YourMrBoo: Lols some daft members are already saying it's for the Security of the state
The Lagos State Security Trust Fund was actually set up to provide law enforcement with crime fighting equipment . So it’s not a Trust Fund which yields interest and can be returned.
[quote author=trutharena post=127874171][/quote]People just don’t make donations . If any, not to organizations to this one . He must have broken some rules , paying for police to look the other way and or trying to make restitution with donation.
Has it ever crossed your mind that they are so many dead people on naira land who were active before and made a lot of post but they are no more to be found.
I am Someone that normally reads old threads, nostalgia like far back to 2009 and view some username profiles and their last seen was 2012 some 10years ago... With their post made.
Now not everyone abandons their accounts I mean old accounts that they have been using from day one.
Majority of them are dead and I am Just reading their post.
Please if you know any dead nairalander drop the username i just want to see what they were like when alive.
Anyone who hasn’t logged on in 6months account should be deactivated.
EreluRoz: Only if they put the money into good use
Plus that a lot of employment opportunities. The oil is from the region there should not be any unemployment in that area and everyone should have free education till University with a 500,000naira business start up grant. 0% interest.
Marriage between 2 indigenous gets you 150,000naira. One time grant.
Between one indigene N50,000 one time grant.
Have police install camera’s and barricade the area 24/7 . Etc
StrongAlphMale: Nige guys are regarded as Simp. Nevertheless the below says it all
That’s a stupid girl. And it goes to show that in our core most of us are selfish. A guy agrees and says yes and instead of you to honour him you break up with him and take advantage of him. He’s not stupid it’s just love and if you loved him even with a pinch of salt you’ll take up that role of aggression in the relationship.
janedonez: I did Beans farming to help sustain livelihood, unfortunately, the DD Force Chemical I applied destroyed all my Beans. I don't know what to do.
When I was offered the Chemical, I objected but the Dealer insisted that it was the appropriate Chemical to use, after going through the Label I also read that it can used plants such as Maize, beans and others.
Going forward I would suggest you spray on a portion of the farm first wait a week before applying the rest to the who farm. People just can’t be trusted nowadays so sorry
Bugatie: Do you guys have any other propaganda aside this one?
The economy is bleeding and you think your problem is Peter Obi
Agreed !! Borrow this and Borrow that , Billions here and there ? Isn’t money borrowed on interest or Oil revenue and when do we start to pay back ? Or even grow the economy. If oil is our sole source or revenue and there’s too much oil in circulation it will fall in value
kelvinakproko: Thank You Nairalanders for the counsel offered on my previous thread (link below). So yesterday I threatened to quit the relationship if she doesn't tell the truth about the movement I spoke about in detail in the previous thread. She confessed that there's been a sugar daddy (he already has a wife). She said she didn't know what came over her. She had spent a whole week before with him some months earlier unknowing to me before the last movement that made me suspect something wasn't fine.
Now I guess where the financial support was coming from then. They both discuss me and the sugar daddy even give her tips on how to cover up after meeting him. From the chats she showed me, the sugar daddy always ask after me. She said he's been asking her out before we even began the relationship and that it was difficult for her to stop. From the chats she showed me, she had severally told the man that she wants to stop and she ain't cool with the games anymore that she loves her boyfriend.
I also discovered that since the day I suspected her movement, she hasn't been seeing him anymore and evidences from their chat thereafter supports that. She told him her guy is already suspecting her and that she doesn't want to lose her relationship because of several support or help he has given her in the past.
It's been hard to swallow the revelation but she's been crying since yesterday that I should forgive her that she's stopped everything with the man. She called the man that she's already told me about everything that's been going on. And she told him he's disconnecting from him in anyway and she blocked him on all communication channels she has with him.
I couldn't sleep last night. I really want to end it all up despite the fact that there's evidence she stopped the whole thing with the man after I suspected her movement. What do you think I should do?
Dude, I’ll be honest I didn’t read the backlog but this is what I’ll suggest.
Ask yourself and list the reasons to stay together and on another side of the paper list the reasons to leave the relationship.
It will take someone with a matured mind to continue. Are you able to be intimate with her and not feel like someone else has been in the same sexual position with her as you are doing. Why did she continue the illicit affair ? Would she have given the affair up if you didn’t find it out ? Are you able to forgive her without bringing it up when you guys have arguments? Is she willing to allow you unrestricted access to her phone ? If yes then you can install phone tracker and monitor until she gains your full trust again. She sounds like a good woman who main mistake .
This has got to be fake news. The only dude that is actually working and making waves . If he changed the consultant firm he must have a few good reason. If not , just reprimand but redeploy him elsewhere.
ChristisGod: This lady is my subordinate at work We share same office space I am her boss. She has always thought that I am interested in her by her comments although I am not I haven't done anything to suggest interest in her Once, she said she thinks I am interested in her but I am unable to say it. I rebuked her. Anytime she misbehaves and I admonish her, she will be making insinuations that I will never get to sleep with her I reported this habit to my boss, but she denied ever doing stuff like that Meanwhile, she occasionally wound make that insinuation. I am not on talking terms with her at all because of her misconducts and this attitude.
How do I stop this nonsense? Why is she consistently doing this when I have never expressed interest in her?
Please advise
Dude if you are “ the gay “
Then sit her down and explain to her why you both cannot work out. 1. You cannot date someone in the same office space. 2. You are her superior ( if that’s a reason ) 3. You are dating or interested in someone else . 4. You do not want to be friends as this will make my gf jealous and break her heart.
You need proof of allegations you are making against her
Juraj: My friend is attempting to get tourist Visa to a Schengen country, one of the requirements is proof of employment. He have tried with Offer Letter but it got rejected, when asked at workplace nobody seems to have Employment Contract either. When asked directly his boss, he is being told that there is only offer letter.
Are they trying to gaslight him or is it common practice to only get an offer letter ?
Work is long term, full time, already there for 2 years + Thanks
Just have HR print out a letter as such
[Company Letterhead]
[Company Name] [Company Address] [City, State, Zip Code] [Date]
[Employee's Name] [Employee's Address] [City, State, Zip Code]
Dear Jon Snow,
We are pleased to confirm your employment with [Company Name] as of [start date], and acknowledge your dedication to your role over the past two years. This letter serves as an official statement of your employment status and terms.
Your current compensation structure is as follows: - Salary: 100,000 Naira biweekly
If you have any questions or need further clarification, please do not hesitate to contact [HR Manager/Supervisor's Name] at [HR/Supervisor's Email] or [HR/Supervisor's Phone Number].
adamusuleiman2: As shared by Dele Momodu. New African leadership event in Ghana cancelled with arrival of Peter Obi & other keynote speakers.
Usually organizes pay their speakers and key note speakers honorarium . So they are on the hook for that. That’s very immature that you would cancel an event a mere 2 hours after the arrival of guests . Plus for the organizers to be afraid of dissenting opinions is also childish.
sukkot: Like you go out to eat all the time and it's in nice restaurants and the bill comes to 10,000 etc etc maybe even more. Do you feel guilty knowing that many are hungry or do you just accept that in life there are levels. Make Everyman dey Hin own level. My own level na to eat 10k food while him own level na to eat 200 naira food . Should you feel guilty ?
1. Nope, it is not my role or duty to take care of the poor. That’s the government and corporations and NGO role to do that.
2. If there is someone in my circle who is hardworking and needs a little push and is genuine and I have, I will assist.
3. I used to give to those who clean your windshield at a stop sign as I felt bad. But he doesn’t recognize you and will beg you again when you drive by. Giving in this way does not solve the problem but rather perpetuate the cycle that you don’t have to work to eat /get money - just beg. Plus they pay no taxes . So monkey dey work baboon they chop.
4. What is your definition of rich cause I am certainly not dangote nor the lowest of the rich. I am just a regular Joe so middle class earner .
Seun: Ladies and gentlemen, the Romance section has gone to the dogs because of the inactivity of the current moderators.
We need 2 new moderators who are passionate about Romance and Nairaland, and can dedicate sufficient time to remove inappropriate content, ban people who break the rules, and create threads on hot topics to ensure that the Romance section attracts more engagement.
Most importantly, the war between men and women on this section must end. Women need to feel safe to participate and share their views in this section without being harassed by men. And vice versa. This requires consistent and unyielding enforcement of the rules every day.
If you know someone who is fit for this role, please nominate them. Someone who has been consistently active in this section for a long time, and who has not been a habitual rule-breaker during this time. If you're nominated, please indicate your acceptance and let's talk.
PS: Sorry, you can't nominate yourself. Someone must nominate you and then you can accept the nomination if you're interested.
Not sure how you will filter between 12 pages of comments but 1. As huge as NL is - it cannot be Volunteer you have to pay.
2. You should be able to use the SQL db to determine those that log comments or visit romance section.
3. People should be able to use the report comment section which will allow to follow up and ban people.
whyteteeth: My ever charming mom has stopped looking good like she used to eversince she joined a particular church in the early part of 2021.
Prior to that time, mom was a lover of good wears. She used to wear nice jewelries to complement her dressing. Nowadays, the story is no longer the same. She has changed completely and she is now a shadow of her former self. She would not make her hair with weavon or attachment, or wear wig or makeup like she used to do. She now uses thread to plait her hair which makes her look very unlike her and very unattractive.
When I travelled home during Christmas, I nearly wept when I saw her. From her head to her toe, she was completely off. No sense of style at all. Just regular clothes and slippers even when she is going out for an event.
What do we do? The church she joined is THE LORD'S CHOSEN. And dad says she has asked her to stop attending the church but she refused. Mom is a retired nurse and she is 62 years old. I am her last child and I and my siblings are doing everything possible to make her look good. Money is not the problem. She is just simply refused to listen to anybody.
NOTHING YOU CAN DO If I show you a picture of my mum you’d cry out !! Money is not an issue. It’s what she listening to. I’ve decided to love her as she is. This is really the case of you can force a horse to the water but you can’t force it to drink water.
Jackie999: He is unwilling. His father has apologised and explained the societal implications for them as a family in the village etc so I know it's not a possibility as he will also lose access to his kids.
I respect it, and I'll keep it moving
All that is BS. Societal implications and losing access to his kids. We are not in the 60’s. That said, you have invested in him and that’s painful but you also felt what it feels to be loved. You appear to be strong and you’ll recover . I mean , you don’t come across as someone who should play second fiddle. So either understand the terms of relationships which is just a fling /affair but if you want something serious , it’ can’t be with him
I want to start off with a few important pointers/ disclaimers.
1. I am NOT Nigerian and do not claim to know everything about Nigeria. 2. Please do not be xenophobic or rude to me. I'm not strong enough lol 3. I will be as respectful as possible💞 4. I'll call the man in the story "Sam"
Okay so I'm a lady from a Southern African country. I met a Nigerian man who came here for "japa"/ "looking for better opportunities". I met him after he had arrived within 2months. I was walking into the club with my friends and he was in a vehicle with his friends. The driver stopped me to greet and he said hello. Sam greeted me and the driver asked for my number on his behalf lol. It was cute.
First thoughts, he was handsome in the face but definitely not anyone I'd be interested in talking to. He was unkept and clearly struggling financially just from his appearance. Anyway, he called that night to see if I'd be willing to chill with him and his friends, and I agreed. They came back around. He came into my car but I was put off by him telling me I'm so beautiful, calling me babe and saying "I'd wish to kiss you". Omg I was sooooo freaked out. Anyway I told him to leave my car and never call me again. Within an hour, my car's tyre burst ON THE flipping HIGHWAY😲. I called my father but he was almost 2 hours away so I called him and he came within 20minutes. Him nd his brothers came and fixed it for me.
From that day, we spoke and discussed every single day. I had never been with a Nigerian man or any serious relationship before but I liked him. I supported him financially for the longest time because I saw potential in him. I bought him his firs new clothes here, took him to all the nice places, and helped him with personal hygiene etc. I saw him as a friend. He is genuinely a good good person and I fell for his soul. His just so normal and pure. I am considered pretty, intelligent and independent so I won't lie and say that I can't find anyone else but he has my heart tbh.
Everything was going good but after 3months of being together everyday, he obviously wanted the Bleep. It was such a huge deal for me because I take that seriously. But anyway our relationship progressed in that direction - positively.
He would share the little money he had with me and food with me etc if I had recklessly spent my money etc lol. I was giving him a salary to start a business. Mind you, I studied psychology and I'm smart enough to know when I'm being scammed just because I'm a paranoid/anxious detective type naturally 🙈 anyway, we had the most incredible times and I know without a Shadow of a doubt he loves me.
Fast forward 2 months then I find that he is married with 3 kids. I knew about the kids - after finding out. Buti understand why he'd be hesitant to share that. My father is from a polygamous home so I do have strong feelings about that arrangement and single probably thought it's a bad idea to tell me. Well I found out, I was upset af. But I got over it. He never forced me to or anything but I genuinely thought I'd figure it out.
Well it's been 3 years. We have NEVER argued once about anything. We have the most compatible personalities. His calm, sweet and soft spoken. Same with me. His business is doing good and he has put me on a salary as I resigned, and want to start a business.
Nigerian men are the hill I'm willing to die in lol. I had Nigerian friends in the past (Yoruba) but Igbo men are just built different. They're natural born providers. I have access to his phones and vice versa. He knows everything about me and so do I. Including his marital issues (which are unfortunately plenty).
I know my family would not accept me marrying him although my mom adores him. My father would probably have a heart attack. They worked hard for us to be very well balanced, mentally strong women so I'm so surprised that I landed up in this position. I have an incredible family and lack nothing. Financially, emotionally, mentally... Everythingally...my family is able to provide.
Maybe because his my first actual relationship, I am failing to see the big picture. Truth is... I know he'll forever care for me but I also know that his wife only loves him for money, and uses his children against him. She literally told him she'd use juju on him and deny him access to the children if he leaves her.
I thought it'd be easy. Divorce in my country is so accessible and in a situation where a husband has suffered immeasurable abuse from a woman, he definitely has grounds to divorce her. Mind you, I know this because I went through his old messages from 8+ years ago and she was always berating him, accusing him, being hot and cold etc. She's so ungrateful and her only obsession is money. She compared him to Obi Cubana😅 calling out his supposed incompetence. Well I don't know, men aren't just money. They're people with feelings and lives, they deserve love regardless.
For an example, we bought his dad motorcycle and she complained that her dad didn't get one 😩 him and I are now financially good and blessed but I know deep in my soul that I cannot be a second wife.
This post is because I broke up with him yesterday and I know for a fact his not allowed to divorce since this was a marriage introduced by his dad. She has a child from another relationship but nobody even knows. I mean she's a liar liar. He knows but his family don't. And the kids is like 15.
Anyway, I wasn't to know what you guys think of this situation. Just chat honestly. I know he won't divorce and she would kill him but I also don't know what it's like to be a second wife or partner to a Nigerian. It sounds like a really bad idea because I like being the only one for my baby.
Nice write up. Matters of the heart when it comes to love are at times difficult to meddle. Unless he is willing to divorce his present wife you have done the best thing.
Posting the video online, the state Commissioner of Environment and Water Resources, Tokunbo Wahab, said they have severally warned that traders should desist from displaying or selling things on the walkway, setbacks or main road. It defaces the city and majorly for people's safety.
Early Friday, Special operatives of KAI again dislodged street traders operating on Agege Motor road, Old Secretariat GRA Ikeja, Awolowo way, Alausa Secretariat, Agidingbi Jakande road inward LTV 8, Ojodu Berger, Fagba road."
Somebody collected money from those people. Build a market and show people how it should be maintained. There are open markets abroad with adequate facilities to cater for people who prefer home grown stuff to chemical grown pepper. 🌶️ etc. people with a certain income will flock there to patronize.
MisterBanny: I have already warned the girl severally to stay off. I have even slapped them both cos I knew the girl was just a devil sent from the pit of hell to torment my Friend and hijack his destiny. My friend is weak and can't move on
If he hasn’t done the deed what’s the draw ? Did he eat food cooked by her. Did she put it in drink for him. You have to get evidence for him to see that she is not worth his time and that she is unfaithful.
Linda4321: Good morning everyone,I don’t post but I just had to do this for a friend. My friend told me that while she was washing her clothes, a guy spoke to her in her compound where she lives, after communicating with the guy he asked for her number and she told him that she didn’t know the number offhand and she can’t go into the house to bring her phone to give him the number that she always see him around that they will definitely see again that she would give him the number. After some weeks they saw each other but the guy didn’t speak with her again talk more of asking for her number. Men,boys,women,girls please what do you think,did the guy do the right thing by not speaking with her again or he should have communicated with her and ask for her number. I Will really appreciate your opinions.
He’s simply moved on to better things. For anyone not to know their 10 digit phone number - is a cop out ! And so he took it as you not being interested in him . He could have at least said Hello and maintained the friendship. But you could have found him when you were done to give him your phone if interested .
Back in the day . Reasons why I hated and loved the 4 flat apartments . There was always a fellow tenant that either had a girl of the same age beautiful or during the summer one of the cuz or relatives always came by in which we were of the same age. They all had bf and my response would be do you know what he is doing now ? What he doesn’t know can’t hurt ? See heavy petting. Breasts handling and kissing LAWD have mercy. But my rule of law is not to bed a fellow housemate. If the relationship goes south. It becomes uncomfortable. Every girl who comes around she will comment on. Everybody will know you dumped her etc.
MisterBanny: Greetings to all Nairalanders, this year and even beyond, I've promised myself to focus more on developing myself and family. I will Never love any Nigerian lady until I'm ready for marriage. I also vowed that any of my male friends who come up with any relationship issues will lose our friendship cos I hate it. A Friend has been pestering me, he needs advice as to the behavior of his girlfriend who he's dated for over Two years who he intends settling down with. Here are his complaints:
1. She doesn't allow my guy access to her phone. This guy doesn't intentionally check his woman's phone except he wants to send movies and pictures, but anytime he wants to do so, the girl gets instantly Nervous and starts fidgeting. She becomes restless & would come closer to see what the guy is actually doing with her phone.
2. They haven't had penetrative Sex since they started dating. The girl says she's a virgin. She claimed she's a Virgin even during the toasting period without allowing my guy to find out by himself. She's 28yrs old. They play, kiss, romance, he gives her girl head but the girl doesn't give him head. Even when my guy asks the girl to allow him confirm and verify her Virginity claim, she refused.
3. She hasn't introduced him to any friend or family member. My guy had to beg & beg before she gave out two of her family members Phone numbers to him. Sadly, these two persons don't take him serious. If my guy calls to greet them, they hardly pick and then they miss his calls, they don't call back.
4. She doesn't post my guy on the social media, but my friend posts her always and even write romantic stuffs.
5. She has lots of male friends who call her everyday even on Video calls. She said she prefer male friends to female friends. Why should a guy be calling u everyday even during the midnight, like 1am, 2am and 3am? Is that proper?
6. She claimed her ex maltreated her, yet the ex still calls her and when she misses the call, she calls back or flash him to call. Is that right?
7. She traveled in December 2022 and ghosted my friend the very moment she took off from the park. She stopped picking his calls and never called back, for no reason. My friend gave up and moved on. After 5 months, she came back & asked for reconciliation and they started again & continued. My friend ask her to tell him exactly why she did that, but she said "Nothing". She promised never to do it again. She traveled again last December and she repeated same. This time, she picks my guy's calls but she hasn't called or chatted with my friend. My friend has moved on.
8. My friend had once read her WhatsApp chat with a guy. She pleaded for mercy and my guy forgave her.
9. She came to visit my guy, my guy helped her to lose her hair that day. I mean he losed everything while the girl was busy Playing with her phone. After he finished losing the hair, this girl couldn't even sweep my guy's room. It was my friend who slept the room after she had left. He swept it for days. U know how women's hair can be in the room. This girl has never swept or done any domestic chores for my guy before.
This is same girl that each time my guys wants to breakup with her, she will cry and cry and apologize and he will forgive her. My guy doesn't cheat and he loves the girl too much. She misbehaves a lot yet, she continues to claim love. Her actions betray her words. I feel very sorry for the emotional entanglement. My guy is traumatized cos he has been so good to this girl. I feel pity for him. Pls advise a brother now, before it gets late
Why are earth are you wasting peoples time when you the friend can see the handwriting on the wall !
Politics › Re: Femi Otedola Donates ₦1 Billion To Lagos State Security Trust Fund by rickleye: 2:14am On Jan 11, 2024
