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Mercychen:
Hi fam.

Something has been bothering me of late and leaving me emotionally and mentally stressed and drained for the past weeks and I'm cut between the devil and the deep blue sea.

There's this bro we're trying to see if we can work things out. though, I never really wanted anything relationship again or at least for now until I'm decided later in the future on what I really want for myself.

Before, I delve into the main discuss , let
me quickly highlight how it all started.

Some months back, My publisher came to deliver the books I ordered for. So while sorting the books, he just got teasing me like " Babes, na wa o. What's up with your romantic life now?. I've never seen you pulling with anyone. It's always work, biz Money money money I see you pursuing. Lol... I just told him, guy, free me abeg and I went on counting the books at the boot of his car.

He now walked up to me and said, on a more serious note, what is happening? So I told him it's a personal choice cos I dont have the strength for relationship brouhaha now. He agreed with me that truly its not easy and even as a married man, he too feels the heat but the good thing is, he married in the Lord. So I should choose wisely from among the brethren.

So he said, he has this family friend, an eligible bachelor, who wants a decent lady and I'm the one that comes to mind each time the guy mentions it because since he's be dealing with me, he can vouch that I'm a very honest, hard-working and decent lady. So he would want the bro to have me.
That was how I got to meet bro.

Now fastforward to the main reason of this post.
There was this particular day we tripped out to cool off and discuss about US. So we got talking and planning on how to build our home in a way that we will not be caught unawares with some setbacks and unplanned responsibilities. So the issue of children came up and I suggested we have only one, which he reluctantly accepted after much convincing. So we tried to look at ways we can maintain that decision and I suggested a vasectomy. citing the possibilities of health risks (as a result of mismatches ) and failures that might occur if the family planning is done on me but with vasectomy, no issues. He looked me in the eyes and said, "my darling" no!

I was dumbfounded.... And became a little worried because, if he has no plans of having more children, why would he kick against the idea of a vasectomy?

If we are going to be one and follow one course, why shying away from a plan that will benefit us as a couple and a family?


Could it be, he only agreed to have one with me and plans to have more else where?
Is vasectomy a life threatening condition?

I was still trying to wrap my head around his refusal, when he said, it will be done on you ( the family planning). That instant, I felt all alone, like im on my own. So I told him I needed to cool off, and he said feel free.
I left the tent and went to the waters prentending to be playing with the water. He came and dragged me out of the water. we strolled without a word and I asked him to take me home. He did.

He called when he got home. I was cold to him so, he promised to call again but since then Ive refused to pick his calls or reply his texts.

The big question is ..
WHY DID HE BLUNTLY REFUSE A VASECTOMY?

COULD HE HAVE ULTERIOR MOTIVES?

IS IT NOT BETTER TO OPT OUT NOW THAN PRETEND I DIDN'T GET THE MESSAGE AND END UP IN REGRETS?

WHAT DOES IT MEAN WHEN A MAN KICKS AGAINST VASECTOMY?

Vasectomy discussion and you are not married? Red Flag what if you die ? how does he plan another family ? It's too risky or what if the one child dies. I don't think you've clearly thought about it. massive Red flag from you

Team Foreign ladies abi

Everything is true, especially the No 3, the more income streams I could generate it made No 1 easier as for No 2 I disagree fun and relaxation are often in that liability section.

JJOF:
Are all those vanilla?

It depends on you, if you want framework then sure else Vanilla

Rutherford2019:
I don't and never had girlfriend
I left the country yrs back
Now I want to settle down but I don't know how to go about it..
I don't like girls I meet abroad, both Nigerians and Oyibo because I'm a man who likes traditions both in music and other lifestyles
Coming back home, I don't know any girl
I have tried searching Facebook but to no avail
Now I want to marry..how will I be able to get a wife material?

Childhood friends

If you have questions just shoot, since I know Moodle, it can be quite a lot to learn, but good luck

In the real world, it's not a big deal only on NL

GuyWise:
Nna mehnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn


I acted as a poor nigga and she wanted to get me off of her back by sending this list to me.

She doesn't know I am a young millionaire.

Jew man, you too come collect paper

Here is the link

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=khYZmMiSHm8

They must fish out those students, and Blood must be repaid.

AirBagde:
This is for those of you who wants to Japa, leaving us to face this sh*t alone, YOU GO NO WHERE for now. Let's enjoy this country/govt for a while.

I believe Rauf Aregbesola is happy with this news

lol people are still trooping out it's inevitable that brain drain occurs at a time like this, brilliant minds needs to be replaced

frowland:
A man did this in Owerri and killed a man with just one casual blow. He instantly regretted that action.
Not everyone you see walking about are 100% healthy.

Multiple slaps no dey kill person

mariovito:
For me personally, I think some matters do not require dogon turenci, no long yarning. Sometimes, it's okay to take the laws in ones hand, albeit with moderation. If I were in your shoes, I'll pick that teacher out, whether on the school premises or else where and mess him/her up. Worst case scenario, the authorities get involved, maybe the school authority or Police. By the time both side to the story is weighed, na peace talk go end am. Sometimes you got to roll up your sleeves and handle some fuxkups personally because na you know as e pain you rish.

Real man, same here, I will take a day off from work to break somebody's head i swear

DrFunmisticGlow:
My bae keeps his body hair minimal, so I can enjoy his smooth skin. he has a goatee and a well trimmed moustache and he cuts his hair very low, skin cut and I love it that way.

I recently got him a clipper online cos I felt he needed one.

I recently found out that he developed this habit of using

To give context. It's like hair relaxer but stronger. It instantly melts your hair away and ladies use it to shave thier legs, leaving it very smooth. I think he likes the smoothness.

It's one thing to use it for leg and armpits, it's another thing to use it on pubic area, talkless of face where everyone can see.

So nairalanders in the house, do you use it? Are there better options?

Oh the face, hmmmm I won't recommend for face

sunshineV:
quantity over quality. mtcheew

Person wey sabi, Tecno phones are not it at all.

If you are a tech person learn Chrome Development and other platforms e.g WordPress Elementor for Upworks, you cannot find regular PHP jobs easily like that. take my advice I only have 5 jobs and passed 1k, some of you are higher than me, but I only have recurring gigs.

KingEverest:
this group will drag kano back to the 10th century

They only target the poor not the elites. Whot of all things

Chiden:
Thank you so much Sir.. I really appreciate

Replied

She proved she can abandon you when the price is right, is that what you want for a wife ?

Story no marriage functions without stability and finance

I'll discuss in details in the mail, take care

I sent you a message, congrats also on Youtube, I plan to start and hopefully I'd like to invite you to collab on some stuff when I get some contents. Anyway all the best.

I got the Lapel mic also, this works with Android and PC (if you can configure it well in Windows)

I subscribed to your channel too

Peace

Why is she comofrtable leaving 2 kids to go and shoot an advert, what business is she into ? give us more context who are these customers ?

typicalgamer:
It’s on sale on ps store with all its dlc and map

Cheaper that way.

THanks bro