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Divoc19:
How about the upkeep of their kids?
Maybe his mum will also take better care of her grandchildren too

You're losing focus on what's right. The divorce case is not a competition at all. What should bother you is why will women decide on divorce just to amass wealth?

And when dem dey say mother's are priceless, this one too will raise hand.

They cheat thier husbands by being good only when they benefit, turn rude when things go sour. They cheat thier husbands with baseless divorce just to get wealth that's not thiers. Now they are cheating thier own children (better still, themselves) by throwing a baby they carried in the womb for 9months into bins.

This gender is really delinquently manipulated.

Your matter be like ileya ram weh dem dey feed, he come think say him owner like am.

Match make on nairaland hardly works directly for a person who requests for himself, it's now your brother you expect to get a nairaland wife for. Are you new on NL? You didn't even put the normal attention catchers that girls want to hear or see... His pic, his job, his financial worth... You're just expecting a miracle.

PerfectStranger:
Must you always criticise?

She's has an impairment on the leg, do you expect her to be wearing long dresses every damn time?

That's not criticism. That's simply saying the truth which sounded harsh to you.

Getting engaged, marriage proposal -good

Wearing scarly shot to open up thighs even when not disabled let alone when disabled -bad

What is good is good, what is bad is bad!

Does your own definition of 'forgive' means you must come back together? Do you know the meaning of forgive? Because it's possible to truly forgive him and not come back together. But if you do and you're unable to have your own children when married to another man due to the complications, you shouldn't start raining curses on who begged you and you openheartedly forgave. And you know that's difficult for you to do as a lady. So if you know you're not sure of successfully having a child, you better forgive and stick with him. Besides, if you stay with him, both of you can undergo the evil consequences of taking 3 lives together.

Crying about what exactly?

25 and 22 and you call that love. My dear, you're a daydreamer.

The fact remains that the mind of women cannot handle great things like men. Even the bible calls them weaker vessels. If they occupy a great position, they get intoxicated and disregard people they should never disregard. If they don't occupy great positions, they'll remain loyal only when they benefit from the person they're loyal too.

Not getting intoxicated by power...No! Not becoming disloyal through divorce because of money...No! Such a fragile mind

The only RIGHT choice you have is to leave her. You may have other choices but they aren't right. That's the truth! You don't force a woman to love you, orelse, you will be filing for divorce like Hakim in a few years from now

Wagwanbrethren:
Who cares about what the bible says regarding divorce?
If you wan divorce better divorce, instead of dying in a failed marriage. No go follow book wey sheep herders write! 🤣

I think something worth more considering is why is it the womenfolk who ask for divorce more like men don't go through abuse. And if you check well, wives of poor men don't ask for divorce, it's the wives of the rich

The problem involved two people...husband and wife. No one knows who emanated the prob that developed into divorce. So the question is for both of them from the origin of the problem.

It doesn't sound like you're in a marriage-based relationship. Guess you guys are just playplay bf/gf. Your choice of words shows it.

"Confront". My dear you're not broken enough to understand the kind of patience marriage needs. Besides, he putting buttocks shaker on fb story shows his delinquency.

My true advice for you is this.. Enjoy each other while it last, then switch to the next man that will nack you. After about a series of 8, you will be ready for a real relationship.

To even think divorce is a resort to any marital issue. Such a person is not worth marrying

You no specify which age

Sex skills. Very free and leaves you with your studies. All you need is your phone. Your boss is data.

Medicine after death. You should have thought about this and have an agreement (if possible) before you entered the interracial marriage. Women are selfish with children and to make yours worst her understanding of Yoruba is just 30%. How will she teach them a language she only knows 30% about?

Sure

Don't worry, it will end in harmless f*cking.

Avoid spraying body spray on your body. It's a carcinogenic habit. Spray spray on your shirts instead.

Take the test result to the hospital on time. The earlier STIs are treated, the better.

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Na Hakimi wisdom dey pepper thier p*ssy bro

Is he married? If he is your answer is no! If he's not, you're good to go and also observe him silently, he could be your half bone. Pls comport yourself well before him and stop doing all these feminist things nairaland girls always talk. It's trash!

Neverslumber:
But most likely, true and sincere love can only come from your mum. Forget about what every other person tells you, man or woman. They still have other motives whether rich or poor.

No!

You've not seen some marriages. You can only know as much as you've seen or experienced. I have seen a marriage where the wife keeps the change from utility money the husband drops before travelling for one month, she also tells him whenever she's paid at work before she spends.

The surprising part is she does it happily, not that she's scared of her husband. I was shocked too

It's common for men to propose a time for marriage and not meet that time due to a lot of reasons ranging from finances, family responsibilities, choosing between character and beauty, the fear of I hope I'm making the right choice of woman, will she change? Etc. Those are the phobia of men. It is the woman who has work to do by showing in her deeds, encouraging support that will make that man reason more towards marrying her.

While the man is thinking for instance how to get 1million for wedding, the wife is saying 500k is enough while we use the other 500 to start building on the land you bought. While the man is depressed on how his boss is threatening to sac him over a mistake he made at work, the woman is thinking on how to get to meet the boss and beg on behalf of her man.

The question is Have you ever seen where two women are gathered, even in God's name to tell each other these kind of truth before?

Those kind of facts that relate to men and even deeper ones are what men tell each other even while drinking bear. The difference is just too much

The kind of trust Achraf Hakim's mother earned from him is what the wife is supposed to earn. But if I say most women don't know what womanhood (thier roles in thier man's life) is about, many will object. All they think womanhood is about is Brazilian hair, fashion, make ups, gossips and baby mama. Very bad!

So tell your friend to mature up and she'll record a difference in her man's response. The truth sounds harsh most times but if you embrace it, the reward is a long term one

Kobojunkie:
1. Replace the word marriage with the word business. Does any of what you said above make sense?

And yes, Marriage is an agreement between two individuals .i.e. a business contract.

Ah! You have a long way

Yes. It means you've failed even before you entered the marriage. You shouldn't even have entered an unhealthy marriage in the first place if you chose right. So the journey not to fail in marriage begins from when you're single. But unfortunately, that's when most people think being too serious about life is unnecessary.

Honesty is standing by the truth, even if you don't benefit from it...close to loyalty.

Keeping vital informations from people with oral diarrhoea or with fragile temperament is not dishonesty at all...it is simple wisdom. Abraham hid the information of sacrificing Isaac from the biological mother of the boy to secure his future blessings.

You should tell people only as much as you want them to know. On the long run, you won't only save some people's life but also earn many people's trust

loricara:
I don't have money to hire a lawyer now please what can I do?

Since you don't have money for a lawyer which should have been the best approach, go to the police with about 10k, write a statement and he will be summoned. OR Go to the community chieves or heads after reporting to the police or the youth head of that town. When you will. The crowd against him, he will be pushed to act.

Obviously you reason with your bigpriik