₦airaland Forum

Irunmole:
This is the scenario - My very adamant cousin's plight and dilemma. He is willing to leave his wife and three children for his long-lost but recently found first true-love.

You were in love with someone, who more or less is your true first-love, every thing you ever wanted in a man or woman. You dreamed of being husband and wife someday, however, through no fault of either one of you, you lost contact only to come into contact with each other through providence, at a stage later in life. From the first meeting, and after years of such time lapse, memories of the good-times that made your relationship such a wonderful and blissful one comes flooding back to the both of you, love gets rekindled.

My question is, after these many years, say 10-15 years absence, both of you being happily/unhappily married to your respective partners, would you be prepared to leave or divorce your husband/wife for a more lasting and satisfying happiness, (Utopia) with your long-lost first and true love?

Irunmole.

SA Goddess:
It won't come from me either, first I ask guys out then I bring my own condoms, "de gal is loose-O, see dis Sout African girls"

28Schweet:


oooh come ladies (no pun intended), someone do put up the thread, purty please, i'd be labelled lucife's spawn if i put it up

queeneve:
^^^Is Kdavid still bitching? A hit dog will bark until the pain goes away, (hearing intensified barking in Nigeria)


SA,

I agree for some reason people have this pre-concieved notion that MARRIED WOMEN, not MARRIED MEN should be seen in clubs or parlors. It okay for a MARRIED MAN to be in the parlor drinking with his buddies and we all knows WHAT GOES DOWN AT BEER PARLORS, but them OLD DRIED UP MOFOS WORRYING about a woman at the club? If a man has to worry about his wife SENDING OUT SIGNALS to fugg then he SHOULD NOT marry her. It that simple. I don't understand why men today make things so complicated when it is PRECISELY SIMPLE. If a woman wants to go to the dance club with her girls or alone then that is fine. There can be MANY, MANY reasons why a woman OR a man would go to beer parlors or clubs alone, NOT EVERYONE HOISH and thinking about sexing someone. It clearly some of these doggish men are thinking on that level which is pathetic coming from old men such as the previous posters. The men are old and lonely in order to feel competent they must CONTROL AND DICTATE. I know it the AFRICAN MAN thang to dictate and control, but it also a woman like me thang to tell that dog to quit barking and go suck on a bone.

I am pretty sure that Kdavid calling me feminazi and this and that, but the things he say is POINTLESS and does not provide sound comments but to ASSume what he doesn't know. Unlike most Nairaland, I do not SHARE EXCESSIVE INFORMATION, so KDAVID AND the rest of the dog clan HAS TO ASSume the rest they don't know. However, if barking like a wounded dog makes them feel any better than go right ahead, IT ALL BARK AND NO BITE,

Once again, I suggest SPRITE WITH LEMON SPRITZ, IT OFF THE CHAIN!

Ranoscky:
until i found out dat she's pregnant for her uncle, where she told me dat she always spend de weekend.

Ujujoan:
Wow, I'm humbled by this post!

SA Goddess:
She can go to a club with her man or her girls but some people make it seem like she should not even see the inside of a club once she says I do, I ask again, who says life should stop the moment a woman gets married? Strangely, life for men goes on as normal!

john david:
Why are you rude to the poster? did he offend you? or ask you to reply his post?please let him be!

Scooby1:
@babaearly are you a comedian by any chance? You so funny .
Secondly are you planning on marrying a white woman ?

Kenyata:
[color=Black]I see a lot of openly married men who never take off their wedding bands ever, still getting chicks steadily, so why the need to tell lies and pretend to be single and available?[/color]

@indie22

Men lie because they know there's nothing at stake once a girl knows u're married. That means u have a lot of money to throw around and she'll never stop demanding. The coast is clear once u pretend to be single. She'll see u as worthy of investing on with less or no demands at all.

I once removed my band to enter a girls place sometime. Unfortunately, she later saw my band and queried why I lied that I was single. Behold, she started making financial demands and even said that day was her birthday!

blank:
@ Topic. I love dancing, unfortunately my husband hates dancing.
While dating we hardly ever went clubbing but wen we did, it was just d 2 of us in our own world.
We just got married so we have not yet had the opportunity to go clubbing.
Believe me wen i say we will and will get as naughty as we like with each oda cos its nobody's business.
That being said, I don't believe one should go clubbing without the oda. It doesnt make sense to me.
I thought the whole idea of clubbing was to dance and just relax.
Why would u want to do dat alone, without the person u claim to love?
I don't mind him hanging out with the guys but when it reach club level, abeg come home.
Also, ladies nite out shldnt be club nite, it should be a book club or cookery class not club. LOL.

Kgdavid:
i guess you guys dont get it the way i see it. gettin maried is more than just some romantic event everybody expects to experience. with marriage comes great benefits but it is also the ultimate life changing sacrifice.you sacrifice your freedom, desires, time and resources for those of another. you basically lose your identity . a husband is not a whole person on his own and neither is a wife but they are only truly whole as a couple. that is what marriage means to me. marriage is not too be rushed into if you are not ready to leave certain things behind. i cannot imagine me going to play with toys at this age but that is what some people are doing when at the age of 40 you see men in a club with 16 year olds all around them. ultimately one has to draw the line somewhere and that is when one gets married.

A-40:
Until she wanted to test my faithfulness by throwing her friend in the mix. My Spidey sense alerted me to what was up and needless to say i played along spat the game and along line the friend/agent provocateur caught feelings and things where not quite the same after that. Later on she accused me of being vindictive giving me the two wrongs don't make a right speech and if i loved her i wouldn't do that blah blah blah to cut the story short i advised her to perform her lab experiment on her future hubby

manuch:
she caught me wearing her g-string

georgeiyke009:
if u'v got it, flaunt it. its wht your mama gave u.

snthesis:
u fall in love the moment your eyes meet- stayin in love is anoda mata

Kgdavid:
depends on a lot of things. why do people go to clubs? and i presume we are not talkin about jazz clubs or any thing like that we are talking about correct do me i do you night clubs abi? why do people go to night clubs? its either to socialize or too get laid or dance to cool music. now as a married man/woman if your going to a nightclub to get laid you have already fallen foul of the law, i you are going to socialize then u r in the process of running foul of the law. everyone knows that club socializin is done with one purpose and one aim which is to get hitched. finally if u r just going to enjoy cool music i see no reason why you cannot go with your husband/ wife.