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That is a Laughing dove. I honestly believe that it should be allowed to fly free rather than keep it in a cage. Just my opinion though.

chocolateme:
Very cute, went to feed my birds and saw her or him flying around inside my empty chicken cage where I pack their feed. It wanted to escape but couldn't so I caught it.
Feels good to hold a bird after such a very long time..
I can really really take very good care of it because I have a pet old layer chicken named Bridget, I have a Lhasa Apso called Phoebe and i also train broilers for sale which are like 7 months old now and very heavy, weighing about 4.7kg.

I think I am very qualified to keep this bird but only one thing is tugging my conscience.
Is the bird not meant to be free as they always are?
Will it be happy with me taking her freedom away?
Does it eat well where it was before it met me or will she be happy eating more staying with me?
Most importantly, do you think she has a family like babies she left somewhere to go and find food?.. I will feel sad if I let her go but it feels good to have her as a pet.
Don't know what to do..

A significant number of the items on the list are of Western Origins and yet we dey talk say na for traditional marriage...........................!

Ctorch:
A Nigerian man who was getting set to marry his Akwa Ibom girlfriend, has reportedly abandoned the wedding plans prematurely, owing to the outrageous engagement list given to him by his girl’s family.

On the list were a variety of consumables and non consumables expected to be provided by the groom before their engagement which is meant to hold in the lady’s hometown in Akwa Ibom state.

A Twitter user who shared the story alongside photos of the list, said the man in question allegedly fled at the sight of the list.



https://mobile.twitter.com/TheLazyCheff/status/1358763378953584640

I used to feed my dogs in the evening when I had dogs.

trueking:
Why's he on the passenger side?

Whoever was driving may HV been part of the plot

Seun:
You know those are the RNA vaccines that conspiracy theorists are scared of, right?

If they were going to use vaccines to kill us, we would all be dead by now. We take tons of vaccines in childhood and all are imported

I am waiting for their excuses. Was shocked to hear some of the prophesies

his reacton seems not to be merely about the fact that you said it is your MOm that would come but to other issues ffrom the past. You said you talk a lot and this may be part of the issues as in your talking you may have said some hurtful things. Now that said your man has his issues no doubt , his religious beliefs are not in sync with yours and that comes with friction. those are differences that ought to have ben ironed out before marriage but mayb you can still iron out.

you said things have been alright on and off since you both had a talk, so it seems that you both dont want to walk away. So maybe more talking is necessary and rather than just saying i will domy best to make this work, you should both talk about specific conduct that should stop or that annoys the other and let the other judge frankly the level of progress for each pmerson. this thing we calll marriage is not always smooth how we deal with the difficult times can define us.

remember smooth seas dont make skillful sailors. wish you the best.

Vevejoy:
Plesse forget the errors and focus on the content.

So here's my issue.

I've been married for 6yrs and it's been a blissful journey- of course with minor issues here and there but nothing to worry about until May 5th 2020 when I'd say things turned upside down.

We live abroad and struggled to have kids but God finally blessed us with a beautiful daughter in Sept 2019. Child care being super expensive here, we wanted one of our moms to come help us with the baby when I return to work after my maternity leave. So on the eve of our wedding anniversary which was the 4th of May last year, I asked my husband for the say 10th time about beginning the procedure of bringing a mom over to help since I'll be returning to work. He asked which mom and I said in my exact words; "of course my mom" because I know that when a woman gives birth, her mom usually go to help her. Did that change our story? My God, marriage has been one hell of a thing since that day.

My husband said I am selfish, disrespectful, and want to dominate him. He said things will never be the same again and since then, my marriage has been a stress zone.

My husband is numb to my feelings. He's been ignoring me, I've been a nag I'll admit since tue incident last year. I now talk alot and mostly complain about everything whenever we are together. It's sad and I've actually had conversations with myself to ignore him and stop nagging but I continue to do it, I need help on how to shut up and observe.

I can cry from now to die kingdom come and this man wouldn't be moved. He cannot shift his stance because of me at all. He does whatever he likes and disregard everything I say. E.g before this crisis, we had an appointment to see our Dr to start trying for baby number two because the Dr's advised that since we just had a baby, it's best to try for another soonest given that we had challenges conceiving the first one. This man cancelled the appointment with our Dr and has blatantly refused to start trying for a baby right now. He says when the time comes he'll let me know. Up till now the time has not come despite the fact that delaying may impact our chance of conceiving again. What a life!� � �.

Also, he has decided that no parent will come and I'm back to work already. My poor baby who use to sleep till 9am now suffer in this winter getting up at 6am to be dropped off at daycare all because her father is angry and want to make sure he doesn't do anything that will make his wife smile. He'll rather spend thorns of money paying for daycare even after I've told him that I don't mind his mom coming. Mind u, I have a very good relationship with my inlaws, especially my mom inlaw so it's not an inlaw fight.

The worst of them all is that despite living abroad for 17yrs, this man believes so much in native doctors to the extend that I can't even explain. Infact it's something that I've always fought him about and talked against. I've even complained about it to his family. And guess what, when I talk against, he tells his native drs who of course has ignited the fire in our home. Can you believe that in this chaos this man took me on a vacation in August last year that he wanted to clear his mind so we can start a new chapter and be happy again only to tell me that I have been trying to use a charm on him in the past months thats why things got rough. He said the 3 women I am using appeared to him but he is stronger ����. I am laughing because I felt pity and ashamed for him. How can a grown man be this vulnerable to suitsayers? I have never in my entire life visited a native doctor for myself not to talk of going to take a charmI didn'tvisit the native drs when I was strugglingto have a baby and this man thinks I'llvisit one now to charm him. Wondering y he will even believe such a thing. Infact I don't even know any native doctor. So when he said that, I told him that if I had known that his change of attitude is because of this stupid reason, I would not have fought for my marriage like I did. Of course I got so mad and told him a piece of my mind. I am even ashamed of telling people that despite this man's exposure he consults native Dr's in Africa more than even the people in Africa. Infact if they say yes that's what he listens to. He has even paid a flight from here to Africa because a native Dr told him that his dad who raised him to be the man he is today is trying to kill him and he should come for protection.

I decided to tell his mom about the accusation. His mom told me she scolded at him and warned him never to say such nonsense. Well I just pity him and I'm praying for him. But truth is I regret my marriage to him because of these his believes. I just don't believe in divorce and don't even have the heart to move out I would have done so. Mind u, I am 100% independent so it's not an issue of being scared of surviving alone.

Well one Sunday night as usual I talked to him like crazy and he said "all he wants is for our relationship to work and he will put in his best effort with support from me. I said I want same and will put in my best effort with support from him too*. This happened around september and things have been like normal on and off since then.

I have a few worries which I'd like you to advise me on the way forward.
- My husband is heartless. No matter how I lament, cry, beg, approach him nicely. Infact no matter the manner in which I bring up an issue to him, he doesn't get moved at all. He stays on his stance and doesn't care. How am I suppose to live with a man like this. He goes mute when I try having a conversation with him.

- I have a weakness of talking alot which I acknowledge and I'm doing my best to work on it though I'm yet to change completely. But I can say there's a huge improvement. Infact I'm able to walk away now.

Can a marriage really work out out without a compromise from both parties? I feel like I am compromising alot but this man is doing whatever he likes. In all of these he doesn't cheat but has abused me physically 4times in our 6yrs of marriage which I'm still pained about. The worst abuse right now is emotional abuse and I've told him so several times.

We use to be an exemplary and happy couple up till this may 2020. What will you do in a situation like mine With? With a man like my husband who I'd say lacks empathy and a concience how do I deal with him? His mom said she talked to him but I don't see any difference.

I feel miserable right now in my marriage. Since I got married this is our hardest hit and unfortunately it got prolonged probably bc of his native Dr's who told him I am using a charm on him which he believed.


Help me out please

ALl the Vaccines we use from birth are produced abroad. If they wanted us dead we would too dead to be bringing these cosnpiracy theories.

Patented:
You have fled and that is good. Stay away no matter what.

Heartbroken girl hope you r still staying away

that is an osprey. it is not from a Zoo the bands are to help track its movments accross the world..

they should release it abeg.

doesnt look like one to me, they tend to be a bith thicker at this age. You should also look at the parents. Pure breed GSD no plenty for naija and they are more expensive than the average

May she come to her senses quick.

We had Chewing sticks.

but there are still some lessons in what she said

One person was playing bet naija another person was being a busy body.

NA to report them to CBN. then commence an action in court for defamationof character.

Palmerbarry:
Dear Sokoloan, I will be in my best behaviour while posting this.

I applied for a loan a month back which I didn't repay in time. I got a call from an extremely rude official 5 days after I received the loan. She informed me that payment is due and I should do that immediately. I tried to be friendly but she wasn't. I asked if I could pay part but she arrogantly declined.
The next day I got a call from her again with insults this time. I told her she's not professional with her work and that made her worse. She threatened to disgrace me in the worst way ever (via SMS). My phone got stolen that night. A day after she sent the most devastating message ever to all my contacts. How she got access to them still surprises me. In her message, she said I'm a wanted criminal on the run with company funds. I got tons of messages on Facebook and missed calls and messages on my other line - my former employers, course mates, lecturers, neighbors, family, besties, other influential people. I was really mad! I had over 300 contacts for Christ sake. I called her immediately to send a convincing message to my contacts. She was adamant and continued with her insult, I fired back not minding her age. I threatened to take the case to court, but I was financially down at that moment. My sister called her immediately she got one of her text and they ended up insulting eachother. I called her some days after, she was a bit calm, and I asked if she would resend another SMS and make everything transparent to my contacts. She said once the payment is complete we'd discuss that. When the payment was deducted automatically from my account, I called the number, but the new user doesn't seem to know me. She requested for my login number I gave her but she said she can't access my account. Up till now. I think I've been too calm with them and I am taking it up now.

The worse part of it is I lost most of my contacts which means I may not be able to clarify myself. This is the worst thing ever to happen to someone.




I've mailed them concerning the issue and I'm yet to get feedback.

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newworld31:
Even before I became a vegetarian I just can't withstand the sight of animal slaughter. It's one of the insane and most horrific act I could ever imagine. It's quiet unfortunate that the world yet rejoices in this act. Father have mercy

Why do u think so

Akunatakasi:
guy all this unnecessary comparison is shit

Ur opinion. I don't HV to live by it

If your wife was in your shoes what would u expect her to do?

onyxo76:
i got married 11 years ago, a few months to my wedding, i and a female co worker had some fun together since our spouses to be were not in town and we helped ourselves to prevent loneliness.
the female co worker also got married about a year after i did, and has 2 kids presently.
we have not seen each other since when i got married and had to relocate to another state.
she got my phone number from a friend some 4 years and we chat from time to time and sometimes request for some financial assistance from me to meet some needs, i send her some amount if i can but not everytime.
recently she has been asking that i pay her a visit in her city, that she would love to see me again etc.i have turned down her request severally but she keeps saying that i don't want to see her and so on.
i told her that ill try and pay a visit early next year and she's been saying i will stay the night to which i declined as i have no excuse to tell my spouse that i will be away from home for the night.
I'm considering cutting her off completely but I'm thinking of how to go about it, but at the same time i feel it will be quite harsh as she's quite a nice person, I'm simply not comfortable with her eagerness to see me, or is she having a troubled marriage ?

the breaking of the heart is inevitable from what you have described. Ghost her now than risk being haunted later cos after the one month she go haunt u die.

JOACHINpedro:
Ghosting her ma go break her heart.
Person daughter don craze for you before?

Dont sniff at what you dont intend to eat.

You have fled and that is good. Stay away no matter what.

Culprit is dead. you raised the Children. if you are still proud of what they acheived and still feel like they are your children. then tell them but still let them have something in your will. if you feel feel the opposite, still tell them and then dont live them anything in your will.

members of the security agencies dont keep beards generally.

the indirect jobs to be created are numerous. the 5k workers u spoke of need to eat daily, the company will have multiple vendors supplying many goods nad services all creatign value. this is in addition to the Forex savings and earnins that others have spoken of.

Simplyleo:
I understand Dangote will sell refined products to Nigerians at internationally competitive prices.

So besides job (5k workers max), what exactly do Nigerians stand to benefit when this refinery becomes operational?

If you buy day old remember that it will take about 26 weeks for them to start laying so have enough money down.

Point of lay has its own issues too, cos change of environment may affect the birds, you don't know if the buyer has been feeding them properly and you don't know what they have been through.

My advise is buy day old from a good source but make sure you have money to feed them for 20-30 weeks. Use good feed even if expensive. If you want to formulate then pls consult a professional.

Limitless72:
I understand..
I've lived for more than two decades in this side and I've never experienced an activity like this before


So it looks strange to me...

any number of factors could explain changes in animal behavious.
1. it could be a male adn maybe other males hv moved into the area so it is marking territory.
2. it could be mating season and its trying to get its groove on
3. could be a noisy juvenile looking for trouble.
4. could be injured
exoerts would probably give you other reasons too

used to hear a funny bird at night around my former hosu. took months to figure out it was a barn owl. the screech rather than hoot. was a weird sound even scary to some but that was all. so the temptation to use superstition to explain everything we dont understand should be resisted in my opinion.

You probably have rats around hence the presence of the owl or maybe it has a nest nearby.
An owl is just an owl. Like a dog or a cat or a lion it was created by God and is nocturnal. All this killing of owls is superstition not spirituality.

Just leave it alone the same way u would leave a robin alone.

farouknini2006:
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ABI na WiFi only u wan talk

Though shall not let the pressure get to you

SatisfyOG:
This is becoming irritating, for crying out loud.

When I go visiting a family or old neighbours. They'll be asking questions like:

Why are you not married yet?

You are getting old oo!

Time is going, do fast!

And many other words like these...

I mean, will they be there to feed my family when I'm into the marriage? I don't know why Africa is so obsessed with marriage of a thing.

For crying out loud, I'll be just 29.

The numbers of married men disturbing me for financial assistance daily ehn. That's a turn off to get married soon.

Your opinion please.

One one note, the operation will not HV gone ahead without presidential approval from trump.