Richy4:

Honestly, what he did was bad... Extremely bad.. But he is 14, ...

Depending on the country, There's no judge in most advanced countries that will keep him in jail... When the case is brought before a judge, considering his age, the judge will grant for It to be treated informally by the child agency... through counseling...

There are agencies that handles such cases... U can also google it...I stand to be corrected though...

It's not that we were downplaying what happened.. No..it was horrifying but the law that recognised him as a minor is supreme and above whatever we think that should happen to him..

As for the wife, In as much as what she did was wrong, I don't see the reason why she should be in jail... She is also shaking and confused besides, Are you gonna say that you have never kept a secret away from your spouse before in your entire life instead confided to a friend?.. it's always really easy to throw stones you know?

Laye Laye, never never.


My children are more important than ANYONE on this planet.


More than my parents, husband, siblings, cousins, friends, pastor- ANYONE.


Only God is more important than my kids, not even my marriage!




I always make it known anywhere, you can insult me all you want, or even hurt me, I'll forgive you.




But, try my kids, and I will make you a scape goat.



When I'm done, then I and the Judge will have a discussion.

fof1:


PLS GO AND BAIL UR WIFEHOME. DO NOT DIVORCE HER, SHE IS UR WIFE. CONFESS TO URSELVES AND BE RECONCILED. Treat ur Daughter very well and ensure her Continued Protectikn. Ur Wife must Apologise to You Profusely and to her Daughter for the incestous Act. Forgive them and ask them to Seek Forgiveness from God too. Let God be Glorified in ur Home despite this Bad News,Pls.

God is the Judge of the earth.

He is the God of justice.



He cannot be glorified with foolishness.


The wife should have her day in court and serve her time in prison.

Richy4:
This is disheartening honestly especially for a 2 year old who will be told as she grows older that she may have been raped by an uncle.. I can't say if the OP is handling this matter perfectly... Reporting to the police is good but arresting your wife is like dancing a different tune from the music that was being played..

It is heart breaking but what I think would have been for both of you to come together to find a better solution that centered on your kid...She(your wife) should have told you no doubt...She got no excuse whatsoever, If she can confide to a third party, surly she should have told you.....

This is a trying time for both of you...You have an equal right to that child as well as the mother buddy... Arresting your wife is not the answer to the problem at hand...No sensible mother will want their kids raped...Arresting her made it look like you loved the child more than the mother and she deliberately put the child in harm's way....

As for the boy, Assuming it was an advanced world, that boy would have gotten all the help he needed considering his age...a counsellor or agencies that sees to this kind of case would have taken him under their wings... But since it's Nigeria, he will be tinted for life...or even commits suicide if care is not taken because of stigma..He is a minor too..

Do you have any idea how a sex offender gets treated in sane societies?


With this kind of record, he should not step in any US prison because he might not make it out alive.



I'm shocked that you and others are trying to gloss over this horrible incident.



A 2 year old child, with diapers and undeveloped sexual organs was molested!

If it were your child would you be typing this epistle?


The mother, uncle and grandma should be in jail.

Enemyofpeace:
Yinmu! Person wey everybody don see her very black pusssssssy on the internet. Her pusssssssy no even fine and the thing carry hair for head like forest. Mtcheeeeeeew

I so much love defending women, but it really makes me sad that I can't defend Tiwa Savage in this case when I see comments like yours.



She didn't even try to get anyone arrested, I'm still pained.

Billgatessecond:




See another list Westin happen..
How do you expect the guy to get back on his feet after all this

Which tribe?

AllDModsAreMaad:


Why are you constituting nuis ance here?
I don't understand your problem with Igbo people, abi one of them don give you belle come dump you before?

Listen, even if yoruba ladies come free of charge, I won't marry a Yoruba lady.
People have their preferences/choices.

Learn to make your point without tagging or dragging other tribes OR people.

What is your problem with other people's culture and tradition?

Who has problem with you?



You're the one that has problems can't you see?



Look through my replies, I never insulted any tribe, I only faced one nincompoop without mentioning his tribe, I don't even know which hole he crawled out of!




As for who you'll end up marrying, how is it any of my business? I have other stuff to focus on.



Be calming down.

Ephemmm:


I choose the word 'donate' deliberately because no one a.sked or mandated me to do so. They were even ready to bear everything; so stop behaving like ignoramus. I met my wife when in final year and we got married two years after she served her fathers' land.

Introduction and wedding among Yorubas are mostly dependent on what the to be husband and wife could afford and decided upon. Get it right.

Don't bother yourself replying a troll.


He is miserable, so he wants to share his misery with you, you know misery loves company, dodge him.

OfficialAPCNig:
Says someone who will likely born for 3 men before the end of her existence

FACT

By the end of your existence, your children will hate you,


Your wives will leave you, no one will stay with you,


You will die lonely,


Your friends will call you a brostitute that no woman can tolerate,


Your investments in side chicks will be a wasted effort, no return,


Your children will sell your properties less than 6 months after your demise,


After 2 years, no one will remember you.


I think having kids with several men is bearable as long as I raise them to be better than your mother raised you.

Aladeintl:
As far as the bride price is concerned in Nigeria, the Yoruba list remains the cheapest.

Attached in this article is the bride price list that my girlfriend's family gave me for marrying their daughter let me shock you, I still divide some of those items into two.

Note:
1. almost all the items here are general items that will be requested in any part of Yorubaland

2. Some may add one or two things to it, e.g., live goat or chicken.

3. The quantity of each item may be more or less but I can bet you that it won't be outrageous.

4. The bride's father writes the list not the community but if he likes, he may ask for the input of his elderly ones preferably his elder brother (or sister).

The input most time is for the first daughter. After that, the remaining daughter's is a photocopy.

5. It is negotiable.

6. Except for the monetary materials, all other bride price materials will be shared equally by the bride's father and mother and some portion send to both grandparents' families.

7. Any family in Yoruba that gave you a bride price worth 300k should be reported to their religious leaders for greediness and covetousness.

Please don't use the word cheap.


Culturally, the Yoruba people value honor and honesty.


The reason why we don't demand much from intending grooms is because there is no amount of money that can repay the tireless efforts of parents over their child.


Furthermore, we emphasize on good treatment in marriages, meaning that if the bride is not comfortable, she is free to return home.


A woman remains her father's child even after marriage and she can inherit properties too, that is why we have little interest in bride price.


I hope you understand.

OfficialAPCNig:

You can even marry free in Yoruba, just give the girl belle, no wonder most of them are promiscuous

Obviously, you are a troll.


I will ignore your miserable existence.

OfficialAPCNig:

You didn't donate

Yoruba culture requires cow for a lady that has not given birth before, unless you can't afford it.

But the list op posted here is for a lady that has born for one man. It will go further down if she gave birth for more than two men.

Some men don't give pay shishi. They just impregnant the girl and wife don dey down be that

Yoruba people are not herdsmen.


Besides, how many cows did they pay for your mother?

Billgatessecond:



See why I say we yorubas are the best . If it's an Igbo guy who created this thread I am sure he created it to bash yorubas .. an average man can afford all this things besides it will be given back .. see Igbo man list o boy u go run

You are correct, although, only the bride price will be returned.


The box and it's contents are for the bride


The fruits, rice, salt, oil, etc will be split in many ways and sent to different members of the bride's family as a token of honor, not purchase, because no one can repay any parent.


P. S. The implication is that the bride is free to return to her family at any time if she is being maltreated.


Any Yoruba woman who stays in an abusive marriage is only doing it of her own volition.

Franzinni:
Haha ... Alot of hypocrites will come here and talk .... Becasue God has not leaked your own evil deeds to the public that is why you can talk ...

What he did is wrong according to law. But if you don't know the circumstances surrounding the issue fully then don't judge him based on what your summarizing brain does ... Nothing in life is black and white .. not even black or white.

No surrounding circumstance is more important than the wrong act of using a child placed in your care for sexual pleasure.


That is the focus of this particular case.



Your diversion tactics shows the world you are the same type as the doctor.

LordReed:


LoLz! You can't even obey your own religion. But I tell you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, How sad. Bwahahahahaha

You are not my enemy, you don't persecute me, you're just a misguided, blind sinner on your way to hell.



On the priority list of people to pray for, you are last on a veeeeeeery long list.



So, I maintain, you get nothing, only crumbs, if anything at all.



What a pathetic existence.

LordReed:


LoLz! You always know when a believer is angry with you, they use style-style to insult you which is what you are doing.

The simplest thing would have been to produce whatever evidence you have but since you don't have any you go on a rant. LoLz.

Make me stop, pray to your god to stop me. LMFAO!

You must think you're important!


I should pray because of you?



How silly.


Ohhhhhh, I see you're trying to ask for help, you want me to pray for you



Eyah, there are more important people to focus on, nope, you get nothing princess

LordReed:


LoLz! What due diligence did you do, read your Bible? Bwahahahahaha!

You are the one who needs to produce evidence, we know of nobody who is alive for 2000yrs talk more of a resurrected person. Bring your evidence that the dead jew is alive 2000yrs later. If you like insult me to your heart's content it won't change the facts. Bwahahahahaha!

I wasn't insulting you.


I was calling you exactly what you are.



You have been blinded, so that you can't see your true state, only those looking at you can give an honest appraisal of your appearance.



Since you can't see beyond your nose.



I cannot banter with you, since you have chosen perdition and darkness rather than the Light.




Please get away from my mentions.

LordReed:


I should bring the body of 2000yr old dead man that you don't even know where he was buried? Sounds like you are intoxicated. LoLz.

Without evidence, you're just blabbing air.


You said He's dead, so bring the dead body.



I did my due diligence, that's why I say He's alive.



You do your due diligence, and bring the dead body, else, you're just a bottle of useless air.

LordReed:


LoLz! Jesus is as dead as a doornail.

Bring the dead body or stay silent forever you fool.



The same Person that made it possible for you to be breathing, gave you enough space to be a burden on the rest of the world, a disgrace to your family and lineage, a waste of oxygen and a useless addition to CO2 levels, a liability to the planet all because He wants to give you a chance to have some small sense.


He still keeps loving you, waiting for you to realize that He's still waiting for you to come to Him.


If not for His kindness, you should have been dead and forgotten, another insignificant, mindless addition to the already bloated populace of Hades.



Repent, and give Glory to God so that your existence will have some meaning.

VoltageDivida:


Bros you just talk my mind.

Na to get as many wives as possible. I just hope the law permits polygamy

If you like, have 27 kids, only 4 are recognized by the Federal Government.

This is really good news.


When will the private sector follow suit?

I just feel so sad

Interesting times

mrblessed:
Oga, put your feet stronlgy down and ensure that the wedding takes place in your church. A woman follows her man to his church, unless where the man grants permission to remain in her church.

The woman who marries you must be really desperate.

Greattestman:
Guy I can't be foolish. Leave so that she and her stupid husband will birth rodents to take my father's house? Lissen, if my mother doesn't back down on this then it will be a war between us.

Call your father's family, they will support you.


Your mother is wrong in this case.

Greattestman:
I've noticed the drastic change in my mother's behaviour towards me such as compelling me to rent my own house, shouting at me for any little mistake, not helping me financially and even badmothing me to neighbours.

I took the case to my uncle (her elder brother), he said for not helping me with money, the reason is that my mother is saving money for her upcoming traditional wedding. I was surprised.

When I came back home and asked her, she unleashed anger on me and almost curse me to death. The worst part of it is giving me ultimatum to vacate my own father's house. Who the hell does that? I can't take that!!!


Seun Mynd44 nlfpmod dominique mukina2

If it is a house your father built with his hard earned money, then you are not going anywhere.


Stay put, get something doing or learn a skill depending on your age and education.


Your mother is being controlled by the new man. So, it's your job to maintain the sanity in the house.



If a woman is getting remarried as a widow, she should leave her former husband's house and move in with the new one.



Call your father's family and raise alarm immediately. You are not going anywhere.

Being a decent girl does not mean you don't have sexual needs, or even, the need for sexual expression.


Being decent means we only want to do it with our husbands.


After he puts a ring on it, we let loose all the pent up energy.

Cashio:
A woman generalizing fallacies about men.
Hello sister, for fun, men goes for crazy ladies who can club, drink, smoke, go naked at anytime, etc.
But when serious commitment hits, a man will always go settle with the decent woman who will give him peace and raise his kids decently.
If a man sees two ladies, one so decently dressed and the other giving ashawo vibes, he will get sexually attracted to the lady with ashawo vibes because he knows she will be easily laid. But when it is time for marriage, the man will go for the decently dressed lady, not for what the society will say, but for the peace of his home and decent upbringing of his kids.

So dear sis, it is crazy when ladies feel they know what men want in a woman. No, you don't know.

Men are not a mystery, as much as you would love to be.

Men are not confused either (only boys are confused)



Why won't a woman know what a man wants? We have husbands, fathers, brothers, friends, exes, sons, cousins and nephews. Do you think we don't have candid conversations with them?


Please stop this mystification of the masculine mentality.

Blessedmercy8:


We are saying the same thing. Slutty but decent, decent but slutty, same same.. but you can't have all 100 percent and truth is they go for the really slutty ones and damn the consequences since they know they can't get it all in one package.

The men understand what I'm saying. Don't even try to speak for them cos Dem go just dey laugh you.

That goes to show that sexual satisfaction is very important in marriages.


No one wants a frigid ice sculpture.

Mindlog:


I believe overwhelming majority of those who are pro-polygamous family setting, grew up in homes where their fathers are/were monogamous.

You nailed it.


Having siblings that can off you because of properties

Extreme fetish

Open jealousy

Among many other dangerous situations.


It's smart to use the little energy you have for progress.


P. S. I still shudder when I think of innocent Ifeanyi Adeleke

Blessedmercy8:
All men low key desire a whor.e or slutty lady.I'll tell you why.

Naturally, all men desire and are easily attracted to slutty and whorish ladies but for the downsides and cons of whoredom, plus the way society frowns at it men would have thrown caution into the wind and gone all out to wife them without minding.

The reason I saying this without flinching is because I've observed this over a period of time from real life stories and my personal experience with them directly or indirectly.

Now, a man will sight two ladies with different mode of dressing. One dressed slutty while the other dressed decently but will choose to go after the slutty ones. Now these men are the ones who don't give a damn what people think about their choice. They are open about it. Before you come for me with the "not all men" cliche, let me quickly say here that even the ones who end up going for the decent looking girls wish in their heart to go for the slutty ones but for what people will say they just settle for what society deems proper.

That is why a man who ended up marrying a decent lady will end up making the slutty one a side chick. That's the gospel truth.
The ones who due to their religious beliefs can't have a side chick feel trapped for the rest of their life and most times take it out on their wife's. Ask our sisters married to born again bros.

Men always have eyes for sluts and this is the reason why a man born if a woman can come up ask questions like, can one marry a former prostitute?
Will she change ,or go back after marriage and you hear comments like, every woman is a prostitute, so marry her it makes no difference" just to back your wrong choice. This is why many, knowing full well that this lady is whorish go ahead and marry her but later start having issues in marriage even before the marriage starts.


I tell my personal experience.
A supposed "christian bro" wanted us to strike a relationship but somehow it didn't work out. This was someone who claimed to be a born again and wanted a decent lady for marriage.
So, after we quit the relationship, the same born again bro started dotting one girl that was clearly a slut. As in her dressing are always very suggestive. She's mostly post sultry pics on her profile like you could tell the kind of person she is. This was the person bro was dotting on. He came out openly to check her mail that he PMd her. Kept stalking her and disturbing this lady. Lol.. I laughed.. mehn!.. it got to a point the lady blanked him and he started insulting the lady on every Post u til he got tired. I just laughed at his stupidity but then that's men for you on what they want vs what they go for.

This I've come to discover and it's one of the reasons I don't pity men whenever they come complaining about their wife's behavior cos they knew what they were going into but shunned the warnings from their sixth sense hoping the women will turn a new leaf.

They want a slutty woman in "decent girl" clothing but it doesn't work that way. You can't have your cake and eat it. You either settle for a decent girl may not be your taste but give you peace of mind or go for the slut that will give you the vibes you want but keep you on your toes.

This is true of all men with no exemptions.

Shalom.

Personally, I think men want decent girls that can be slutty when they want her to be.


No one wants an uncontrollable public toilet, either male or female.

Sirqt5:
Right . Peeps are only wasting time advising her . U gave her several very good advice on there 2 yrs ago . It was as if u could see into the future , tried to warn her . U , Freelane33 , Justbehave , Pmoye , n several others advised her on d thread well . Somebody on there said she will get pregnant and pregnant and pregnant again if she's not careful .All of u tried warning her . She didn't heed , insulted someone on there. She will open another thread end of next year , by then she b pregnant wit 5th child . 3rd or 4th baby Daddy loading

You can only help people who want to help themselves

Kobojunkie:
The children are the ones likely to suffer the most.

She will learn, I know, but it will be too late as she would have become a grandma living a lifestyle of poverty normalisation.


I don't wish her evil, but her attitude has spoken for itself.




I can tell a lot of similar stories about both famous and non-famous people, it always goes the same way.



People never learn.