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Leave the messenger and digest the message, her sentimental position notwithstanding. It is dangerous to either build up or build with anyone, regardless of gender, with low integrity - walking and working with anyone from weak ethical leanings, regardless of their social strata, is like pouring fuel on fire standing closely.

Olivyabrown:
I am Igbo. It took the intervention of relatives and family friends for my father to support my brother's university education. My brother spent three years after his secondary school education learning trade despite having excellent grades in WASSCE.

For me, he was ready to send me abroad to study but couldn't due to some financial difficulties.

You see, my dad believed that a man needs money while a woman needs education in order to attract the right suitors. So his comments are factual.

Today, my brother is gainfully employed and
he is the one carrying the financial burden of family
He still hates my father for that decision.

Anybody can lay claim of being Igbo, especially on a forum like this, and whether you're Igbo or not, your father/family isn't a standard for the bona fide Igbos.

Foodqueen:
The baby mama resemble toyin Abraham.

Baby Mamas are always too bittered, always looking for opportunities to talk their baby daddy down.

Na them Sabi.

You've not been fair to her with this post, assuming that her stated version of what transpired is the truth. It's always appalling and irritating seeing the position of people like you who always expect others to keep calm and suck up when or after being denigrated or abused directly or indirectly by self-absorbing and/or opportunistic people. To you, if she had continued keeping quiet after the monarch had sanctimoniously, hypocritically, and disingenuously cast aspersions on her that would have been better and a way to show that she's wise, diplomatic, liberal, and emotionally intelligent. Nonsense.

People who do suck up, in the face of oppression, are by extension frenemies, without the oppressor even knowing, which is worse than an enemy or known opposition. Mistake their disingenuousness and/or feeble-mindedness for any form of good attitude at your peril.

Jman06:
I love your post and your sincerity on this subject.

That is what I have been saying. In our societies today, especially among the Igbos, more emphasis are placed on educating the girl children while their male counterparts are sent to go learn trade or skill with little or no education. When the females are done getting the best of education and jobs, they start searching for a suitable partner and unfortunately, they hardly find the kind of guys they want from amongst their people. So, some of them are left with no choice than look for equally educated men from other tribes while others settle in the awkward marriage with their barely educated Igbo traders. While the rest remain unmarried.

I believe there's need for value reorientation among our people. Equal opportunities should be given to both genders in terms of education and jobs. After all, so much is still demanded of men in our societies when it comes to shouldering family and societal responsibilities.

I wonder what kind of nonsense I will not hear from you small-minded lots on this forum about Igbos. I wonder where you got the statistics that most Igbo families do sentimentally send their daughters to school instead of their sons or deny their sons formal education, and that by extension, saying that men from other tribes are more educated than Igbomen, even when the SSCE and JAMB records and other proven statistical measures locally and internationally said otherwise. The way some of you propagate lies and misinformation because of ignorance, hate in any guise, ethnocentrism, or conceit is both appalling and irritating. I do not care whether you might claim to be an Igboman or not, whichever way, you are definitely not an informed and just one. Stop either using your family as a standard for the bona fide Igbos or stop saying nonsense about what you know nothing about. Distorting facts, misinforming the public, and casting aspersions on others unjustly, regardless of the reason, amount to small-mindedness and insanity in general.

In summary, I have not seen a bona fide Igbo family that does discriminate against their offspring educationally to be particular.

I won't care about any gibberish you might wish to spew, so direct it, if any, to small-minded people like you.

Weak ethical leanings - it cuts across both the divide anyway.

Most men are slaves to women while erroneously or wittingly or unwittingly thinking that they command their respect. If you've to condone a woman's (anyone) evil before being in her good book, you are her slave, and what you command cannot be real respect.

As much as you've tried to make a reasonable point; yet, you fail short in being just, so you're not better than those you have tried to chastise. You ought to have known that whatever evil you see goes around cuts across both genders here and everywhere else. Of course, I neither hold a brief for anyone who disparages others unjustly nor glosses their evil with any form of a label.

People like you who usually give out a vibe that you believe that a woman cannot do evil or feign ignorance or aid and abet the evil of some women are not better than crass/contemptuous and/or opportunistic men.

One, regardless of gender, who comes into equity must come with clean hands; else, they should be ready to bear the consequences of their actions. Priceless peace is inestimable, but peace can only be said to be priceless when obtained under mutual goodness.

The disingenuous and feeble-minded acts glossed as respect is nonsense.

jornwhite:
Like i said earlier, assistance is never the problem rather gender, kind of people attached are the problem.
it is not a c'mon practice in igboland for the bride family to contribute or finance there daughter wedding, igbos are out to sell & make profit, if out of the blues people with such custom & mentality want to finance my wedding, before my Ego rings, discretion calls i don't feel offended, i don't just want anything that might turnout to hunt me later.
@most they can make 5star preparation for there guest buh should allow me be responsible for my guest, how i want it.
The main question is can Rochas daughter marry a poor man, if i marry rochas daughter its mean my family is within her father's league, we go use money compete, buh lets say i'm poor n i decide say naa rochas pikin i want then it means i am ready to take whatever my eye see in that r/ship. trust those untrained daughters any small issue she go remind whu paid the cameramen, e whu pay the piper dictate the tune

Having a igbo friend or knowing that your friends wife sponspor there wedding does not negate the term " greek gift". a lot of shit happens in marriage he won't even want to tell is close friends, beyond that wedding day do you live with them, i can count the number of times i visit my married friends house, we only meet @ bar/lounge simply because a woman is @ home Regardless of wrong or right, everyone has choice n can do whatever they want afterall we bear the consequences alone.

Bona fide, established and/or sane ones who're in the majority, Igbos do not go out selling their daughters and making profits from their marriage rites and ceremonies, and they also do bear part or the full cost of their daughters' marriage ceremonies, depending on either the family's financial standing or groom's mentality or financial standing. I do not care whether you might claim to be an Igboman or not, whichever way, you are definitely not a bona fide one and your family by extension. Stop either using your family as a standard for the bona fide Igbos or stop saying nonsense about what you know nothing about. Distorting facts, misinforming the public, and casting aspersions on others unjustly, regardless of the reason, amount to small-mindedness and insanity in general.

Labadi69:
If you really knew how MKO rose to the top at ITT, you would never write such yamayama nonesense so full of crap. See as you just confidently open your mouth waaaa to type rubbish

Don't mistake me for the bumpkins that brought you into this world. Now scram and direct your further mention to small-minded people like you.

The number one item isn't always true, and I couldn't read past it. It depends on your level of professionalism and mindset - one of the things I learned from the late MKO Abiola while growing up about his rise and exploits at ITT. As a topnotch professional, with the mindset (which include the inculcation of gumption and Midas Touch), you can always make the value you give to correlate with the reward you derive in the corporate world by always working with rather than for the establishment (the partnership/gold-collar positioning), even when under its employment as a staff. The philosophy of self-conquest, self-belief, and the power of negotiation never disappoints - you'll always gain more from profit sharing or commission than salary alone.

Provided that his action stems from the place of volition, thoughtfulness, and necessity and she sees and receives it cheerfully knowing that it isn't because of the potency of her shenanigans, then all correct.

Always strive to be a source of positive energy/renewal of energy to anyone you cross their path/in your life, unless/until they give you reason that they don't deserve you, then you can wreck them if you so desire.

IBB didn't originally make that pronouncement 24 hours ago per se but some months ago; more so, he specifically mentioned Kalu. By the way, there's nothing new about BAT's visit to OUK citing the fact that they've been longstanding associates.

FreeStuffsNG:
You obviously missed where I stated that it's missing on his Wikipedia page and still doesn't put him on same political set as politicians like Dr Iyorchia Ayu and Asiwaju Tinubu. I know to you IPOB terrorists, every thing is primitive tribalism

Unlike you and your likes, I am a detribalized Nigerian. But then, only you and your ilks would believe that Tinubu, my respect to him, is literally more accomplished and influential than OUK both then and now in the sight of sane and accomplished people, lol. I do not enter into a needless exchange of words of small-minded people like you, at least not on political and economic matters, since I know that you don't have any electoral value and lack cognizance and shrewdness. Anyway, direct your further mention to small-minded people like you.

FreeStuffsNG:
The current National PDP, Senator Iyorchia Ayu,PhD, is one of those set you disparage because of hatred for BAT.

Just in case you don't know since you were not told this because you are probably too young to know what happened then , it is those set of SDP senators you just called uselsss that formed the core of NADECO that eventually fought back to have our democracy restored.

Those military guys the likes of Asiwaju Tinubu were fighting then were the ones who use the likes of HE Senator OUK as errands boy then. Asiwaju is his senior by age too. Where I come from, we respect those older than us sir

If not not for myopia and ethnocentrism, you would have known that OUK was a member of the same national assembly in 1992, although as a member of the HOR. He could equally have won a senatorial seat then, or even a governorship seat then, if not for his age as at the time.

The connotation of your submission shows that you're a wannabe civil, gentle, kind, libertarian man - on a very good day, you're the typical politically correct element like the many that abound on this section of the forum and beyond. Enjoy the vices you enabled from the inception.

Servility is as bad as unfairness/unjust cruelty, say no to both of them - this is my advice.

Ulunne777:
Neya wey OUK take settle Chima Anyaso but marriage scatter in less than 1 year.She's way beautiful than this make up/edited photos.

Happy birthday Ada Ebiri!
God bless your new age!

Chima and Neya never got married; engagement isn't the same thing as marriage. Stop distorting facts, misinforming the public, or casting aspersions on others unjustly.

Yes. If I can't consider you worthy enough to marry my sister or have an intimate relationship that could lead to marriage with her, then you don't merit being my friend in the first place.

A person nags either because of the continual thoughtlessness of the person hir nags or because of hir own insatiableness. So, the first step towards finding a solution to the issue is by being truthful to yourself on whether you've always been thoughtful towards her or not; if the answer is no, then the problem lies with you and the onus is on you to turn over a new leaf, but if yes, then the problem lies with her and a good-no nonsense-carefree attitude from you will make her turn over a new leaf by force.

That is the normal bliss that usually takes place when a woman has an altruistic interest in a man and when the man is conscientious (and vice versa). Shame on contentious and opportunistic and/or self-absolving people - too clever by half and classists elements - and their wack mentality.

Nukilia:


Why must we always choose the thieves among us to lead this great country

Sanctimonious bumpkin; I wonder how you and your likes are better than OUK. Enough of all this nonsense.

Men strive to be kind and good in general to your wives and everyone in general because it is the right thing to do, but only continually be kind and good to your wives, or anyone at all, who have justified the ones already being to them. Don't allow anyone to blackmail you into pandering to the whims and caprices of a small-minded wife (or person) in the name of striving to be in her good book in view of having her treat you well at your old age. I wonder where it is even certified that only men are always the ones to be in deplorable states at old age.

Stop beating yourself because of a man who has failed to relate with you based on your anima and disposition, the main things that matter, but instead has chosen to relate with you based on your demeanor and persona.

She has been dealing with a man who's ignorantly small-minded, domineering, and/or greedy.

Servility is as bad as unjust cruelty/unfairness; say no to both of them. Any peace not obtained under mutual goodness isn't priceless and is meaningless, and no sane mind indulges it. Wannabe civil/gentle/kind/peaceful man; only your type uses servility to obtain and sustain peace, so enjoy the nonsense you've enabled.

vickydevoka:
All most all tribe do aside igbos

Small-mindedness runs in the vein of most of you. I wonder where you ethnocentric and/or myopic elements get the notion that Igbo families, especially the established ones, don't give financial support to their sons-in-law during marriage ceremonies or singlehandedly cater for the expenses of their daughters' marriage ceremonies, except where the groom is established and/or rejects help.

Hypocritically sanctimonious and ethnocentric elements everywhere. So, it's now normal and not a taboo to spend a good amount of money performing a marriage rite/ceremony - regardless of whether it is the groom or the bride's family that made the expenses, provided that they have it. It's now a thing of pride and joy that demands commendation and celebration.

It's appalling that with every second absurd news like this and its ilks, most of my South Western brothers and sisters still do not see shame in carrying around a bigotry/ethnocentrism toga. If half of the news like this could come out from Igboland on a second basis like this, these sanctimonious and hypocritically disingenuous lots would have said it's an Igbo culture or that all Igbos are primitive.

There are good and bad people everywhere. Let us all say no to sanctimony, bigotry, hypocrisy, and all the associated vices in general.

The NGF isn't being fair to the contractors in this regard, considering the level of risk and resources (professional and much more) they put in place to make the Paris Club refund possible. More so, before Malami assumed office as the AGF, his predecessors had always been in support of giving the contractors their due share.

IamAsiri:
https://www.nairaland.com/6806448/uncle-decided-end-marriage-30#106810054

I knew you're behind both monikers but decided to push you to say it out directly or indirectly by yourself, which you've successfully done. Lol.

IamAsiri:
Really! I am not a "too clever by half element" and I was not out to "make a fool of you". And mind you, I am not "small-minded" and don't blast people this way you blast. Patience would have required you to actually go to that so-called thread you quoted in order to ridicule the OP. I wish people wouldn't always try to make other people feel low because they themselves made an error of judgement.

Since you now want me to believe that you are not being too clever by half and small-minded; don't want to appear as the same person as the OP even after assuming the position of his spokesman uninvited and vowing the genuineness of his claim; and you have no intention to fool others, provide the link of that thread I made mention about where he copied the main story because according to your submissions, you are aware of the said thread. Do that or keep quiet and stop deceiving yourself.

He didn't express any concern. His is a typical meandering statement meant to achieve many things later on. Lol. Only the discerning can see through his position.

IamAsiri:
If you had read all the comments under that person's story, you would have seen his too, not faraway and very similar to that OP's story.

A typical response of a too clever by half element! Direct your mention to small-minded people like you and make a fool of them.