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OSUigboFlatHead:
Some of you can never just keep a man.
This is the reason why there is usually domestic violence and some people beat their wives to death.
ARROGANCE
PRIDE
You want to match up to a man? WHO THE F#CK DO YOU THINK YOU ARE ?

Most of you barely contribute anything meaningful to the house, yet you want to make rules and have things done in your way? Lol
Well many of you just write some of these defensive nonsense online for cruise. In real life, who born monkey?

The head of the house makes the rules. YOU ARE JUST THERE TO COME UP WITH OPINIONS (OPINIONS I SAID) BUT NEVER TO COUNTER HIS SAYS.
KNOW THAT AND KNOW PEACE OR DIE TRYING.

Should I descend on you now, it will seem as if I take pleasure in oppressing small-minded elements like you. With this your response to my post, you either left your brain offline before coming online or you have an outright low IQ, given that my moniker bears a male symbol, and nowhere in my post did I state being otherwise.

Scram before I change my mind and descend on you heavily. Bumpkin.

If you gave her the impression that your presence in the environment/town was temporary and for a short while, and did not have any root there, she was right to have said "oh your place," even though a more grammatical statement would have been "oh where you stay." If you didn't give her any of such impressions, however, you didn't err to have said "your house," even though a more grammatical statement would have been "where you live" since it is a rented apartment.

Your kind of experience is one of such scenarios that has always made me laugh hard whenever I see you new generation guys under different ideological names ignorantly posit that a man should pray to be chosen by a woman for a relationship/marriage. 99 percent of the time, she will use you to accomplish her short or long-term self-absorbing goal.

The problem has never been your twin, and your big sister now by extension, but you.

You do find it hard to be unassuming and straightforward and have always projected yourself on your twin/expected her to be pandering to your whims and caprices and to be unassuming and straightforward towards you. You personify narcissism, so she will always feel drained around you.

At the risk of sounding judgemental towards you, these are the same attitudes that have made it difficult for you to land yourself any reasonable man.

Forget about the fact that you've always tried to use your religious inclination to gloss your shortcomings, embracing a new leaf centered on justness will make you a better person.

I know this isn't the kind of reply you were expecting; unfortunately, truth is bitter sometimes.

Stop being servile under any guise. In fact, you are the cause of your problem, citing the fact that you believe that even your just retaliatory action - however unpalatable it sounds - against her intentional and unjust abuse towards you and your mother is bad. Maybe, you have not told the truth about who the main instigator of the rift between the two of you is.

Meanwhile, there is nothing mature and manly about a man, and vice versa, walking out of the house just to avoid/stop an altercation with a woman who is foolish enough not to allow principle to take precedence over expediency/her pettiness. Most of you have poor concepts of respect/maturity and strong person, which is while you lots have always resorted to using servility to sustain peace and still called it respect - if servile; or using unjust cruelty to command obedience - if domineering - and mistaking it for having a diligent/submissive wife.

Servility is as bad as unjust cruelty; say no to both of them.

Jovialjune1:
The only time you made sense, and I had no choice but to like your comment

It is either someone is commenting on behalf of this moniker, or you woke up on the right side today

This your usual indirect way of telling me that you've missed me a lot and need my attention for your refreshment is now old, lol. Anyway, I'm not available for you, small girl, and I promise not to be the reason you'll cry today.

Mindlog:
Well written.

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Lol, trouble-maker, you are laughing today. Well, it will not stop me from sending you an e-slap if you misyarn the next moment, just as I will try to make another arrangement when in town for you to come to my aristocratic enclave so that I can better your life. You must leave Jaywick as far as I am concerned, whether you like it or not.

Stay safe and blessed just for this moment.

Blessedmercy8:
Sorry to say but you're being stubborn to the man.

Your husband can not just wake up and say those things to you. You must have done something that annoyed him to make him say such, prolly to get back at you.

Now, reason I said you're being stubborn is, you know he doesn't like your moimoi, yet you keep making it. As in... Let him do his worse. Abi na?

If you truly care and respect him, you would stop but here you are telling us you can never stop making it because your children like it. By that you're already saying he should go to hell for all you care and he too gets the message reason he chose to be careless with words too.

You claim he buys it outside. What does that tell you? Yours is prolly not as fanimorous ( sorry to say). Now, what have you done to improve your moimoi because there is moimoi and there is mai-mai **chuckles** .
My dad too hated moimoi to the extent that one day after he dropped money for food and asked what we want to prepare, we all chorused moimoi (because we children loved moimoi) and he said "moimoi gbuo gi" that is, "moimoi Kee you". There and then we knew we have tormented this man with this food. So we prepared his favorite, rice and stew.

You need to calm down for your man. You chose to marry him in the first place, so do anything that will make him happy. Coming here after how many children to say you feel ashamed of yourself for letting him sleep with you makes no sense because you too have been sleeping with him. so both of you have used each other. No biggies. Forget and move on.

Look for how to spice up your moimoi. Prepare it for only your children, (give him what he wants) let him perceive your new moimoi, he'll be the one requesting for it.

You don't have to prepare it the same day you're making other meals. You can just make the moimoi on your free days and pack in the fridge for your children so you don't get to overwork yourself.

The fact that he doesn't like moi-moi (or the one she prepares) but the majority do is enough reason for him to accept her decision to continue preparing it as a meal for the family in good faith. Life doesn't revolve around him; that is what it means to be thoughtful as a man. Where there was no existing/hidden animosity between him and his wife, and assuming that they have always been mutually sacrificial toward each other, the wife could cheerfully and seamlessly find a way of making an alternative meal available for him; just as he could always personally find a way to fix his own meal in such an instance too, when the wife is sincerely unopportune to do so, unless he's destitute that is incapacitated and can't afford to fix his own meal directly or indirectly.

There's hidden animosity between them; this issue of a meal is just an afterthought. And she and her husband alone know the cause of the rift in their union.

The majority of couples are nothing more than frenemies living together.

OP, get ready for guilt because if care is not taken 90% of the commenters will try to make light of her action, if not justifying it outright, one way or the other, and make you the culprit.

Meanwhile, if adultery is your dealbreaker on self-conviction (not because most people think that it should be), go ahead and divorce her, provided that you're certain that you've not gotten involved in adultery in the cause of the union because the woman you have there is not good for you if adultery and untrustworthiness in general is your dealbreaker.

Given that you have a vested interest in her, the law of natural justice has already disqualified you from being a judge in the case between her and her ex-husband because it's your case too by the virtue of your vested interest in her. So, your unfavorable opinion about her ex-husband is understandable, even though he might not have been the culprit/narcissist between them.

Perhaps, when you start seeing her from an altruistic POV, you will be able to dissect her and know her for who she truly is and the stuff she's made of rather than the angel you have chosen to see her as. It is her ex-husband, in his moment of sensibleness and honesty, or any other discerning person who has closely known and dissected her from an altruistic stance that can tell if she is a good person or not, not you.

It may be like magic to you that if both of you are to marry, the marriage might not last more than two days because in such an instance both of you will start living from the intrinsic parts of your individual selves rather than from the extrinsic parts.

In fact, I wager, you and your types might have contributed to her failed marriage because a woman's worst enemy remains any close male around her who can't muster the courage to tell her the bitter truths all of the time in the name of maintaining a good rapport with her.

You've either wittingly or unwittingly failed to tell yourself the truth, even though it's staring at your face. Whatever problem you're facing in the union started/got compounded that day you competed with your husband on whose biological mother between the two of you was to come visiting abroad. The fact that you didn't see any reason to defer to him on that occasion on his insistence and that being the first of its kind automatically showed that you're a contentious wife. So, you ought not to be surprised that he (and by extension your parents-in-law: yes, he obviously told them) has been meting out to you treatment deserving of a contentious wife since then, your current resolve/support to have his biological mother make the visit and any other sacrifice you might have been making since then notwithstanding. In fact, from the connotation of your posit, it's even for a self-absorbing reason that you've resolved to have his biological mother to come now.

Seek his forgiveness first on the mentioned incidence above and any other similar incident that might have happened and turn a new leaf if truly you care about enjoying a healthy union with him. You haven't been able to understand the kind of man you've been married to; thus, the reason why you've been using the wrong potion on him.

That said, I don't hold a brief for him, and his own shortcomings are also glaring, but I wager in the cause of playing your part well, he'll gradually sit up, provided that his original intention towards you and the union in general is pure.

This is a 9-years old photo. It was taken in 2013, during the time Kwankwaso formally joined APC.

https://pmnewsnigeria.com/2013/12/19/kwankwaso-formally-joins-apc/

You made it sound as if irresponsibility is exclusive to the female gender alone, even when a right-thinking clone of you ought to have known that it's not, especially when your answer to a question on whether your mother is irresponsible like your sisters will be in the negative, citing the connotation of your submission.

In summary, your sisters, as bad as their behaviors are if your story is true, aren't standard for the female gender.

I shudder when I read the opposite article on the front page some hours ago, a misleading and mischievous publication. Anyway, it is just like in the publication where Tinubu and his campaign organization appealed to Peter Obi to call his supporters to order to eschew the campaign of confrontation and calumny; they did not make the call because they like fairness and peace; instead, they did because they do not seem to have upper hand/sole right of meting out vices against the other candidates, something they wish and are doing everything possible to achieve. Theirs is a typical case of hypocritical and disingenuous entities.

I am not in support of the campaign of calumny from any side, though, and every candidate deserves fair treatment.

All of you here castigating him might still remain in your wretched conditions while he prospers in that same Nigeria, provided that he has acumen/skill to solve any of the myriads of problems that abound in the country begging for solutions and if you as his disparager here fail to better yourself. Yes, there is poor leadership in the country; yet, the main bane of poverty among you all remains your lack of acumen/meaningful skills in general. Nigeria remains one of the easiest and best countries to make money - real money - because opportunities abound. You can't have a nose for business and development without seeing the bountiful opportunities.

The way bumpkins like you always strive to pass your parochial opinions as standard and shove it down on others is not only funny but irritating.

He's truly a gritty religious leader, and more of his kind are needed within the religious circle and everywhere in general. Everyone's concern should always be about striving to do what is right at any given time and giving less concern about who's for or against you.

Zonefree:
Yorubas sabi respect elders well well.

It's only in Yorubaland a conductor will be calling you Sir and still be insulting you.

Knowing how, or striving, to act respectfully shouldn't be mistaken and equated to being respectful and having self-respect/grit.

Give her one of your relations since you are certain that she has no supernatural force following her. I don't want to believe that you do not have male relations.

Persephone1:
Only you dragging shoulders with women,its certain you went diick hawking when God gave out sense of shame. You no get shame at all.

So in your God blessed life , living in UK is something to brag with? You are blessed indeed. soon you will be dragging bra size with women on this forum

Stop harming yourself Persephone1 aka Ariza/Marialavina/Palema007/Diddydiva/Ruthdaniels, I know that rejection has always hurt you lots so much. I have every reason to brag if I so wish to because I have achieved things nna gi can only dream of. Oh, yes, being an American diplomatic passport holder and owning offices in places like Mayfair, London, UK; Atherton, California, USA is something to brag about.

Dangerous snake. I guess since 2015 no man on Nairaland has fallen for your romance scam again after Tosintoo.much did. Did you later return the Nokia phone he bought for you after he dumped you and requested for same?

Mindlog:
The delusionist said I should first send £1,000 to a "Nairalander" of his choice to prove I am resident in the UK, after which he would send me I think £2,500 and I should also come to his office in Mayfair, London before he departs the UK, so he can help my life.

He is certainly not taking his drugs.

https://www.nairaland.com/7237255/married-woman-single-guy-blamed/1#114970925

Lol, I hope it's with reference to the thread above, the offer is still there. At least, after I showed that I was still in the UK, you ran. I was able to beat you in your own challenge. Besides, the amount is £25,000. In addition to that, I will take care of your medical health bills for a period of one year because you obviously need comprehensive medical rehabilitation.

Nairaland is not only meant for poor people like you, you have no choice than to accept it in good faith. Jaywick bumpkin.

Persephone1:
You are nothing but an attention starved perv! Its so sickling that a grown ass man like yourself can stoop way below the ground to seek a 5 minutes attention . You claim all shit! But its amazing that those you have tried to slander are doing better, touching lives and making impact while you whom God as blessed goes about with a virtual "Please Notice Me" placard around your neck begging for 5 naira attention .

Just this evening man with balls like you testified to being blessed by a female nairaland whom in your warped mind is evil. But here you are trying to bring down a Good woman for sharing something your flaccid balls are too weak to do even though you earn billions every seconds. If i talk say your brain is upside down now, it will be as if i'm rude. Meanwhile its just the truth about how your brain really works.

Yes! we put POCO on the pedestal, As a matter of fact shes the only nairalander that intrigues me on this forum and i respect her for who she is. If that is what is killing you, kindly go hug a working transformer to end your misery. Do that early because that respect and love we have for Poco isn't ending ever!

https://www.nairaland.com/5952750/covid-19-pandemic-family-man/1#91222464

Lol, the person small-minded Poco said I blackedmailed for a job is here already. With reference to the thread above that has made you so bitter towards me, is it my fault that despite knowing that you do not have a skill for the job that was available (a help intended for another person also) still decided to come closer for a relationship that was turned down?

Ariza: (now persephone1 aka Marialavina/Palema007/Diddydiva/Ruthdaniels).

Should I send mine too? I'm serious o

LordKO:
Send me your CV through this email, if truly you studied Computer Engineering; you can also include your Whatsapp number. Don't include this email if quoting this message because I'll remove it afterward.

Ariza:
"Seen. But I didn't study computer Engineering though." And she went ahead to send her email and Whatsapp number; when she did not get a response from him because he was not interested in allowing her to mingle with him outside here for any other reason, given that she has always professed her love for him and wished to have him to herself for about two years prior, she came back here and started antagonism against him, Lol.

My simple refusal to allow you closer to me on an intimate level makes you so bitter. Lol.

By the way, is tosin.toomuch aware that this your new moniker? Dangerous snake. I guess since 2015 no man on Nairaland has fallen for your romance scam again after he did. Did you later return the Nokia phone he bought for you after he dumped you and requested for same?

pocohantas:
You are not my boss. So shut up!

You can’t give any recommendation and I would type this boldly for anyone reading

THIS MONICKER I QUOTED IS SAME AS LORDKO. ALWAYS DISGUISING AS SOMEONE WITH LOTS OF WELL-PAYING VACANCIES.

PLEASE DO NOT SEND YOUR CV TO HIM. THE LAST NAIRALANDER THAT TRIED IT ALMOST GOT BLACKMAILED PUBLICLY.

DO NOT FALL FOR HIS BIG TALK!!!!

Whom God has blessed, no one can successfully slander or curse. Lol, definitely not any small-minded element.

Illuminating the light of those whom the masses assumed their destinies are too dimmed to shine has always been my hobby.

Bye-bye, little thing.

pocohantas:
Oh shut up! You just can’t help spreading your bile on this thread. I knew it was only a matter of hours and you would come out in full force.

Please shut up!

Stop trying to insult your boss unjustly. Anyway, one can only blame the MODs that make it possible for small-minded elements like you to insult others unjustly and go scot-free. Well, say that to my boy, nna gi!

Meanwhile, one of my companies is presently hiring both Software Engineers and Finance Experts at Toptal. Assuming that you are a top talent, I would have said, go and register there let me recommend you to my HR personnel for a $160 and $140 per/hour job respectively that will run consecutively for a minimum of 11 months, and you will stand a chance of being made a permanent staff member and relocated to America at the end of the 11 months.

If you are looking for a place where everyone will always put you on a pedestal, get the eff off this forum.

KushLyon:
There's one particular female that's always shouting up and down nairaland that people who claim to be working from home are fraudsters, come and see your gender making big bucks while working from home. Ignorance is a big disease, I for tag her but I don forget her moniker, make I no go drag the wrong person into this violence

The OP used to hold the same opinion. One thing with small-minded people - no thanks to conceit and delusions of grandeur in general - is that whatever they do not have knowledge about, they will do everything possible to disparage and despise it and those involved in it, but once they become a bit knowledgeable about it, they try to usurp it.

Truth is bitter, but I can't stop saying it.

agabaI23:
I need an intro. I am very good at what I do. I will not let you down. I am already there but I need some help

If you are a top-notch professional as a software engineer, designer, finance expert, product manager, or project manager, forget about Upwork, Freelancer.com, Fiverr, etc., and go to Toptal because that's where top talents are and where high-net-worth companies usually hire. It is more vigorous with its screening process, but that is where you will make real money and stay steadily advanced. And you don't need any introduction to get things done.

The law says: "To win, a Presidential candidate needs an overall majority and at least 25% of the votes in two-thirds of the states (24 states)."

Forget the matter and continue with her and tender an apology to her for trying to change from whom you made her believe you were. This is so because, from the connotation of your submission, you had always given her an impression from the inception that adultery is not a dealbreaker for you, and you made her believe that she can always do anything that makes her happy rather than striving to do the right thing regardless of circumstances - as a wannabe liberal/civil/modern/peace loving man. Don't allow the wrath of whatever it is that you hold dear to strike you for trying to change the goalpost in the middle of the game.

In fact, she ought to sue you if you try any nonsense for breach of understanding; yes, starting and maintaining a relationship with someone with servility, and all of a sudden, in the middle of the union, you now want to give up servility is an act of betrayal. You are a traitor. Typical hypocritical and disingenuous element.

Servility is as bad as unjust cruelty; say no to both of them directly and indirectly.

The article is full of misinformation. For example, Boni Haruna, who served out his second term in 2007, couldn't have been defeated in the 2015 gubernatorial election in Adamawa State, and Chris Uba was never Mbadinugu's godfather, etc.

OkoYibo:
Unfortunately for you, your mother's enemies have pushed you into the hands of Okoyibo. Go and ask your ancestors about me. I eat species like you as snacks.

Out of the top 5 richest Nigerians, Yorubas are 3 Fulanis are 2 Igbos are 0.

The 3rd richest Yoruba is Modupe Alakija. She is richer than all Igbos living and dead.

No Igbo man dead or alive has ever made the Forbes richest list in Africa. In fact, as at today, there is no Igbo man in Nigeria who is worth up to 1 Billion dollars.

Arthur Eze is the richest Igbo man. Adenuga will buy half a dozen Arthur Eze and put them in Shoprite nylon and still collect change.

My brother, Yorubas no be your papa mate. Even your deities in Igboland are hawking in Lagos. Amadioha is selling keke parts in Ladipo.

Although I do not hold a brief for the guy you responded to, your low IQ stinks. Apart from the fact that Orji Uzor Kalu, an Igboman, had once been rated a billionaire by Forbes, which is contrary to your foolish otherwise assertion, the reason why some other wealthy men from Igboland (and anywhere else) who are in the billionaires ranks by all standards have not always been rated is because they mostly run limited liability companies or have their wealth held by third party entities and aren't ready to invite Forbes and make their conquests open to it. Forbes always has it easier when someone's wealth is made open through Plc(s).

I know the time and hassle it took from both parties before it was able to quantify the assets of one of the Nigerian rated some years back. All it takes to have it probably rate some of us is inviting it and opening our conquests books for it, a rigorous process that isn't going to add much value in one's life other than earning worshiping and praises from bumpkins like you.

Yes. But, are men more unfaithful than women, notionally, yes; literally, no. Men who cheat are simply more inclined to be open and bold with their acts than women who cheat, simple.