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The man in the house should have no fears as ALL the kids are hers. It is only a foolish woman that will segregate her kids. The Op should help her son know God more and to fear God.

All those guys bashing the Op that she is 70% financially okay ain't serious, if she said she had nothing doing and depending on her husband they will give her names like olosho and gold digger.

Nairaland boys, get sense biko.

mercyville:
Okonjo Iweala put Nigeria in recession while Kemi got Nigeria out within 1 year even with an obstinate man like Buhari.







Africa's richest economy is borrowing money to pay salaries as it struggles through a "difficult cash crunch" brought on by halved oil prices, Nigeria's finance minister revealed.

The news comes as Nigeria prepares to welcome a new government at the end of this month and the country's naira currency remains in a slump, hovering between 180 and 220 to the US dollar. It was trading at 160 a few months ago.

Minister Ngozi Okonjo-Iweala tried to be upbeat in a speech on Tuesday after lawmakers approved the 2015 budget - revised three times because of slashed oil prices that provide 80 percent of revenue for the government of Africa's biggest petroleum producer.

She said "revenue challenges" had prohibited the release of any funds for capital expenditure this year but that food prices and single-digit inflation remained quite stable. And she said the economy still was on course to grow 4.8 percent this year.

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"We have front-loaded the borrowing programme to manage the cash crunch," Okonjo-Iweala told lawmakers.

"Out of the 882 billion naira budgetary provision for borrowing, the government has borrowed 473 billion naira to meet up with recurrent expenditure, including salaries and overheads."

That is bad news for the incoming government of President-elect Muhammadu Buhari, who takes over on May 29 from incumbent Goodluck Jonathan.

Buhari acknowledges that constricted revenue and endemic corruption threaten his will to deliver on development and reconstruction of areas devastated by a nearly 6-year-old rebel uprising in the northeast.

He says his fight against corruption should produce the money needed to bring change to a country where oil proceeds benefit a small clique while the majority of the 170 million people in Africa's most populous nation live hand to mouth.

Critics blame the financial crisis in part on the most expensive election ever held in Nigeria, though no one knows how much politicians from both sides spent during their campaigns





https://www.aljazeera.com/news/2015/05/150506055148505.html

In Iweala's time: 3 to 4 cfas to N1, 150-200naira to $1.....In Kemi's time:1.1 to 1.6cfas to N1, 300-400naira to $1.

internationalman:
Can't help you as I'm one of those who crammed every maths problem for exam..


Don't blame me, how could I solve maths problems that have no actual numbers. All you see is symbol and signs. I would even begin to draw before i could get some of the symbols right.

Every time prove prove prove. By the way why do i have to prove, it's not like I was disputing the writer's claim in the first place.

You talk am finish. It is abstract, I had to run away to do Physics which is more logical.

Many graduates made mistakes by doing single honours courses just because that is what they were given.
All of you asking which course you can do can easily study in Cameroon. I have FREE info if you need it.

Lenovo all the way eg X220E...X120E may be like N75000 and durable though webcam may not be as 'colorful' or sharp as X220E.
Lenovo hardly spoils ad do not have mother board problems like HP but its parts maybe a bit more expensive than other PCs.
I think Dell too is durable.
With Lenovo you have peace of mind.

You can't miss it by retraining to get skill based degrees eg Computer Science and Fashion Designing( Clothing & Textile) degrees.
In Cameroon, Computer Science is 3yrs(shorter years if you are a Science graduate) and Fashion Designing is 12months for Science graduates and 18months for Arts/Social Science graduates(3years course if one isnt a graduate).
You study these courses and become hot cake abroad.

angelfallz:
What you said is true, but the main take away from the post is that, the success of a marriage, 99% of the time depends on the woman. This has also been echoed by my mother as well. So i largely agree with the OP.

True, that is why a woman MUST marry a man who LOVES her more and practically worships her so that even when she endures a lot in marriage, she will know it is/was worth it.

If they choose to marry fellow Igbos, they will have limited choices but if they look beyond: to the West, North, and outside like Pakistan, Turkey, SAr and the likes NP(lol).

Jack500:
Stop ranting and show me,where I said u are ibo.

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APC presidential ticket is not to going to ibo in 2023, u guys beta die with ur PDP.

U guys beta die with ur PDP: insinuating that i am Igbo.

Jack500:
So APC should give her most precious ticket to an ibo man, that name the same party Islamic and terrorist party, APC presidential ticket is not to going to ibo in 2023, u guys beta die with ur PDP.

So, because I spoke for fairness to the Igbos, I automatically became an Igbo....I don't want to assume u are Yoruba, because they fall under brilliant BUT not intelligent category.....If person no be Yoruba or Hausa to a Yoruba person NA Igbo sebi? U try!

mrvitalis:
Yes he did ...that was the first time everyone fought for it

Why didnt yorubas contest with Jonathan

I read all u posted and concluded that u are very intelligent.
Na only Yoruba people go school for Nigeria, a country with 6geopolitical zones and up to 500tribes?
It is definitely the turn of the Igbos so both parties( major ones) should field Igbos, no arguments.
Thereafter, MIDDLE BELT: Kogi, Benue etc can come in.
Anyone still arguing this must be personally a schemish, double standard person that hates equity and justice.

wedeonline:
Dont judge a book by its cover. I am an only son too, with 6 sisters. I know exactly how u feel..0

Even if people say men are unemotional and some cruel, it can never be a guy with sisters especially youngest son. Also, they seem well nurtured, being in the midst of nurturers, they will be the last to behave indecently even for cases of men holding their 'crotch' publicly.

1. Properly apologise when she does something I do not like and ensure she doesnt repeat it? For instance few days ago she was planning on traveling outside our base, I only got to know through her phone conversation with her sister although she didn't eventually travel, I felt I should have known before hand as I got to know a night before. Till date what I got in form of apology is, "I would have told you". She was planning to travel by 5am, I heard her conversation by 10pm a night before and we slept on the same bed.



2. Sex at least 3 times a week? I stopped trying to initiate it after so many rejections.



3. Not to forget important dates such as our wedding anniversary?



4. To at all time be the one making my meal.



Please note she practically doesn't work now. We are setting up a fashion house for her she has taken over 3m from me as of the time of writing this. Note my cloths go to dry cleaners. Only thing she does is cook my meal ( when she wants ).

I see no problem in your numbers 1-3, but for 4, it may not be ALL the time she prepares your meals. I hope you don't expect your wife to be washing your hard jeans, and clothes- for me clothes washing ( even for myself) is one chore I HATE...So, get her a washing machine with the money u give to drycleaners.
Couples should LOVE themselves and when it seems the love is being strained, should pity themselves as a way of getting back their love.

SocialFinance:
The 20,000 visa allocated to young ppl have been largely unused by Nigeria youths especially the undergraduates.

This is another to prepare yourself for easy migration to UK after graduation.

I hope our youth will start using this opportunity. if you require further information about this, just quote me and ask, I will try to answer.

Hi. More info please eg websites to read up more and to apply( if there is)and to meet up the 70points etc.

Bad habit for which 65% men are guilty of.
Why is it that it is mostly women who should become prayer warriors and not men when they marry, especially marrying Nigerian men? Are men no longer the HEADS of the home again?

stanliwise:
Until you meet the players. .
We know your type.

Slow and steady and end up in your friend Zone abi??
Hard and broke, una go tear race.
But come the rich(sweet mouth) and hard, una go start to shine teeth, Logic will go out the window.

But the PLAYERS are MORE....Unserious....Later, you may hear they married.....Sometimes you start hearing quarrellings etc if one puts her ears down due to the type of person the man is.....Sometimes again, it works fine.

For good ladies, they may seem to be a little bit more picky in order not to ruin their 'programmed' life or how they want their life to be, particularly free from a STRESSFUL man as many Nigerian men get OVERSABI and may choose to use it adversely, instead of positively for the good of his wife and home.
It takes 2 'FOOLS' to live SUCCESSFULLY.

Emmanuel453:
take back your wife back and thank me later.your wife is not as bad as people have made you to believe.The guy who had similar problem like you but listen to me today is a happy man.The hypocrite Saints who are advicing you that tontodike is worst thing on earth check their lives and you will see how dirty they are.if is Tonto that is insisting he doesn't want you again that one is understood.it is clear that she wants you. One of the hypocrite here say I am a weak me. These are the people deceiving you. All you want is to see your baby. U turn people children to be baby manufacturing machine? Oga sit down and think is your conscious in agreement with what you doing.

THANK YOU my dear..... I don't know your age but u talk maturely....your home surely will be peaceful and BLESSED.

Davesaves:
what is this one saying? I pity the unfortunate man that will end up with ur dumb ass.. please read that ur comment again and hide ur face in shame.. ODE

So, you can't make a simple statement without abuses, these are the type of men that don't tolerate and want to marry or are already married and will be thinking of divorce at the slightest provocation- using it to intimidate a woman.....Let me sound it CLEAR to u- A woman has custody of a child below 18yrs, the father can send money to the kids for upkeep.
So, u like divorce/separation and won't weigh the CONSEQUENCES well( lol).
Na Tonto Dike's SON, let him go and marry+impregnate the others he publicly admires( if he likes) , he won't go through the PAINS of birthing, na only to CUM. Get this into your SKULL....OVERSABIS that won't weigh consequences because they like trouble.

Okay,....But you as a man can always get as many kids as u want....I doubt if Tonto Dike would want u to 'pester' her life all in the name of trying to see your son to have a place in his life, mind you, this is Tonto Dike's son probably her ONLY child. That is why divorce or separation isnt good.

Kaycee54321:
Second scenario is the reason why I will never marry if I don't have a certain level of cash flow and why I CAN NEVER marry a female who has nothing going on for herself... That crap about men taking care of a woman doesn't work on me

I earn, you earn, we care for each other, we raise a family together like a damn team...if e no work, na to kuku dey single... No be by force to born. Can't imagine bringing innocent babies to suffer.

Self entitled AGAIN.....The money u won't spend to pamper your woman, SPEND it on a surrogate mum to have your kids for u while u and your 50-50 partner WORK!

OcVoice:
An older friend, who could pass as a dad to me owns a bar and few a letout rooms for short sex or even a day booking.

He recently travelled to see his children abroad and asked me to come assist his wife once a while after work/hustle.

The first scenario:
I was there yesterday and I noticed a man in his 60's and a woman in her 50's, drinking and eating together. Their language was of the Eastern and I understood correctly.

After having some bottles, the woman talked about her husband who was on a business trip and her grown up children at the university and all. She locked her shop to come be with the man.

The man also talked about his wife in the village for a function and grown up children bla bla bla!

The shock:
The man was obviously trying to ask her out.....then she immediately told him that she wouldn't be interested in that. The man now asked what she wants and she said they should be fvck buddies. She said: "Any time my husband is away, I'll call u. "We would come here, drink and fvck well"
The man accepted and they booked an hour and went into a room!
Even though they are older and had grown up children, I still don't like adultery!

2nd scenario:

I noticed this last week.

I saw 2 beautiful kids, a boy (about 4 years) and a girl (about 2 years) playing inside the bar. I asked my friend's wife and she said one of her customer had issues with his wife and the wife left him with the kids.

From her story, the guy use to work and provide for his family, till he lost his job and the wife couldn't cope with the hardship. She abandoned her kids and went away with a rich alhaji. This guy has been taking care of the kids....bathing and feeding them, taking them to school and bringing them back, cleaning poos, etc. His rent expired and the landlord sent him packing forcefully, after some months. The reason he stays in the bar in the mean time.

Around 8pm that day, while he was out hustling, I saw the girl sleeping in an uncomfortable manner; hitting her head on the table while she dozed off, and I just thought to myself while carrying her on my arms so she could sleep well; she's innocent. She didn't bring herself to this world. She should be on bed sleeping now. She obviously hadn't had dinner.

Why would a woman abandon her own kids? Even if u don't want the man, can't u take your kids to your parents or even siblings and look after them? Where is the love? Is marriage not in good times and in bad times anymore? I had to shed tears while pondering! I was told the man had no one in the city.

I waited till he came back and I spoke with him. He told me the same. I felt so sorry for him. He was looking so tired and stressed. I can't do more than supporting him financially with the little I can.

This has really been disturbing me. Pls ladies, if you know you're not ready to suffer with your man when things gets tough for him, don't bother going into marriage! Don't even bother. A rich man today could be poor tomorrow. Life happens....it might not be his making! Life is not always Rosy!

Our mothers suffered with our fathers when the going was tough, why can't we emulate it?

As a simple person in the midst of Nigerians(lol), I will say OVERSABI too much.....So, how would you expect a woman to react to an oversabi man of nowadays unlike what we used to have in our father's time? Also, if woman carry pikin go, na still some men go shout.

Officialakin:
Kingrudy has been the brain behind Psquare,his music has a lot of content and good delivery.

That is how Jude wanted Nigerians to think/feel.

evergreen9:
drop your whatsapp here or send it in an email

Check my profile

whizzy2good:
Not looking for a teaching job, just facing my freelancing job. Guess Cotonou is the best then?

Sure....Just have your 3 or 4 months rent with caution fee:25000cfa and agent's fee ie 1 month's rent. Ouidah may not need agent's fee but tip once u know who can help. Room and parlor self contained is popular: 25000 CFA in Cotonou AND 18000-20000cfa in Ouidah. 1room self contained can be gotten in Ouidah for 15000cfa+... OUIDAH: 1hr 15mins from Tokpa and 1hr 25mins from airport. There is toll gate in Ouidah and u can reach Cotonou with 1000cfa( car pooling system with other passengers in cab). Kouhounou (La Stade Amite) Friendship Stadium in Cotonou is a good relaxation spot.
No stress in Benin. Bikes popular even with ladies and that is what is stolen there ( except Power bikes)
You need to cook your meals often as there ain't variety of food like in Nigeria eg Gala, Indomie, fried rice, sweet beans( theirs isnt as sweet as ours)....Rice is from 18000cfa for rice ( GOOD ONE).

whizzy2good:
Okay, so how can I go about it?

Firstly, it depends on what u want. If u feel u like freelancing and self employment then, go to Benin- PEACE OF MIND, SAFEST country in Africa or West Africa and 24/7 light....Cotonou or go to Ouidah( Just like Ogun State to Lagos) and get 4g unlimited internet with MTN t speed of 13-20+ mbps@ 10000 CFA but drops to 1mbps after using 10g.
But if u want to work especially as a Teacher, go to Gambia....Serrekunda and some other places are cheaper than Banjul but don't be in a place too cheap because as a Teacher especially location determines high calibre school and salary( apart from after school lessons).
My Whatsapp number is there, if I can't answer all, I can refer u

evergreen9:
Hey guys, I am interested in visiting Benin republic, Cotonou precisely for a short holiday, are there fellow Nigerians here who are currently in Benin republic or who have been before? I would like to know what the experience was like.

I would like to visit Ghana, Senegal and Gambia but I would rather start with the closest nation which is Benin republic. I would like to know about the process of visiting and also what it cost to get a resident permit.

Hi. U can reach me via Whatsapp.

whizzy2good:
Anyone with steps to travel to Senegal, I need a west Africa country that is cheap with unlimited electricity. Tired of generator sound, I am a freelancer and mostly like staying indoor. I want to know how to get a nice self contain of about 50k pet month. How will I be able to get it when I get there?

I don't think Senegal is cheap especially in terms of accommodation....You should be talking of Benin Republic for continuous electricity and Gambia for like 70% electricity

NOC1:
He never talked about Amotekun, but he is the one who did the right thing.

most noisemakers don't get things done.

great news.

This will tacticly give birth to state policing and further constitutional amendment.

Ogun State seem to have a mature man as governor.....He may not be the best for now BUT time will tell.

crushsugar:
If I see something like this again, I will report you.

Okay....But this is 100% L-E-G-I-T.