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fuckerholic:
Says who ?

Mprex:
Erm... One of my NL admirers (clevvermind) created a thread on things husbands should not do to their wives and i think i should produce a counter thread for that.

So these are the 8 things i feel ladies should desist from as married women

1: Dont think you are the Project: its true that he has to woo you, chase you, court you and all that but once you both are married. You become his helper. Dont ever have the mentality that he married you to pet and care for you. Its true he will do that but that is not the main reason for the marriage. You are not his life project rather you are to assist him achieve and attain his life project.

2- Dont Turn Him Against His People: dont turn the mother that bore him for nine months into a witch in his eyes pls. His relatives shouldnt become his enemies because you married him. Dont destroy the family relationship.

3- Dont Try To Change Him: You met him that way. You loved him that way. Why are you trying to change him now?. If you met him drinking alchohol, brace yourself to put up with it. Dont try to change him. You are not the HolySpirit.

4- Dont Be Too Familiar: dont be too familiar with your husband. Queen Vashti lost her crown to Esther because she was too familiar with her husband. Her husband sent for her and she refused to go. Dont get too familiar. Dont forget he is still your head. Still respect him.

5- Dont Stop Looking Good: this one is a major one. He met you looking sexy, fabolous and great. Dont stop looking that way. Even after having kids, hit the gym and still keep fit. Dont forget that he sees fresh babes every day as he goes out. Men are moved by what they see. Dont stop looking good.

6- Help Him On Bed: i wont talk much on this one but please dont make !sex! boring for him.

7- Dont Nag: pls dont nag biko. Instead of nagging, pray to God. God can change his heart, you cant change his heart.

8- Dont Try To Train Your Husband: you are expected to love your husband not to train him. If his mother that has been with him for the first part of his life cant change him on certain things, dont think that you can. Just help him.

Culled and Modified: Pst Mrs Mildred Okonkwo

Ilekokonit:
If you say my assertion may not be wrong, what is the problem with speaking the undiluted expectations of most men who are raised in Africa with proper african values as per the rigid aspect, i believe that if you don't stand for something, you will fall for any thing and also, thou shalt not follow a multitude to commit evil.

Thats one thing like about the way Jamaican men and women interrelate. The Jamaican woman NEVER tries to usurp their mans authority. If they do, gbege go happen for that house thats if a Jamaican man wants to be tied down to one woman in the first place.

There might actually be a lot of wisdom in the Jamaican mans refusal to be tied down by one woman. But we Naija men who try our level best to raise a happy family with one wife and kids and we get so disrespected by these our "educated" feminist wives that you are left wondering if one should instead go for a non-fetish illiterate woman in order to have a peaceful long life.

Nowadays repeated societal misnomers have given rise to a situation where a lot of young African men have forgotten or don't know that the man is supposed to be the head of the home and that a ship is meant to have one captain.

To the feminist's, I say Teacher Don't Teach me Nonsense. It is simply unafrican for a woman to wear the trousers and give the man the skirt. Oloun maje. God forbid !!!

Because every woman is shouting their man down and a lot of men are accepting it doesn't mean it is right or the men are accepting it in all sincerity.

Finally, women stop hen pecking your men if you hope for the union to stand the test of time.

Definition :- A hen pecked husband is a man whose wife never stops picking on or criticising him.

To dominate or harass (one's husband) with persistent nagging.

http://wiki.answers.com/Q/What_means_henpecked_husband

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BlueMurder:
The inspiration for this thread comes from Lizzymomma's thread on bearded ladies and their travails.

It seems as though more and more young men (myself inclusive) are greying up prematurely. I am on the right side of 30 at the moment but judging by the frenetic rate at which my black hair's being displaced, i could be all grey by the time i cross to the "other side"

Initially, i used to be bothered about all the snide remarks about being an old man, being accused of age falsification and all that, and i was even tempted at a point to start dyeing my hair. However, i now take all the unpleasant remarks on the chin as i can't quarrel with nature abeg

So, greying young men, how do you cope?

Ladies, would you consider marrying a young man who has the hair of a 60 year old?

Sophyrocks:
You have not answerd anything. just a simple question you cannot answer. u are typing long epistles explaining what? too what end? !! are you a perfect man? do you deserve a perfect woman? Can you do all that is in the Op for a woman? YES OR NO. that is how people fail english!!

Sophyrocks:
Mr man, you have not answered my question. are you perfect? are you sinless? can you do all in the Op for a woman? just answer!

Sophyrocks:
So that means you are perfect. you can do all of what is in the Op for a woman perfectly yes?

Sophyrocks:
It seems u also fantasize a lot like the Op. Do u smoke igbo while being in a trance? How can u say perfection is possible with an imperfect person? What planet are u from? Are u perfect?

Sophyrocks:
Helping who out? he is fantasizing. Goodluck in his searrch for perfection. he has a lot of work to do on himself. he has issues. women have dealt with him. He strikes me as an emotionally and physically abusive person

Sophyrocks:
Look at this list. Too many unrealistic expectations. More like fantasies of the typical african man living in the stone age forgetting the world is constantly changing everyday. Wake up!! You think real life is all about lists? woman wey go attempt all these ones go die off like chicken and surprisingly her typical african husband go marry woman wey no fit do 5 in this list.

kentozybee:
A Letter To Single Men
Hey guys, how are you doing? How has life fared
with you lately?


The hustle and bustle of becoming a man ain't
an easy job, I must confess! But with God and
diligence in fulfilling purpose, we'll get there.


I write this letter to you to point out some things
which you ought to know before marriage or as
you continue in that relationship.


This letter is strictly for men, not boys or players.
First concerning how you treat ladies. I know
quite alright that ladies are emotional only few
are not. Please, don't take advantage of that and
inflict emotional pain on them.


If you know she's not going to be your wife,
there’s no point promising her heaven and earth
just to get her in bed.
If you think you're smart, your smartness cannot
prevent the nemesis or daring consequences that
would one day catch up with you.


It's better you avoid the consequences of an
action because of its few minutes pleasure than
to face its agony and regrets in the near future.
What are you doing about your life and future? I
know it's trendy to go clubbing and indulge in all
youthful exuberance. See, life doesn't go on a
stretch forever and every time wasted cannot be
recovered.


If at age 30 or close to it, you haven't define your
life or you're still depending on friends, family or
relatives, you need to work on yourself.


Where do you put God in your life? Consider God
in the time of your youth before it's too late.
Many of you who turned back on God will
someday run back to Him for help. If you cannot
dance to the devil's music, it's better you start
learning God's steps.
Hear this guys, love isn't sex! Don't tell a lady to
prove her love to you because you want to have a
'taste' of her. I know everyone is going haywire
with premarital sex but you can choose to
abstain.


Apart from it being sin against God, it will make
you vulnerable to STDs and some problems
'rubber' cannot prevent.
It doesn't matter if she calls you names if you
choose to abstain, or you become an object of
mockery amongst your friends, run for your dear
life.


Think about your future and life hereafter. Don't
give your strength to strange women, preserve it
for your wife.


Have you discovered your purpose in life? That
very reason why God has created you?
Jumping from one lady to another without
discovering your purpose on earth will make you
miserable and waste away in life.


Know your purpose in life and be on track to
attain it's fulfillment before you think of going
into a relationship. It's not difficult, it would
only prevent you from distraction.


Watch the company of friends you keep. Are they
contributing positively to your life or they are
emptying you of virtues and opportunities?
It's not a must you hang out with friends if you
do not benefit from them. You can stand alone
with God and make lasting impact than to keep
dozens of friends with no footprints in the sand
of time.


Man up guys! Build your financial, spiritual,
mental and emotional life. Only a crazy man
beats a woman even if she pushed you to the
wall. There is a button of patience to press to
control your anger.
Work on your mental development. Read good
books to acquire knowledge and skill. Get
intimate with God so that your wife wouldn't
become a victim of false prophets or you become
a spiritual babe in handling matters of life at the
homefront.


My guy, you're going to be a father someday.
Don't do the things you wouldn't be proud of
your son to emulate or would want anyone to do
to your daughter.


If you wouldn't want to leave a bad legacy for
your unborn children, don't tread the path now.
I'd have love to tell you more but I believe you
know the importance of life and time and I'm
constrained due to space.


Don't waste away chasing every Tom, Dick and
Harry for sex. Conserve your energies and
channel it into a more productive cause in life.
I hope the few wise ones would treasure this
letter, share it or send it to a friend.


Thank you for your anticipated response as you
make amends in areas where necessary.

DailyNews:
Good reason y every man should think twice before helping a woman who isn't his: wife or sister to become successful in life- its always a waste of time and resources!! Help your fellow men who will always remember and even help u back when u need them.

Most women are ungrateful and never remember past once they become a bit successful in life!

All the guys killing themselves and fighting each other cos of women, take note cos ladies don't care about you aside the help and assistanc u can offer them!

And to think that Linda Ikeji has been busy bragging that no man ever helped her became who she is makes her so arrogant, ungrateful and pompous!!! Gosh

I seriously agree with you bruv. Only help her if its something you are willing to forget, for me even if a man forgets, that of a woman pains most!

I always say this: every successful woman u see was made by a man- take it or leave it!!