she been living with you?

Even if he love kids, must he be so reckless as having 3 wifves within 5 years?

He was taking advantages of the ladies. It will be a miracle if all of them stay with him till old age.

Oh Gosh! Money money money!
What if the guy hate phones?

Az zaidi!

For daring to do what Thousands gunmen could only imagine-Throwing shoes at a sitting American President!

Wrong!

Call him the most bedmantic!

Why not arrange to meet him?

Joy,

It is possible that some people your father offended are behind his travails. It is also possible that it might be due to his own carelessness. From your story, he had married at least 3 times. And didn't get on well with his own sibblings talkless of his wives. Maybe that is what occationed his consistent broken marriage. Maybe evil men are truly at work.

You have choices to make. Do you want to end up as a nobody living in that shadow until you are unable to proceed on your education?

Do you enjoy being labelled a witch? Mark you, it may affect your own future relationship too. Especially if your future husband start believing the lies.

There is this saying that IF YOU REPEAT A LIE TOO OFTEN, IT WILL BECOME A TRUTH.

I suggest that you secretly establish relationship with your dad sibling, especially anyone that is sympathetic to your cause. You will then state your facts. As the two of you get familiar, you must ensure that you make your study and career your priority. Work hard. Then, seek assistance of your distance relative and proceed on study far, far from your home! If you can travel out, it is great. Just stay away from your dad once you are in school and bury yourself in works. I am sure they will find another witch once you are out of sight. That is long term solution, in my own view.

On the interim, remain good to your dad and everyone. Stay out of trouble. Pray alot. Don't hate your dad. Don't do things that may lead to your being branded a witch.

Most important, you have got to talk to your dad!

How? First endear yourself to him and let him see how good you are. Second, find a time he is relax and see if you can talk to him. This is a critical part and it depend on the kind of father you have. If he is a stubborn one, it will be tough.

What should you tell him?

1. Just ask him why his sibblings don't visit you. Let him tell you what went wrong at least for d sake of posterity. Listen to him.
2. Ask him whether he truly believe you are a

I read it. It just doesn't worth my time. It is either he is lying or he is trying to see if he is doing something well.

He need to tell us how he pay 1599 naira per month. The "99" show gave him away. What happened to the 1 naira? He should have paid 1599.99 to show how serious he is.

@iice,
I think the guy is writing letter to heartbreak! And the only way he can learn is to see the lady milk her dry. Better still, he is certain to lose the lady to a richer guy soon.

I don't even know how a student can pay monthly allowance to a girlfriend who has job at hand.

This man is probably one of those who think money can buy love. I long to read your story before next year ending, that is if you don't change username after the shocker that is awaiting you.

@poster,
There is a time in our life when things must go wrong. You sounded like a good fellow because their is no bitterness in your post. That, in itself, show that you can live with it.

The problem with people that consult divinity either from churches or shrine is that, they believes that all their problems are caused by enemies. I can see that someone had set a precedence and everyone had to see you as the architech of their problems. That is Africa for you.

Wait, could they be telling the truth? Perhaps you have unusual gift that you didn't notice. Can you tell us if you have notice any such behavior? Strange dreams at a strange places? Or dreams that come to pass?

I asked the questions for a purpose. I shall use your answer to see if I can think of something.

Cheer!