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Kuriosmynd:
It's too late to be a nuisance. 12:02 am midnight

Cerebellum:
Mumu boy

Goan bring your gf, I'll help you totori her

Josphine4good:
Because something or someone was chasing the chicken.

eddykaka:
this is not common sense anything, it's common shit... who go reason thi, kind nonsense, this op been no get any plan to dash anybody even 1 kobo

donestk:
Evidence shows that most first borns are not biological children of many fathers. How does this happen?

Emotional weakness of a woman. Alter vows does not negate okafors law from playing out.

A married woman keeping male friends still result to lunch date or beer evenings.

Social media chats with other guys stirs up emotions despite sharing same bed with your wife.

A woman confided in me that every woman including herself is slutish.

How safe is it to allow your wife keep male friends?

Shalom.

francislin:
Good morning guys, hope your night was great.

Am in a dilemma right now actually don't know which decision to take at this moment.

Am so sorry am going to stress you guys with a little long right up.
I met my fiancee with whom we have been in a relationship for more than 4 years now and we are already preparing for marriage before the end of the year.

The issue started when the pastor who is counseling us told us we have to make sure we are open to each other and no secret should be kept away from either of us.

Now the issue is when we got home after the class i told her i don't want to keep secret from her anymore as been advised by the pastor and she also did insisting i start first which i did knowing fully well i haven't been that faithful as a guy to her. Actually when i met her she was a virgin, i was the one who dis flowered her, i knew fully well she has never cheated on me based on my own knowledge and understanding, she has been there for me even right in her days in school while she was doing her ND, she visits me anything she is free and doesn't receive calls from guys as expected from ladies who go about, we know each other password and we use each others phone.

When i told her how many girls have had things to do with while we are dating, how many have slept with while she was in school and even while she is around but unaware, i made sure i clear myself with the hope of entering our marriage without any secret even with those she suspected which i denied initially.

I was so surprised when she told me as well that she had a fling twice swearing its just twice with 2 different guys and am the cause of it. stating she only did it once with each of them out of anger and neglect. Although i knew very well am to be blamed in most aspect which she insisted anytime we had issues i always threaten her with breakup and name calling but i told her that is not enough reason for her to do such a thing because i know myself very well i can't stand the sight of a cheating woman that has always been the major causes of my break up and she has been crying insisting i pushed her when i told her i no longer want the relationship when she was in ND she met a guy when we broke up and when she came back we settled again and she left the guy and said she only slept with him once and the second guy was when she was doing her I.T we also had issue she insisted i was calling her all sort of names and she needed someone to confide in and that was how she did it and she regretted every bit of it and she has been praying to God for forgiveness and she doesn't know how to tell me but she swore with her life that those are the people and times she did it. and she is not happy with herself and begging i forgive her.

I know most people will be blaming me but its not a yardstick for her to cheat considering the fact that we never broke up as such. we have already done the introduction and engagement already about settling the list. Now am having different taught going through my mind, because i can not stand a cheating woman, over the years she has been so supportive and caring she has stood by me and am so very close to her family including her parents and they have been so supportive concerning our marriage plans. we have already bought some things needed but right now am still having such feelings inside me because i never expected such a thing from her everywhere both at my work place and where i live people call her my madam she has access to my house anytime no one will ever believe she can do such a thing deep inside me i believe those are the only people she had something with, she has been crying and apologizing and am tempted to call everything off which she has been pleading but again everything has been set date fixed, church is already aware am just confused since that day have not gotten myself and i just hope am not making a mistake.

However she has promised it can never happen again and if it does happen i should kill her or do whatever i please but am still worried. I don't know if am being selfish or not but am just restless.

Please i need advice here please i don't want to make any mistake any further because have also promised to make amend but the taught of it still coming all the time even when i told her i have forgiven her but i still get to remember it, i have even told her about our tradition severally once a woman is married she can't go out and have decided to be faithful but the taught of it still hurts me. Now i don't know what to do, its still between me and her i never told anyone of it.

Now am thinking if to go ahead or to cancel it am just worried and i know the kind of embarrassment and disappointment the both families might face please i need candid advice thanks and God bless you all.

francislin:
Good morning guys, hope your night was great.

Am in a dilemma right now actually don't know which decision to take at this moment.

Am so sorry am going to stress you guys with a little long right up.
I met my fiancee with whom we have been in a relationship for more than 4 years now and we are already preparing for marriage before the end of the year.

The issue started when the pastor who is counseling us told us we have to make sure we are open to each other and no secret should be kept away from either of us.

Now the issue is when we got home after the class i told her i don't want to keep secret from her anymore as been advised by the pastor and she also did insisting i start first which i did knowing fully well i haven't been that faithful as a guy to her. Actually when i met her she was a virgin, i was the one who dis flowered her, i knew fully well she has never cheated on me based on my own knowledge and understanding, she has been there for me even right in her days in school while she was doing her ND, she visits me anything she is free and doesn't receive calls from guys as expected from ladies who go about, we know each other password and we use each others phone.

When i told her how many girls have had things to do with while we are dating, how many have slept with while she was in school and even while she is around but unaware, i made sure i clear myself with the hope of entering our marriage without any secret even with those she suspected which i denied initially.

I was so surprised when she told me as well that she had a fling twice swearing its just twice with 2 different guys and am the cause of it. stating she only did it once with each of them out of anger and neglect. Although i knew very well am to be blamed in most aspect which she insisted anytime we had issues i always threaten her with breakup and name calling but i told her that is not enough reason for her to do such a thing because i know myself very well i can't stand the sight of a cheating woman that has always been the major causes of my break up and she has been crying insisting i pushed her when i told her i no longer want the relationship when she was in ND she met a guy when we broke up and when she came back we settled again and she left the guy and said she only slept with him once and the second guy was when she was doing her I.T we also had issue she insisted i was calling her all sort of names and she needed someone to confide in and that was how she did it and she regretted every bit of it and she has been praying to God for forgiveness and she doesn't know how to tell me but she swore with her life that those are the people and times she did it. and she is not happy with herself and begging i forgive her.

I know most people will be blaming me but its not a yardstick for her to cheat considering the fact that we never broke up as such. we have already done the introduction and engagement already about settling the list. Now am having different taught going through my mind, because i can not stand a cheating woman, over the years she has been so supportive and caring she has stood by me and am so very close to her family including her parents and they have been so supportive concerning our marriage plans. we have already bought some things needed but right now am still having such feelings inside me because i never expected such a thing from her everywhere both at my work place and where i live people call her my madam she has access to my house anytime no one will ever believe she can do such a thing deep inside me i believe those are the only people she had something with, she has been crying and apologizing and am tempted to call everything off which she has been pleading but again everything has been set date fixed, church is already aware am just confused since that day have not gotten myself and i just hope am not making a mistake.

However she has promised it can never happen again and if it does happen i should kill her or do whatever i please but am still worried. I don't know if am being selfish or not but am just restless.

Please i need advice here please i don't want to make any mistake any further because have also promised to make amend but the taught of it still coming all the time even when i told her i have forgiven her but i still get to remember it, i have even told her about our tradition severally once a woman is married she can't go out and have decided to be faithful but the taught of it still hurts me. Now i don't know what to do, its still between me and her i never told anyone of it.

Now am thinking if to go ahead or to cancel it am just worried and i know the kind of embarrassment and disappointment the both families might face please i need candid advice thanks and God bless you all.

Cerebellum:
Haha

Mumu
But you guys should stop trolling people, you don't know the level of depression the people you bully online are.

Johndagr8t:
Good evening guys.
actually this will be my first time here on nairaland I really need advice please,am 21 and honestly I don't just like the fact that I still look feminine like it really embarrassing mehn.
Alot of times people take advantage of my look to cheat me and whole lot.
am very fair,curly full hair(natural) ,tall, hairy,pink lips and am just too fair to be a man honestly,i am an introvert I know coz my dad always tell me that yeah.
And also am a student of unijos it just crazy the way lecturers we tell me to stand up in classes and start asking me if am a girl or boy,like it really embarrassing mehn,so I have decided to come and ask elders on nairaland if there is anything I can do to make me look like a real man,even girls feel intimidated around me like WTF who I offend

brother....the girls chassssin u ...they dint see the pimples , Ezema plus mosssskito bites on yor forhead??.... do they were glassses??((no ooofenssee))

Johndagr8t:
Good evening guys.
actually this will be my first time here on nairaland I really need advice please,am 21 and honestly I don't just like the fact that I still look feminine like it really embarrassing mehn.
Alot of times people take advantage of my look to cheat me and whole lot.
am very fair,curly full hair(natural) ,tall, hairy,pink lips and am just too fair to be a man honestly,i am an introvert I know coz my dad always tell me that yeah.
And also am a student of unijos it just crazy the way lecturers we tell me to stand up in classes and start asking me if am a girl or boy,like it really embarrassing mehn,so I have decided to come and ask elders on nairaland if there is anything I can do to make me look like a real man,even girls feel intimidated around me like WTF who I offend

superintendents:
because of her pikin..

Abitolola:
OP has entered silent mode. OP, OP, please give this man his 20k

Grabezz:
Good NL please I will make this brief, pardon my typos and poor construction.

I decided to bring this here cos all I need it to get a wider coverage though its not the right section cos I want advice from the Bible and Christian perspective. straight to the point, it happened that we've been dating for say four months now but I observed that I battle with my conscience each time we had sex. it usually take me up to three to four days to get relieved anytime it happens because of guilt.

Two weeks ago, we met and initially we agreed she will be spending the night at my place on a Friday being the next day, but after meeting on Thursday I was left with my conscience and guilt and when she called to tell me she's coming the next day I asked her not to come which angered her and she said all sort of things to me but I wasn't concerned cos it between me and God and I decided within me that what is the benefit of doing something that fights daily with my conscience and decide to stop. Because when I don't do I have problem with her and when I do it is with my conscience and God.

she was angry with me already so one of the way I can stop the whole stuff is to distance myself from her, because once I see her, I will still be moved by pity or what I really cant place. So I tried not to go close to her again and she never called also and I was even happy cos I felt I have escaped these as believe me I have made up my mind not to involve in anything sex again nor relationship till I meet my wife.

Just yesterday she messaged me that she's pregnant, the issue now is I am not party to abortion and I can't marry her because these four months with her is not what I want to experience throughout my life. what do I do in this situation. please lets move to fp for more contribution thanks.

Grabezz:
Good NL please I will make this brief, pardon my typos and poor construction.

I decided to bring this here cos all I need it to get a wider coverage though its not the right section cos I want advice from the Bible and Christian perspective. straight to the point, it happened that we've been dating for say four months now but I observed that I battle with my conscience each time we had sex. it usually take me up to three to four days to get relieved anytime it happens because of guilt.

Two weeks ago, we met and initially we agreed she will be spending the night at my place on a Friday being the next day, but after meeting on Thursday I was left with my conscience and guilt and when she called to tell me she's coming the next day I asked her not to come which angered her and she said all sort of things to me but I wasn't concerned cos it between me and God and I decided within me that what is the benefit of doing something that fights daily with my conscience and decide to stop. Because when I don't do I have problem with her and when I do it is with my conscience and God.

she was angry with me already so one of the way I can stop the whole stuff is to distance myself from her, because once I see her, I will still be moved by pity or what I really cant place. So I tried not to go close to her again and she never called also and I was even happy cos I felt I have escaped these as believe me I have made up my mind not to involve in anything sex again nor relationship till I meet my wife.

Just yesterday she messaged me that she's pregnant, the issue now is I am not party to abortion and I can't marry her because these four months with her is not what I want to experience throughout my life. what do I do in this situation. please lets move to fp for more contribution thanks.

Danielkelly:
HOPE YOU DIDIN'T GET BELLY ACEHING FROM FOOD TAKING AND WATER DRINKING, HOPE YOU DIDN'T GET FINES TAKEN FROM CORUPT MEN WHO'S PALMS ARE ACEHING. WEL HERE IZ THE REAL JUNGLE GAMING AND YOU HAVE EXPERIENCE THE ODDS STAKING THAT WE ALL FACING YOU GOT AN OPITION OF LEAVING WE LIKE ME WHEN NO GET WAT ABOUT US?! BRO WE JUST GAT TO KEEP LIVING.

Candidlady:
Now you want the wild side ba? Just dont run down here later looking for a leach, when you cant tame her!!

Chuky7:
someone once said that every woman has some ashawo vibes(wild side) and she will bring
them out once she feels very very comfortable with you. what kind of activity do you think can prompt or push her to be more sexually free because she's not on a normal day.

Notyourtype:
After i bought a ring and wanted to suprise my girl today after service, i was suprise to walk out of the church and headed straight home like i never had a plan..

i want to do it in a very romantic way, i've watched videos on youtube and thought today was the day, but i have not gotten the courage yet..

I kno very well she will say yes, as this has always being her prayer, but i still don't just know the best way to do it..

I will have to wait again till next sunday, as i told myself i will propose to her inside the church..

please nairalanders, i need a method that will be romantic, i don't just want to propose to her, but rather, i want it to be very romantic..

should i just walk to her and do it, or is there a better way i can do it to make it more romantic?

Please help me reach more people, next sunday is the day.. Thanks

Notyourtype:
After i bought a ring and wanted to suprise my girl today after service, i was suprise to walk out of the church and headed straight home like i never had a plan..

i want to do it in a very romantic way, i've watched videos on youtube and thought today was the day, but i have not gotten the courage yet..

I kno very well she will say yes, as this has always being her prayer, but i still don't just know the best way to do it..

I will have to wait again till next sunday, as i told myself i will propose to her inside the church..

please nairalanders, i need a method that will be romantic, i don't just want to propose to her, but rather, i want it to be very romantic..

should i just walk to her and do it, or is there a better way i can do it to make it more romantic?

Please help me reach more people, next sunday is the day.. Thanks

Danielkelly:
Lol mehn take a break there are good places but it either your at a poor one or a rich one under the effect of economic crisis. Hmmnnm while your still here listen to MONSTER_ YOU_ MADE by Burnerboy and Chris. Also go to calabar during december you will get Bleep over de fence

Danielkelly:
Na village you dey just fly over de fence.

Smartb0y:
like seriously dude still frolicking around like a mental patient(no oofenese)

Peaceadebu:
I am tired of being single and lonely. I really don't know what to do anymore �����.

BaddieFreak:
M*m*

wumi2017:

Beebah2000:
YES NO
YES NO
YES NO

Exteem123:
Good afternoon naira landers, I have a very serious issues about my condition, I have a leg condition known has cricket or bow leg, its not that wide though , whenever I work, I often hear people say I don't know how to work, they mostly comment, "look at the way he walks" either in English or in pidgin, this issue has given me a very low self exteem, I hardly go out because people will either comment or laugh at the way I walk, I don't know what to do, please I need your advice. Thanks