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pocohantas:
And I have asked them before, you want an educated partner, you want someone that can cook and clean, you want virgin, you want 6ft tall…

Why demonise rich partners please? Is it only true love when we are trekking under hot sun and sucking on 50 Naira fanyogo?

It's #200 now Mama Poco


.... justice for fanyogo

franchasng:
You are a kid, at most an adult teen.


I am a father, an employer of labor, a mentor to many, a tutor in Church, so when I speak you listen.


Femi Otedola failed in his fatherly role to his daughters, I don't wish such for my kids.


I have elder brothers who are very successful, some close to or let me say are in the Billionaire status and when I look at their daughters and even sons and how well they are molding them, I smile with joy and pray that I also succeed in raising my own little kids in better ways.



But as for adult teens like you, DJ Cuppy is doing well. In the first place, Femi ought not to have allowed her to venture into Disc Jockey as a career. I know you don't force a child to follow a career path but there are smart ways to inspire your kids or channel your kids to making great career choices.


Being a popular TV personality or entertainment celebrity doesn't make your life better or more organized than those that you rarely see on TV. If my kids must be famous, I wish they become famous in positive and life impacting careers not as naked dancers or stripers or all those nonsense things you guys celebrate cos of poverty and desperation for quick money and fame.



Like I said, you are an adult teen and won't comprehend till you become a rich father

Hmmm, people like you are getting fewer in this country.



Showbiz lifestyle is a landmine that only few people can survive.


I won't insult the father and daughter, but I will keep my head down, raise my kids as best as I can, and point out those who they can't emulate.




We will see who is right at the end.

Kobojunkie:
This is a very sensible argument for legalization of gas marriage.

I'm not in support of gay marriage but it's time for these boys on Nairaland to start looking for love among themselves since they're not satisfied with females anyway.



Their redpill teachers are available.

Benwallt:
You lack home training.

Oh really, is that all you can come up with?


I was trained to respect all humans of all genders, but what am I to do about a silly little boy that his mother never taught him to respect her kind..




That kind of statement shows the crassness that can only be exhibited by a boy without home training, so I had to send word to his mother and father too.



I simply sent him home, Yoruba people will say "mo ráan lo sí ilé ni"




Now about my home training, it's good as far as I can tell.



Modified: Ohhhh, you're the one who made the statement, Ahhh, you want to talk about home training, buhahahahaha


What do you know about home training when your parents neglected to give you one?


You're the kind of boy that mothers teach their daughters to avoid, because you are a playboy looking for playthings.



And since no one trained you to be a respectable man, someone had to point out your foolishness.



But foolish people don't like to be called foolish.

Benwallt:
It's unimaginable. So, a nigga go just stop me for road say e wan toast. It will be bloody. Only girls can take that nonsense calmly. Women are created for men to play with.

So, your mother is a plaything eh?



I just say make I remind you say your mama na woman

Bayonet40:
Good morning nairalanders.
Please ignore any typo error.
I have a son of about 11 months now who still finds it difficult to stand holding objects, like chairs, table or bed, immediately I place him on those stuffs for him to stand, he starts shaking in fear and cries out loud, he gets too scared when placed on a standing position to hold those mentioned stuffs. But he can stand confidently when his back is placed on the wall (even for a long time), he can also stand firmly and even try to walk when holding my both hands, my wife took him to the hospital but the doctor told her to allow him, that he will adapt when he wants.
My question is.
At 11 months, why does he still get scared when placed to hold chairs, table etc?
I understand that some babies don't crawl at all before walking, he can stand firmly while holding someone's hands but refuses to do so while hold other stuffs due to fear by shaking and crying loudly as if he saw something scary.
Am concerned that's why am here. Please should I just ignore him and stop trying to force him to hold those things or I should continue not minding how he cries and shakes? He is very healthy, plays a lot. Why the delay to crawl, and stand holding chairs, bed, table

Don't stress the baby.


1. Can he look straight at you without shaking his head?

2. Can he sit down by himself without help?

3. Can he hold things and toys for a while by himself?

4. Can he recognize you and your partner?

5. Can he hold food down and swallow without problems most times?


If all your answers are yes, then your baby is fine, he will walk at his own time.


If this is your first born, it's understandable.



This is how you can help,

1. Don't carry him too much, let him sit on the floor and explore his surroundings by himself, just watch him and keep dangerous things away from him.

2. Get him a baby walker if you can afford it, if not, find a carpenter and ask him to make one for your child. Actually, you should have gotten one around 6 months.

3. Try to place his favorite toys out of his reach when he's playing, so he can be encouraged to get it, don't pick it up for him.


4. Encourage him to come and meet you while playing, don't approach to pick him up


Generally, just calm down, your baby is fine.

Solofresh2:
I think it as to do with my natural kind of person and not just prayers.I am not the only child my parents gave birth to but I am a very different person in the family.
What I just hate is people taking advantage of my kindness for something else

That's the same issue kind people face, opportunists everywhere!


It's tiring.



But while defending my heart from being trampled on by these heartless humans, I look like a fierce, intimidating, roaring wildfire. But it's better that way.

Dshocker:
If only you were an ardent reader of the bible you wouldn't have been confused as to where to locate it in the bible.

I just hope a witless and hobo person like you will admit to truth rather than displaying an act of a juvenile.

If a person calls you stupid, run a quick check on yourself, if they have a valid point, your next action is to get smarter, but this is simple to people who are intelligent.



But mad men hate being called mad,

Same for foolish people.


Now, you credited a statement to God, which was a false quote, you couldn't supply a reference, and you are offended when a supposed "emotional being" that you wish to subjugate her kind called your lucidity to question.



Your stupidity would have been amusing if not that I have no interest in educating you.



Go and face individuals who have less IQ than you, or those around your range.



You didn't succeed in piquing my interest.

Dshocker:
The duty of a woman is to support and compliment a man...... Women are supposed to be under a man, not on top of a man.

Simple questions you cannot answer.



See the dolt that wants to lead a woman.



Anyway, you will find your type.

sukkot:
true indeed my Sister and the prophesys in the bible is derived from astrological data by the prophets. daniel for example was the chief of all astrologers . and from looking at the stars they can decode what the future would be like and these last days have been really demonic. i try to stay at home most days now because half of these people act like they have lost their minds

I'm not going to argue about Daniel's source of information.


So, bye.

sukkot:
like i said brother, there are no absolutes. expand your mind. of course there have been evil before these times but the concentration of evil right now is very high and intense . and when this era is over you will see for example an era of almost absolute peace etc. these are eras determined by the astrological age.

I know for a fact that it's been prophesied in the Bible that lots of people will commit evil openly these days.


Only a few people will keep themselves pure.

Solofresh2:
I think you are wrong to some extent.This is because,I was born within this years range and I can tell you am different from those behaviors you mentioned there

Maybe your parents are prayerful.


Appreciate them if you've been preserved from the corruption of this world.

Zonefree:
I'm not talking about looks here,I'm talking about nutrients. There's no nutrient again in a 29-year-old Nigerian girl. You think Ned is mad to go for Regina

There's these freshness and tonic these young girls elude that freshen a dying man.

So, you're a dying man?

Dshocker:
What if the husband decides to marry two more wives?

In as much as i don't support polygamy, an African man has the right to marry as much wives as possible.

Whether you like it or not, the equality of a man is more higher, than that of a woman.... That was how God in heaven ordained it to be.

Which God in heaven?


If it's an angel, give me his name and rank


If it's in the Bible, which book, which verse?


Show me where God opened His mouth and directed men to have many wives

99tayee:
Good day all, please no mind my english.

There is something that has been bothering me for a while now. I have been on loggerheads with my wife of some certain things regarding our 3 months old baby development.

Recently she started to make him sit with her support e.g making him sit on her lap, using two hands to bring him up from bed and allowing him to sit for a while and also using pillows to support him to sit.

I'm very much concerned about this whole thing but will like to hear from you guy if it's okay or is bad.

The boy is beginning to like the idea of sitting

Too early

adontcare:
That's how my husband younger bro defiled my 2 yrs old daughter. My husband refused to send his brother away reason is that he is their only breadwinner and must take care of his 9 other siblings and parents. The sisters and brothers live with us. That's how I moved out from the house oo. Ah. I had two girls then. Later we reconciled and I had a male child now. All his siblings hate me because I asked my husband to send the boy away. Na curse I lay on all of them oo. Now my girl is 12 now and none of them are living with us again. Their lives is nothing to write home about. Evil people

Lots of families are like that, they don't see you as a human being that deserves dignity, they see you as potential slave.


You will be the one to teach them how to relate with you, to show some respect.


Well done for sticking up for your daughter. I hope she's doing okay.

Klass99:
I am glad you had the presence of mind to know that wasn't right, your hubby was wrong and you moved out with your girls until there was a resolution. If you don't mind my asking how old was your brother-in-law when this happened?

The bolded parts of your post are things I will never understand about most Nigerian men and Nigerian marriages. I have said it on a different thread, that a man's siblings (especially the lazy and entitled types) are the ones who do more harm than good to his financial health and overall well-being, not his wife and kids.

But some of you dey marry into wondaful families and households sha. My father is the first born child in a family of 8, what I saw growing up in his house, will not allow me marry men like him or your husband. Even if Angel Gabriel tells me that such a man is my ordained husband, I will jump and pass.

After reading your post I can't help thinking....... Singlehood is pure bliss fah.

I can't blame you for choosing single life.


Because african families just want to frustrate women in their marriages without contributing anything of note.


To have some peace of mind, you just have to put your foot down and insist on what is best for your kids.


Whether you do it now or later, you will still have to face such. So, get married when you want.

co787:
Yes I am so angry now I wish i had the power to take the law with my own hands I would have gone to nnewi to cut that useless boy penis then shot him and put the useless penis inside his mouth but i am trying to be calm because I want the law to do its work like I said earlier i will not save the marriage it is already over all I want is justice for my baby girl

Very good, I'm on your side.


Get the boy, and the grandma arrested, then let them taste the full wrath of the law.



You will overcome this, you can still remarry.


Don't let anyone quote Bible for you, something they will never take.



The fact that your wife and her family kept this secret from you means they can kill you and hide your body.

Persephone1:
This is the deepest shiit i've read on Nl. A two year old?

Dear op, you did well by arresting that woman you called a wife. It crazy how women are selective when it comes to accountability. So because the rapist is her brother, she covered it up and foolishly confided in one idiotic prophetess with a loud mouth. She chose her brother over her daughter ! Chose her prophetess over you! Who does that? I hope other women will learn from this.

Please arrest the 14 year old too even the mother join. Talo ni family radarada

I'm so pissed right now!

As in eh.



Who get mad family.



The woman is so stupid.

Richy4:
Honestly, what he did was bad... Extremely bad.. But he is 14, ...

Depending on the country, There's no judge in most advanced countries that will keep him in jail... When the case is brought before a judge, considering his age, the judge will grant for It to be treated informally by the child agency... through counseling...

There are agencies that handles such cases... U can also google it...I stand to be corrected though...

It's not that we were downplaying what happened.. No..it was horrifying but the law that recognised him as a minor is supreme and above whatever we think that should happen to him..

As for the wife, In as much as what she did was wrong, I don't see the reason why she should be in jail... She is also shaking and confused besides, Are you gonna say that you have never kept a secret away from your spouse before in your entire life instead confided to a friend?.. it's always really easy to throw stones you know?

Laye Laye, never never.


My children are more important than ANYONE on this planet.


More than my parents, husband, siblings, cousins, friends, pastor- ANYONE.


Only God is more important than my kids, not even my marriage!




I always make it known anywhere, you can insult me all you want, or even hurt me, I'll forgive you.




But, try my kids, and I will make you a scape goat.



When I'm done, then I and the Judge will have a discussion.

fof1:
PLS GO AND BAIL UR WIFEHOME. DO NOT DIVORCE HER, SHE IS UR WIFE. CONFESS TO URSELVES AND BE RECONCILED. Treat ur Daughter very well and ensure her Continued Protectikn. Ur Wife must Apologise to You Profusely and to her Daughter for the incestous Act. Forgive them and ask them to Seek Forgiveness from God too. Let God be Glorified in ur Home despite this Bad News,Pls.

God is the Judge of the earth.

He is the God of justice.



He cannot be glorified with foolishness.


The wife should have her day in court and serve her time in prison.

Richy4:
This is disheartening honestly especially for a 2 year old who will be told as she grows older that she may have been raped by an uncle.. I can't say if the OP is handling this matter perfectly... Reporting to the police is good but arresting your wife is like dancing a different tune from the music that was being played..

It is heart breaking but what I think would have been for both of you to come together to find a better solution that centered on your kid...She(your wife) should have told you no doubt...She got no excuse whatsoever, If she can confide to a third party, surly she should have told you.....

This is a trying time for both of you...You have an equal right to that child as well as the mother buddy... Arresting your wife is not the answer to the problem at hand...No sensible mother will want their kids raped...Arresting her made it look like you loved the child more than the mother and she deliberately put the child in harm's way....

As for the boy, Assuming it was an advanced world, that boy would have gotten all the help he needed considering his age...a counsellor or agencies that sees to this kind of case would have taken him under their wings... But since it's Nigeria, he will be tinted for life...or even commits suicide if care is not taken because of stigma..He is a minor too..

Do you have any idea how a sex offender gets treated in sane societies?


With this kind of record, he should not step in any US prison because he might not make it out alive.



I'm shocked that you and others are trying to gloss over this horrible incident.



A 2 year old child, with diapers and undeveloped sexual organs was molested!

If it were your child would you be typing this epistle?


The mother, uncle and grandma should be in jail.

Enemyofpeace:
Yinmu! Person wey everybody don see her very black pusssssssy on the internet. Her pusssssssy no even fine and the thing carry hair for head like forest. Mtcheeeeeeew

I so much love defending women, but it really makes me sad that I can't defend Tiwa Savage in this case when I see comments like yours.



She didn't even try to get anyone arrested, I'm still pained.

Billgatessecond:
See another list Westin happen..
How do you expect the guy to get back on his feet after all this

Which tribe?

AllDModsAreMaad:
Why are you constituting nuis ance here?
I don't understand your problem with Igbo people, abi one of them don give you belle come dump you before?

Listen, even if yoruba ladies come free of charge, I won't marry a Yoruba lady.
People have their preferences/choices.

Learn to make your point without tagging or dragging other tribes OR people.

What is your problem with other people's culture and tradition?

Who has problem with you?



You're the one that has problems can't you see?



Look through my replies, I never insulted any tribe, I only faced one nincompoop without mentioning his tribe, I don't even know which hole he crawled out of!




As for who you'll end up marrying, how is it any of my business? I have other stuff to focus on.



Be calming down.

Ephemmm:
I choose the word 'donate' deliberately because no one a.sked or mandated me to do so. They were even ready to bear everything; so stop behaving like ignoramus. I met my wife when in final year and we got married two years after she served her fathers' land.

Introduction and wedding among Yorubas are mostly dependent on what the to be husband and wife could afford and decided upon. Get it right.

Don't bother yourself replying a troll.


He is miserable, so he wants to share his misery with you, you know misery loves company, dodge him.

OfficialAPCNig:
Says someone who will likely born for 3 men before the end of her existence

FACT

By the end of your existence, your children will hate you,


Your wives will leave you, no one will stay with you,


You will die lonely,


Your friends will call you a brostitute that no woman can tolerate,


Your investments in side chicks will be a wasted effort, no return,


Your children will sell your properties less than 6 months after your demise,


After 2 years, no one will remember you.


I think having kids with several men is bearable as long as I raise them to be better than your mother raised you.

Aladeintl:
As far as the bride price is concerned in Nigeria, the Yoruba list remains the cheapest.

Attached in this article is the bride price list that my girlfriend's family gave me for marrying their daughter let me shock you, I still divide some of those items into two.

Note:
1. almost all the items here are general items that will be requested in any part of Yorubaland

2. Some may add one or two things to it, e.g., live goat or chicken.

3. The quantity of each item may be more or less but I can bet you that it won't be outrageous.

4. The bride's father writes the list not the community but if he likes, he may ask for the input of his elderly ones preferably his elder brother (or sister).

The input most time is for the first daughter. After that, the remaining daughter's is a photocopy.

5. It is negotiable.

6. Except for the monetary materials, all other bride price materials will be shared equally by the bride's father and mother and some portion send to both grandparents' families.

7. Any family in Yoruba that gave you a bride price worth 300k should be reported to their religious leaders for greediness and covetousness.

Please don't use the word cheap.


Culturally, the Yoruba people value honor and honesty.


The reason why we don't demand much from intending grooms is because there is no amount of money that can repay the tireless efforts of parents over their child.


Furthermore, we emphasize on good treatment in marriages, meaning that if the bride is not comfortable, she is free to return home.


A woman remains her father's child even after marriage and she can inherit properties too, that is why we have little interest in bride price.


I hope you understand.

OfficialAPCNig:
You can even marry free in Yoruba, just give the girl belle, no wonder most of them are promiscuous

Obviously, you are a troll.


I will ignore your miserable existence.

OfficialAPCNig:
You didn't donate

Yoruba culture requires cow for a lady that has not given birth before, unless you can't afford it.

But the list op posted here is for a lady that has born for one man. It will go further down if she gave birth for more than two men.

Some men don't give pay shishi. They just impregnant the girl and wife don dey down be that

Yoruba people are not herdsmen.


Besides, how many cows did they pay for your mother?

Billgatessecond:
See why I say we yorubas are the best . If it's an Igbo guy who created this thread I am sure he created it to bash yorubas .. an average man can afford all this things besides it will be given back .. see Igbo man list o boy u go run

You are correct, although, only the bride price will be returned.


The box and it's contents are for the bride


The fruits, rice, salt, oil, etc will be split in many ways and sent to different members of the bride's family as a token of honor, not purchase, because no one can repay any parent.


P. S. The implication is that the bride is free to return to her family at any time if she is being maltreated.


Any Yoruba woman who stays in an abusive marriage is only doing it of her own volition.

Franzinni:
Haha ... Alot of hypocrites will come here and talk .... Becasue God has not leaked your own evil deeds to the public that is why you can talk ...

What he did is wrong according to law. But if you don't know the circumstances surrounding the issue fully then don't judge him based on what your summarizing brain does ... Nothing in life is black and white .. not even black or white.

No surrounding circumstance is more important than the wrong act of using a child placed in your care for sexual pleasure.


That is the focus of this particular case.



Your diversion tactics shows the world you are the same type as the doctor.