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Lol, I'm sadly not expecting them to read it. It's easier to not do much and expect the "miracle" to come, instead of working hard and improving their chances by at least 70%.

I don't know why graduates are unwilling to say "I trained myself through schooling/university". I and at least 70% of employers WILL HIRE you based on that information. Because it shows that you are hardworking and determined to succeed! You should proudly state that in your Cover Letter. Because it's hard to do and you ACHIEVED that.

All this time at home, go offer your services at a minimum wage (N40,000) to a company in the industry you want to work in. It gives you experience that looks good on your CV. A young man worked for a Advertising firm, he was one of the best artists but because he didn't have NYSC, they were cheating him and paying him N20,000 monthly. He swallowed it, worked his butt off and each quarter asked for a raise. Once he had experience of 2 years, he moved to another company, for a salary of N85,000. His old company started trying to win him back for N70,000. See? In this era of no jobs, a man is getting 2 companies to offer him work. This man leveraged on his experience and ended up getting the new company to finally agree to pay N100,000. See the difference experience and skills added to him.

I have seen so many threads on "I need a job please" or "My CV this or that", so I decided to write this down. I'm not selling anything, I'm sharing what I was taught, what I have learnt and what I have experienced.

Some weeks back, my company conducted interviews. Out of 10, only 1 guy was selected. He seems nice, but the other 9 were not right for us. And the problems they have, I've seen in a lot of Nigerians. So let's address them:

1. Your qualifications yes, a 2.1 and a 1st class (notice the order I put them in, that's how unimportant I think a 1st class is) will open the door to an interview for you, but will NOT guarantee a job. Same with your Masters degree (I've seen a B. Sc from Imperial College UK not be able to get a job in an OnG firm). You need to focus on certification and Masters from the RIGHT schools. Don't come and show me a MBA from Leeds and expect me to value it the same way I will value MBA from Pennsylvania.

2. What do you know? I have met countless Nigerian youths and I am constantly amazed at HOW LITTLE they know. As in, most girls don't know about the Power Generation coys in Nigeria, most guys don't know about the Agricultural explosion in Nigeria, yet the girls can tell you the last post on Linda Ikeji and the guys can quote Football scores in their sleep. Those skills are great, if you wanna be a Blogger or a Footie commentator on the radio (btw, those 2 career prospects are overcrowded right now).

3. What do you read? You should be reading all sorts of books. Nope, not Self-Help books (never met a successful person who read those, they usually WRITE those), but any type of book and website. I was the kid that read Shakespeare, Soyinka and romance novels, jacked Encarta like I was studying for an exam, read Wikipedia and did research like crazy for no other reason than wanting to learn and watched BBC with her dad. I am very smart (I'm not boasting). Every single employer I have ever met refuses to believe I don't have a Masters from an Ivy League. I mean this. THE BEST EDUCATION IS FREE.

4. What have you done? How do you spend your holidays? Lazing away at home? My dad got us all jobs (he packed us off for summer, we worked retail!). It taught us the value of earned money and gave us work experience. It exposed us. My brother hiked a volcano in Hawaii, I like sightseeing and museums, another brother visits museums and likes modern Art. And in Nigeria, my sister used to be in charge of her church choir, my boss has done the "Walk for Breast Cancer", I've volunteered for Charity groups. Most of those things we did, didn't require a ton of cash (they're usually free to participate).

What does this all mean? Let's put it together.

4. What does your CV look like? I'm going to let you in on a little secret: there's no formula for writing an award-winning CV. There maybe a format, but there's no exact rule to it. That's it. NOTHING MORE. Instead,

a.)I see CVs that are badly written, filled with mispellings or so bland and looks like everyone else's, that after 20 other CVs, I skim through yours and unless I read something interesting, I don't give you a call.

b.)I see CVs with email address of "Nneka41@yahoo.com" instead of "nneka.okote@yahoo.com" which sounds more professional.

d.) I see new grads who tell me the primary school they attended (if they had spent their holidays working, even doing internship at an IT firm, then studying Computer Science in Uni is better than doing NOTHING, they would have been able to put it on the CVs, to show that they are go-getters, instead of siddon-wait-for-miracle-to-land).

e.) I see experienced people put their Education first before their experience(if you have work experience of at least 4 yrs in the industry you're applying, write that down FIRST before your degree, on your CV. An employer cares more about the fact you've worked somewhere and done a good job than if you came out with 2.2 degree 5 years ago).

f.) I see that in your hobbies section you write: Reading, Singing, Football (now compare that to mine which will say "travelled the world including the following countries" or "physical sports including Tennis, Football, Athletics and F1 Motorsports", which of us sounds more interesting and would make an interviewer want to call me for an interview, just to see the person that does all that shiii )

g.) A [b]cover letter [/b]which says "I am responsible and hardworking, a team leader".

Let me rewrite that sentence for you, describing my boss "I am responsible and hardworking, I have always gone for positions of leadership in my personal life including my time as a member of Naomi and Ruth Group in my church, a society where we work closely with old and young widows, helping them to rejoin society and get back on their feet".
Abeg, please tell me who sounds more like a responsible, hardworking team leader!! Your cover letter should have all you have done in steps 1-3, I should read that cover letter, see you have achieved so many little victories, and I promise you, I won't really care about your 2.2 degree or lack of Masters.
Remember that brother of mine who likes Modern Art? He's a lawyer who had a 2.2, was President of his class and his Law society in school, liked Art and English culture (he knows his wines like a Sommelier). His first job was as a junior guy at a law firm whose senior partner likes WINES, ART and ENGLISH CULTURE! They had so much in common, 2 years later, my brother is the Head of his legal team for an Oil and Gas company! Still no masters!

If you are interesting with a lousy degree and lots of certifications and lots of personal achievements, I will call you for an interview so you can explain yourself, I will give you a chance to show me that maybe you were young and made mistakes. But if you are bland with a 2.1, you are NO different than every other person who crammed and achieved 2.1. A 1st class shows that you are diligent, not that you know the job, that's WHY employers like 1st class, they still have to retrain you after they hire you!

Almost all my friends wrote KPMG exam (they had 2.1), out of 150, they took 6. That's how little room there is up there. Your CV and cover letter is your advert, you better make it an interesting one.

5.) When you go for the interview, what's the important thing to do and know? Why, about the company of course! I have aced interviews by walking in, telling the interviewers about recent policies the company just executed and we discussed it, like it was an internal meeting. None of them asked me about my degree, I sounded too smart in front of them, they assumed it was Naija-factor that caused it to drop. Better read up about the company you wanna work for, know their CEO/MD, know if they're listed on the Stock Exchange, find out if they've just acquired new assets (and congratulate them). You will sound like you already work for them and they will find it easier to hire you.

Don't go in and say "I need this job for the money", we know you do, but saying and emphasizing on money makes you sound like you don't care about the job and may leave us in 3 months if a better offer comes. So why should we waste resources training you?

6.) Have you ever thought about taking the alternative route? 2 of my friends don't have a Uni degree, both earn $3,000 (yes, you read that right, they get paid in dollars in Nigeria) for their jobs in Lagos. They're in IT, one dropped out of uni to go to APTECH, he's a mad gamer, loves games, writes his codes for games, studies anything IT-related freely. And one more thing: he's very reliable.


Meanwhile, at my company, the Graphics Artist guy we give contracts to, is the most talented guy I've met, but is the biggest flake in the world, job of 2 days delivery, takes his 3 weeks and more, he won't pick his phone when we call to check. We just took a very big job from him and gave it to a not-so-talented but more reliable fellow. So, are you a flake? Are you shooting yourself in the foot by being unreliable and expecting people to keep giving you work? That's the problem with Naija, almost nothing gets done well and on-time.
Also, get an accountant if you run your business. You need someone to explain to you how Profits/Loss works. And be tell yourself: my business must be able to sustain me in 2 years' time and yield profits in 3-4 years.

I'm going to write some more. I realise that people will say "oh you sound priviledged, where am I to volunteer for this and that", my dears, they've been announcing on the radio about charity walks, social media, BBC, AlJazeera, CNN website is free, even travelling to all 36 states of the country makes you sound interesting (I know a girl who did that during her NYSC), she made the interviewer laugh with all her stories and she showed how resourceful she was, by achieving it. She got the job (2.1 in Textile Design).
Even going for all these things and being active in your church is BUILDING YOUR NETWORK. Which you will need, you know people, you get money.

Most employers in Nigeria complain graduates are unemployable and end up selecting the best of a bad bunch. So they use age and criteria to weed people out. These tips are ways to avoid that happening to you.

benELOHIM7: NL gals sabi lie eh ......common gerrat *in phyno's voice*

Guy run and leave here before I beat you well or are you that woman's brother ni??

Craziest story from a danfo coming up now!

On a sunday, decided to go pick up my hard-drive from my brother (he's on the island, I was then in S/lere). I got to Shitta and instead of taking a cab, decided to do alaroro and enter bus to the island.
At CMS, I boarded a bus going to Lekki. The woman beside me was smacking her lips on a sachet of pure water and was dressed like a "busstop geh" (not ashi, but like someone who hangs out with area boys). As soon as the bus was full and the conductor started taking fares, she calmly and loudly began to ask each person to pay her fare (with no shame and no begging). She argued with the conductor until out of "let this noise end", another customer paid. Me, I jejely brought out my phone to keep busy (and not make eye contact).

She made a point of helping me announce my b/stop (I didn't ask her o!). I dropped off at the stop and she got off too. Me, I walked quickly into the estate. Like 20 mins later, I was home and decided to get some chicken from the fridge. Our flats have windows facing out the kitchen in front (Lord knows why 1004 is designed with no privacy in mind). Suddenly someone started ringing and banging our neighbour's door, it was made. I tried to look out and that was when THAT SAME LADY FROM THE BUS spotted me! Immediately she came to our door and started doing the same. I told my bro (he got angry) and he answered the door. Same brazen, cocky manner from this lady: she said she knew me, we were friends, she had business with me, they should tell me to come outside to meet her! She refused to leave till we called security and even then she sat by the crescent gate, waiting for me to come out. My brother ended up driving me home.

Trust my mama to have sharp Nigerian mama tongue: "you'll be carrying natural hair up and down, wearing ankara with oily face, she thought you were poor and at her level!"

kadas01: Thanks a lot Op! This is a very enlightening and educative topic that would be of help to many out there!

From personal experience, reading spiritual books depending on your "faith and conviction" could be of very great help! What is most important is the "inner strength" to overcome depression!

The Lord Almighty is our strength!

I know so many people like you! Most times, however, this advice rarely ends well. One depressed case committed suicide at 70 and his wife kept declaring it was "juju from the village". The other case attempted suicide (whilst her family was busy carrying her from church to church), luckily she was taken abroad and her aunt (a very educated woman who doesn't believe in superstitious crap) took her to the hospital. She's doing great now.

Depression can be cured. And no, it is NOT about inner strength. Please stop passing misinformation.

A God-fearing person is the opposite of a Nigerian Devout Christian or Muslim. This opinion is based on experience.

I have a friend who did a 6 months, N50k test with another colleague: the idea was to hire the loudly proclaiming God-fearers and those who didn't publicly say much, and then compare in 6 months who did more damage to the company.

My friend won. He bet that the ones who claimed it daily would be the silliest, most corrupt (morally and otherwise), lazy, hypocritical, problem-causing workers.

My boss always says look at Sweden, Norway and a lot of secular countries and compare their sanity to religious countries.

I've never met an atheist who wants to cheat on his wife badly, however I am constantly being hit on by married men who are updating their BBM status to "RCCG service on point!"

I believe in God, but not in humans.

CityNG: Clearly you are a Woman of substance who follows international news with aplomb.

I salute you and your astute and keen sense of world politics.

Why thank you ! Go and reread my reply, I modified it to be clearer. I don't get Nigerians. If only you understood even common Family Politics, you'd be able to read the writing on the wall in International Relations and Politics.

The things I've heard my mama deny saying about certain people to their faces, with her face extremely straight (whilst I stared at her in stunned disbelief) made me understand that Politics is a game, played by many, yet understood by few.

How many men, confronted with evidence from their wives' friends about their cheating and infidelity, IMMEDIATELY SAY "THAT PERSON IS TRYING TO CAUSE TROUBLE BETWEEN US, IT'S ALL A LIE"?

Why would you expect a president to be more truthful to his people??

anonimi: GENERALLY what you have explained are the PRINCIPLES for international cooperation and diplomatic protocol.
However, when you have money and as a result power over others you can circumvent these principles as the US has done several times. This is also true even within our African families & villages/towns/tribes on traditional rituals and protocols- if you have enough money & power, there will be people willing to do the things "on your behalf"

For example, the US took out Osama bin Laden WITHOUT informing (talk less of receiving approval from) the Paksitani government as reported hereunder:



It is not unlikely that Nigeria has the same relationship with our neighbours in Benin Republic and SHOULD have with other African countries IF we extract enough mileage out of our "Big Brother" largesse to these countries.

Nope, please read the report you filed: The US military commander said he had permission from the Pakistanis, the Pakistani president denied it. If as the Queen, I sell out the very powerful Ogiso/chief in my area (who has more followers than me and is more popular than me, as is the case with Musharraf) so I can cut a secret deal with you, will I publicly announce it to his angry followers who live with me? I will deny it on a bible sef, that's how strong my lie would be. Think about it.

The US can fly unchallenged into Pakistan (who has nuclear weapons oh, they are not defenceless), yet cannot fly unchallenged into:

1. Russian-occupied Ukraine, the US president is only calling for sanctions

2. ISIS-controlled Syria and Iraq areas, where those madmen are even PUBLICLY BEHEADING US CITIZENS IN RETALIATION FOR DRONE STRIKES FROM US-CONTROLLED BASES IN IRAQ

3. North Korea, with dictator Head of State and a starving populace.

How easy you all forget when they wanted a joint African-American base OFF OUR OWN SHORES, we screamed till they left. Yet they could confidently ignore Pakistan's screams. Abegi! I expect GEJ to do the same and say the same lies as Musharraf. Any sensible politician will deny all culpability, yet welcome help from his enemies to kill his other enemies.

Do you really think Pakistani's very unpopular president (he's constantly being accused by hardliners in his country of being "too friendly with the US" ) will say "OH NOES, THE US MILITARY WAS GIVEN PERMISSION BY ME TO KILL A MAN SUPPORTED BY MY POLITICAL ENEMIES IN MY HOUSE"?

EMANY01: Repeat what you just typed,read it slowly and tell me it makes sense to you.
An agent/legitimate citizens of another state performing his legitimate duty is attacked in your country and you do not care.
Are you waiting until all agents of you country serving in locations outside your country are identified and attacked before you recognize that this may have been the first stage of a move by some third party/countries intelligence service to undermine you country by orchestrating a conflict between your country and that of the affected agent.
Before you say the affected agent had no right in this country it might be wise of you to note that our country Nigeria has people /agents in service of Nigeria's interests active in other countries.

And you my dear, need to stop watching "24". A US air marshal (the ones on the east coast are harder to spot) has NO jurisdiction on the ground of another country (on foreign soil, he's a dude with a gun and some countries will require him to register that gun with local police in a new location), just like the Nigerian SSS officer will be arrested if he shoots someone in New Jersey (at least till he explains why the heck that was necessary). Even if your agents on foreign soil are being attacked, your country has no legal right except to demand through proper channels for justice (that's why the CIA exists, so the US can circumvent proper channels). Example of real-life situation: Russian ex-KGB guy who got radioactively poisoned before he landed in the UK. They never solved the case because the trail ended in Russia and the UK police has no jurisdiction in Russia. If this air marshal had pulled his gun in MMIA, he would explained himself and had to hand the case over to Nigerian police and maybe SSS. He did the right thing by getting on a plane back home. If US agents are in danger in Nigeria, the Nig govt has to get involved. Another example of this is how Pakistani troops led US Navy Seals to Bin Laden's compound and then got of the way. If those Seals had entered without prior clearance and shot that compound up, Obama would have had a lot of explaining to do. Same reason the War on Drugs in South America is funded by the US, but not fought by the US. The CIA, on the other hand, their job is to be anywhere relevant, and to be quiet about it. So as to avoid pesky laws

All of you asking for CCTV footage, please give yourselves brain: did they announce that they were looking for the perpetrator? The US has no legal right to even demand the footage be aired publicly, they have no jurisdiction on international soil.

So, if this story is true, it's not the work of a random Naija guy. It's a bit hard to find out the identity of a US Fed Air Marshal (even on planes they don't identify themselves), so how did the attacker know him? That means there's an internal leak (on the part of the US) and the identities of their foreign security staff in Nigeria (whom I believe exist) have been compromised.

They should find the attacker. This is not a small something, to be able to identify a US air marshal, the needle attack isn't as important as the identity being compromised. But that's if this story is true and if it is, I will certainly believe the people who planned this attack have access to international/US foreign info (which you can buy if you have links to the right bunch of crooks and terrorists who sell such).

Eddy2cute: so dem don carry u go all these hotels wella?

Because you date "gehs" who cannot afford to pay for their own soap, cream and weave-on doesn't mean all woman are that poor or financially dependent on men. Abeg try hang out with women who started life well and are willing to work extremely hard to maintain and improve their lifestyle. I don't work on my back

Elantracey: lol I have calmed down o , but my bible teaches me that your life is programmed by your thoughts and words and still stand to say except its God's decision for me to get married late am going to get married before am 30 to someone that's right for me and it doesn't mean that those that will get married after were bad or something .

Sigh, one thing I like about the Catholic church is that they read over 20 verses of the bible in a mass, even "Every Day with Jesus" can share 10 verses or more for a day's reading (in order to teach you) because pentecostal churches and new-gen devotionals, na one verse dem dey use explain a million things

If you read your bible, you would be like Job, who said "naked I came and naked shall I leave, blessed be the name of the Lord", not "Jesus whyyyyy!! I tithe, I dance in church, I'm part of my fellowship, I deserve a great life, whyyyyy!"

A lady who sound just like you (and married early) and is now divorcing her abusive husband of 13 years (who helped kill their child) is always stressing to repeat this story: She thought she deserves a man and a good life because she loved God, she didn't love God for who He was, she loved the Lord for what He could do for her. As if He was Mansard Insurance. So she would ascribe her selfish decisions to "God gave me brain, He wouldn't do this or that".

Now, she's smarter, wiser and more trusting on God.

Elantracey: Thanks ma'am I totally understand but there's a reason I say what I say , life is not a bed of roses doesn't mean we shouldn't plan the kind of life we want before time , I said that because right now I look and act far bigger than my age and am still imagining what I will look like when am 30, inasmuch as I don't really know what tomorrow holds but I always have dreams , goals and targets and it has been helping me this far , there are people who get married and are very happy and I want to be among them , I have married couples I look up to , and above all I can't serve God diligently during my youth and not get blessed with someone that deserves me at the right time because my God is a rewarder of those who diligently seek him so I have no fear of getting married to someone that won't favour me .


What you believe always works for you .

My dear, do you know the problem I have with our "Feel-good" churches of nowadays? How they tell you that serving God is a guarantee for life working exactly as you want it to. Elijah's mother, Joseph, Elisabeth, Sarah, Jeremiah, Hosea, and all the apostles serves and loved God diligently, yet didn't have rosy lives. Because it was not the path God had created for them. Now imagine if they attended one of these new generation churches, they would demand answers from God and when their situation didn't change on time, they would go hook or crook to do anything to achieve their desire, whilst calling on God's name. Which is what most Nigerian Christians do.

Wait upon on the Lord, God rewards you in His own time, not because you did everything right and now you feel you deserve a reward.

Four Points by Sheraton and Eko Hotel's rooms are not as nice or even as big as this. It's ridiculous. And the cost of the food will make you wonder if you're eating sushi made from the nectar and ambrosia of some Greek gods, mixed with juice made from the fountain of youth. At least Protea Hotel in Ikeja has nicer rooms.

As usual, people will blame the US, APC and anyone else except themselves for their problems.

We import Paper, Toothpicks, Clothes, Shoes, Jewelry, Pencils, Palm oil, Apples, Almond oil, Fish and Meat, the list goes on.

Meanwhile, oil exports are our main business and corruption has given it to few wealthy people.

If we continue like this, we're going to be a big economy made up of 20% wealthy and 80% poor. And it's already showing: Education standards keep dropping (no-one accepts your local degrees internationally without backup from a foreign degree, public or private university), we are losing our Healthcare business to foreigners, just like Telecomms was lost. So Nigerians are getting poorer, but you can't see it until you change your salary to any foreign currency and realise you're too poor to relocate on your current income. You're also losing jobs, so that Employment you've been crying and praying for, it's not coming soon.

Instead of stoning every single politician in this country, so that they fear the masses and do the right thing, you are fighting for them, as if they will give you a job after (story!). Continue! Foreigners are happy to profit off Africa's foolishness, as usual.

vivaciousvivi: How creative Though I would never use bronze busts in my house. I would be too scared

Scared of what o jare? That you would be unable to maintain its polish??

I don't get Nigerians, if it was a sculpture of Mary, you will put it in your house happily. That's also an idol (and yes, I'm a catholic and proud to be one). Even a statue of Christ is an idol, read your bible well.

Dey carry wey pass u for una head

OP, you went past Ring rd or Igun street (I think that's the name) to find this. Most of these are Brass, not Bronze (Bronze is pretty expensive). They're quite nice and I would like to have one commemorating my family tree (which I can trace back at least 4 generations).

Walai, this is tough. A friend of mine did the same and called off her engagement. But the pressure was from her parents, who felt the man didn't have what it took to encourage her drive and ambition (she's very ambitious). He was also very nice.

I have a friend in the same situation, wonderful guy but we're not sure about his drive (he has a great job but his dad was the one who helped him get it and gave him a car when he came home from US after Masters). So we're not sure if he can stand on his own feet and build himself. My friend was from the same type of background, but she's never asked her parents to help her with a job, and she's doing okay (salary of N200k, and good networks hopefully).

It really boils down to a woman knowing she can depend on the man to provide most of the time, not about the money. I've seen friends and classmates and co-workers whose parents, especially their fathers did nothing for them, they had to pay their way through school, some even had to buy the clothes their fathers wore for their weddings. It's tough to tell a woman whose dad decided he wouldn't pay even his half of her 2nd semester schoolfees until her mum (a govt teacher who they had seized her salary) brought out her share, her father allowed her to miss a semester, and was such a terrible selfish man.Of course her mum chased away any man she felt didn't have potential.

Chillisauce: Someone should help me with this definition of curls . I never seem to get it right and always end up braiding my hair after few weeks. The fact is that...
There is no curls to define.

The hair is long when stretched but as soon as you let go, it shrinks back .
But I'm not giving up yet

I can see you are suffering from TooMuchInformationAboutNaturalhairionits, it's a deadly disease .


Just relax, and follow a very simple routine, excess of everything is bad. I still can't do a curl definition well, I used Eco Styler gel and twisted my hair while wet, then loosened it and it came out okay.

Don't use a microwave, seriously that thing is bad even for warming food. Just boil a kettle of water or run the closed container of your oils under a very hot tap. I don't do hot oil treatments, I figured that I use enough oils already. I have decided not to do pass my great-grandmama (who was a reputed beauty). I don't believe she did hot oil treatments.

Shrinkage is normal, almost all African hair shrinks, som very badly, others not so much, just accept it and you can style it in certain ways to stretch it.

Don't buy too much at first, in my first year I almost blew my savings wanting to try Henna, Flaxseed gel, JBCO, Rhassoul clay, Argan oil, blah blah. Simply go to Natural Nigerian's website or African Naturalista (google) and pick out some stuff: a shampoo, a deep conditioner, an oil, a daily conditioner, shea butter and a spray bottle. That's all you need so as not to get confused.

I've been doing this thing, where I pour some coconut or olive oil on my hair the night before wash day (you kinda have to sleep with a shower cap on, so as not to stain your pillows). My curls are looking more defined and my hair feels softer, but I'm shedding or breaking like mad. It could be the Dudu Osun, I've heard it breaks hair. This is my 3rd time using it, so will maybe give it a rest.

Front page, please

Reference: Thanks. Really donot know why people react this way. It is a church, a religious organization. It has its preferences, period. Other religions, other christian denominations have their ways, their codes, their standards. Why Oyedepo and Winners chapel. What sort of threat does this man pose that it works people up so much. I think there is something people are not saying because its shameful. But its understandable.

You know, I'm not a MOG o, but why is he opening a For-Profit school in UK? Or has our education system advanced to the point our graduates are the best in the world? Even CU isn't rated highly internationally. I mean, if he opened this school and made the fees N10,000 per term, can you imagine the difference he would make in the lives of millions in any African country? Why is it that Africa is usually been saved and donated to by atheists and people who do NOT attend our modern christian churches? How can you keep quoting out of context "the poor will always be here with us", said by Christ, who himself had no earthly financial goods?

Has it ever occurred to you that people are not jealous, just angry and irritated that Modern Christian leaders behave like the Pharisees from the Bible rather than like Christ and the Apostles? Have you driven around Lagos and seen children in grammar schools, not learning much, or hawking oranges after school while their parents tithe at Winners Chapel, with no hope of sending their kids to CU? Please answer, would Christ be conspicuously wealthy if He came now (Our Lord made Moses grow up in privilege but took him out of that comfort so he could lead the Isrealites).

Do you honestly think people complaining about Oyedepo all "hate him because we just want to hate him"?

Sigh, Nigerian Christians will drive people from church if they keep up like this. More and more people are beginning to get angry and wonder why the man sharing God's Word with me, insists on being richer than me. And flaunting it to my face, whilst not providing anything more than a teaching of the Word.

Write my questions down and write your answers down. Maybe reason will prevail.

sandiyke: @aisha2 infact The man sees her as a liability. Take for instance, the man can't ask her not to pump water if the woman contributes even if its just the money for fuel.

I think the summary is that she should get up and get her life going by adding value to herself no matter how little.

Not always, I've heard men scream "is it because you paid for this, you feel you can flaunt your disobedience to my face??" Powerless, insecure men will feel threatened by any show of strenght or independence. Instead of them to look inwards, they will blame the outward symptom as the cause.

Personal responsibility for your own actions is not encouraged in Nigeria, it is always someone else's fault, some demon's fault, some eldery person or anyone from the village's fault, your wife's fault, NEVER YOUR FAULT FOR YOUR OWN ACTIONS.

The OP said the man constantly nags about his wife, had she bought fuel, he would have gotten angry. The men on this thread telling the wife to have bathed, yet pretend not to, understand that the husband is a small man (Lord knows if it's understand or empathise sef). Me, if I had given such a directive, if I come home and there was water, I'd have been relieved that my stupi.dity didn't cause her not to bathe. But if I feel challenged that I put her in an uncomfortable situation and she still got out of it, then that says a lot about me and my self-esteem, bah?

Some women should sit that wife down and speak to her sensibly.

How much and how does one get it?

I've got 5 brothers and at some point in time, almost all of them have done this, particularly when I was young. It's about Power, the husband wanted to use force and assert authority over that woman, so when she pumped the water herself, he got angrier.

The only brother who never tried this with me (and yes, he's older than me), said men do this when they feel weak or threatened. That only a small man would act as such.

I've seen at least 5 cases in my close circle of married like this. One, she went out with her baby and the baby's dummy fell (women, that thing babies suck on when teething). So the child wouldn't sleep but kept crying. Do you know her husband locked her out of the bedroom after she went at 8pm to look for that thing? He carried the baby to their room and his wife had to sleep on the floor of the children's room. Her hubby then proceeded years later to beating and cheating (ladies, once a man starts going down that road of doing petty wicked things in order to "prove" his manhood at you, it must always end in beating or cheating. Always). Now the wife has filed for divorce and the hubby is begging the family to beg her (Lord knows why, after 13 years of even beating her to miscarriage, why on earth do you still want her around??)
And yes, she was a housewife. Most of the cases I've seen with abuses of power is that the wife is a housewife and financially powerless. Or that the wife is successful (it doesn't have to mean more money than he is, even been happier than he is angers some men), they begin to commit atrocities so as to feel they are in control of her life.

I think our churches should teach man how to be real men and handle their anger and feelings of insecurity and loss of ego, petty abuses of power destroys more than teach a lesson. Stop flexing your muscle on your wives, what you will not do to a fellow man. Rather than telling women constantly to tiptoe around their husbands warily, whilst smiling and praying loudly for blessings on his head. Let us teach our sons to stop trying to make themselves feel better by making others suffer.

I feel sorry for this wife, she's been conditioned to accept this as her lot in life.

And dear Naija men, this behaviour is making a lot of women opt to be more stubborn and challenge you, making the vicious cycle continue. So be the head, be the leader and STOP now. Once the head decides, the neck must follow. Stop telling the neck to "pray, endure, behave herself so the man will change", I've never heard of a neck that controlled the head and other body functions.

Walai, when I see, hear and read about Nigerian marriages, I really don't wanna get married. I had even considered being a single mum, or getting married, having kids and relocating out with my kids just to avoid this madness. God give me strength.

Wow.

So instead of Health and Immigration workers, with policemen, to calmly approach the hotels, and ask for inspection of their travel documents (to ascertain how long they've been in the country (longer than 42 days and none of them fell ill, they're fine) and take them to LUTH for testing, NO, Nigerians arrested them. Imagine if one was actually sick, then he would take the virus to our prisons (which are dirty, overcrowded and worse, no-one will rush a sick prisoner to the hospital in Nigeria unless he's very rich, talkless of a sick, poor foreigner). Now, you may certainly not care if prisoners fall ill, but imagine if one is released after being in contact with a sick person, enters public transport. Or the wardens in charge of the prisons and the prison workers, falling ill after being exposed. Or do you someone believe in Kirikiri, they are giving them bleach and hand sanitiser to disinfect themselves?

People will die from stupi.dity rather than the virus in this country.

xfire: There are oil exploration projects going on around the world, thus experienced geoscientists and seismic interpreters are in high demand. It's always difficult for young graduates to break into the industry. In many cases, they even need an MSc or even a PhD to be considered for employment. But once established, they are hot cakes.

Ph.D in what exactly? I know a couple of Ph.D holders from great schools!) in Chemical Engineering, natural gas something combined with process simulation and some more technical terms or the other, who can't find OnG companies to hire them. Granted, they just moved back and don't have experience in that field. Any info you give me will be helpful, thanks. They're really great people and hard workers. I wanna help them.

There's a medical supply shop in Ojuelegba, just before Matthew street (by FCMB), I got a pack of latex gloves from there (don't ask ). Today I saw infrared thermometers there, jokingly I asked them for the price and they said N7,000 (but I didn't price it sha)

This is sad that we need it.

phabulux: How many likes have you gotten now?

I was being cynical.

6, unreasonable, asinine, crass, mmotther-fucckers!

Biitch? I won't call you that. A dog looks at its loo and rejects it.

Your insult was noted and ignored!

don't worry, I have given you my attention for 2 seconds, now go be happy.

MissMeiya: They did it to make foreign products more expensive to promote local business. Unfortunately, it's not working, because as the OP mentioned, the importers never actually pay the tax.

They did the same thing to palm oil. Nigerian palm oil is SOOO uncompetitive on the global market. It only barely survives locally because of the tax on imported palm oil. Even still, manufacturers have to import the high-quality palm oil from Asia, because there isn't enough of it in Nigeria.

That was my first thought when I heard 40% tax on imports (I personally support manufacturing in Nigeria). But I think importation gives a greater profit since the tax isn't enforced or importers bribe their way through. Some people I know are interested in Agricultural produce (they've got their ideas and I've got mine). Can I ask you though, what do you think about manufacturing in Nigeria? Like the OP said, even I would have thought buying trucks from the Netherlands will be cheaper, but in his experience, "wetin dey for Sokoto, dey better in your shokoto". So does the same apply to manufacturing?

MDCEO1: Madam, the degree of retardation in this post really makes me wonder if some people's IQs are not truly less than that of ancient prehistoric apes.
Where exactly in the original post did you see the doctors asking for 1.9billion naira or asking to share the N1.9bn money among themselves?

They are saying the funds from Federal Government has not arrived at the isolation centres to provide basic amenities for the patients and you are here running your mouth spewing fermented trash.

I'm sorry, i dont typically insult people online, neither do I comment frequently here, but the sheer idiocy of your post pushed me to reply even in the dead of midnight.

That is an EBOLA isolation centre for crying out loud! They are managing very ill people who are also veeery very infectious, so they need funds for both medications, standard equipment for various laboratory tests and investigations, and even basic things like power and water. I'm sure even things like bedding materials, consumables would have to be replaced often as they are being consumed (or would you like to be the one washing an ebola patient's soiled bedsheets? They have to be discarded and replaced). Did u even see or read about the American isolation centre where the US doctors were taken? They need lots of things to improve the patient's chances of survival as much as possible.

Some of these things has been provided by the Lagos state government so far, but it isnt enough to meet the standards of what a proper isolation centre for a disease with this kind of severity and virulence should have, hence they are stating that the funds FG has been mouthing about on media is yet to reach them to even provide some of these needed things.
And someone is here spewing trash about people clearing their throats to chop money.

It pains me because I happen to personally know people (doctors) who are actually working there caring for the sick patients, and there are many things that still need to be provided to provide optimal care for these patients.

Please, if you really do not know much about a topic, its better to keep quiet and be presumed to be a regular person, than to open your mouth and show yourself a re*tard.
As my lecturer in school used to say, "it is better to keep quiet and be considered a fool, than to open your mouth and CONFIRM IT".
Thanks.

Please tell them. This particular NLer has been attacking doctors over this ebola outbreak, no matter what we say. And all the very best to your friends at the IDF. We're praying for them to stay safe.

phabulux: Nah, they are writing their own funeral. They are provoking Bro. Jona. to take serious actions with them.

After how many years and countless thousands of lives lost, he is YET to get serious with them?

And you want us to vote for a man that is YET to get serious with murderers, kidnappers and rap.ists?

Are you please listening to yourself?