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DownTime44:
Hi guys


Please i put up this post basically because of my elder brother. I sincerely want to know if i was wrong talking to him, or I could have just let him be. I wasn't myself ever since i talked to him, and i was somewhat having guilty conscience since then.




Please guys was i wrong talking to my elder brother?

Really sad

Save some money and Sponsor him to Learn to Drive a CAR or a Keke Napep.
and then help him apply for Hire purchase for Taxi or Keke.
if he is Serious, you will be amazed with the Transformation in a Year

PrettyBunny:
I am not seeing the niceness anywhere in Mangu.. Lol..I don't have a boyfriend and I can't date anyone here tho..

Just not interested in any of them..All of them na sex starved mofos.. They see every girl as potential sex slave.. Madness..

i Bet you are Still in Plateau today...in 2023
that means you are enjoying Plateau

sisisioge:
Better that you know now to mind your kindness before someone will harm you for being kind. By the way, havent you heard of the mantra " dont start what you cant finish"? Bettwr mind yourself.

Meanwhile, any time you feel like giving money even if na small K, send am to me. I no dey alienate benefactors

Let me Tell You Something:
if Somebody gifts you 2k Daily. You will be Very Grateful the First few days....
But after like 20 days, BELIEVE ME, unconsciously, YOU WOULD HAVE BECOME ENTITLED to the MONEY.
you find yourself asking Questions like:
why hasn't he given me the Money Today?
why is the Money So small...
this Guy is too Stingy...ordinary 2ko

this thing happens to every human.

the Solution: Never help continuously (do it intermittently)
day 1....day5....i not get today....day 20, day50.....etc.....to avoid that Entitlement Growth in the person

sukkot:
See at this point I don't understand most Nigerians anymore. Every time I offer a helping hand to Nigerians they turn to your enemy. I don't understand the dynamics behind it. The whole interaction just gets very awkward after that . It's like they hate you for " humbling " them. It never fails.

But the ones who have a pure friendly relationship with you? Are the ones you haven't given anything yet. So in my everyday life person to person I try to do charity because charity covers a multitude of sins and givers never lack.

So this is a recent case study. This young guy , a security guard was sent by the company to guard the house I stay. I would say about 19 years old. One night I went grocery shopping and I was going through the gate he runs over from across the street and told me he was hungry. So I said what does he eat ? He said he likes indomie . So I went to my place and brought out like 5 indomie and 3 soft drinks and 2 sardines and gave it to him. He thanked me.

Every 2 days when I go out I would do small grocery shopping for him. Indomie and biscuits and soft drinks sardine or bread. A few times when I go out to get bottled palmwine for myself I would get him palmwine or orijin beer he likes. But I started noticing his entitlement behaviour like on the days when I don't buy him anything he would time when I Am coming home and sit beside my door when he sees me carrying my own groceries and he would be looking at me like he is depressed. And he would Always be watching me to see if I am going grocery shopping and he would hang around the car to see if I would come out with grocery.

Let's just say this guy got ridiculously stalkerish and so I called him up 4 days ago and asked him has his salary being paid yet? He said yes. Because am thinking all these things he is doing because he is new on the job and has no money and is hungry so I put up with it for like a month.

But once he told me yes that he had being paid, I in a roundabout way told him I don't tolerate the stalking. That he doesn't need to be following me or waiting on me. Anyway since that day this guy just turned into an enemy. Someone who I have been buying groceries for for almost a whole month just turned hostile like that. Now all that time I was buying him grocery he would do ass kissing stuff like when I drop my black trash bag outside my door he would take it to the bin outside for me but since that day the guy just bone my trash bags lol.

Anyway the point here is this ? You create an enemy unknowingly out of those you help - not family members- because I think it is humiliating for them and they despise you for it, so if you are going to offer charity don't offer it to people you have to see on a daily basis. Just find a beggar in the street that you would never see again. Nigerians are funny, they beg you for money but they hate you for giving them that money especially if it is not a life changing amount.

It's like a guy I gave 5000 naira one time and he thought it was an insult, just a regular guy who I don't even know like that, God is my witness, which 5000 is no money but it was just for him to buy beer for the weekend, you can get 15 beers with 5000 when I gave it to him.

So out here on these streets you have to be savage. No more mr nice guy ooo lol. basically if you are not offering guys over 100k just forget it cuz they would hate you. look for a real beggar who would appreciate 5000 or 1000.

The Bolded is Actually a Book worth Reading.
Being nice all the Time Can be very Dangerous.

even Ladies will hate you for it.
People with Take you for a Fool and for Granted

slawomir:
Damnnn niggar
Isoright

This man!
Where have you been?

jojothaiv:
'Probably' the same thing as the minimum wage.

But I doubt if I will be needing the services of one.

But you paying the Minimum wage ... is considered Inhuman , Devilish and called 'naturally wicked' Nigerians by Most of the Comments here...
including your comment too

a Guy said 35k and they Still called him 'Wicked Nigerian Employer'

CAMP: Isieluku, Delta State
PPA LGA: Worri South LGA

Memorable Experience:
Everyone Loved a Corper there

leroi01:
Hehehe...back in the day...2017 precisely.
I'd aced all tests and interviews for a middle management position with a financial consulting firm (big one).

It was time to meet the MD for the last chat.

HR and his secretary already told me I had the best evaluation results the company ever saw (wasn't surprised ) and the man was looking forward to seeing me.

Myself, oh..well... Let's get it started.

Had a zoom meeting. MD was a young dude taking over from his pops..

Introduced myself etc etc and then, Bam! He asked me-. So... They told me you are smart. I saw your scores. If you are that smart how come you did not graduate with a first class?

Me - excuse me?

He goes ahead - you graduated with 4.4... (looks at transcript) ...how come..you didn't make a first class?

Touchy subject for me cos it was blood sweat and tears. But I smiled and answered , well, if circumstances were different .. I might have, but that right there is what I have.

Him "hmm". Your cv says you've held this position at this place. I know the chairman. Are you sure or I should call him.

I shrug. and smile- As you please sir.

He grunts , then- " you look like trouble. You seem arrogant. You are not humble. The impression I get is almost like you are doing is a favour by attending this interview.

I'm shocked and now pissed. So.. I say...well, sir. I am humble but also confident in myself and my abilities. You have a wrong impression of me (but in my head I'm thinking ... Bros.. if you have nothing reasonable to ask me, Ogbeni... Don't waste my time)

Next - Are you married? No.

Why- Personal reasons

Him-This is an interview. Answer the question.

I smile - Personal reasons.


He looks at me - I don't think we need a secretive person for this role.

I smile- I thought confidentiality was one of the top requirements for the role.

He's pissed but nods.

He asks me- what do you know about this company, I tell him.

He sneers and talks down at me saying I didn't do my homework bla bla.

Last last, he asks if I have any questions , "just 1" I respond.

So I ask. From your perspective as the MD , what can you tell me about your company and its value proposition?

Dude is gobsmacked, he tells me that's a stupid question.

I smile (and decide to be an A.hole) - Is it? I respond? It's your company, is there...a probl. Well never mind. I thought it will be best to hear it from the visionary himself.

Somewhat flustered... He struggles and stammers through 3 minutes of talking rubbish.

Manages to end the interview with some platitudes.. but I already knew it wasn't gonna happen....plus Nah! I don't want to work here.

Looking back that was the most annoying.

Before he met you, He Already Hated that Word 'Smart' attached to u.

OmoOshodi:
SSS interview.....sitting in the waiting room from 7am till 6pm and nobody to tell you someone is coming to attend to you....only for someone to show up at 6pm to come he following day....for 3 days



Only the smart ones will notice the hidden camera in the room and knows that while sitting down there it is already your interview



Lol

Were you Fasting the Whole time?
No food?

detectivejones:
Some employ you as admin turn you to markter, accountant, human resource officer and messenger ontop of that salary is not even sure month end. Nigerians are really wicked.

What i have observed is that:
We Humans Only Complain when we are at the RECEIVING END (like employees)
IF the Table was Turned Around, You will Offer the same Deal to the employee....
i lie?

SavageResponse:
Is 35K salary a living wage?

In actual fact anyone who cannot afford to pay his gateman at least 80K has no business employing a gateman but most Nigerians like to show-off that they have domestic staff who depend on them for sustenance

it is Based of Demand and Supply.
if the Job pay is not ok...Then you Quit... or Manage till you can get better one

this is the case in every Transaction in Life

danzaki63:
Upon all that, no annual Leave, no Medicals, no bonus. It is purely enslavement.

It is easy to Say....Can you provide all the Above when you Employ one?
How much will You pay Him?
Can you Pay Him 100k monthly? Be sincere

jojothaiv:
Funny enough, the 'naturally wicked' Nigerians will still comment on this thread.

Most are on this high horse
But then, Ain't most self righteous..

If you were to Employ a Gate Man today, How much will you pay Him?

TUTU147:
That is why you see many of the domestic staff doing evil to their oga.That is the reason many young guys go into crime in other to survive. We don't love ourselves in this country,how can you pay someone 20k in nigeria and expect that person to be motivated.The man have family to take good care.Money that cannot sub for your tv monthly is what you are paying a family man or woman and still maltreat that person as if the salary maltreatment no do.

see it is very Easy to say the payment is Small....
Until you need to employ someone yourself....Then You will Braze with Reality that it is not easy to pay Salary.

Just think about it for a Minute....Based on your Income How Much can You pay a Gate Man?

You will realize that Sometimes, to pay salary give high blood Pressure to Employer

Oritna94:
Here in KSA, a domestic worker is paid about 1000sars which is about 200k in naira..

so how much is your income, if you are paying such an Amount Monthly?

SavageResponse:
He got it made cos you're paying him a miserable 35K a month?

Go to the UK or any sane country and pay your gatemen 35K and see if you will not be arrested and charged to court by the government for using slave labour!

How much will you pay your Gateman, Your Chef, Your Gardner and your Cloth Washer per month?
Based on your current income

Blossommind:
I want to share what could have landed me in death or in a disfigured state but God said NO, having seen that I only came to hustle for my daily bread. There are cases of this type that people don't live to testify. I shall not die before my time.

Note: please I dont know how to write without errors and as I am in an unstable state now. So apology to English teachers and students in advance if you see errors. I'm a product of evening school.

First of all, I am a hustler and I have this strong desire to become a better person in life despite my background. 30+, father of two who still went back to school to study for a degree for the sake of the future, which is also putting additional pressure on me.

I do house painting and farming. So I got this small painting work that could have help me earn some money which I really needed it, thus, I grabbed it with joy. A one story building. It is one side of the house, given to me by the main contractor. Everything was going fine until at some point when i shifted the ladder to another position, put a stopper at the base so that the ladder won't slip. Everything looked good just like l have been doing all the while before I climbed it. While still climbing far up with a bucket of paint and long roller on my left hand, suddenly, the ladder slipped backwardly and with speed like siooooooooooood....... (like in a second or two) till it crashed landed. You know that kind sioooood sound. Meanwhile, I can't explain when the paint left my hand back to the ground and when I also left the ladder without even knowing, on free fall until I crash landed too. There was nothing to hold or anyway to help myself to land well. Chai, may we not die while looking for our daily bread. That was how I landed on my back roughly and hit the head on the wall. Chai, come and see me in this condition, no how you won't pity me. I didn't even know what to do immediately on crashing on the ground, to cry hungry me but I no fit cry at the same time.

Worse thing is that this kind of fall does not give any room to defend yourself. You just fall helplessly like a bag of fufu and land anyhow. Poor me! This hapoened after 10am today.

As it were, that was the end of the work and am back in the house now licking my wounds. Since the job is at personal-risk, whatever you see, you take. Nobody to complain to for sympathy.

Meanwhile, my second child is less than a month old. Praise be to God for not letting this moment of joy turn to tears, assuming injuries required medical emergency or even death.

To be a man is not a day job. It takes a lot to build to become a man especially, financially.

Right here at home, back/body pain, swollen head with serious headache (as I hit on the wall), dislocated joints (right wrist) and sharp pain around the left part of the waist, all going on around me.

"Brother Bernard" happened to me.

Go to the Hospital to make sure you do not have internal bleeding

28plus:
These days, it's either graduates are talking about Laundry business, POS business, or betting shop. All trash.

While they can earn you reasonable amount of cash, it still doesn't change the fact that it all boils down to lack of vision and ideas. I'm also guilty of this. We lack ideas in this country and that's the major cause of unemployment.

Not everyone will be fortunate to work in the cooperate world, true! But everyone can set up a "formal" hustle that can make you wear that suit and tie.

We only need one great idea.

Great Man,
How much do you make Monthly?
i want to confirm something

Guyman01:
She is in love with Dante while using him for survival till he gets out of prison

Exactly!
Connecting to a Weak Wifi until she gets a Stronger Wifi Signal

Caramia2020:
Lol, robbing Peter to pay Paul.

Peter is the Nice Guy
Paul is the BAD Guy

Ladies Always Love the BAD Guy even when she knows their future is not Secure with Him

Nawttiboi007:

That one no Say ''Make Stray Bullet No Hit am"

LeeSmart:
No wonder oga kunle no gree let me hear word yestaday, e just the disturb me say their company na the most valuable company 4 africa.
Na to try find space 4 my madam sister be that oo

You are funny....
is it by the rank or by the money that enters your personal pocket for Survival

dohyn:
I usually don't like to comment on threads like this because the Nigerian public hates doctors and their minds are already made up irrespective of any explanation you may give.
However, that wasn't a medical student. The doctor is likely a resident in training, but definitely not a student.
2) Hysterectomy (removal of the womb) can be done as a last resort to save the patient's life when all efforts to stop the bleeding has failed.
3) The bleeding caused reduced blood supply to her kidneys, making them shut down, leading to kidney failure and subsequent dialysis.
It's a very sad story and unfortunate outcome.

What Hospital does one get the Best, professional Hands?
is it Private Hospitals?

Evidenx:
Whenever I borrow people money,I discovered it always turn out bad when I want it back, even as far as loosing some friends,so God gave me wisdom to deal with the situation,if for instance you ask me me to borrow you 10k, I will cut it into half,send you 5k and I will tell you, I didn't borrow you the money but a gift from me and that u should find a way to complete it and use it for what you want. That way I have peace of mind and I don't loose friends again.

When you say the Bolded, you have just given the person a Ticket to come back and Borrow Again.

What you should do is:
Have intentions to dash him....But tell him 5k is all you have available to borrow him and even set a date for the refund
BUT never ask for it.....

He will never come back to borrow from you again...Because he knows he Owes you 5k before.

That is the Logic

Lovelyn451:
capital letter yes!!!

Take time out to Read other peoples Experiences above and below....
and wake up from your Tribal intent.

Lovelyn451:
shikenan!!! Chai, u don talk am finish.. flesh and blood didn't reveal this to you! My dear I avoid them like poo poo, once I smell them from far I swerve....omo

So if i live outside the South west where Yoruba People Reside,
I will Have No Problem of Rumors'?

dey Mumu yourself

davien:
I've been accused of being gay too, because I speak good English. Next was that my father did ritual is why we're always in good times. The most recent was that I raped a girl who stayed with me, this was spread by the girl herself because I didn't want her.

This is a Very Serious Accusation. You better Gather your Evidence and Dispel the Rumor. make you go Jail for Fun

Donedeal1:
Good or bad
I love to be mentioned

Better still to be the topic

You would not love to be ignored

It's not better neither

So be intentionally scarce some times.

What if you are Called and implicated in a Criminal Case Like Murder?
Will u be cool with that?
you will realize that khaki no be Leather!

JeffreyJunior:
Silence in public and loud laughter in private, that's how I handle them.

Some have said my dad put me in his "cult" before he died. My pops was never a cult man just that he was not naive in matters of religion eventhough he was a knight.

Many others once said that the gay country affected me and that I could be one.

Another set said that oyibo woman don born pikin for me which was why my mum haff not killed herself over my matter then.

The last trending one was that I died, my mum arranged for me to be buried abroad and covered it up so that umunna people would not take over my papa properties.

Sometime ago, I called my uncle and asked him to do a task on my behalf but he was kinda insisting I showed up fess. I never knew the reason until I went home and visited him in PortHarcourt afterwards. He knelt down and thanked God saying his enemies had been put to shame. He then told me that the rumor was why he was dillydallying. I asked him about my calls and he said if oyibo could clone human being, na my voice go come hard them to forge. That day, I laughed like I was on cheap drugs.

Be Careful moving around in naija o. alot is happening now...abeg

bukatyne:
From your own examples, the rumours have a bit of substance perhaps embellished.

1. You stake a bet with a married man that if he successfully woos a lady, you would give him N10k. Do you understand that you are encouraging a man to commit adultery? While he is ultimately responsible for his choice, you are aiding and abetting him hence his wife is very correct.

2. You bought a partly stolen(it is either stolen or not), partly used laptop for approx N13k. Your neighbours thought you bought it in a honest way and accessed the laptop's value based on the market value. Now, I do not know the living arrangements you have that your neighbours know every new thing you buy however, they are right to assume you have hammered given your new purchase and clean up. Do they have the right to harass you, definitely not.

I would advise you re-evaluate your life style and live a blameless life before accusing people of starting rumours about you.

Exactly.
. Why should he Stake such a Bet. its not Right.
. Why are you feeding kids in the compound? its Dangerous
. When there are terrible harmful rumors like Stealing rumors , call one of the parties and explain how innocent you are. be plain..
make dem no go arrest you before you clear yourself

NigerianAngelo:
Indomie we have been peacefully eating for years?

LOOOL
Do you think Cancer Grows and Kills Over night?
it can Grow undetected for 20Yrs before you detect it.

LoL

BusinessPlan22:
Just finished eating it now.
Last time. Never again

LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOL