AdaNri1:
Marriage to someone that understands you is peace. Marry a person who doesn’t understand you and live in a bed of thorns

Don't limit your idea of a good marriage to who understands you only. You too work to become someone who understands your spouse so he can brag about you too

dollynnn:
She don start again

The girl matter tire me

Why girdle? Where is your bra and pant photo with open yansh. I never believe say you dey celebrate birthday yet.

If you're saying the truth, it's a good plan. But the plan might not be what annoyed her. It might be your approach or disapproval of her own view on the matter.

Nonetheless, running away is a worse reaction to such a situation. It seems it's one of these civilization/feminism-infected girls that you are dating like many on this nairaland forum and that's the origin of the problems

A wife material is willing to submit her decisions while you make the decision on how the incomes are spent (putting her in consideration). All these yamayama modern girls sef. Nawar

Afamsi:
Someone helped you without strings attarched, do same to those that will need your help in future including some young females. Congrats

Interesting! Was it a female who helped him?

It will really be record breaking for a woman to help without the hope of being a major beneficiary of the help.

Cus according to the bible. Helping without anything attached is not only limited to men. There's nowhere it is written a woman should hope for being helped than they helping others

You broke down mentally? Yet you could not mentally cope with keeping your source of income despite other activities.

I think that's the first line of action. You need to expand your mental scope to endure more challenges. It's no abuse but what I psychologically observed about you. Cus if you venture into something else, when challenges come, you won't cope mentally at a level. BTW there's no career or job that's not very challenging at some point. In fact if you want to make a name for yourself, you should be a master of mental challenges.

If you know the number of things people are doing to make money in this lagos. Even abroad nigerians do 2-3 jobs daily to make ends meet.

What I think you need is not a change of job but motivation to move on no matter what you face in your lines of income. Re-read your post. When there was numerous money means, you couldn't cope mentally. When you became broke from not having much, you still broke down mentally. What exactly can you do without mental stress? That's the question that should lead you to your next line of action.

You have a personality that doesn't like challenges. Work on that first, then you won't be needing advice anymore

I give you till friday, you'll be back

Women being the problems of women isn't a problem to me. It's so funny but not new. It's not a problem to have them behave like children too, in fact worse than children sometimes.

What's annoying is;

- Thinking men also have the same myopic thinking capacity as they. So annoying... Like do you think I'm a woman or reason like one?

- Concluding everything based on thier myopic physical sight and hearing and subconsciously thinking men are same too.

The gap is hugely huge please.

siofra:
No but the real thing is that the baby will hold your dick if you're not the father and if the baby hold your dick, that's the end of it. You're not getting it back.

Talking from experience.

Really? Was it your first pregnancy or the second

Lamanii22:
What would even push you to knack a pregnant woman lol

It's another fun level

That's why only the rich are friends of the rich

None. They're the one who considers me an ex. I don't break up. They do

I no get strength to read long post but yes, we don't reason same way.

Until you're not carried away by beauty, you're not a man yet

Dannyyoung26:
You are wicked. anyways, the gal is cheap..

Stop this cheap thing. Are you 20 years old too? She's just normal. Another girl can choose to be extraordinary but the normal result to get from taking a girl out was what op got. So please stop saying she's cheap

You fumbled. It's not time to stop, her affection has just began. It's not to control you. You should have bleeped her like 5 more times at least. Just keep up playing along. If it was me, 20 times I'm still counting. Then when I'm done, I'll start forming busy, my lines won't be very available again. That's the scope.

Kobojunkie:
Overcome? What do you mean overcome? Where is it written in stone that when you get married, you should no longer have friends or a support system outside of your spouse?

Op himself came here seeking a support system of sorts so what does that make him, over premature?

Please handle stress in different ways. Not everyone is like me. There is nothing wrong with having a support system to help you as you grow into you.

Lol. Chai. Nawar

Op talk to your wife gently when she's in a good mood on why she has to stop what she's doing

Kobojunkie:
She is close to her family and uses them to relieve her stress Just as some come online to write epistles when they are irked. Would you rather she bottle up all that angst and Hage it stew on the inside of her instead ?

So long as they don't butt into your marriage, what can you do?

Aah Jesus! Nairaland I give up.

Op complained of his wife's premature behavior. A behavior she should have overcome before getting married.

See the overpremature advice he's getting.

Op you carry baby matter come meet babies them.

I strongly suggest NIN should be used to log in to the updated NL forum so as to filter some age into thier own section. Shuuu!

Is it a contract job or a permanent job

NovesaTillie:
Wanna stop dating single guys.
Married men are my target now.
They know how to be discreet and also spend money on a lady

You like discreet love? A Nigerian girl,. That's strange. Girls that want everything of thier guys to be all about them.

Unique. I like unique girls.

No be to be expecting man to buy motor for you because you get vagina and two soft tissues for chest. Brain come dey sabbatical

Wow. Fish marriage

Den go dey born fish fish

First born: Shark
Second born: Tilapia
Third born: Mackerel
Fourth born: Sardine
Fifth born: Shawa
Last born: Panla

Jendol full there

Na pant and menses

Kobojunkie:
um.... God also informed you, several times throughout the books of Exodus, Leviticus, Numbers, and Deuteronomy, including Deuteronomy 30 vs 15 - 20 , that the agreement which He made there, is between God and those who have the blood of Jacob flowing through their veins as Law in the Kingdom of Canaaan, of which you are not.

God sent Jesus Christ, His New Agreement between God and individuals as Law in the Kingdom of God. Jesus Christ is instead the Law that is open to all nations- Jews and Gentiles alike - and and Law by which all those who believe in Him are called to Live by.

According to the New Covenant, in the Kingdom of God, your mother, brother and sisters are not those who are related to you by blood but instead those who do the Will of God .I.e those who live in continual submission to and obedience of the teachings and commandments of Jesus Christ.

Hold on to your excuses

I know women can be weaklings sometimes. Father's don't often do that. But in the midst of the challenge, how much obedience to God's word did you do. Complying to God's rules is not only when things are fine

Kobojunkie:
Which God told you this?

Jesus Christ told His followers that they have to hate father, mother, husband, wife, children etc , in order to be worthy of Him. Are you certain you are speaking of the same God at all?

Honor your father and your mother, that your days may be long upon the land which the Lord your God is giving you. (Exo 20.12)

No condition was attached

Correct!

Some people are still in bondage to societal norms and it's funny.

Over-rating marriage is one thing in this part of the world that marvels me. People don't believe a male n female can be just friends. Even a 15 year old girl believes you want to marry her when you toast her. Funny

You must dress coporate even if your job doesn't demand it because it's Monday

You must wear native on Friday

The husband must be older than the wife

The man must be the one to toast to propose to pay dowry, to give money. Even after marriage, it's the man that must initiate sex.

If you rear cat you're a witch

You finish rice before touching meat.

lalalista:
we're best of friends now

Oh okay. Good

Op what are you doing in an isolated area of the church

ComputerOperato:
Them plenty sha.
Actually na clowns full nairaland but let me mention some...
BadRadio: Mentioned me out of the blue on a thread I was secretly watching.

Mejiloyon: I can never forget his "How to drive in Lagos, Agbero version" thread. I sometimes go back there just to laugh. By the way, I haven't heard from him for a long time.

Oluromantic: I like his outlook on life.
Brownjay: Same

Chatinent: Same

Mosdii: That all women are useless guy... He is wrong Sha. Not all Nigerian girls are useless. You attract who you are.

The list long Sha.... Let me stop � here
I may add later.

PS: Before your say I didn't mention girls... They are all great on this forum. All of them.
I mean our girls..
And I'm no simpleton please.
Compliments to ya all...

Modified...

Thanks brother. Happy new year in advance

It's better you go beg your mother and talk to her nicely. It doesn't matter if you're right and she's wrong. It's a matter of obeying God's command with respect to the importance of parental blessings

Nice. How lucky can a man be. Swimming in luxury of fresh ladies