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FreeSpirited:
Guys, When you want to date married women, women who are like 5 to10yrs above in marriage are the most vulnerable to fall into your trap. Many times they crave attention..or are just bored of their husband.
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It's not gainsay when they say the first 5 to 7 years is the most turbulent in marriage that can break or make a marriage.
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The story this young woman detailed above is a typical cycle of almost all marriages. The point our OP finds herself, for an average lady, after trying to endure or make things work will just succumb to the pressure of guys out there...and before u say jack..smart bold guys are already pounding her pvssy with all alacrity.. It's natural these days.. especially if you are in the business of chyking/chopping married women. You will know this.
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It's only a matter of time if nothing is done before this woman starts riding the BBC of a guy who gives her attention and tickle her fancy...Naso e dey start...Nothing new.
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That's why to me, fidelity in marriage is overrated..cos most times couples have broken their vow long before their significant other realises.
But in her situation, some women will deliberately go out and give in to the advances of their admirer just to kill boredom, depression and feel happy. To hell with marital vows..women do this most times to be Happy. However, the smart ones still find a way to balance home demand by not making it affect the integrity of the marriage...what they do is just flow with the marriage and not stress too much for the attention of their busy husband since he's not ready to be disturbed.
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In thesame vein, the busy husband most times is also somewhere cheating with a university or polytechnic slayqueen cos he's also bored of her wife....That's the paradox of marriage.
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You see... cheating on both sides maintains the marriage and happiness of both party codedly. Argue with me all you care...that's the reality..
Meanwhile, the stupid couples when they start the cheating game, they transfer the bottled anger and aggression on their partner which usually cause breakup......While the coded smart ones maintain their marriage and we keep praising and complimenting their marriage as the best thing that ever happened since Adam and Eve.
May God give us wisdom in all we do.

emoboy4u:
Why will you move to whatsapp when anyone can find the thread on nairaland and benefit from it many years to come?

Bloomeverywhere:
Thanks Op. Pls who applied for Unilorin masters? I applied since last year and I've not heard anything eversince.

Sermwell:
I have over time realised that I find it difficult to give larger amount of money in church. Most times I struggle to give #50 or even #20 as offerings in church. But I have always find it easy to give large sums to persons in need in and outside the church.

Quite recently, a brother accosted me in church with some challenges about his wife's childbirth in the hospital, I went with him and paid off 45k to discharge them. Aside him, I have given up to 100k (if not more) to persons in need this month alone.

But I struggle so hard to give larger sums in church. Even today, I gave #40 as offering in church when I actually have larger denominations in my wallet.

Funny enough, on my way out of the church today, I met my school mate and we went to my house together, although he didn't state categorically that he's in need, but he told me how he has been out of job for 3 months now. After the visit, I gave him 10k from the same wallet I gave #40 as offering in church today.

My question is, what could possibly be wrong with my giving in church? Is it trust issues or I consider it better to give to persons instead of the church?? Is anything wrong with my style of giving??

I need answers please!!

Zzor:
Please Valentine doesn't mean sex and ladies don't fall for that sweet talk, irresponsible men are all about looking for who to devour.

JourneytoEL:
Luke 10:38-42

38 As Jesus and his disciples were on their way, he came to a village where a woman named Martha opened her home to him. 39 She had a sister called Mary, who sat at the Lord’s feet listening to what he said. 40 But Martha was distracted by all the preparations that had to be made. She came to him and asked, “Lord, don’t you care that my sister has left me to do the work by myself? Tell her to help me!”

41 “Martha, Martha,” the Lord answered, “you are worried and upset about many things, 42 but few things are needed—or indeed only one. Mary has chosen what is better, and it will not be taken away from her.”

JourneytoEL:
Luke 10:38-42

38 As Jesus and his disciples were on their way, he came to a village where a woman named Martha opened her home to him. 39 She had a sister called Mary, who sat at the Lord’s feet listening to what he said. 40 But Martha was distracted by all the preparations that had to be made. She came to him and asked, “Lord, don’t you care that my sister has left me to do the work by myself? Tell her to help me!”

41 “Martha, Martha,” the Lord answered, “you are worried and upset about many things, 42 but few things are needed—or indeed only one. Mary has chosen what is better, and it will not be taken away from her.”

Interesting15:
After publishing the article "When Your Boyfriend Is Disturbing You For Sex" some days back on sundayakanni.com, it is necessary to also discuss with guys.

Manhood is sacred, and male folks have been adorned with unique glory by God the Eternal Creator. As expected, the evil devil is aware of this, and he is extremely jealous. The devil hates you sorely, and he is already eager to do what he knows how to do best: "steal, kill and destroy" (John 10:10).

In history, and all through the Bible, there are several incidents where the devil successfully ruined glorious men and turned them into ashes. He utilized several mediums, particularly via members of the opposite gender, usually through illicit sexual encounters. One glaring case study, as far as such a discourse as this is concerned, is that of Samson. As men, we should learn from Samson's brief life, so we won't fall into the same pit he fell into.

First, before Samson was born, he was ordained by God to become a great and mighty deliverer. In the same vein, I want you to know that God knew you before you were born, and He has already destined you to be great. He cares for you, and He has good thoughts toward you

Again, GOD endowed Samson, so he could fulfill his destiny as a Deliverer. Samson's major ability was his great strength, and it was enough to make him a significant man in his day. You too as a man today, God has deposited in you qualities and endowments meant to help you fulfill destiny and take you into greatness. Just discover them and nurture them by His help.

Nevertheless, Samson's endowments attracted immoral women. Like Samson, immoral women will always come your way too.

Samson's greatest mistake was operating outside the Will of God, and he paid dearly for it. As a Nazarite, he shouldn't touch unclean things - but he did (Judges 14:9). He shouldn't have anything to do with immoral women - but he did (Judges 16:1, 4)

In the same vein, God your Creator has given you loving instructions in His Word, asking you to be separated unto Him, and to run away from sin and anything that defiles.

Samson went against God's Will as far as relationship with the opposite gender is concerned. The right thing for him is, when it's time to get married, he should go for one of the damsels among his own people - a daughter of Zion, and not amongst the immoral daughters of the unbelievers. Don't forget what the Bible states:

"Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness?" (2 Corinthians 6:14)

And of course, the marriage bed must be undefiled, as God's Will for sex is that all manner of sexual pleasure should be shared only between a married man and his female wife inside the safe confines of their marriage institution.

As a man in this generation, you must learn wisdom and learn to tame your healthy sexual urges (hence they put you into trouble). You should not have anything to do with just any kind of lady. Many people (both males and females) out there are possessed by demons, and are used by the devil to lead others into destruction. Yes, in fact, many beautiful looking folks out there are actually direct agents of the devil - terrible and evil witches, belongs to dark kingdoms, and are possessed with evil spirits. Your girlfriend is likely one of them.

The right thing in God's Will is that, you should first develop an intimate relationship with Jesus, giving Him your all and making Him your Lord and Savior. If you are yet to do this, simply open your heart and tell Him, "Jesus Christ, come into my life and save me"

As you grow in your relationship with God, He helps you discover your purpose. This is when you can now start thinking about a relationship, with marriage in view. So, what you should do is to allow God connect you with one of His daughters (as you are now a son of God), and you start what is known as courtship - becoming fiance and fiancee, with marriage in view, and not indulging in sexual affairs till marriage.

The boyfriend and girlfriend romantic relationship thing is not in the Will of God, and it's used by the devil to spread immorality. What then should you do with such girlfriend? Break such relationship and go your separate ways. Don't allow romantic 'love' (which is lust in reality) lead to your fall (both now and eternally in hell fire). Generations awaits your rising. Please don't fail. Jesus loves you.

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DaddyRochie1642:
I couldn't help but notice how really happy that woman is to get married to that man, ... It really shows that woman is Truely getting married to a man she Truely Loves and totally Respects and will do anything to Fight for that man and her marriage.


I can assure her, as Long as she remains Loyal, gives him absolute Peace Of Mind and Totally Submissive to that man, that man will be willing to go out of his way and bring the world to that Woman's Feet.

Look at that Man's face Closely and you'll understand.