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Everytime I find myself asking a question its proof that am not comfortable with the whole idea.There's that inner voice telling me,dont try that'.
I treasure that small voice. Do what you feel comfortable doing and as somebody said,better be safe than sorry.

you the same lefulefu that I know of?

Ghanaian/Nigerian? Ukranian.

Toonice:
Most nigeria couples live in a hurrible and poor life and they pray almost everyday that God should help and rescue them to survive.

And those couples that are enjoying today 4get that 2moro can change remember anything can happen.

But ask urself this Quetion when last did u pray for your Man/Woman.

I dont care its on forum so anybody is free to respond.

Its good to pray but its also good to work really hard cz the same God who commands us to pray say's "If a man does not work, let him also not eat". It is from 2 Thes 3:10

Lets not blame God for our own bad policies and poor governance. We only reap what we sow.

Phew settled
Dude had vision. Just made it clear that am in serious relationship and he should get a girl to appreciate his 'good qualities'

Potato

you were the first to welcome me to nl and now its my turn to welcome you back.

I now have a nigerian boyfriend

Nway I missed you.

Tjluv:
@ Pendo,would you mind if it was someone else that's pacing the hallway every 30mins? Chances are that the guy is doing all of those things nt because of you. IMO, it's not a wise idea to go face him. Like Cuddlemii said,take a chill pill or develop a thick skin and btw North and South pole attract( in magnetism)

Ohh trust me when I say so.This behaviour started when I promised him a t-shirt and started greeting him. Its was like the ice breaker and he kept tracking me everywhere reminding me about the t-shirt.Then he started acting funny. See its something my friends have noticed.Besides he never used to do that.I never even knew that he existed,never knew his name he was just quiet and lowly.
But now he walks like hes company CEO,twangs,dresses to kill and speaks loud for me to hear and look up.esp when he gets near my office.
He's announcing his presence too much and everybody has noticed the big sudden change 

Cuddlemii:
@pendo

Abegii leave matter jor. I have a guy close to my office that bugs the crap out of me. Yours is even better but I didn't come to Nland to ask for advice. I tried all options till I finally succeeded.

I have noticed something about you, you give the green light, you like clingy men & love to be chased. But loose interest later probably because you are confused, you like cocky men or you get bored easily. And your response is always the same "I don't like him, I am christain, please I didnt come to Nland for love, I came to discuss issues, Please I don't know what to say to tell him off, I am leaving, when i was young , "

That's the same thing with Satani, Toba, Claremone etc.

The guy in question might just want a raise or wants to move to the mother company so he is sucking up to workers there. Its not all body languages & actions that connote flirting or likeness. Take a chill pill or develop a thick skin.

Babes relax & let it go, let it out. You would make a good wife so let a man acquire the blessing

fyi satani and Toba = 1 .Now let me not even go there.

Do I love clingy men? Why when you are not yet my hubby.You only cling to your wife.I hate telling a man am in a relationship but he keeps pursuing relentlessly. It makes no sense to me cz it wastes time and emotions. When I decide its you then trust me I will give you my all.
See all women love to be chased but for christ's sake we want to be 'chased by the right person' the one we admire from the corner.
Not the one who bumps into you by the roadside or decides to chase you cz they like your face /behind/bosoms. Some chases end when the short term goal is achieved. You get what I mean?
If there's no chemistry at all then why bother really.Allow the person to find somebody else instead of taking them on a useless ride. Maybe if I was a teen.
Second I do not compromise my basic principles just to please and make you feel good. We all have principles dont we? You can mention at least 3 things you can never compromise on.It could be your behaviour,religion, your view on many issues. Maybe am a bit rigid but I try to avoid entering into a relationship blindly.yeah yeah,it may be inevitable but try and reduce the chances of that happening to avoid unnecessary heartbreaks.

And yes Nl is a discussion forum for me and I love keeping it that way. I really love some advice pple give here cz nobody can really claim to know it all. If one wants to know smbody better they know what and how to do it.If they turn you down then no big deal. There are many fishes in the sea.

There's a kind of man that catches my attention. Its not the words,the talk,the profession,the face or what not. Theres a certain boldness that I admire.
I am those people who define a relationship first.If theres chemistry then we both know why we are in it and do stuff knowingly.We know where its headed and wht we expect. That kind of thing.
Nobody will cry later if it fails.

okay here he is doing his thing again on the hallway!

Princek12:
dang! I guess if you are not feeling him there is nothing you can do about it. Maybe you should hook him up with some other girl. hopefully that will get him off your back. lol

Yeah if I owned a dating website I would do that first thing.That is his sweat not mine.If he refuses to open his eyes to the possibilities sorrounding him then woe unto him.
In the meantime. my trap is laid out. I will be glad to see him normal cz right now hes not.

pleep:
and u haven't learned to ignore it yet?

If you read the thread you will get the answer.The more you ignore the more he acts.

Princek12:
I hope this does not turn into one of those stories where this same guy will find another girl at the office, hook up with her, and then you will start becoming jealous of his relationships with his hookups and want him them. It happens all the time. I guess sometimes some ladies act repulsive to guys who sweat them but chase after the knuckleheads they can't have. I am not saying that you are that type of girl, but girls sometime can be funny.

Glad you highlighted that. If I had powers to hook him up with a gal I would have done so so that he diverts attention from me. I want him to impress another gal who will appreciate his efforts.
Hes not mine type.Its cz u dont know me well. There's just no hope. That is what I call vanity of vanities
He doesn't have what I admire in a guy. plus I feel NOTHING at all.
Ever seen something and you feel like itching or lose appetite? yeah thats what am talking about.
Am not saying hes physically bad n.We just repulse

dammytex:
^^^

Madam cool down ooo.

How would you feel if he wasn't interested in you afterwards and he was only trying to use you to boost his ego.

Do you know how annoying that sounds? using me to boost your ego? okay how and why?
By the way his department has many pretty gals. Why not use them to boost his 'ego'( _{if he has any})
Then I will not be guilty of breaking commandment 6.

pleep:
Funny thing is. After he does this for like 2 months i bet she will actually start liking him 

Well been 8 MONTHS! still Dry bones

dammytex:
Hi Pendo,

Please relax. Don't let this guy give you unnecessary heartache over nothing.

From your responses so far, I can tell this guy IRRITATES ME. But then, you did not tell us something; what do you mean by you guys are north and south? ( no chemistry nothing just dry like wood)
Why do you think he's got no chance at all. Is he short, fat, black, with tribal marks,(not we dont have them here) hunch back and does he also snore? (damn I dont even know if he breathes O2) 

Please don't attempt to disgrace him or make him feel less of a man. Whatever your decision is, let him always respect your maturity in handling things.

We guys can be funny sometimes you know. It is possible he knows you feel uncomfortable around him, making him decode it for something else (you falling for him). Trust me; we know when ladies are trying to avoid us and we can read it to have different meanings.

Don't try to put him off. You can smartly turn the table around. Take the game to him. Why don't you start a conversation with him; ask him about his girlfriend, past girl friends and his parameters for selecting girls. Tell him confidently about your boyfriend and why you love him so much and why you can never leave him for anybody else.
Formulate a story about a guy that's trying to foolishly hit on you. laugh it off, saying the guy was only being a fool since it is never possible you leave your bobo. Tell him you hate double dating and anybody insinuating it.

If he insists on his acts, write his name in capital on a piece of paper, wrap it and take it to the next Holy Ghost Service at the redemption camp in prayers.

So far I need God to help me be 'nice' enough to even sit and talk to him. If I approach him he will feel soo fly.
Its as if am presenting myself to him.He will feel like his efforts have borne fruit and the though of that drives me crazy. I want him to stop pacing the hallway every 30 min

If he never made those efforts to impress maybe I would have sat down with him.
But NOTHING gets on my nerves more than a guy that tries to IMPRESS.Complete turn off.
He just did it all wrong from the word go. So now even if he is an angel I have no feeling at all.
He's just an irritant trying to force his way.

I will wait for an opportunity to attack him.Let him bring his game again then I will unleash NL on him

I know I know it supposed to be in biz. Not sure if I posted in the right biz section though.
You are free to make the Apple romantic however.

In a shocking development out of Cupertino, Apple CEO Steve Jobs has stepped down, the board naming Tim Cook as his replacement. The company said "Steve's extraordinary vision and leadership saved Apple and guided it to its position as the world's most innovative and valuable technology company."

In a press release, the Apple founder said he believed that Apple's brightest days were still ahead of it and he hoped to continue to play a role in the company's success.

"I have always said if there ever came a day when I could no longer meet my duties and expectations as Apple's CEO, I would be the first to let you know. Unfortunately, that day has come."

Apple has been inundated with complaints since the launch of the iPhone 4 six weeks ago.

Buyers said if they held the handset at the bottom left hand corner they lost reception.

Apple initially told consumers to hold the phone a different way, then blamed a software flaw.

Apple chief Steve Jobs insisted other smartphones suffered from a similar problem. But, after the company’s share price dipped dramatically last month, Mr Jobs called an emergency press conference where he said rubber handset holders, worth £16million, would be handed out free.

The antenna problems led to influential magazine Consumer Reports refusing to recommend the iPhone 4, despite scoring it higher than any other smartphone.


www.stuff.co.nz/technology/, /Apple-boss-resigns-in-wake-of-Antennagate

In a shocking development out of Cupertino, Apple CEO Steve Jobs has stepped down, the board naming Tim Cook as his replacement. The company said "Steve's extraordinary vision and leadership saved Apple and guided it to its position as the world's most innovative and valuable technology company."

In a press release, the Apple founder said he believed that Apple's brightest days were still ahead of it and he hoped to continue to play a role in the company's success.

"I have always said if there ever came a day when I could no longer meet my duties and expectations as Apple's CEO, I would be the first to let you know. Unfortunately, that day has come."

Apple has been inundated with complaints since the launch of the iPhone 4 six weeks ago.

Buyers said if they held the handset at the bottom left hand corner they lost reception.

Apple initially told consumers to hold the phone a different way, then blamed a software flaw.

Apple chief Steve Jobs insisted other smartphones suffered from a similar problem. But, after the company’s share price dipped dramatically last month, Mr Jobs called an emergency press conference where he said rubber handset holders, worth £16million, would be handed out free.

The antenna problems led to influential magazine Consumer Reports refusing to recommend the iPhone 4, despite scoring it higher than any other smartphone.


www.stuff.co.nz/technology/, /Apple-boss-resigns-in-wake-of-Antennagate

MzDarkSkin:
sis ive been in your shoes before. fortunately when it happened to me they got the hint. one time my boss when i used to work at Aldos tried to terminate my employment because i didnt take heed to his advances. report him? suuuure did!

anywhoooo!

[color=#0055bb] maybe breaking the silence and indirectly let that guy know u are not interest. have u tried that? [/color]

Tomorrow am doing it directly not indirectly.I am doing strategic planning.
Everything is in place so tomorrow its attack then I will live happily thereafter

I am facing him tomorrow armed with MrBrownJays advice.
All I need to do is time him well.I know all the strategic places.

1.The lift
2.At the water dispenser
3.When he stands at the hallway pretending to call
4.He better not DARE come to my desk cz that will be it! I will add more to the advise.

Am fully armed

@MMM appearing at intervals like a commercial break.

@ holy ghost.Nope dear I dont believe in extremities.I am sober
I think I have my Mr.Right already. So this one is intruding.
Hes what. Hes just there! I see nothing wrong with him physically not that I care but hes not it.
I can tell when I am getting attracted to somebody and I will make an effort to try and talk with you.
This one is makes me think of breaking the 6th commandment.

Goldieluks:
Sweetie with all this virtures you display on NL,one would think that your married with kids by now.Wonders. well I hope you don't meet Mr right and make the mistake of telling him your married.well mr right will always stick around no matter what,but don't make the mistake though.

Dear goldie.I started life very early.I was in boarding school from age 9 till high school.
I became a 'survivor of some sort cz I got exposed to all sorts of people,different environment, etc.
I mean you just learn stuff when you are on your own.Then I have been a youth leader
mmh I think almost became a preacher but that is a story for another day. 
Right now I need this dude off my back 

bittatruth:
[color=#550077]He can't be that dumb, don't mind him he's just teasing yu [/color]

When a guy changes his wardrobe I dont really think hes teasing.
When he speaks with a 'twang' ish.When he walkS with a swagger whenever he sees you? lol.
Hes really sweating for nothing and I wish that he stops cz I am just not interested at ALL.
He needs to spare that for somebody else.

I hate dudes who try to impress cz I easily notice.Be normal

@pendo,I thought your married,my bad.

[/quote]Yeah that's what I like.I tell people that I am and trust me.It works wonders.

kokoye:
What if all he wants is for you to keep noticing him and talking about him . . .like you are doing now?

Just , what if?

Then . .I'll say his plans are working.

A lot of ladies ended up with guys they NEVER thought they would date . . just like you.

He's affected you enough to create a thread about him . . . .you are thinking about him, either +vely or -vely.

Can you ignore him . .sincerely?  That might be the key . .if you truly can.

Its taken a whole 8 months trying to ignore but to no avail. The reason for the thread was cz today he crossed the line and got into my nerves.I think he had this 'dare' in mind and he thought he had the perfect opportunity.
So I really needed to know how best to communicate without it blowing on my face.
Rem I said we are like North and South pole.No chance no probability nothing ever.

[quote author=BABE! link=topic=743779.msg8999655#msg8999655 date=1314219786]Madam Pendulum Bulb,  

Yes, it is possible that he's changing his behavior to impress you. It is also very possible that he isn't. So, now what? That's only one way to find out for sure; talk to him about it. However, it seems like you don't have the balls, so you basically have to deal with it. He's not hurting you or[b] making you super uncomfortable, is he? [/b]

If he verbalizes his intention, then, you have the right to tell him to 4uck off.

Btw, don't you like a lil' bit of attention? lol-- Well, I do. I like it when guys act like that (even if I'm not interested). It can get really annoying at times though.

There bolded Babe! Its uncomfortable cz he makes me use the stairs when I find him a lone in the lift.
I say hi to everybody else but him,he makes noise talking on phone from the hallway! I hate seeing him everywhere I go.Hes all over my face! Thats how uncomfortable it is.

Lol attention is good but hey from the right person.Hesnot meant for me.Like I said we are North and South pole.

claremont:
@OP: Have you ever considered giving him a chance? Why don't you just go out with him and hear him out? He may be "the one" God/devil/whoever has been keeping for you for ages!

Good lord.Okay listen Go where? we dont click! at all.Instead of a spark I feel a repulsion.Now what's that.
That acting gets into my nerves! Ever seen somebody act and you get nausea? thats it.
I remember pretending to talk to my sweetheart loud on phone so that he hears.
I even shout that I am having a hot date in the evening in his presence to repulse him but he just doesn't get it!

Now I feel like shootin his head off. 

I think mine issue is more complex.

If you ignore they will stop calling altogether.
What about giving the excuse that you are unavailable to talk when he calls several times?
Eg.if he calls 5 times in an hour.Answer 2 and act busy in the other 3.
Don't show that you are always available to chat all the time.

SAFO:
Pendo just be blunt with him.

Tell him if he doesn't leave you alone you'll drive a rusty nail thru his balls, then sew his azzhole up and keep feeding him till he explodes.
I betcha he backs off

I have to sugarcoat that a bit, for it to come out of my mouth.Its too rusty.

Love it.

^
But this one is worth ignoring.
We are like North and South pole.
No probability of anything ever working out no feeling,no attraction,hes just there like everybody else.
And hes the 'irritating and annoying and pushy kind'.

MzDarkSkin:
[color=#0055bb]i'd just pretend I have no idea what he is trying to get at or say.  [/color]

Tried that in vain.His actions are too loud to ignore! Its as if it gives him more energy.

MRbrownJAY:
@poster
- simply ask him if his slick moves are to try to impress you. . . . . . . if he says YES then simply voice your mind, and if he says NO then reply:"oh thats good then because i thought you were showing off and i would have hated to blow you off and ruin our business r/ship"

I was having this thought on my mind but I didnt know how to go about it or whether it was the right thing to do.I don't want it to blow on my face 

So now I need to 'time' him when he attempts the stunts. At the lift,or when getting drinking water,infront of his workmates,or cut him short when he pauses to model or talk on phone.
I need a perfect opportunity to be able to do this and get him back to his normal self.

mmh i feel some relief.

Ok violent what is the spray for now?
I care less what he smells

ronkebp:
Ignore that body language, as long as he has not uttered anything, just let him keep himself busy by doing all those things, na him go tire, i know such behaiour could be irritating, especially when you are not into him, just look the other way, 

And the more I do the more intense it gets.I have observed this since the year began and its graduating.
It's as if hes trying other tactics to get closer. See today he came to my desk! Never done that before.

sexkillz. This is what I mean by body language'
1. Leaving his office and crossing over to my side by the hallway pretending hes making a phone call to get noticed.He never used to do that and nobody else does that.
2.Almost modelling on the hallway.His walking style has changed. And takes longer to walk to main door than before.
3.Opening the door for me all the time he sees me walk out.He never used to do that
4.Almost stalking me.Everywhere I turn Hes there.I dont know how he senses that I have left my seat.
5.I now use the stairs if I find him on the lift.Infact am now avoiding him.

I just realised that am also using body language to put him off. . Absolutely crazy.

That is no answer Kokoye. I said Body language speaks more and everybody notices as well.
Can they be all wrong?

Sober and mature please.
I want to do exactly that without hurting his feelings.
We occupy the same floor but separate departments infact different companies.
I work for mother company while he works for our local partner. So we are like one.
I made a mistake of promising him our company branded shirt and that gave him licence to start acting funny.
He started talking to me,dresses to impress,leaves his office like every 30 min and passes by the hallway as if he's modelling just so that I notice him.
He opens the door for me,and whenever I go to get my water for drinking hes right behind me, 
waiting for the same.   . As if we share a stomach.
He even talks different when he meets me! My friends have noticed and now make fun of me.
See I cannot tell him openly cz he has not expressed his feelings but his actions speak louder than words.
Hes just annoying and I want him to stop trying hard to impress cz there's no hope. (as in NO HOPE)
Today he had the audacity 2 walk over to my desk and ask for a spare key to the main office door from me yet hes not the one qualified to do that. And that alone took him like 5 good min!
Seriously I increased the volume of my lptp and acted very busy in an effort to show him that hes disrupting me then dismissed him very fast.
Next he has guts to wish me a good night with a 'twang' Yet that is not how he speaks!

Okay pleeeease how do I tell this dude to stop trying hard to impress me?
Note; I cant tell him directly cz hes hes only communicating through body language not verbally.

Note this please: I HAVE ABSOLUTELY NO INTEREST IN HIM cz am into something else.

Tips tips tips I need.I will file them and always retrieve whenever a similar situation arises.

Please keep it clean.

^^lool at grimacing.
They look cool.
let them come back from hols

Just a question.

Why does prostitution, juju and blood sacrifices go hand in hand in nigeria.You hardly read a story on prostitution without the mention of juju.

Theres even juju in Italy.I think I read that here sometime back.