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1forall:
The question could also be framed as:

Girls, can a guy impress you without spending?

I've never been an advocate of spending to impress cos its just creates a false basis for everything that might follow.
And as much as girls irresistably fall for it, guys themselves can be shallow enough to apply it so both sexes are to blame.
But at the same time it all depends on what both parties are looking for from each other 

BCuZiMBlaCk:
lemme get this straight, are u saying u've never spent yo cash on a girl?

lefulefu:
Pendo so after Obinna your igbo sugar daddy don spend all the spendable on u, yu still get mind come here open your yeye mouth for here abi?

MarcAnthon:
@OP, why do girls always like to sit back and let guys do all the talking? Pretty dumb. The guy is supposed to spend on you, talk to you, impress you, love you, etc, etc,  What do the girls bring to the table aside a fine face (for those that are fine o)? Pray tell,  I get peeps hitting me up on calls and chats all the time and going silent after saying hello (expecting me to gist them, i think say na u first buzz me?) or a girl just sitting lamely b4 you seeming to say 'oya gist me'. You no get mouth? I tire o!

lailaiwala:
pendo,
the guy's full of shiiit. making himself look like the victim. i almost bought it too. did you see where he admitted being a rage-a-holic and beating on her? what a douche!

op,
forget "she's killing me." if you keep writing silly shiiit, i'll come over and really kill you!

MRbrownJAY:
@poster
this is a double edge sword issue:
A) any lively/cheerful man can get closer to a woman, regardless of his financial status. the catch is that NOT all men are equal. so most will use whatever they have to try and impress women. if they have NO qualities and entice women with money then the joke is on both of them.

B) most men who criticize stoopid spending while in dating, do so because they ultimately know that these spenders are spoiling the field. these women get used to such brainless spending and when we (real men) meet these babes later on down the line, we have to do a complete brainwash/reboot to get this babes back to the real world.

C) we cant really blame men who do such silly spending because its their money, and thats the kind of r/ship they want to be in. some men WANT/NEED to have women depending on them, it makes them feel desired, important etc. therefore to THESE guys, spending is the ONLY way and not viewed as wrong. These are the guys who transform into abusive partners later bcz they become controlling.

D) sadly, the way to "SOME" ladie's heart IS via Mr Biggs/BB and gifts etc. we have to be honest about what kind of women are out there. some SINCERELY believe that the perfect man needs to be generous therefore they cant really get close to a poor guy. i dont blame these gals, i blame society for such way of thinking. if we all had the same financial status then life would be better but it aint like that. some  aint got nothing and dont want to date someone as destitute as they are. yep though a bit risky cz u end up receiving care but not love

E) as for you saying that spending IS necessary in dating, i will say yes so long as women understand that spending is a two way street. ANY women who think that only men should spend in dating, is the reason why we have this problem today.
- many frown when a man say: "let's go dutch? I read here that its immoral for a lady to say utter this phrase. That it demeans the man.
- many are thought from a very young age that men should pay for dinner. blame society
- many believe that dating us is a favor TO US, and therefore spending money is the compensation for that privilege. if she doesnt know what she wants
- many men/women lack basic communication skills and therefore men need to get them to places where their mouth will be full, and less talking will be required/involved. lol true dat. The reason I said some dates fatten u up only.

there are many way to impress women without spending, it all depends on what kind of women you are trying to discover, but having her laugh, and making her feel comfortable enough to open up, will get you half way there. Now that is what.

dabrake:
Me wey no get swit mouth nko? As i no come get dat kain money(at my present phase) to troway nko? Wel, i thank baba God sey im deposit some kain things inside mi wey allow babes dey look me.

Scooby1:
Poster you can reach on:-
yahoo_yahoo@yahoo.com

or

419runs@yahoo.com

am waiting

tpacalipse:
Let us stop deceiving ourselves " when poverty knocks at the door, love jumps out at the window" 

Floxyluv:
Without money, words are empty. Love is good and money is important, very important.

coogar:
i can impress any woman without money. it's the easiest task for the average nigerian male but on the other hand, i am not foolish - i know money talks!  

coogar:
my friend, action speaks louder than words!

you cannot really have a nice time with a newly-met babe without spending!
there will be dates, someone has to pay for those dates. even if we go dutch on the bill on the first date, the subsequent dates would still put the man in a position to spend more.

besides, babes want their men to pet them. they want to show off to their less-fortunate friends who have losers as boyfriends. so the issue of spending is very vital. it's not like men go out of their way to spend just to impress. for many of us, it's a routine to enjoy life. if i take pendo89 to paris now to shop, i am not trying to impress you. that is where i shop normally.

onuora87:
Can't i regain it without having a job? cos the thing is i still buy her gifts and give her money. I've asked her over and over again if she doesn't want to be in the relationship anymore and she says "ANYTHING U WANT IS OK BY ME", what do i do?

Am so in love with her i don't know what to do.Oh yes you do. Focus on getting a job. What is important now a job or the gal? when you have a job they will come like bees including her.

KnowAll:
what happened to the Burundis?  if this video is anything to go by the Kenyans have a hell lot of battle in their hands.