₦airaland Forum

KingDash:
sure you are..

you wicked ,

crackhouse:
All these people that are saying they want to go into IT simply because they see 650k per month I am sure they are saying it because of the money and I know they don't really have passion for it.... just remember that every job we do have people that make progress in it and those that don't. Don't just think that all of them are successful. Na lie...

Alot of people don't make progress and the expertise these job requires are very professional. I've seen dev want to enter IT but quit when they see the sheer effort and sacrifice required. Though older generation tend to understand the sacrifice required and pursue it, new generation want it fast and quick and easily give up when it is too difficult.

It depends on your skill how niche it is,

You earn 350k in 1 year that is 4,200,000 and with the new job in a year is 7,800,800 that means you can fast track earnings, you're can earn almost twice of 350k in a year. However if the job cannot be guaranteed within a year, then that is a problem.

It depends on how risky you are, if you can easily get a job then I'd say take the 650k, and keep enough for when you run out of a job.

The bigger the risk the bigger the reward or cost All the best sir.

I legit didn't know that was Toke, Makeup sha

Annabelle12344:
I just created this account to post this.
I'm really Disturbed.

My wedding is approaching and I'm so excited about it.
Before I met my husband to be, there's this married man I know. Right from day one he told me who was married but his family based in a different state. I told him I'm single and I can't marry a married man nor date a married man. We both laughed about it.

Years passed, he became so close to my family and everybody around me. He comes to my house, gist with my mum, siblings and my family members are very accommodating.
I had my boyfriend whom everyone knows, that I have nothing with this man.
he support me financially some times. I have been helpful as well in my own ways. most times, I helped him out with cooking, even followed him to supper market to pick beautiful clothes (wears) for his wife and children. I have known this man for about 4 yrs now, but never have I had intimat.e relationship with him. He's like a big brother to me although he deeply loved me and have asked me out severally, but i have never involved myself with him s.exuallly.

This man have been so good to me, but now, I want to get married and he's so angry with me, he appears so hurt and heartbroken. He's behaving as if I betray his love. He's acting as if nothing mean anything to him any more. He almost lost his job last week due to lack of concentration. He takes his job carelessly now,

How can I help him heal emotionally, without distracting my own marriage?

Is ignoring him at this point the best option?


How should I handle this? Pls advice

You are just looking for problems, if you want to stay married you know what to do, Block his number and move on, or you can stay single and cater to him. stop being emotional and guard your marriage, if your husband to be had this same issue, would you condone it ? Stop being emotional and make a decision. He is a married man, his emotion and hurt is none of your business.

DEMZEE:
Only fools marry and have children in western societies sha

Well there are alot of fools in the world if that's the case.

DEMZEE:
Societies where women are first class citizens and men are second class citizens

sorry but I'm talking about Marriage in a sane society not some RP Discussion. Though I agree the Government tends to side with women, but that's not enough phobia to sit out from the benefits of Western society to African Household. Divorce rate amongst Nigerians is still the lowest compared to other races. If you want to control your wife and ensure you're not financially robbed by your partner yes but I doubt most couples think about this RP Philosohpy

DEMZEE:
How's the divorce rates in Canada please?

Wetin concern us, we are talking about African Marriage in Foreign land not Canadian Marriage divorce rate. The country here makes marriage hard, because a man is financially responsible for a lot and there's no benefit for household from Government. Outside Nigeria you can live a stable life and get services. Nigeria is stressful for couples

Nigerians assume young people are into fraud to be that successful because they can't fanthom how its possible, they are out of touch with how the modern world works and way of getting money

DEMZEE:
For western societies?, u must be very delusional

I know alot of families in Canada and other countries school fees is handled by the Government till university, you can own your house and work, so how is that society a problem compared to Nigeria ?

DEMZEE:
For western societies?, u must be very delusional

Why would it be harder there ? , when there's good job prospect and health care and Govt that uses tax well, seems you don't know much about about families outside the country. Expand more

Mercychen:
To me, nothing really special about marriage because I've moved closely with married people and all i see is stress, stress and more stress!

Imagine the daily routine of a woman. Especially those who are not working.

Wake up early ( when youre not ready)
Prep the children for school.
Prepare their food breakfast.
If hubby is nice, he'll help drop them off otherwise, you do the school runs.

You get home and start putting the house in order. And attend to other chores staring you in the face. Time is ticking

Get ready to prepare lunch.
Then before you know it, it's time to go pick the kids.
Come back, freshen them up.
Serve them
Attend to their home work.

The you get set for dinner so hubby can have something to eat when he gets home. Before you know it, the day is gone and you're fagged out. Same thing continues tomorrow and on and on until....

Imagine if you're a working Mom and now have to combine all these with work...

Now tell me what will make a single viewing all these want to get married?

Truth be told, that's another thing I calculate and i relax and continue enjoying my single life.

Many married women are not happy. They are silently crying!!!
Forget all that fake smile they wear when they come out. They are not happy

Even the men are not 100% fulfilled. Responsibility wan break their neck.

Let's tell ourselves the truth. Even if you're rich, it's still not that easy.

I've seen a rich couple who both drove madly to school at the same time to pick their ward and were reigning heavy curses at each other at the gate because they both argued earlier on who's going to pick the son. So it's like non of them wanted to come and it was already evening and the boy was still in school.

I guess they called the house and the nanny who was babysitting their twin babies then, told them the boy was not home.

Omor.. see the speed they drove into the school compound with. Wify packed one side, hubby parked the other way and they both jumped out of their cars rushing Into the school and abusing each other.

Wife : " You shouldn't have come" useless man" As she stormed into the classroom

Man: ori e ko pe. why did you come? You should have remained at work"

Hmmm... So much hype about marriage. Abegi!

Marriage in Nigeria is stressful, outside Nigeria e sweet die,

Iyaebe:
Don't ever tell him,don't be an obstacle to your own happiness.

I hope you understand this is a grave and costly advice you're giving someone. How is this any different from men who engage in activities, personally na selective morality, if na man do this, you will say it's bad, why is it different for a lady.

EmekaBlue:
it comes with super greed. That what kills

true sha

Lazy Youths

Betting is not evil, na just Greed. Only bet what you can afford to lose

Solosolojohquay:
And before you say is true love the man is also the one that wash the 3 month old baby clothes and his wife clothes have you witness this before let's discuss

Coming from someone who shares Orgy groups in WhatsApp, sir pack aside, this is for responsible adult.

FutureIsFemale:
I did. But regretted.

That's your own problem don't dictate for others , what a stupid post.

Money is hard, because it takes money to get money, be it capital or investment.

Herculex03:
I don't understand what do you mean by good sex ??
PS; most men just want to cum

When una hold meeting for most men

Excel70:
What do you specifically mean by this[i]ashawo vibes[/i]

Sexual Exploration.

Benbisco:
When the weed makes the man to mess up the work and his client gets disgusted and terminates the contract, hope she will not blame village people.

it's weed not ice. it might increase productivity

Tallesty1:
Life no balance walahi.

My mom is in for a huge shock sha . I am not going to take home a smoking wife though but I think she will prefer that to what's coming.

She wants all of us wey never marry to marry from NSK SMH. She told my deputy mother that her fear is our last born. I rarely disagree with her so she's convinced that I am not a problem meanwhile I concluded a long time ago that I won't marry from my state



@Emboldened, correct me if I am wrong but I believe every woman has some ashawo vibes and she will bring them out once she feels very very comfortable with him. Some are just scared of being judged, some lock it up because the man is not pressing right button etc....

Getting a wife material doesn't guarantee successful marriage, this is one of the mistakes people make. If you get 100% wife material and you're not her idea of husband material, the union won't last.

People spend time searching for the best material without improving their own material quality.

Heineken for you bro.

teeshet:
how about having babymamas while single. Me oh, I wanna fùck as many women as possible

You're creating a framework of poverty for yourself. Marriage na title, the babies are still the responsibilities