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zemaye: Can I pm you

Yes please.

Zemaye, thanks for bringing it to me

OP, well, your stuff looks nice (I actually saw this thread earlier), but I'm going to say a few things.

1. Your styles are basic, and you got the designs from elsewhere. I know this because one of the designs you posted, I saw in one of those fashion mags in tailor's places and I gave it to my tailor to sew for me, 2 months ago. So, your stuff isn't original.

2. Your drawing skills and use of colour is very basic too. You should read about Fashion illustration, or if you want to be a designer, start studying what great Fashion designers in the past have done, understand the technical terms, the woman's body, how to interpret a design, etc.

You have a lot of work to do. Since you're in Kwara, may I suggest calling AB Artworld in Abuja (or any of their other branches) to get books on these things: Colour theory, Fashion illustration, Textile design, Drawing and more? Then get to a school like Yabatech, UNN, they have good Textiles programs there. Also there's a Fashion Institute run by Italians in Ikeja.

Just wait, all the local champions of NL are coming. Any minute now, they will start posting their own

This is really good. We also have Nigerian artists who are good, not Kelvin Okafor. I'll do a a post on some.

Innovator90: Gullible black women! This is a well-engineered, crafted scheme by the mafias of a $10 billion industry to establish basis for why black women wear and should continue to wear extensions... to milk more $billions from them. I'm not an archaeologist but for an extension to withstand such a length of time - this is a thousand yrs older than so called Jesus - is highly questionable especially when some hard metals used during similar time have been practically irretrievable or recognizable by assayers. Don't tell it was due to mummification.
Intelligence is the ability to reason critically...ask why, when and how whenever anything is presented to you. Never accept anything at face value!

Errmm, you do realise that Egypt's climate is VERY DRY and with their embalment practises, things could LAST well, right?? Anything sealed from moisture and heat will last well. You do realise that they have found metals of those days to withstand corrosion better than our modern materials, bah?

dexmundo: women quickly looking for a way to justify their guilty conscience since they are totally unwilling to repent. LISTEN TO THIS who are the egyptians? Are they not idol worshippers and founders of horoscopy? Thank God this article also mentioned they are idol worshippers. Since the days of adam, the world has been occupied by two set of people - God's people and Secular people. If a secular idol worshipping egyptian used brazillian that doesnt mean a God fearing Israelite used hair extensions too. We need archeological record from israel to prove that God's people used hair extensions too.

Bros, go read your Old Testament wella.

Poor Israeli women would not go around bedecked in jewels and updos, because they would need to carry water and goods. Wealthy ones (think David, Solomon their wives, their council chiefs and their wives) would dress nicely. They were expected to dress finely, to symbolise the wealth and power of Israel and Judah. Why would the Bible say, in reference to when they want to symbolise mourning and repentance in times of sorrow, that people wore "sackcloth"? That means that in normal times, they didn't.

If you want a simple girl, not a problem, lots exist. But don't try and distort the Bible to suit your opinions.

emmyrichie: It is more appalling when some wear it on empty skulls.

Funny! Now go take your Anti-Stu.pidity meds and go to school, remember JAMB is next year, study hard o!

xp17: @safarigirl, in as much I don't have problems with women being ambitious, but a little bit would be okay. unlike men, women have more caring and organized nature, they pay more attention to details when it comes down to domestic issues, hence they should be closer to the home, irrespective of their ambitions.

personally, I'll hand over all the sensitive responsibilities to my wife, especially in the areas of monitoring the kids change in behavior, spending more time with the kids in other to prevent them from roaming up and down the street, like sheep without a Shepard, and making the family planning. if she can do those, I careless whatever she does with the rest of her time, as long as she not putting the family interest in the line, in the pursuit of her goals.


for women: family first , then ambition follows

for men: use your ambition to secure your family, because women hate broke a'ss guys

I hate to break this to you, but there are NO GENETIC STUDIES PROVING WOMEN ARE MORE CARING AND ORGANIZED. Seriously, check. Real published Medical papers, none.

Even in real life, almost all my male relatives are neater but less organized than my female relatives. Women hoard stuff, it's hard to be a hoarder and be very organized.

And kids need their Fathers: my father taught me everything and insisted on homework being done well, as opposed to my mum who said "just do the homework". That's why kids are growing crazier each day, because parents are busy delegating responsibilities to each other and chasing money. Ask your grandfather whether it was his mother that taught him to plant yam or clear forest for farm, he will laugh tire. Your kids need their fathers and mothers. EOD.

Try telling this to even men of nowadays.

I got a job last year (very prestigious if not big on salary, could make my career) that took me out of Lagos for less than 2 months. My bf started avoiding my calls and broke up with me on the phone after, saying "oh I can't give you what you want, you were gone, I felt neglected, blah blah". I hissed (okay I pretended to be upset to make him feel guilty ) and moved on.

Next guy who came toasting, I was working long hours on and off in Lagos, maybe 2-3 days a week, other days I'd be home. He started complainig about "so is this how it will be after marriage??" We were not even dating sef.

Current bobo, I'm slowly training him to leave me over weekends to give me space, he's not too happy.

Everyone asks women "when are you getting married?" One relative declared to me (when I told her about something I had achieved) "the crown on a woman's head is Marriage".

When Society and Nigerian men expect you as a woman to be constantly available at their beck-and-call, you're not going to be motivated to achieve much.

You cannot have it all. Every hour you spend worrying about your business is an hour away from your loved ones, every hour you spend with your loved ones is an hour away from making money. What you can do is achieve a balance, maybe 60-40 in whatever way you choose.

A friend of mine can see her stomach muscles, she's in her mid-30s, another too. They eat healthy and work out like crazy. Run, join a dance class, even better pay one of these street trainers (those guys exercising) to train you and a couple of friends at a close-by field. They show no mercy, so it will be grueling. Good luck.

Ladies, why fight it, your ancestors also wore Brazilian

Let me hear anyone complain about buying Peruvian hair for N200,000

Abeg, make I go Casabella pick my own o jare!

Anthropology is one of the coolest subjects ever. That's the one thing I would go back to school for: a degree in History of Art and Anthropology, with a minor in Business Administration.

Elaborate hairdos probably symbolised wealth, as servants couldn't run around with such hairdos efficiently. And I'm pretty sure once Akhenatem and Nerfetiti died, their heirs went back to old ways, religions of Osiris, Isis and more, but continued some new fashion styles from their era. After all, the Pharoah and his wife most likely shaved their heads to wear their crowns and had wigs, so nobles used hair extensions to create elaborate hairdos to somehow show they were a class close to the Royalty.

It's okay, but if you wanna charge more, your skills have to grow better than this. Btw, noticed some spelling mistakes in the first flyer (big no-no).

Go online and research on what others are doing, so you can train your eyes towards recognizing good Design and then using it in your own work.

Here's the thing:

If the Cooperative form together, get accountants, legal, an Audit firm and register, there are Nigerians such as myself who are willing to invest in them and get equity in the business. We give you money, you grow the business, pay us back our capital and agreed-upon interest or share of profit and go our separate way.

The only fear is Naija factor. Where money go lost, people you gave money to start to speak "Engrish" and avoid you when it comes back to repayment.

If they package well, there's no reason people won't buy. I would prefer Aba-made to Made in China.

In Nigeria, everyone gives "gifts" to influence decisions and then later come out publicly to declare it as "Favour from God". That's a lie, but we are so used to doing it, we don't know. We can never be free from Corruption, it is our Legacy.

The money GEJ and Fashola give Journalists everytime they come to their office, do you think it is from their salary? Imagine if FD decides to pay Govt workers regular incomes (instead of inflated), do you think Fashola can afford to share N20,000 + some litres of fuel per journalist every weekend (which he does)? The money Politicians use to buy and share rice during election, do you think it came from their pockets and they won't replace it times 200 once they get elected? It comes from stolen public funds, which is funny how people accept the money and rice and then later have no roads, school or light and curse Politicians. You partook of the the Corruption and now your chickens have come home to roost, you whine.

TB Joshua bribed to get a favourable slant to the story, he's asking Journalists to focus more on survivors rather than lost lives. So he can been seen as more sympathetic, after all well over 70% of people believe what Journalists write. And he is liable to charges because as the Head of SCOAN, he would have given permission to his Works Dept to expand the building, will I come and build 3 more storeys on your Father's house without his permission?

The fact that Nigerians have "normalised" Bribery and Corruption doesn't make it "right".

ed2gbi: This is not a bribe. Listen to the audio again. And if insist it is bribe, please kindly explain to us what he bribed them for.

Okay, let me patiently do this:

Say you and your brother were fighting at home and the car window got smashed because both of you were throwing stones at each other. Your sister walked into the fight just before the car window got broken. After, your brother takes a bottle of Fanta+biscuits to her and says "shey you saw what happened, please I expect you to tell Mummy and Daddy THE TRUTH". When your parents ask her, your sister says that she walked in on both of you fighting, but she thinks it was YOU who threw the stone that broke the glass. Your bro gets punished, but you get punished and caned and made to give up your PS.

Your sister was given a "gift" to INFLUENCE her story to favour your brother. That's also a definition of a BRIBE.

TB Joshua did it, Fashola does it, almost everyone in Nigeria gives "gifts" to make decisions and get favourable treatment like getting your passport or license ready in one week, getting your WAEC results out, changing Grades from "B to A" with lecturers, etc. It is very common.


And it is MORALLY WRONG and AGAINST THE TEACHINGS OF CHRIST.

edwife: The problem we have in Africa is lack of knowledge.Why will anyone think that if a couple is not reproductive,the fault is most definetely the woman.So many men out there have low sperm count and unless they know it and do something about it,it will always be the wife's fault.

My close friend went through hell for 4 years in the hands of her in laws,when i told her to take her husband to see a specialist,it was then that they discover that the hubby had no or little sperm count.He was in treatment for a year,and now she has two beautiful boys.

People should just learn to tolerate each other,do unto other.....
As a parent,one needs to be supportive.No woman wish to be barren,none.

A colleague told me about his female friend, who was married with no kids. One day, her neighbour called her and said "I'm sure it's all these jeans you're wearing that's causing your infertility, you need to stop and be more womanly and pray and attend midweek service and this church and that..."

The wife smiled (what else could she do??) and walked away. Her husband had been battling Cancer for some time and treatments were affecting him. Luckily he beat it and survived, and kids came. But the nonsense of that "well-meaning" Neighbour

It is always the woman's fault, even when the husband is medically incapable, it is something she's doing wrong. That's the Nigerian way. It's not lack of knowledge worrying them, it is refusal EVEN in the face of knowledge, to accept any other method. Why would a man subject his wife to several tests and allow his family to harass her, and refuse to do a test? They should both do tests. Even lifestyle affects the libido and spermcount.

Seriously, don't let anyone stress your spouse. I will love my hubby more if he calmly tells his mum she's making a hard situation worse and encourages her to go find things to keep herself busy in the meantime. Do you think a wife is happy not having kids, why would you open your mouth, have babies finished that you cannot go and adopt one if you so badly want a kid to play with?

Dear men who cannot go without for 4 days, please remember that more married women are testing positive for HIV due to your lack of self-control and that more women are deciding to play your game even better than you.

Pastors should start teaching seminars on Self-Control.

OP, calm down, then come and explain better. 3 months is not enough and you clearly have some fault in the matter. You and your wife both are at fault (it takes 2 to tango, my dear).

tomber: May God keep dangote alive to build his refinery and engrace others to build theirs too. Enough of Oil worker and subsidy cabal holding us to ransom. May these oil worker case end up like those of Nitel staff and oil cabal wealth be squandered like Abiola's

Dangote is the WORST person you want in charge of Power. Dangot buys FG, so they pass laws in his favour and put him on the most lucrative Bods of Industries. Because he has FG in his pocket, Fertilizer, Cement and some telecomms companies are struggling. They keep firing people daily, adding more people to the unemployment crowd. All because Dangote wants to be the only producer of all Nigeria consumes and sells. He almost forced us into a unified currency with West Africa (in order for him to transact business easier across borders). We would have been like the EU, every country will be broke if anything happens. If only people at the bottom truly knew what Dangote was, they'd shoot him. The Russians had several Dangotes, now they're a country of rich Abramovichs, poor people and corruption enough to sell weapons to anyone who cares to buy and fight a land-grab war (people on the streets want no part of Ukraine, yet Russian billionaires are funding govt to fight the war).

was tagged by MissMeiya...

1) What was the last book you read?
It was either an Agathe Christie "The body in the library" (I love Miss Marple) or a Georgette Heyer.

2) How Old will you be at your next birthday?
Apparently not old enough. I'm still shocked by human behaviour.

3) What do you love more than anything? I think my mother

4) What is your song of the week?
"Love Me Again" by John Bowman and "Double Wahala" by Oritsefemi

5) Do you still watch cartoons?
Just finished season 3 of "Legend of Korra"! I want new anime titles to watch.

6) Have you ever gotten into a fight?
Sadly, verbally...

7) Favourite food?
Dodo and egg. That dish can cure Cancer.

8 ) Are you lazy?
Technically, yes. But everyone believes I am the hardest worker ever.

9) Are you afraid of heights?
Yes, terrified. It didn't stop me from hiking the South rim of the Grand Canyon.

10) Zodiac sign
Scorpio

11) Favourite thing ever
Either painting when it's going well or lying down listening to rain or reading

12) Can you die for anyone?
I don't know

13) Ever been in love?
I may be falling in love. I'll let you know how far

14) Do you miss anyone right now?
Maybe one of my older sisters. I struggle to miss people

15) Who was the last person to call you?
A guy who may have a crush on me or likes me but doesn't care enough to chase me

16) Last crush?
This crazy, cute, smart, haughty guy whom I worked with. I thought I'd cure of his bad boy ways and we'd have bebes and listen to Classical music together.

17) If you could have one super power what would it be?
Time travel. I would make better choices

18) What’s the most important thing you look for in a significant other?
Kindness.

19) can you go bungee jumping?
Bungee Jumping is for pus.sies! Give me a plane, a parachute and a few thousand feet

20) most stressful thing you've ever done?
Decide to stay in Nigeria, decide to follow my career path, decide to be the person I am

Alrighty! Who should I tag

Joenice: @Onegai, great piece. Your username sounds like Japanese.

It is.

tpia1: must you insist on watching the ball just because males also watch it?

why cant you let them have their own time without always trying to be in their faces?

be yourself, life is not always a competition!

if you like football, then just say you like it as a sport by itself, not because you find men there!

Wow, you read what I typed and that was your takeaway

I frankly don't care if men like football, I liked it and not because men were there (if that's how your mind works, well ) To explain in simple English, everyone watched the match, but my HOD assumed no females watched it because he thinks "Footie is for boys only".

Did I use simple enough English, do you understand now sweetie, or do you want me to make you a crayon drawing so you can comprehend?

adconline: Yes, you can raise a girl in Naija ! You can raise a girl to become next Iweala, Akunyili,Borha. We must teach and demand accountability from our female child.. If she doesn't like science and math, it's our job to teach her like a male child. It's our responsibility to demand that she performs like a male child.
It's our responsibility to buy toys that can increase their logical and intellectual curiosity instead of buying pink barbie and dolls. It's our responsibility to teach her that she can do better in engineering and science than in philosophy and sociology. Why do we have fewer females in science and engineering classes? Our families teach men to think of how their choices in selecting a course/discipline would impact their ability to provide for their family while we just want women to be " educated" for future husbands.. Teach women to be a competitive and prospective income earner. If a male says that he wants to study history in university, your first reaction would be how is this going to put food on the table? But if a female says that, we might say at least she's going to school. Teach equal responsibility and demand equal accountability.

A woman's degree is to make her more marketable as a future housewife. Ain't making that shii up, during final year, my HOD (Engineering) announced that to all the girls. That most of us won't practise Engineering because we would get married, start having kids and complaining we can't go to site, because we're pregnant or we have to get home on-time. Sadly, I've worked with female engineers who use those stup.id excuses. I keep wanting to ask "why didn't you just read 'English, French' or some non-professional course'.

It also annoyed me, the day after Arsenal lost a final to another team, the same HOD came to class, and was gisting about the match with us, then suddenly announced "oh the ladies won't understand what we are talking about, they must look blank when we speak about Football". Why, we don't understand 22 men and a ball for 90 minutes? Is that too hard? Meanwhile, almost all the girls had screamed and watched the match and some had jerseys sef. We just sat there and stared at him.

When I read it on sunday, I couldn't laugh. It was so real and painful. I have a man who would be so delighted if I fixed a weave, acted like the typical uninformed Naija female and stopped reading so much and decided to do a Masters (rather than be an artist). And he met me like this. I am almost about to break up with him for the atheist who likes me the way I am. I will never forget my first, whom when I told him "this hurts", said "it's your fault, there's something wrong with your body", and I almost married him. He was also confused by my choice of career (his mum was a trained lawyer who opened a shop, he thought that was what all women were meant to do after marriage). Thank God for whatever encouraged me to run from him ooooo

One of my colleagues last year (a man in his 40s) declared venomously "Why do women need orgas.ms? That is what is causing a divorce, I have never asked my wife if she enjoyed it, she does because she has children". When I think of all times shii gets said to my face because I'm female.

Or the several times when once a girl has a car, Daddy bought it or she's an ashi.
Or how the fact you don't attend church every sunday is alarming, nevermind your personal morals and ethics are above reproach.
Or how many times I was commiserated with for having studied Engineering, because according to them, "that's why you're not getting married on time".
Or how my mum would chase me to the kitchen on Christmas-day and leave my older brothers to watch tv in peace, as a kid.
Or how some crazy dude at MMIA was shouting (because no-one let him cut the line and chance women) that we were "disrespectful" and if we had husbands, he would deal with us.

Sorry, I had to modify my post: I met this mother at an art store in Ojuelegba, she was buying materials for her son, and we started discussing future careers. She then said "my daughter wanted to study Nursing, but I convinced her otherwise. When she gets married, she won't have time for her family. What if she marries a Pastor, will she neglect him at home?"

That chick wasn't even in SS3 yet. She could have been Nigeria's Florence Nightingale, but her mum felt her marital prospects were more important than her contribution to society.
Why does Sarcasm go over Nigerians' heads?? Didn't they study English and Literature in school.

Depends on whom you ask: a colourist /artist and a Physics major will tell you Black isn't a colour, it's the abscence of Light and Colour (same as White not being a colour). But regular people, yeah, Black's a colour.

19naia: Its just for people with the need to flaunt their excess wealth through clear and conspicuous waste.. There are ambitious people willing to provide the services of helping people flaunt wealth... They may use extra special production and preparation methods that add to the cost, but it is overall not worth the cost and the hype may include the exquisite atmosphere of the place selling it...
I never go to eat at expensive restaurants (places costing more than $20-$30 for a plate).. Once i went to a $60-$120 a plate restaurant to play entertainment on the Grand piano for the customers.. My earnings were tips from customers and a free meal from the menu worth $60 a plate... When i got the food, there was nothing much on the plate other than a few mouthfuls of fish and side serving... The taste was nothing special and i actually enjoyed the taste better of the huge servings of food at the $8 a plate place i normally eat and eat until over full from just one plate.... Grow a good crop in your own garden the way you like and that is the best value you will find in life's menu.. Maybe wild harvest is another best quality if carefully selected to not include ebola or other pathogens...
BTW, beware all these overpriced Japan foods..They have been hiding the truth about Nuclear radiation contamination from the earthquake/tsunami damaged Fukushima nuclear plant..

Well, sometimes the freshness of the ingredients used matters, you can't compare IHOP to a good cafe. I've eaten at some pricey places, and I'll never forget the tasteless crab cake (floating in some coloured liquid they called soup), garnished with sprig of Basil. But I've been to authentic Korean. restaurants for slightly cheaper and it was great!
As an aside, you play the piano that well (because they would expect classical and some jazz standards)? Not bad
I've not seen that specie of Pineapple and Mango in Nigeria. Perhaps the OP can share WHY the fruits are so pricey

shymexx: Firstly, sticking to plan is where it gets tricky because the US is trying to fight ISIS on one hand in Syria, while also trying to arm the "moderate" FSA rebels on the other hand, to overthrow Assad (based on all the statements in the media this week and NATO summit in Wales last week). And that's mission creep right there - with the plausibility of friendly fire against Syrian forces and Hezbollah.

Secondly, if the US views Assad's government as illegitimate, despite the legitimacy it got at the polling boot during the last election. What makes you think the US would view flying in the Syrian airspace, without consultations with Assad, as a violation?

Thirdly, degrading Syria's sophisticated air defense system is one thing. However, once that happens, the West would be sucked into putting boots on the ground, to oust Assad - and also to take on ISIS. Moreover, air strikes against ISIS in Syria would more or less be a waste of time, since ISIS and the FSA rebels are more or less intertwined in Syria - unlike Iraq where everyone, from the Kurds, to the Iraqi army, to the Shiite militias, to Sunni tribal militias are more or less the ground troops taking on ISIS, with air support from the US.

Also, ISIS are somewhat more acquainted to the Syrian terrain(Iraqi terrain is a new one), since they have been fighting there for more than three years - with a huge swathe under their control - and they've been able to build a defense mechanism against Syrian air strikes in that terrain. Evidently, US air strikes won't solve anything - it will just be business as usual.

Finally, ISIS have the covert support of Turkey, Qatar, and Saudi Arabia (especially in Syria since they're the ones doing the heavy fighting there) - and Turkey for example is a member of NATO. While both Qatar and Saudi Arabia are US allies. The whole thing is more complex than you think.

I don't think ISIL (or ISIS) has the support of the Turkish govt (they have civilian support, just as they have Brits, US, Egyptian and almost every nation that has muslims in the west and east flocking to join their ranks). They want a Caliphate (their own kingdom) and Jordan and some other ME countries are beginning to be worried (even Saudi Arabia wouldn't want such a strong force at the backs, they may be sponsoring them in the hopes they stay engaged in Syria and not turn eyes towards their wealth).

Did you hear? There's been a new video release, ISI beheaded a British Humanitarian worker.

Everyone, put this story all over social media, Egypt Air's Twitter handle is @EGYPTAIR till they publicly apologise and give this boy a refund. He has a legal case if he takes it to court. Let us do this now, apply so much pressure that we hurt them. We have the power.

I'm posting now on my blog, if you wanna take a look, that would be awesome. Thanks.

http://alizarene..com/2014/09/the-art-of-conte-drawing.html

shymexx: Bro, the whole thing is looking like mission creep already, with the inclusion of Syria. Just one miscalculation might lead to troops being sent there, and that's a scary permutation. I'm anti-war - and I was planning to join the British Army next year as an officer. But that looks unlikely now due to what's on the horizon. It's sad.

Eh, still sign up. Britain is super-reluctant for this (and they have Brit nationals fighting for ISIL, whom they are cautiously dragging their feet about taking away their citizenship). Most likely they won't step in till their hands are forced.

chaloner: First I will say RIP English , to the topic its reptile..... And pls what is the cost of setting a farm like dat ? And what's the merit and demerit ?

I think it's a good idea, make it somewhere accessible to transport and with a large market (close or in Lagos). Set up will be hard, a place to build a good facility which will be easy for tourists and cleaning are of the reptiles. Get a vet (there seems to a lot of them looking for work) to train your workers. Look for investors (agricultural companies are a start). You can also set up a snake-produce shop in the Snake farm (I've been told Igbo people use "snake venom" to treat ailments).

adebriana: please what do you guys think about Dallas leave in conditioner

I haven't heard much, but look at its ingredients: do you like what you see? Then also try it, it may work for you. I've heard of girls using Petals conditioner as their cowash conditioner and I know someone using Nature's Gentle Touch as her leave-in mix and she's fine with it. I used to through in Emily Millionaire as a deep condish, but I have no idea if it works, just like it.