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walkingshadow911:
Women are emotional being, they barely understand logic. when a young girl is going wayward, if you advice her, she will take it for jealousy and hate you for it.
They can only learn in a hard way the only way

que serae serae

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All these advisors(women) that are advising women are all stating the first rule of gold digging.

Women they're advising will not adhere to it. I don't know, maybe it's the way they keep putting it.

Ubunja you need a wider audience (women) to see if they will actually learn.

SapphireYj:
I quickly put the code together,but idealy,if I had the time,I would have tested the code more. I disagree regarding the space,it is important.One of the sentences had 3 spaces while the other had four. I agree with you on the dot,however,implementing regex for searching for punctuations like . , ; : ? etc and comparing them between sentences will require me to write a lot more code than i was willing to. My main target was to compare only the words provided, and since those words have a fullstop each, i didn't see the need to write code to handle them since they cancel each other out.If the spaces are the same,i wouldn't have bothered implementing code for handling spaces.

Did somebody say my name?

Bola146:
Depression is real! People should please speak out! Killing yourself is not the best solution. Someone might want to help or listen to you please

A lot have come to nairaland to speak up. How did you treat them?

ayusco85:
You can never understand them. They think with their heart and never with their head.

It's silly and not fair knowing the boy can never defend himself. And it had to be now in the heat of an investigation. Does she understand that she too have roped herself into this investigation as it will look like she paid the other girl to kill the man as a revenge for what he did (let's assume the man was not guilty of the rape accusation).

RisenPhoenix1:
Umm. Shouldn't this be in the Religion section?

I just wonder how much silly people can be.

This is the romance section. More like going to a gay party with the intention of getting angry at gay people.

Bikonze:
Nigga you speak like a fool, no offense. She was 18, traumatized, threatend along side her elder sister. She was scrolling through social media.., and it happened to be same man. Don't be daft.

And now he is dead, justice is meant to take place somehow?

I am saying all these due to how women label men rapist. So I'm thinking somehow this lady came out to downplay the murder the other woman committed.

A woman killing a man who once "raped" a woman is not really offensive. I get your point Mr.

BTW, you don't call people names and tell them not to get offended. You either call me names and let me be offended or you don't offend me at all.

How many times will they celebrate this thing?

ayusco85:
Did you actually try to understand my stance? I said we should not be in a haste to take sides, it might be true and it might be false. I didn't say the girl was telling the truth or lying. Don't ever compare someone u don't know to anyone else.
Argue with ur points and don't take things too far to the point of attacking my person, u don't even know me. Be civil pls

Why did it have to be now the boy was murdered that this girl decided to bring up a dead case?

Sometimes eh I wonder if them swear for women head never to be intelligent.

Leshurr:
I must add that you guys make it hard for someone to feel sorry for you sef.. you encourage the monetisation of sex with your own actions. e.g. look at that false rape situation where queenbeena accused that guy who agreed to pay a $1000 for one night with her, seriously a man is willing to pay that amount to sleep with a woman. moreso, almost every nigerian artist sings about lavishing women with gifts just because of her skin tone, yansh and waist
now tell me why won't girls treat their ho-has like a gold mine? Please tell me.
I've been called names on this forum for my anti-feminist views (but the truth is there are lots of women out there who are also anti-feminist but are bullied into silence by fellow women) unfortunately we can't fight for those who refuse to fight for themselves.
Men the power to stop this madness is in your own hands.

And you think ho-has will let men grab that power?

Tbh I don't know who Civil Service Job is.

Kapilta:
It's not written in any book of law that every child (yours or not) you raise must return the favour after. And just because you raised a child doesn't mean he/she has to live for you. He/She got a life to live too. The ealier some parents know this, the better. Just because they your kids doesn't mean you have to dictate their everyday life, you had your fair share, you are the guard for a very long time and those period was enough for you to help them know what's good or bad in life for their own good and not yours.

They were all against him not minding what that meant to him, they was selfish thinking only what makes them happy while his own joy and happiness matters not to them.


Vanessa and her mother inheriting his estate is their loss not his afterall he's dead now. They put him in that position to start with. And last i checked it wasn't Vanessa that killed Kobe neither is she the reason he died without a will.

It isn't really about training your kids to look after you when you are old or whatever you have up their in your comment. A successful man knows that he will never put himself against his family.

A man's enemy is from his household does not just mean your enemy will come from your family. It also means that the worst kind of enemy is your family. You don't have to create an enmity with your family over a person (male of female) you just met.

byrron:
Richard Milhous Nixon (January 9, 1913 – April 22, 1994) was the 37th president of the United States, serving from 1969 until 1974.

A member of the Republican Party, Nixon previously served as the 36th vice president from 1953 to 1961, having risen to national prominence as a representative and senator from California.

Thanks

byrron:
You never heard of him before right?

Nope.

byrron:
Clinton didn't resigned but Nixon did.

Nixon really?

cktheluckyman:
Clinton resigned? In what planet exactly?

Welps. My bad. He was impeached. Thought man came up and resigned himself.

byrron:
Resigning now is meaningless, he should have done that earlier on to avoid being the first president to be impeached twice and subsequently banned from holding any political office ever again in United States if convicted in the Senate.

Na why I duff cap for Clinton. He saw it coming, and he resigned. Trump could have done the same.

Pochettino:
Because your mothers could take severe beatings in silence.

That your mother takes it because she's into BDSM doesn't mean other people's mothers takes beating too.

Although nothing wrong in her liking it. It's a form of sex. Hardcore sex.

Skepticus:
The idi.ot deserves what he is getting. I'm sure the signs were there but they'll turn her into a wife because she is light-skinned and beautiful. Foolish men.

Light-skinned! That's the word I was looking for.

Dpsychologist:
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Markup Lang... I see.

I blame the man. You won't date to know her. Fiam you are married.

Skepticus how do you say it, is it fair women are Nigerians kryptonite.

CrescentMoon:
Let me first tell you my kind of character. For you to make me angry, you have to repeat an offense more than 30 to 40 times. After each offence, I would only give you facial expression that will let you know that you offended me. And I would ensure you get the message.

So wife kept repeating same offence. I told her I don't like what she was doing. She said she would adjust, but kept repeating the same thing. When I got fed up, I tried to retaliate. My only retaliation is that I stopped being around in the house. I would leave the house very early in the morning and return late at night. I would go for business in another town and return 4 days later. She knows nothing stops me from coming home everyday from the other town because I have means of transportation. She flared up. Started calling relatives that I'm maltreating her. They asked her to say which ways I have been maltreating her...she said I'm avoiding our home. Relatives asked if I'm beating or starving her. She said no.

I know why it pained her very well. If she wants to go and urinate outside, I would go and drop her there. When she is through, she would call me and I would go and pick her up again.

She's a woman that's always settling fights for couples in the street. So, she never wanted it to be heard anywhere that we are quarelling in our home. She won't want anybody to come to our house to settle disputes. So this prolongs our fights always.

When she couldn't bear it again, she sent a message to me that goes like this: I INITIALLY DIDN'T WANT TO DIVORCE YOU BECAUSE OF YOUR DISABILITY AS I PITY YOU. BUT NOW, IT'S OVER. YOU HAVE TO BEAR THE CONSEQUENCES OF YOUR ACTIONS TOWARDS ME ALL THESE YEARS. WHAT DID I HAVE TO DO WITH A JUJU DIABOLIC MAN IN THE FIRST INSTANCE.

Let me disect those words in capital letters for you. I have a disability, but you can't notice it easily until you start talking to me. She said I have to bear the consequences of my actions towards her... looking back, I have done unimaginable things to make her happy. I even saved her life when she didn't want blood transfusion from unknown persons as a result of her Christian belief not to contract demons from the blood of unknown person. Fortunately, my blood group is that of a universal donor. That means I can donate blood for anybody. Note that she had never done any noteworthy thing for me apart from giving birth to our babies. About being a juju man, I will tell you how she arrived at this: somebody was about to give birth from her family side and the baby was in breech position. She asked for advice and I told her that if I take the woman to the village my uncle will give the woman a concoction to reverse it. Her faith is against it, but because someone from her side just gave birth through CS, which almost led to the death of mother and baby, she asked me to take the woman to the village. The breech position was reversed. I'm surprised she now labelled me a juju man.

Instead of me to take her message personal, I urged her to please herself. This infuriated her the more. Instead of leaving me, she invited someone to intervene, tracked me to the second town, and it was settled there.

My problem now is that those words are still ringing in my head... someone I thought was a lover said she married me out of piety.

You should take that divorce and have your happiness.

WoundedLamb:
When you two consenting adults have sex, both should be held accountable. This is the summary of everything I said. I'm not blaming the man alone.Your analogy is a bit off cause that would be an accident (at least for one of the parties) except you're saying the driver and the person on the road agreed to orchestrate the entire thing. I am, nevertheless, not surprised by that analogy cause that's exactly the picture the guys onhere try to paint. Y'all present men as the innocent driver who accidentally hit on a careless or suicidal road user.

Sexual relationship, on the other hand, is not an accident. It's a consensual activity between two parties who had options but decided to do it. By hinging your blame on getting pregnant alone, you're making it look as if a woman having sex with another man is no longer the problem provided she doesn't get pregnant. We both know that's not case. The root problem is the sex between a married person and another who isn't the spouse. The pregnancy phase is only a consequence of that action. Starting your blame from that phase would only be a deliberate attempt to exonerate the parties involved in the first phase cause you believe one party can be held culpable as far as getting pregnant is concerned. But even at that, I believe both parties share the responsibility of avoiding unwanted pregnancy. The man could use condom, the woman could take drugs. I agree only the woman bears the consequences but I don't see anything wrong in blaming these parties for the consequences of their action.

Why shouldn't I blame both parties? Why shouldn't I blame the married woman more? Is a married woman supposed to break her marital vows?

If the man refuses to use condom, then the woman should be blamed for having that sex when she could insist on "the no condom no sex". Let's first look at STDs that could kill and restrict one like HIV.

I don't understand how a woman could insist you first provide her with whatever she is willing to exchange with sex but would never insist on condom or contraceptive. Na wa oh.

Francis95:
Boss those girls see me as their boyfriend, let me just say that I am deceiving all of them. The only thing I want with them is Sex and that's all. I'm getting the sex too.

How do you see them? As your girlfriend? If No, then no problem.

What you should bother is how you see them.

efficiencie:
It goes without saying na...someone who has a kitchen full of china plated runs a higher risk of having shattered plates than someone with a kitchen full of plastic plates...a man that dips in every hole that salivates runs the risk of raising another man's child than the man that is chaste and watchful...

No wahala.

WoundedLamb:
Again, this is not man vs women debate. There's no such award. Pregnancy and the need to hide it is only a consequence of an action committed by two parties. Once the action is over, the woman bears the consequences alone and I think it's unfair to blame her for taking actions to protect herself just because man doesn't have pregnancy to worry about. It's not an equal playing ground cause men don't get pregnant, we just deposit and move on. But this isn't even a contest to start with. Like I said, the idea of getting aroused by the slightest opportunity to attack women has gone on for too long and it hasn't yielded any positive result because we have refused to acknowledge the fact nothing will change until we also start telling our fellow men to stop cheating on their spouses and stop sleeping with married women. You know, just like we call the women out when they do these things.

What do you it's only women that get pregnant hence not an equal playing ground?

Do you stand in the middle of the road so that you can blame a car for hitting you? You are very much aware if a car hit you, you'd be dead hence your need for safety. There are measures to take for this case of pregnancy in women which is called protection (condom, contraceptives and morning after pills) that are accessible to women. What stops those married women from taking those drugs?

You are making it look as if it's men responsibility for women not to get pregnant against their wish. It's a not so OK.

When it comes to sex and flaunting body parts, it becomes "It's my body" , but when it comes to the consequences, men have to take responsibility of a body that isn't his.

Francis95:
I greet you all. Please I have got a question regarding the issue of having an abundance mindset. Having an abundance mindset is being posted almost daily on this thread.

I am a Course rep in one of the federal universities in the south south part of Nigeria and because of this position I have so many girlfriends both in department and other departments including the ones that asked me out by theirselves. I am also a body builder and I look cute too so I think that's the reason.

Atimes, I do forget their names that I had to write their names on a paper. And I have sex with all of them nd with protection of course.

I've also read on this thread that cheating is not part of red pill. So I'm quite confused.

I have an abundance mindset at the same time I am cheating on all of them.
So house, please I want to know if I'm applying the redpill knowledge wrongly.
The girls are up to Six nd more still crushing. I'm in 200 level.

So long as you are not in an exclusive relationship with either of them, you are not cheating. I don't mean to make this a gender thing, do you think the girls you are shagging don't have boyfriends whom they made to think they're in an exclusive relationship with?


Bro put yourself first in anything you do. Is it sex, pleasure yourself. Is it money, get it. It's selfish, but love it!

Francis95:
I greet you all. Please I have got a question regarding the issue of having an abundance mindset. Having an abundance mindset is being posted almost daily on this thread.

I am a Course rep in one of the federal universities in the south south part of Nigeria and because of this position I have so many girlfriends both in department and other departments including the ones that asked me out by theirselves. I am also a body builder and I look cute too so I think that's the reason.

Atimes, I do forget their names that I had to write their names on a paper. And I have sex with all of them nd with protection of course.

I've also read on this thread that cheating is not part of red pill. So I'm quite confused.

I have an abundance mindset at the same time I am cheating on all of them.

So house, please I want to know if I'm applying the redpill knowledge wrongly.

The girls are up to Six nd more still crushing. I'm in 200 level.

So long as you are not in an exclusive relationship with either of them, you are not cheating. I don't mean to make this a gender thing, do you think the girls you are shagging don't have boyfriends whom they made to think they're in an exclusive relationship with?


Bro put yourself first in anything you do. Is it sex, pleasure yourself. Is it money, get it. It's selfish, but love it!

Tbh, they shouldn't reintroduce it. They should rather channel that money into infrastructure as Nigerians have stabilized to this particular fuel pump price.

RisenPhoenix1:
Yup. Just as I said.

Ok. Let's hold everyone accountable for the cheating. You're right 100%.

But the award for the only party that is accountable for falsely and deceitfully attributing a child to a man not his true father goes to ....?

Men. I mean boys. Male, is it?

C'mon!

Distilled:
Bro, d issue is no money. I have been simple minded in my approach to life but found out life isn't anything like that. I entered jss(public) at 8 and was mostly bullied throughout bcs I was so thin and looked frail. Curses, insults and continuous verbal abuse were d other of the day from my mom. So I grew up really really detached from reality. I was almost always in my head and had few friends. Bcs of bullying and lanky stature, I didn't really connect with guys, don't play football or engage in physical fights. Bullied at school, mentally assaulted at home, had one or 2 male friends in any setting and my mum didn't wanna see any me interact with any female back at home.
Talk of extreme mental torture. How I rollercoastered my way through versity is another tale. I should have gone for service but for the pandemic. I am currently learning tailoring but it ain't no joke. Absent-mindededness is really affeting my learning.
Really I am very hot upstairs, brain always feeling fried.
If I have the money, I'll just love to travel around, enjoy nature, if possible out of the country. If can't undo all the hurt but will at least provide a timely flow of happiness to carry out my dreams and desires.
I don't have finances to create some happiness for myself..
I almost always want to close my eyes and find myself in another reality but here I am.

I am just fed up
From inside out
Thanks

Like I said, it's all in your head. Start with little goals to build confidence about life, plus make use of this lonely time. Loneliness is your friend and not an enemy. Make use of it, read a lot of books that will help you (start with books on tailoring) practice what you read, read books on mental health, practice what you read also. No one has it easy anywhere even those born rich.

I know of a guy from a wealthy home. Dude is very intelligent, but he is no more (sickle cell). But when we were in school, nobody knew what he was going through. He died last year December around 22nd.

Just hang in there.