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Is this for real or a movie?

If it were me, it will be a big deal oooooo, who says it is not a big deal.?? i agree with those that say maybe he is not a "birthday" kinda guy....but still not remebering your wife's birthday is just rubbish....i personally do not joke with my birthdays or anyone else's birthday for that matter./..and for my hubby to forget my birthday, even when i brought it up to him, he just said "sorry" ...odi egwu.....

My dear...his birthday party will so be "on hold".......only that two wrongs don't make a right.....

i will wake-up in the morning on his birthday...and scream "HAPPY BIRTHDAY"...then tell him this is how you say it, since you don't know....

Bake cake and buy wine...and tell him...this is how you buy it, since you don't have an idea.....

Take him out to lunch or dinner.....and remind him...this is how you do it, since you don't know...

Buy him gifts and present the gifts to him...and tell him, this how you buy gifts....

Then give him a strong ride....at night that will make him convulse and shiver...and tell him finally...this is how you f/u/ck/ on your birthday since you don't have any idea.....

And ask him in the morning, "hope you get it now? i don't expect a repeat!!!!

And this will never end!!!!!! lol.....................come to think of it, why are you both (Saga and Brown.J) arguing??

safarigirl: yet you dey here dey threaten fire and brimstone on top wife wey you no go ever marry. Nna coolu temper biko nu. So you no wan get pikin, abi you wan do Tu baba style?

Even Tu-baba gansef....after gallivanting around for years and throwing out s/p/e/rms high on the mountains and low in the valleys, still put a "ring on it",

Saga....when you meet that " ONE" you will put "a ring on it"...straighta!!!!

Dipwater: I have been following the arguments .criosly I luv the way dayokanu and coogar nailed it .girls, girls, girls pls listen to this guys if u want to have a happy home.wisdom is what u need to handle your family

Ronke baby do u biliv that women were made from a man's rib? Wow and a man is made from dust I laugh in all naija languages

your point is ?

Sagamite: Prayer and fasting everyday now.

Scared shyt at the sight of slippers.

i can't wait to know the outcome

dayokanu: Are you saying some laws in the bible have been cancelled? or what exactly are you saying? These exact passages are in the new testament so what is the point?

The old testements law has been fullfilled by Christ....

I love her hair , though the colour is too bright for her skin tone.

^^^^^^ Hope you are warming up??

dayokanu: Why did God choose racheal over Leah and Why did God choose Bathsheeba The wife David snatched from her husband and killed her husband in return

Ask God Himself now....look up to the sky and say "Baba God, why now?".....

When God made Adam...how many women did he create from his ribs as recorded in the Bible?

dayokanu: Are you always in silence whenever a man is talking like the bible prescribed? Were you created in the Glory of a man?

How women should be in a tent during menstruation and not speak to men.
How women are unclean after childbirth, oh also a verse states that women are not saved until they birth a child.

How about the clothes you wear? Are they mixed fiber? Cause that's not okay!!

People take these verses and interpret them to fit their lives and ignore others that do not benifit them at all.

If you say the Bible is the way you should be living, than put on your linen clothe and stand behind your man as you walk in public sit in the back of the church in silence and build yourself a tent for your mentstration cycle and don't even think about coming out till you're done.

And why did Christ come? so that we all can be enjoying the "Grace" that everyone is presently enjoying, which will soon be over.

coogar: ok then,
let's ignore a part of the bible and let's use another part that suits our agenda as a whip to flog others.
if we all follow what is written in the bible to the letter in this day and age, we would all be in maricopa county jail.

And why did Christ come? so that we all can be enjoying the "Grace" that everyone is presently enjoying, which will soon be over.

dayokanu: Polygamy was encouraged in the bible All the men of God were Polygamist Abraham the father of faith, Jacob, Solomon and even the man after Gods heart David were Polygamist. And there was no place where it was denounced as bad

Who encouraged it? Christ or God? Did you ever think of why God chose Sarah instead of Hagai, or Rachel instead of Leah, or Bathsheeba (if i got the spelling right) instead of all those wives David packed together

dayokanu: Which of the follwing verses in the bible do you agree with

"A man is the image and glory of God; but the woman is the glory of man." (1 Cor. 11:7)

"But i suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man but to be in SILENCE 1 Timothy 2:12

"Notwitstanding she shall be saved through childbearing"

"For the man is not of the woman; but the woman of the man. Neither was the man created for the woman; but the woman for the man." (I Corinthians 11:8-9)

I agree with everything the Bible has said, i have not made any laws nor am i ready to start arguing about what the Bible has said. God is the head of the Man, and the Man is the head of the woman (no one is arguing with that) God made man from dust, woman was made from the man's rib. So what is your point

coogar: the same bible said you are unclean during your period and you are not to be allowed to sit in any religious house.

That is an arguement for another day. you cannot use it as an example in a case like this.

dayokanu: Spanking and beating are violent acts. So what stops the child you spanked from spanking others too since his mom did it to him. We encourage violence in our acts directly and indirectly.

Bible? Should we go strictly by the bible? So for Moslems where the Koran states the man can beat his wife that is also right? or in the bible where there is nothing wrong with polygamy

is that our guiding principle right now? if we are to go by the bible tell me so i can bring out at least 5 tenets in the bible that you sef would shudder to think of abiding by.

In the bible is a woman allowed to speak in Public?

In which Bible verse did you see that polygamy is allowed ? so you are saying the Bible is wrong for allowing it?

dammytosh: I am sure you are a Yoruba girl. May be in the diaspora, i dont really know. You can ask around, that is what the tradition and culture calls them.

I am not in any way using it to justify why the BIL should slap her but like i said, they are all wrong.

Forget tradition, do you personally believe that the 14 yr old is her MIL?

dayokanu: You can talk to and scold. Thats correction. but physically touching a child is wrong no two ways about it. Because our culture allows it doesnt make it right.

Moreover it hasnt been proven anyway that beatiing a child makes them better. Else we wont have the level of decadence we have in Nigeria

Why did the Bible say it now!!!! why did Solomon say "spare the rod and spoil the child"?

dayokanu: The problem with Nigerians is that they dont see anything wrong as long as it doesnt happen to them

A man thinks beating him is wrong but doesnt see anything bad in beating wife, driver, or staff/Apprentice

A woman thinks beating her is wrong, But she doesnt see anything wrong in beating other women or househelp

The child thinks beating him/her is wrong but doesnt see anything wrong in beating his/her younger ones

Why cant we simply condemn all form of violence

So spanking/beating depending on the level, is wrong? I can see you will re-write the Bible.

dammytosh: I think it is wicked to assert that i dont see any wrong in beating up the woman. Nobody can touch my wife cos i am wise enough to protect and prevent her from getting to that level.
The simple law is that no inlaw comes to stay with us and i still maintain that it is wrong to beat an in-law whether you are a lady or a guy.

And throughout my post i did not insult any one to warrant any insult.

Dammy did you think my post here was for you? though!! you are of the school of thought that the 14year old is her MIL.

dayokanu: Exactly what is your point?

My own point is beating any human is wrong be it child, wife, houseboy, driver or neighbour. And in this particular case both of them were wrong.

So whats your own point? State it and lets know where you stand.

So Dayo, you cannot correct a 14 year old that is living with you? it does not matter what form of correction is given? because the same girl that reported to her dad she was slapped, will also report to him when she is asked to kneel down....so because she is 14 (minor) she is above correction.

vanitty: Foolish family, stupid husband
It is the way you portray your husband/wife that they will be treated
I am 100% sure the man does not hold the wife in high regards in front of his relatives.

The wife should not even bother with the in-law.
Face the husband squarely, by the time she finishes dealing with him, the in-law tries even calling her by name, the man would have responded with a violent bang.
My advice will only work if there is love/sanity in the hubby's heart for her though.

Arin fin oshi. The girl must have dragged herself so badly in front of them.

I agree with this.

dammytosh: I think it is wicked to assert that i dont see any wrong in beating up the woman. Nobody can touch my wife cos i am wise enough to protect and prevent her from getting to that level.
The simple law is that no inlaw comes to stay with us and i still maintain that it is wrong to beat an in-law whether you are a lady or a guy.

And throughout my post i did not insult any one to warrant any insult.

thought i was replying to Dayokanu!!!!

jennykadry: Haba calm down naa. Shebi it is a Nigerian thing, this is the way all Nigerians especially yoruba's think abi don't you know.

Exactly what I told dayo that people gat different upbringing, there is nothing like Nigerian rule/law. Tell me how it is normal for a Nigerian man to think that way? If it is, then dayo must have the same mentality .

Abeg una good night

My dear it is just him oooo, he obviously does not see anything wrong in the BIL beating-up the woman, and yet sees a 14year old as a minor and being abused, she is a minor to corrections and beatings and when men like him see her outside, she will not be a minor to p/r/i/c/k.

[quote author=Sisi_Kill]Will you please gerrout outta here with this your useless mother in law nonsense?

If you want someone that will be teri-baleing even for the ants in your house just because you did her a favor by marrying her, go marry a baboon in the bush.

Here in the real world, people EARN the respect they are awarded.

Nonsense!![/quote]Thank you!

Dede1: I am not into sentimental jokes. A wife is not a blood relation and can decide to leave the husband on the instance, vis-à-vis. This scenario has happened several times. However, I have not heard that a brother left brother or sister except death.
Now a wife or husband should not forget the cardinal relationship among human beings. What you forgot is that the elder brother could be a terrorist extra-ordinary.

So because a wife can leave her husband anytime, she deserves to be receiving slaps from her inlaws?? since "blood is thicker than water".